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Eating every 3 hours...

lba0614lba0614 member
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From what I've read on here, and done my own research on, and even from what the nurses at the hospital told us it is pretty standard advice to feed the baby every 3 hours (obviously more often if they are hungry). 

My IL's about drove me crazy yesterday thinking we were weirdos for waking the baby up to have him eat.I couldn't even count how many times one of them made a "you shouldn't wake a sleeping baby..." comment throughout the time we were there. Or the "Oh, but wouldn't it be nice to get more sleep" types of comments. 

My IL's get all their info on babies from my SIL, who has two kids (2yrs and 5mos). SIL let her youngest sleep as long as he would stay asleep from the time he was born....I think he was only about a month old when she had told us "He slept for 12 hours last night!"

GAHH come on people...do some research...and stop treating me like I'm the stupid one for actually wanting to FEED MY KID. I have absolutely 0 issue with waking up multiple times in the middle of the night so I don't see why they need to act like it's the most inconvenient thing in the entire world. I wouldn't have had a kid if I wasn't wiling to give up some sleep.

Ok, rant over. Thanks for listening.
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  • myeverything1203myeverything1203 member
    I know until they are back to birth rate you gotta wake em up to feed every 2-3 hrs. After that during the night I was told if they dont wake up to wake em every 4 hrs to feed...but everyone parents ddifferenty. That is kinda annoying they are telling you what YOU should do with your baby. Im sorry!
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  • Crgardner957Crgardner957 member
    I don't wake my LO to eat. I didn't with my other two either. He is gaining weight fantastic so that's why I don't wake him. If my breast are full I *may* wake him up, if not I pump and freeze.
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  • Crgardner957Crgardner957 member
    Now.. 12 hours, that's too long..
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  • lba0614lba0614 member
    Crgardner957 said:
    Now.. 12 hours, that's too long..
    Exactly! I mean for one thing, my lil guy isn't quite back up to birth weight yet so yeah I want to wake him...but even so until he is a little bit older I don't plan on letting him go more than like 4 to 5 hours without eating. His tummy is tiny, and I know I get sick and mad if I don't eat so I can't imagine letting a baby go 12 hours with nothing. 
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  • lba0614lba0614 member
    I also like to wake him because I've heard it helps with SIDS, as they are not able to get in too deep of a sleep. I don't know. I don't plan to wake him forever.

    But yeah, It's mostly that my IL's need to STFU and let me parent my kid the way I think is best and not have something to say about it lol.
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    I was told by my pedi I didn't have to wake up the baby, so I never did. I am all about not waking a sleeping baby unless there is a serious weight issue. Your baby is probably not going to sleep for 12 hours without eating...if they are, that's too long. Wake that baby.
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  • lba0614lba0614 member
    Hmm, I guess I thought more people were told to wake the baby. I know a LOT of the stuff I've read says that you should...and I prefer to. 

    I mean I guess as long as babies are gaining weight It's good, but I'm just trying to stick by what I was told, and my IL's make me sound like a crazy person for doing that.

    Sorry I just had to vent a bit. My IL's are super nice people, but always think that whatever my SIL does is the best thing ever and it gets irritating. I know many of us can understand IL's who are irritating lol. 
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  • Caitlinh27Caitlinh27 member
    Soozerella said:

    I wake up my baby in the evening to try to get him to sleep longer stretches at night.

    It doesn't work.

    Before I read the last sentence I'm thinking to myself "hmmm so do I buts not working!" Glad to know we're not the only one trying but not succeeding.

     

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  • crazyblessedmammacrazyblessedmamma member
    edited December 2013
    I never woke up DS1 to eat and he gained fine. But whatever works best for you and LO is what you should do. I totally get that It is super annoying though when people try to educate you on taking care of your baby. My mil STILL tries to take my DS from me when he gets fussy and he's 20 months old! I just say thanks but I got this. Totally offended her last night to the point where she went to her bedroom to pout, but oh well. My kid, my choice.

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  • NurseKMMNurseKMM member
    I wish my husband would let our child sleep. I worry he'll develop bad sleep patterns. He's back up to birth weight, so he should sleep I feel (not too long, but doesn't need to be woken every 3 hrs at night.) now during the day, I have no problems waking baby up to eat.

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  • tyedyeme12tyedyeme12 member
    Soozerella said:

    I wake up my baby in the evening to try to get him to sleep longer stretches at night.

    It doesn't work.

    My pedi told me to wake every 2-3 hours during the day and not wake overnight for this reason. It worked great one night. It didn't work at ALL the next.

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  • insertclevernameinsertclevername member
    I wake DS during the day to eat every 2-2.5 hours and overnight if it has been more than 3 hours. Once he is back to birth weight I will not be waking him at night.
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  • cboinkcboink member
    My daughter is not back to her birth weight but she is gaining just fine. I do not wake her to feed. She wakes frequently on her own and we both cherish the sleep.
    Now if she wasn't gaining that would be a different story.
    Bottom line is you need to do what makes you comfortable. Clearly you are a good parent for wanting your child to eat and be healthy. If waking for feedings works than keep doing it.
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  • KateVAKateVA member
    I don't let him go more than 3 hours during the day but I've never woken him at night. He goes between 2 and 5 hours at night. Pedi said not to wake just make sure he's getting at least 8 feedings in 24 hours
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  • KelseyKetchumKelseyKetchum member
    I have my LO on a flexible schedule tht gets him 9 feeding a day. I wake him at 10pm and then he can sleep up to 4 hrs before I wake him again, then once more at about 3-430 but the schedule changes after 2 weeks. I need a schedule so I can keep track but he is gaining weight perfectly and only 5 days old he is 4 oz away from birth weight. I hate when other people tell you what works for you and your child. As long as everyone is happy and healthy do as you please.
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  • thetheisensthetheisens member
    I wish I had to wake my baby to feed her. Yeah, right. I doubt I even get 2 hr stretches. I ignore them, you parent the way you are comfort parenting as long as it isn't harming the baby they should butt out. I think your sil has select memory.
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