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May 2014 Moms
li37sa
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Just needing some ears...
li37sa
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Hi everyone. I know I haven't posted anything over the past 4/5 months. This pregnancy was definitely a surprise for me. I'm not going to lie- it actually devastated me. You see my little sister- is 27. She is, without a doubt, the most beautiful person I have ever met- on the inside - as well as outside. We are both nurses at the same hospital and love every second of it.
She was married a year ago and has been trying to start a family. She was unable to get pregnant and was worked up by her doctor. This is when she was diagnosed with Stage 3C Ovarian Cancer.
I found out I was pregnant about a week after her diagnosis. Needless to say- I had NO idea how to tell her. I did not think it was fair- that she, who had been trying so hard, had to deal with chemo and this terrifying diagnosis. While I, who was not trying- was able to get pregnant.
About another week after that- our father was diagnosed with lung cancer. His chemo starts in Jan. Father daughter chemo team, I guess
That was in Sept... She is SO overjoyed for her new godchild to arrive- all the while being a rockstar with her chemo treatments. I have shaved my head in support of her and will fight tooth and nail for her.
But I still have an incredible amount of anxiety about everything right now. Hence the reason I'm blogging at 2am. Well just wanted to get my story out. It's been eating me up for quite a while. So sorry to be so depressing. I'm just so excited for this bambino- but still so heartbroken for my sister. If anyone has any words of wisdom... I'm completely ready for them
**help break the silence of ovarian cancer!!
She was married a year ago and has been trying to start a family. She was unable to get pregnant and was worked up by her doctor. This is when she was diagnosed with Stage 3C Ovarian Cancer.
I found out I was pregnant about a week after her diagnosis. Needless to say- I had NO idea how to tell her. I did not think it was fair- that she, who had been trying so hard, had to deal with chemo and this terrifying diagnosis. While I, who was not trying- was able to get pregnant.
About another week after that- our father was diagnosed with lung cancer. His chemo starts in Jan. Father daughter chemo team, I guess
That was in Sept... She is SO overjoyed for her new godchild to arrive- all the while being a rockstar with her chemo treatments. I have shaved my head in support of her and will fight tooth and nail for her.
But I still have an incredible amount of anxiety about everything right now. Hence the reason I'm blogging at 2am. Well just wanted to get my story out. It's been eating me up for quite a while. So sorry to be so depressing. I'm just so excited for this bambino- but still so heartbroken for my sister. If anyone has any words of wisdom... I'm completely ready for them
**help break the silence of ovarian cancer!!
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Re: Just needing some ears...
I personally don't feel that your pregnancy was by accident. But that's just how I see it.
I wish the best for them both and will be thinking about you and your family. I hope we can be a helpful part of your coping with this and getting prepared for your new bambino!
My only advice is to leave the ball in your sisters court. Let her be the one to bring it up, ask questions, etc.
I'll pray for you and your family. What a hard time. Your baby will be a bright spot in the darkness come May!
I am sorry to hear about your families struggles right now and I cannot imagine going through that while prego... that being said it shows how much off a strong and amazing person you are. I am sure you will pass those traits on to your little one, and they will be blessed by it.
I pray that your sister and father make a fast recovery and I am positive that your little ones arrival in May will only give them more motivation and positive vibes. I am not sure if you're religious... but I believe that God has a perfect pan for your life... And despite good intentions that does not always line up with our plan for our lives. I have personal experience with this as I lost my mother to cancer when I was 14 and although I still miss her every day God had blessed me so much and I would not be who our where I am today had my life been different. I hope that helps... if not please feel free to ignore it... just trying to help.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
First off, CONGRATULATIONS to you and your miracle. What you don't realize is that little munchkin is a source of joy for your sis and Dad...babies and kids have that effect.
My sister is suffering from IF, which is not exactly the same, but I know the fear and sadness you must have felt when you knew you had to tell her. Praying for your family...
XO
1st BFP-8/17/12! Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US. D&C.
2nd BFP-2/13/13! Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
3rd BFP-5/22/13! By early June, progesterone plummeting. Another loss.
August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
Dear Son born 5/28/14