Grieving husband

shadysladyWed98470 · December 2013

Well the family knew this day would come but that doesn't make it any easier. My dear MIL lost her battle with cancer this morning. She was 75. Some of you remember me posting about this back when we were all having our babies, that's when things started going downhill. She never took chemo, and only 2-3 radiation treatments over the past 3 years. It's been a long year, in and out of hospitals,, until finally hospice came about a month ago. Of course I love her, and I'm sad that my little boy will not get to know her, but the hardest thing is watching my husband grieve. He was closest to her among his 2 siblings, and this is tearing him apart. To make matters worse, he has to leave for a work trip next Sunday and will be in Georgia for 2 full weeks. I'm so sad to think he will be that far away from home, alone, without family, and still grieving. I'm a fixer, I like to make people feel better, and I feel helpless. Cancer sucks balls!

smiles21866 · December 2013

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your MIL and I'm sorry your family and husband have to go through this. T&Ps are coming your way.

pinottoparenthood · December 2013

I'm so sorry :-( I can't imagine. Thinking about you guys.

Lhyacinth888 · December 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

BellaBean76 · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. Its so hard watching someone you love lose someone so close to them. T&Ps to you. I know this may sound corny but any chance you can sneak something into his suitcase that he will get when he gets there? Maybe a card from you and something of LOs (a stuffed animal or blanket that he won't miss) let him know that you both are thinking of him and that LO "wanted to give him something to snuggle" while he is gone?

Meggs2559 · December 2013

I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers for and and your husband.

MKC12/22/2006 · December 2013

So sorry.

arschm02 · December 2013

Ugh! Agreed, cancer does suck balls! I'm so sorry for both your and YH loss.

JSS1002 · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for you having to watch your husband be sad. The thing that always brings me to my knees with sadness is watching my husband or father be sad. Hang in there. Can you skype a lot while he's on the road?

Kate_C · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. T&P for your family.

camdensmom32 · December 2013

So sorry!! Thinking of you all!

MrsHartman7 · December 2013

Sad situation, thoughts and prayers for your family.

none5 · December 2013

I am so sorry for your family's loss. T&P during this difficult time.

AAAHinkley · December 2013

So sorry! T&P to your family!

Gracious1014 · December 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I agree with PP - maybe try sneaking something into his bag just to let him know that you are thinking of him & skype/facetime if you can. The hardest thing for me after losing my dad was when everyone else went back to life as normal and I was still grieving months afterward.

shadysladyWed98470 · December 2013

Thanks everyone! Truly a difficult morning. @BellaBean76 I love the idea of putting something in his suitcase. I know he will love that.

JBDamonM · December 2013

Huge hugs my friend! We lost FIL almost 2 years ago, less than 24 hours after getting our male factor infertility diagnosis. I truly know how hard it is to watch your husband mourn. You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers, and I agree with the PPs - great idea to sneak something into the suitcase.

Mommymorticia · December 2013

Oh no! I'm so sorry. I know exactly what you mean, I'm a "fixer" too and when it comes to this we just can't. T&Ps for you and your family.

jss1482 · December 2013

I hope you all find peace and courage thru your grieving. So sorry for your loss.

tondraluv · December 2013

I remember you posting about your MIL and her battle, I am truly sorry about your family's lost.

kgs0505 · December 2013

i'm so sorry for your loss. if your husband is showing outward signs of grief now, he will likely be okay sooner than someone who bottles it all up and tries to be strong for everyone else. i'm not saying he'll be over it all soon, but he will be functional sooner. the loss of a parent is so hard. my dad died when i was 29, almost 10 years ago now. although i still think about him, it's not always with sadness anymore.

my thoughts are with you, your husband and your family.

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss. Many T&Ps to your family.

sapphire021 · December 2013

Very sorry for your loss. We lost my grandfather this past summer to cancer, it definitely does suck balls. Many thoughts and prayers for your husband and your family.