Today my 7yo was diagnosed with both ADHD and ODD. I was expecting the ADHD Dx but wasn't sure about the ODD. He has always been a hyperactive child with tendencies of inatentiveness but within the last year or so his aggressive behavior has intensified by ten-fold. There was an incident of him threatening a child to cut his throat with a knife on the bus, putting his hands around a little girls neck like he was going to choke her and being overly rough with his little brothers. All 3 of these incidents he said was because they did something to him and they deserved it.
We are in the process of getting an appt. with a psychiatrist at Children's Hospital for both the ODD and the fact that he has been having suicidal thoughts. 3 times in 3 weeks he came to me and said he wanted to kill himself because no one liked him and the world was cruel to him. Because of this his pedi is unsure of putting him on stimulants for his ADHD. He said we could and just watch him for signs of intensity with the thoughts and also put him on anti-depressants to help with it or we could wait till he see the psychiatrist and then put him on the meds.
I guess what my question is what would you ladies do? The other problem I'm having with the decision is that his father(who I'm not with any longer) does NOT want him on meds. He says that my son is just a normal kid and there is nothing wrong. So I know if I put him on medication that his father will not have him take it when he is with him. Another is that there is a wait list at Children's to see the psychiatrist. It could be a good 3-4 months before he is seen. His behavior at school is worsening by the day and they have said if it gets worse that suspension could be the next step. I'm just not sure if putting him on the meds and then just watching for suicidal signs is what I should do while we wait to be seen. Really unsure of what to do at this point.
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