This posting shows you all need to get a LIFE. I cannot believe you all care so much to write vicious and nasty things to someone voicing their opinion. No one needs to hide their losses, but Jesus no one in a newly pregnant board needs to hear about it. You guys have me fucking paranoid. Good luck to you all, some of us work full time and have a life. I am done with these boards. You all need to grow up. Focus on the kids and families you do have and get the fuck over it!
If only all problems disappeared when I stuck my fingers in my ears.
LALALA...Oh look my dissertation wrote itself!
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
This posting shows you all need to get a LIFE. I cannot believe you all care so much to write vicious and nasty things to someone voicing their opinion. No one needs to hide their losses, but Jesus no one in a newly pregnant board needs to hear about it. You guys have me fucking paranoid. Good luck to you all, some of us work full time and have a life. I am done with these boards. You all need to grow up. Focus on the kids and families you do have and get the fuck over it!
Good riddance. I truly hope that you never have to experience losing a child, but if you do, that you realize that there is an awesome support system through the ladies on TB, and that you take advantage of it and don't feel like you ever need to hide your miscarriages.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but don't expect that you won't get any backlash when the opinion is hurtful to numerous women on the board!
BFP#1 6/27/13 EDD 3/5/14 MC 7/16/13 BFP#2 11/25/13 EDD 8/4/14
To be honest OP, I had a D&C my first pregnancy. And I needed it because my bod was holding on to a pregnancy that had not been viable for over 7 weeks! And I can damn well tell you I am 10 times more scared than you will ever be of a loss. And so is any other woman who has had to go through a loss. You should just go crawl into your bedroom, turn off all the lights and pull your blanket over your head and pretend like nothing bad ever happens. Because reality is, bad things do. And to pretend otherwise is just pure ignorance on your behalf. Instead of "let's hold hands and not talk about the boogey man" approach, maybe consider what it feels like when the shoe is on the other foot and try praying for those mamas to have a sticky baby instead. They deserve it. I truly hope your parenting skills don't include the ostrich approach, because it doesn't matter how old your kids get. You are always going to worry. That never stops. So you better get used to it now.
Wow, I knew it wouldn't be long before the crazies started coming out. Funny this all started the day after the post about how nice and supportive everyone on the August BMB is.
Right? I was thinking the same thing...
Meanwhile...off to buy some popcorn!
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
There are so many women who experience pregnancy loss. Far more than I ever imagined. Thing is, it's NOT really talked about. Women (& men) hold in their grief & pain instead of openly talking about it. Why? Because of people like OP & her little white knight bitches. It's sad.
No way in hell I'm gonna "keep quiet" about my losses. Sure, I'm not gonna shove it in people's faces, but I'm damn sure not gonna act like it didn't happen. They were my babies! I lost them & it gutted me. TB is one place I felt comfortable expressing my pain & I got so much support from so many amazing women here. Now we're not supposed to talk about it here because it "scares people"? Fuck. That. The possibility of having a miscarriage is unfortunately a harsh reality. Welcome to the real world.
I wish pregnancy loss wasn't such a "taboo" subject. But as long as there's ignorant people out there like the ones on this thread, it will be.
OP & her sidekicks, I hope you never experience a loss. If you do, don't say a word about how you feel about it, got it? ::eyeroll::
As someone that has had three losses, everyday that I am pregnant I stress over every single thing that happens because I am scared it will happen again. I hope you never have to suffer a loss.
I remember my first pregnancy. I was so excited I posted on facebook and told everyone I know. Guess what, it didn't happen. So then I had to go back and tell people I wasn't pregnant. That's a real fun task. I too was a member of the TTCAL boards a couple years ago before my DS(damn acronym) was born. Those ladies are the most comforting ladies I have known.
This posting shows you all need to get a LIFE. I cannot believe you all care so much to write vicious and nasty things to someone voicing their opinion. No one needs to hide their losses, but Jesus no one in a newly pregnant board needs to hear about it. You guys have me fucking paranoid. Good luck to you all, some of us work full time and have a life. I am done with these boards. You all need to grow up. Focus on the kids and families you do have and get the fuck over it!
OMG thank you for showing me the light. Must deactivate account. Right now. ::eyeroll::
You three suck and should be ashamed of yourselves. Feel free to spout off your nasty opinions, but don't cry GBCB when you are called out for being an asshat.
I wish I had known about these boards when I had my m/c. It would have been lovely to have that support.
Lurking from July. I can't believe how insensitive you are, OP. I share the information about my loss and D&C for ME, not for you. I love the babies I lost and I want everyone to know about them. If you can't handle that, it's your problem, not mine. I have lots of other thoughts about you and the things you said, but it's not worth my time to comment.
I really wanted to post because I saw a post from @MrsDeo and I wanted to say congratulations and I'm so happy for you! You were such an amazing source of support and light during my time on the Miscarriage board!
BFP#2 7/3/13. U/S at 6w4d showed 1 heartbeat at 127 bmp and 2 empty sacs. MMC discovered at 10w4d. D&C 8/27/13. Pathology showed normal boy. Missing our babies every day. BFP#3 10/29/13! Beta#1 at 4w5d - 2141, beta#2 at 5w1d - 7651! U/S 11/21/13 showed baby measuring 2 days ahead with a heartbeat of 127 bmp!
I love that this is a website where we casually share information about the discharge coming out of our vaginas, but if someone notes the date of a pregnancy loss it's a scary overshare.
Run along OP. You too mrsfarmer or whoever you are.
Pregnancy loss is something that's taboo to talk about openly in real life. The Bump is a place where women can share these things and not feel as if they are being taboo or "negative". I think in this space it is very NECESSARY for people to share those things if they need to, given that they often can't get such support in real life.
I hope you are really proud of yourselves, OP et. al. This is the grossest post I've seen in a while.
Also lurking from July...OP and white knights, you are truly disgusting. You don't want to hear about poeple's losses? Aw, you poor things being subjected to reality. I am also a FTM and yeah, the loss threads make me sad and scare the shit out of me. Never, EVER, would it have occurred to me to think those women shouldn't be posting or noting the losses in their siggys. You know, cause I have human empathy. You selfish, heartless cowards. Oh my bad, I mean, you are ACTING like selfish, heartless cowards. A lot like them. A lot.
I won't call you an idiot or an asshole because I have no idea how you were raised and what kind of experiences you had, but, i must know, how else do we learn about miscarriage, diseases, losses, viruses and other devastations unless we tell people we've had them? How would we know miscarriages are so common if no one told us they had them? How could we start support groups or celebrate when a couple who has had miscarriage after miscarriage finally has their miracle baby? Sure there is a separate group for the women who've had miscarriages. But does that mean we have to shut them out? Are they any less special? We need to know these things OP! We don't shut cancer patients out just because the cancer free are scared to get cancer as well. It's just not right. And so long as miscarriages happen to women all over the world, it will never be just a "personal thing". It's a human struggle. So, I hope you learn more about these things before you post again. And I hope that any woman who was offended by this post understands that some people just don't get it. Hugs for you all!
Also coming over from July.... Having a child is about taking chances and some of those chances are not as some of you have said "puppies and rainbows". Incredibly sad things do sometimes happen. Please post your histories girls. I for one read them and am rooting for all you who have suffered loss(es) and hoping you get that take home baby!
This posting shows you all need to get a LIFE. I cannot believe you all care so much to write vicious and nasty things to someone voicing their opinion. No one needs to hide their losses, but Jesus no one in a newly pregnant board needs to hear about it. You guys have me fucking paranoid. Good luck to you all, some of us work full time and have a life. I am done with these boards. You all need to grow up. Focus on the kids and families you do have and get the fuck over it!
So you're saying I should get over my baby that I just lost? You, OP and captain save a ho can go fuck yourselves. Seriously.
Wow Ive never seen such an ignorant post. So because someone went through something painful like the loss of their unborn baby and they choose to post their d&c date in their personal siggy they should be banned from due date forums.and should have to stick to PGAL forums? We are adult women who hopefully are not niave enough to not know what can happen and should have respect for those who have endured a loss. We come.to ALL boards seeking advice and support and Im whether that be times of humor or times of sadness. Not really sure why youd join a board in the first place if that bothers you...
Whoa, some people I hope leave this board, and I'm not meaning the PGAL girls. I think miscarriage along with infertility have stigmas that they shouldn't have. These things affect many women and we need to support each other as fellow women IMO.
I know! All of these women talking about super awkward personal stuff about their pregnancies like this entire site is dedicated entirely to talking about pregnancy or something! Where do these people think they are!? I mean, it's not like this site is called THE BUMP or anything. OMG. They must be so dumb. *hairflip*
OP, you should probably leave the bump. This is not the place for you. Bitchiness is applauded here; utter stupidity is not. I am sure you will a confederacy of dunces out there that will recognize you as one of their own.
I'm currently PGAL and have found nothing but excellent info and support from these forums...no one ever wants to expect to need it, but when you do, you want these ladies by your side.
There was a 'bigger picture' message to this, which seems to be lost in what is now some kind of anti-miscarriage support statement that I never made....is anyone stopping to consider that hearing of (the reality of) all of these miscarriages and procedures (miscarriage is descriptive, d&c is tmi) may be frightening to a new mom? No? Oh....
Again, not to be too specific, there are too many acronyms to bother here, and some women seem lost in the details, and obsession of anything is unhealthy...there are more details about many women here in their signatures than some of us would ever care to know. Just a commentary.
Wow.. just wow. So glad OP wasn't around on the January 2012 board when I posted about my D&E.
Hope she can stay this naive throughout her whole pregnancy and never learns that it's not all rainbows and butterflies. Hope she never needs the support.
BFP #1 5/26/11 - said goodbye to our DD at 13w on 7/29/2011
If the acronym "D&C" is "too personal" for you, I'm sorry. You'll have a hard time throughout your pregnancy.
As a nurse, I can tell who has and has not been pregnant based on their "modesty." A lot of "personal" things will happen to you, for you, with you, and by you throughout your pregnancy. Most of those things will be on display for the whole world to see despite any effort you may make to remain "private."
For someone who feels the need to say "sex" instead of "baby dance" or "do the deed," I'd expect that you're comfortable with other, more "scientific," and "personal" terms like: "dilation and curettage," "spontaneous abortion," "fetal tissue," "placenta," "vacuum and forcep births," "copious amounts of vaginal discharge," "bloody show," "mucus plug," and so on...
Some may wish to say "miscarriage," "spontaneous abortion," "dilation and curettage," or "loss." It's all appropriate. It's how they have chosen to describe their experience and that time in their life.
It's sad how some people just don't get it. Lack of self awareness is something that can present itself on a daily basis. Also funny we hadn't heard from OP lately. Oh yeah, that's an acronym. I shouldn't use that! Lol.
This is my first pregnancy and while I'm terrified of losing this baby, I don't feel fear because of anyone else's losses. I find comfort in everyone's sigs and even compare how far along their losses were compared to my current ticker. A 5 week loss vs a 13 week loss when I'm 9 weeks tells me just because I surpassed 5 weeks doesnt mean I'm in the clear. Miscarriage is a very real thing and coming to terms with the realization that this could happen to me in any pregnancy I experience not just this one is something I deal with. I can't imagine ever asking someone to censor their emotional history. While OP and I are both first timers and scared, what she said was awful, inconsiderate and naive. You girls who have suffered losses and are back to fight for another baby, carry on and let your sigs say whatever they need to say.
I had my miscarriage after being apart of my birth month board for almost two months. During that time, I really connected with the amazing ladies there. It helped so much to have the women that I already built relationships with supporting me through the pain and sorrow I was feeling. I did move boards after the initial shock sank in, but I didn't have any friends on that board yet. I was very thankful that the Jan '14 ladies were welcoming and supportive in grieving my loss with me. I hadn't told anyone IRL so it was nice to have somewhere to talk without being shunned because I was no longer continuing their journey.
Absolutely disgusting OP. I have nothing really further to add that hasn't already been said so eloquently by these ladies. However I felt compelled to respond because I could hardly believe what I have just read.
I'm sure my siggy would just be the trifecta of horror for you. Infertility, pregnancy loss and infant loss. Should I hide my pain and my journey for your precious feelings. Should o not acknowledge that my son existed because you know after you give birth you aren't going to want to know the reality of infant loss as a possibility.
You my dear, are a horrible existence. You need to crawl back into whatever close minded, ignorant and unsympathetic hole you crawled out of.
Re: Too many acronyms, some of us seem obsessive.....
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but don't expect that you won't get any backlash when the opinion is hurtful to numerous women on the board!
BFP#1 6/27/13 EDD 3/5/14 MC 7/16/13
BFP#2 11/25/13 EDD 8/4/14
It's a BOY!
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OP & her minions can go fuck themselves.
Right? I was thinking the same thing...
Meanwhile...off to buy some popcorn!
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
There are so many women who experience pregnancy loss. Far more than I ever imagined. Thing is, it's NOT really talked about. Women (& men) hold in their grief & pain instead of openly talking about it. Why? Because of people like OP & her little white knight bitches. It's sad.
No way in hell I'm gonna "keep quiet" about my losses. Sure, I'm not gonna shove it in people's faces, but I'm damn sure not gonna act like it didn't happen. They were my babies! I lost them & it gutted me. TB is one place I felt comfortable expressing my pain & I got so much support from so many amazing women here. Now we're not supposed to talk about it here because it "scares people"? Fuck. That. The possibility of having a miscarriage is unfortunately a harsh reality. Welcome to the real world.
I wish pregnancy loss wasn't such a "taboo" subject. But as long as there's ignorant people out there like the ones on this thread, it will be.
OP & her sidekicks, I hope you never experience a loss. If you do, don't say a word about how you feel about it, got it? ::eyeroll::
I really wanted to post because I saw a post from @MrsDeo and I wanted to say congratulations and I'm so happy for you! You were such an amazing source of support and light during my time on the Miscarriage board!
BFP#3 10/29/13! Beta#1 at 4w5d - 2141, beta#2 at 5w1d - 7651! U/S 11/21/13 showed baby measuring 2 days ahead with a heartbeat of 127 bmp!
Run along OP. You too mrsfarmer or whoever you are.
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I won't call you an idiot or an asshole because I have no idea how you were raised and what kind of experiences you had, but, i must know, how else do we learn about miscarriage, diseases, losses, viruses and other devastations unless we tell people we've had them? How would we know miscarriages are so common if no one told us they had them? How could we start support groups or celebrate when a couple who has had miscarriage after miscarriage finally has their miracle baby? Sure there is a separate group for the women who've had miscarriages. But does that mean we have to shut them out? Are they any less special? We need to know these things OP! We don't shut cancer patients out just because the cancer free are scared to get cancer as well. It's just not right. And so long as miscarriages happen to women all over the world, it will never be just a "personal thing". It's a human struggle. So, I hope you learn more about these things before you post again. And I hope that any woman who was offended by this post understands that some people just don't get it. Hugs for you all!
PS: I'm keeping my loss in my siggy.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
Me 28 DH 30
After 4+ years TTC
BFP #1 5/26/11 - said goodbye to our DD at 13w on 7/29/2011
BFP #2 12/16/11 - Chemical Pregnancy
BFP #3 1/21/12 - Welcome Zoey Paige - 9/23/12!
BFP #4 11/27/13 - STICK BABY!
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As someone who has experienced 3 losses, I'm glad to see that there are so many understanding, wonderful and caring women are on this board.
But you, OP...
You are a fucking twat.
A: Atrocious
S: Selfish
S: Simpleminded
H: Heartless
O: Obtuse
L: Loathsome
E: Egocentric
As a nurse, I can tell who has and has not been pregnant based on their "modesty." A lot of "personal" things will happen to you, for you, with you, and by you throughout your pregnancy. Most of those things will be on display for the whole world to see despite any effort you may make to remain "private."
For someone who feels the need to say "sex" instead of "baby dance" or "do the deed," I'd expect that you're comfortable with other, more "scientific," and "personal" terms like: "dilation and curettage," "spontaneous abortion," "fetal tissue," "placenta," "vacuum and forcep births," "copious amounts of vaginal discharge," "bloody show," "mucus plug," and so on...
Some may wish to say "miscarriage," "spontaneous abortion," "dilation and curettage," or "loss." It's all appropriate. It's how they have chosen to describe their experience and that time in their life.
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I'm sure my siggy would just be the trifecta of horror for you. Infertility, pregnancy loss and infant loss. Should I hide my pain and my journey for your precious feelings. Should o not acknowledge that my son existed because you know after you give birth you aren't going to want to know the reality of infant loss as a possibility.
You my dear, are a horrible existence. You need to crawl back into whatever close minded, ignorant and unsympathetic hole you crawled out of.