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May 2014 Moms
julesf817
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You sure there's only one in there?
julesf817
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Well, it happened. I knew there'd be some point in my pregnancy where someone made comments about me being big/huge etc. I didn't really expect it to bother me. Christmas Eve we spent over my in laws. It was a nice night, which is what I was thinking as I gathered up my gifts and coat. We went to the living room where everyone was to say goodnight and my MIL looks at me and says "I can't believe how BIG you are! Are you sure there's only one in there?" My one SIL kinda gasped and was like "Ma!" Then my a-hole BIL goes "yeah what are you 7, 8 months?" His wife is due in June so he knows exactly how far along I am.
So I started putting my coat on and my MIL says "even your jacket is huge!" My nice wool maternity coat that i still need to grow into, but thought looked pretty cute on. My other SIL tried to chime in about how big she'd been while pregnant to make me feel better but at that point i just attempted to laugh it off and left. Then we got in the car and I cried. Thankfully my husband reacted the right way, by being pissed off. At this point I have NO interest in going over there any time soon. He said "they are gonna hear about this!" All I can think is that they've all been talking about how giant I am, and what they said after i left. I know it shouldn't matter but I can help being bothered. I was just starting to think I looked cute and actually pregnant.
Anybody else have fun times with family over the holiday?
So I started putting my coat on and my MIL says "even your jacket is huge!" My nice wool maternity coat that i still need to grow into, but thought looked pretty cute on. My other SIL tried to chime in about how big she'd been while pregnant to make me feel better but at that point i just attempted to laugh it off and left. Then we got in the car and I cried. Thankfully my husband reacted the right way, by being pissed off. At this point I have NO interest in going over there any time soon. He said "they are gonna hear about this!" All I can think is that they've all been talking about how giant I am, and what they said after i left. I know it shouldn't matter but I can help being bothered. I was just starting to think I looked cute and actually pregnant.
Anybody else have fun times with family over the holiday?
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Re: You sure there's only one in there?
Me: 31, DH: 34, Married 5/29/05
BFP #1: 6/22/10, EDD 3/6/11, DS born 2/25/11 @ 38w5d
BFP #2: 7/27/13, EDD 4/9/14, CP 8/3/13
BFP #3: 8/31/13, EDD 5/10/13, DD born med-free 5/9/14 @ 39w6d
Since that's a regular occurrence, I'll share my second family tidbit. My BIL (sisters husband) told us the day we told them we were expecting all of the 700 things we wouldn't be able to do when the baby came. No more drinking. No more partying. No more baseball games. No more movies. No more vacation. No more this this this that and some other things. He also said that DH would have to for sure FOR SURE get a second job so we can pay for our kids *private school* tuition and college. (Our kids aren't going to private school, btw. Nothing against it, but we moved into the school district we want to send our kids to for that specific reason.)
He sat down with my DH last night before dinner and was all "So... Did you find a second job yet?"
If I was able to drink, it would be that point I would be taking shots.
He's a fucking douche. First of all, he knows nothing about our finances. He doesn't know that we've crunched the numbers, and will be able to live happily on DH's salary alone. He doesn't know that I'm not coming back to where I'm working now, much less me working full time, DH working full time AND having a second job. He doesn't know that NORMAL PEOPLE don't buy every single thing their kids tell them they want. He doesn't know that when my daughter says she wants that As Seen On TV juicer that's $200, that I'm not going to go out and buy TWO OF THEM.
I just hate him. He can suck my non-existent penis.
No advice, but that's where I live too sister. Give them a very polite "blow me" or "bless your heart".
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Ive had this said to me a few times. It does bother me but then I remember its usually said by the same people also telling me "just you wait til you have to deal with a teen like mine" - the same people who let their kids run the show. I am sorry, but what happened to Moms encouraging eachother? Yes ill make mistakes with kids by why do you assume Ill let my kids bully me like you do?!
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My aunt and uncle live in Australia (they're both quite the "peach" if you will, diarrhea of the mouth type). They came to visit when I was like 34 weeks pg with DS. The ENTIRE visit it was "uh oh watch out for the big girl!"..."here comes fatty boom bah"..."careful, don't break the couch!" I wanted to scream! It's so frickin rude!
Meanwhile, their 14 year old was begging to go see the Hangover 2 with my 21 year old brother and asked if they could stop at the "bottle shop" and sneak something into the movies.
If you didn't show at all they would tell you to eat more. Ugh I hate people sometimes.
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This has been my thought exactly. Sorry your family was so incredibly rude. Glad your H had your back.
I've already put on over 20 pounds and have been getting comments like this daily, even from random people. It's hard to not let it get to you. Last week I got a pedicure and the woman exclaimed several times how huge I was and then asked me how much I'd gained. She then warned me about how difficult it is to birth big babies. Umm... thanks?
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
This has been my thought exactly. Sorry your family was so incredibly rude. Glad your H had your back.
I've already put on over 20 pounds and have been getting comments like this daily, even from random people. It's hard to not let it get to you. Last week I got a pedicure and the woman exclaimed several times how huge I was and then asked me how much I'd gained. She then warned me about how difficult it is to birth big babies. Umm... thanks?
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This keeps happening to me as well, a women called me chubby at work then ther day and I nearly decked her. People have no filter when it comes to talking to pregnant ladies. When the old homeless guy moves out of your way and says congratulations and wishes you well but the lady in the next shop tells you you're gigantic, what does that say about humanity?!
To be honest I'm not really looking forward to getting bigger and bigger over the next few months just because of the comments! It's exciting to know that I have a healthy baby growing away in there but discouraging to know what I'm going to have to listen to over and over again. I know it will all be worth it in the end, just have to get there first!!
Edited because I have fat fingers
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