Push present???

allardr · December 2013

I think it's silly, we did not last time and will not do anything of the sort this time.

Though DD will get a "big sister basket" for the hospital, just like a big sis shirt some coloring books, etc for keeping her occupied at hospital.

Salsera29 · December 2013

Jayers10 said:

I don't think the gifts need to be expensive (which seems to be the main objection?), and can be a sweet idea. In my friend's family, it is a tradition for the men to get their wives necklaces that say "mother" in Hebrew after a first birth or adoption. I always thought it was kind of a nice way of saying welcome to being a mom. That being said, I wouldn't expect anything - but I think it's a nice gesture!

Aw, I love that!

Morgieloo · December 2013

I have told my husband I would like a sentimental necklace or ring with the baby's initial on it. I'm not into extravagant gifts but would appreciate something sentimental to recognize the baby.

Fletch82 · December 2013

The idea is silly to me. I can think of much better use of money.

But I'm not going to turn down sushi & cold beer if that's my present

flmomof4 · December 2013

The problem to me is that women ask for or expect something. A present should be given because the gift giver wants to, not because the recipient demanded or even insinuated it should be given. Your husband gets you something all on his own, fine. You put any idea in his head that he should, not cool. Giving birth is not a gift giving occasion, IMO.

biglewzer · December 2013

Morgieloo said:

I have told my husband I would like a sentimental necklace or ring with the baby's initial on it. I'm not into extravagant gifts but would appreciate something sentimental to recognize the baby.

So you sat him down and initiated this conversation and told him what you wanted?

biglewzer · December 2013

ChiMom85 said:

The problem to me is that women ask for or expect something. A present should be given because the gift giver wants to, not because the recipient demanded or even insinuated it should be given. Your husband gets you something all on his own, fine. You put any idea in his head that he should, not cool. Giving birth is not a gift giving occasion, IMO.

stella_blu · December 2013

I'd like DH to get a vasectomy as my push present

BIL bought his wife a Keurig after their baby was born and I thought that was a thoughtful gift. Id like a month of cleaning service but really don't expect anything or need it.

knitsandgiggles · December 2013

Aw come on girls, I LOVED my mink wrap, diamond ring, and new car! All demanded with vehemence or the baby wasn't coming out! Seriously though, I only ever heard of this on the bump. I had grand plans of asking for sushi/deli sandwiches/etc, but DD was born at 4:30am and I completely forgot all about it. Not something DH and I would do, but others can spend their money how they want. Not hurting me at all.

Myanswer true · December 2013

I would like something little, not even sure what, but just an acknowledgement of the milestone (this is our first). I'd take Walmart daisies! DH is super great about little romantic gestures, so I'm sure he'll come through without breaking the bank.

TugboatSheila · December 2013

I didn't know this was a thing. DH has already been giving me push presents by going out at 7:30 and getting me cough drops, offering to pick up chipotle after his errands, going to the store himself when I'm sick or tired and by pretty much being an amazing human being.

Though I won't say no to some day Of labor Indian food.

mamakiss · December 2013

Babymoon and now push present? Isn't the whole point of pregnancy... that you get a baby at the end???

sunflower717 · December 2013

I didn't get a push present, but I sure as heck wouldn't discourage my husband from getting me one.

pammyxjean · December 2013

melissaquinn106 said:

Don't know about you ladies but I'm basically the "breadwinner" of the family. Ever since we got married my husband has bought me one extravagant (be it georgous) piece of jewelry after another. This year for Christmas I had to basically threaten him not to buy me jewelry. If my husband spends my money one more time on something we don't need (even if it's thoughtful, and stunning) I swear I'm gonna strangle him. All I want as a push present is a Corona w lime, a bong hit, and a tray of raw sushi. :-)

SUSHI! Thats what I want, while in the hospital! FOR SURE!

Salsera29 · December 2013

I'm saying, if you can afford it, what's the big deal? DH and I usually spend our money eating out rather than buying "things" because that's what we enjoy. (Needles to say we've saved a lot of money recently!). But if someones hubby wants an excuse to buy his wife nice jewelry, who is anyone to judge?

biglewzer · December 2013

Salsera29 said:

I'm saying, if you can afford it, what's the big deal? DH and I usually spend our money eating out rather than buying "things" because that's what we enjoy. (Needles to say we've saved a lot of money recently!). But if someones hubby wants an excuse to buy his wife nice jewelry, who is anyone to judge?

Agreed. But it's the fact that it's not the husband's idea, it's expected, that gets under my skin. They're being told to purchase something, and lots of times very specific somethings. That's obnoxious IMO

Salsera29 · December 2013

biglewzer said:

Salsera29 said:

I'm saying, if you can afford it, what's the big deal? DH and I usually spend our money eating out rather than buying "things" because that's what we enjoy. (Needles to say we've saved a lot of money recently!). But if someones hubby wants an excuse to buy his wife nice jewelry, who is anyone to judge?

Agreed. But it's the fact that it's not the husband's idea, it's expected, that gets under my skin. They're being told to purchase something, and lots of times very specific somethings. That's obnoxious IMO

Yeah I agree with that.

alyssa719 · December 2013

oohhh... I also demanded (in my financially irresponsible ways) that he sneaks champagne and ahi tuna sashimi into the hospital... don't get me wrong, I'm more than willing to wait in a car while in labor for him to gather them on the way there.

biglewzer · December 2013

alyssa719 said:

oohhh... I also demanded (in my financially irresponsible ways) that he sneaks champagne and ahi tuna sashimi into the hospital... don't get me wrong, I'm more than willing to wait in a car while in labor for him to gather them on the way there.

That's just being practical.

nicole336 · December 2013

stella_blu said:

I'd like DH to get a vasectomy as my push present

This made me actually laugh out loud! I'm so glad I wasn't drinking anything!

Our budget will be tight so I don't expect a present. I think I would be VERY grateful if he got me something yummy to eat like a big smoothie afterwards though.

DelilahSun · December 2013

This will be my third c-section, and if my DH arrives home with ridiculous amounts of yummy sushi again, after he brings us home from the hospital, I will be thrilled :-) You can't eat diamonds and you can wear diamonds anytime. Raw fish on rice that I abstain from for 9 months? Now that's love.

Salsera29 · December 2013

Oh yeah I take back what I said...I already told DH we need to scope out the nearest Italian deli to the hospital so he can bring me a sub immediately after delivery. Ham, pepperoni, provolone, lettuce, tomato, onion, mayo AND oil&vinegar...oh God it's gonna be sooooooo gooooooood!

KnockedTheEffUp · December 2013

DH went to the bar next to the hospital and brought me back a margarita. I was more than thrilled!

cakebatter27 · December 2013

Salsera29 said:
Oh yeah I take back what I said...I already told DH we need to scope out the nearest Italian deli to the hospital so he can bring me a sub immediately after delivery. Ham, pepperoni, provolone, lettuce, tomato, onion, mayo AND oil&vinegar...oh God it's gonna be sooooooo gooooooood!

Now I want that right meow! Except lots of ranch. Gosh I miss food.

Thirtyodd · December 2013

Really Knocked? I was going to say that's so good but I've just had a think and remembering that I couldn't sleep after the birth there's something's I'd have loved more than a cocktail and that's sleeping pills!

But did the nurses really let you have it or did he have to sneak it in?

enrebec · December 2013

I just asked my husband if he knew what a "push present" was - he did not. After I explained it to him, he laughed and said "I'll stick around after and give you a ride home."

KnockedTheEffUp · December 2013

Thirty, he went down for a drink himself and took an empty cup with him. He just brought it back up and no one was the wiser.

Now sleeping pills? I'm adding that one to my birth plan this time around. Drugs, baby, margarita, sleeping pills. That sounds lovely.

Salsera29 · December 2013

KnockedTheEffUp said:

Thirty, he went down for a drink himself and took an empty cup with him. He just brought it back up and no one was the wiser.

Now sleeping pills? I'm adding that one to my birth plan this time around. Drugs, baby, margarita, sleeping pills. That sounds lovely.

To paraphrase a favorite comedian of ours, I miss Ambien more than I miss certain dead relatives.

honeybee434 · December 2013

They're fairly common around here, but not to the point where everyone does it. Of my friends, I'd probably say it's about 50/50,and not really a big deal either way whether they get one or not. I won't really think much about it one way or another and if DH gets one he does, if he doesn't he doesn't. A good chunk of those that I know have gotten one have received some type of personalized jewelry with kids names, birthstones, etc.

dobbyisfree · December 2013

Im surprised so many people are shocked about this. You go into a hospital room to see the baby and a lot of times theyre full of congrats flowers, which really are gifts. I imagine my DH will probably want a pandora charm for the occasion - he honestly loves getting them for things that remind him of milestones in our life. I wont be angry or think its ridiculous to get a gift. Im not going to stomp my foot and demand a gift, but its cute. Come to think of it I should probably start looking for something sweet with Daddy on it to surprise him with :-)

cyndelgrace · December 2013

I got your push present right here.

Huahine · December 2013

When I had DS (the first grandchild on either side of the family), DH got me nothing and I didn't expect anything else. But MIL surprised me with a set of black pearl earrings and a matching necklace, and my mom gave me a gold bracelet with 6 different stones in a bezel setting. I love both pieces and enjoy wearing them and the reminder that they are of a special time in my life.

ddubzz · December 2013

They're very common in my area and within my circle of friends and family. With DS, DH gave me a beautiful pair of pearl and diamond earrings. Was I upset that he gave me a gift? HECK NO! They're lovely, I wear them all the time, and we can afford it. I didn't demand the gift, but DH did ask me what I wanted. I had no problem giving him hints.

nlerno · December 2013

My dad bought my mom presents with each of our births (me and my two sisters). Each one had our birthstone in it and on our 21st birthday they gave the present to us. For me it was a garnet necklace. I think it's sweet but not necessary and not for everyone. I don't know if my husband will do the same.

singingirl96 · December 2013

Silly to spend money right before bringing a baby home. That's when you'll need money....

Now... if you're independently wealthy and money is in abundance.... bring it on. That present better be great!

Myanswer true · December 2013

All the mention of food related "push presents" remind me of the 56 hours I spent in the hospital while my best friend was in labor... I kept telling her that as soon as she got that baby out, I'd bring her the taco bell 12 pack all for her. lol

katnipeverclean · December 2013

Meh. It's extremely common where I'm from (Southern US). I've had friends demand something extravagant, which I think is pushing it. For the birth of DD my DH both agreed we wanted to get the other a keepsake from the day she was born. We set a budget. I bought him a nice watch and he bought me a diamond and aquamarine ring (DD's birthstone). I found our exchange sweet. DD will also get the ring when she turns 18. ETA: while I do find the term push present annoying we refer to my ring as the "got sliced open and had a baby yanked out of my uterus" present.

hutsellwilson · December 2013

Weird. No.

zellatrix · December 2013

I'd like to have a Pandora charm for the occasion and DH will likely bring me one because he does that for special occasions. I however am buying myself an iPad beforehand. I will call it a "I have to spend 4 days in the hospital because of a csection" present.

AMcLaws · December 2013

My husband gave me the gift of his unwavering support before, during and after delivery. He's given me the gift of being the most wonderful father I could dream of for my sweet DD, and for the baby growing inside me. I don't need materialistic things to celebrate the birth of my child(ren). Having my family is gift enough.

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