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curlylocks3 · December 2013

Also, being opinionated is not a bad thing.

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

Still happening. I apologize to everyone. Like I said it was worded wrong I know what I said and I apologize for what I said and they way it was worded.

puttyeast · December 2013

Claiming zero tolerance on this board is ridiculous. This board is very supportive. And there is no reason why we can not have different opinions on a variety of topics.

chickpea912 · December 2013

It is more than obvious that people come to this board for a variety of reasons. Some come for support, some for the entertainment (intentional and not), some come to feel special for a split second as they post a thread in a room full of strangers, wanting all of the congratulations in the world without even attempting to become a part of this community. And I guess they're welcome to that.

Perspective is key. If you think this board is snarky, please, explore the bump a bit (which is a website, not an app - if you're only accessing this through the app, go on a computer and peek around - it isn't just the June 14 bmb or birth month club or whatever they are calling it these days). And if you find this board too mean and cruel for your tender emotions, there are plenty of other websites that host message boards just like this one. The board evolves and changes based upon the personalities of those who participate and contribute to the community, and complaining about the tone isn't going to make that change. It's like going up to a random stranger and politely requesting them to stop simply being THEM. It isn't fair and isn't rational.

As much as I'd like the random drive by posts to stop, I know complaining about them (as I did in the UO thread on Thursday) isn't going to do a darn thing. And I do skip over the ones I don't wish to read - I skip over a good many threads every day. It's frustrating to have to go to pages 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 to find threads that I actually want to read, but I do it. And I'll probably continue to complain about it as stranger after stranger stops by to consult the omniscient internet strangers who populate this board (instead of their educated medical professional). All of the complaints and bitching lately (and I've been guilty of it) has all been about the quintessential nature of an internet chat board. And pretty much every internet chat board goes through it. We aren't that special, (except that we are, woohoo June14!).

And so I will continue to follow those ladies with whom I have built relationships (fake friendships, if you will), and support those who need it. And I'll probably grumble all the while. But I'll be thankful for having this board (and the associated chat room) - I do get a lot out of it and wouldn't change it for the world. Well, maybe a few things.

rmjones15 · December 2013

For someone who claims to not like drama, you sure do fish for it a lot.

chickpea912 · December 2013

@thatkelsgirl Your post obvious hit on a nerve, and people feel the need to discuss. Whatever your intention behind posting this thread, it doesn't really matter anymore. I understand that you feel a little unsettled because of the attention its brought, but stop apologizing. If people didn't care about what you brought up, it wouldn't have taken off. It's only marginally about what you originally posted at this point, so just let it runs its course - I think it's become therapy time for June 14.

curlylocks3 · December 2013

@chickpea912

chickpea912 · December 2013

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Luna C · December 2013

mrsgerman said:

I think my issue lately has been the ridiculous amount of posts saying they found out it is a boy or girl (sorry but seriously no one cares, update your siggy and move along) and the name posts which all should be done on the baby name board. If we didn't have either one of those things would be much easier to keep up with.

You nailed it. The gender reveal posts are the stupidest thing around. The name posts ... I see your point, and I agree for the most part. But the name board is not all that active so i could see someone posting it here just to get the opinions of people they "know." (Also, I only discovered the name board a week or two ago. I'm sure I'm not the only one who didn't realize it was there.)

But even so, it's much easier to just skip those posts. I don't understand the logic behind opening a repetitive post for the sole purpose of telling the poster she shouldn't have posted where she did. And yes, while those posts are not filled with vulgarity or name-calling, they definitely have a "tone" -- let's not pretend they are done to be "helpful." They largely to me seem to be meant to put the poster in her place.

SaraT717 · December 2013

I just want someone to clarify what is a drive by?

I would like to know if I fit in this category lol! :ar!

nunzchucks · December 2013

Sara.Henkel said:

I just want someone to clarify what is a drive by? I would like to know if I fit in this category lol! :ar!

I consider a "drive- by" to be someone with little or no posting history that posts an AW thread. Give support to get support, you know?

nunzchucks · December 2013

Also, @thatkelsgirl, YGPM.

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

Luna C said:

mrsgerman said:

I think my issue lately has been the ridiculous amount of posts saying they found out it is a boy or girl (sorry but seriously no one cares, update your siggy and move along) and the name posts which all should be done on the baby name board. If we didn't have either one of those things would be much easier to keep up with.

You nailed it. The gender reveal posts are the stupidest thing around. The name posts ... I see your point, and I agree for the most part. But the name board is not all that active so i could see someone posting it here just to get the opinions of people they "know." (Also, I only discovered the name board a week or two ago. I'm sure I'm not the only one who didn't realize it was there.)

But even so, it's much easier to just skip those posts. I don't understand the logic behind opening a repetitive post for the sole purpose of telling the poster she shouldn't have posted where she did. And yes, while those posts are not filled with vulgarity or name-calling, they definitely have a "tone" -- let's not pretend they are done to be "helpful." They largely to me seem to be meant to put the poster in her place.

THIS you hit it. Thank you. That's all I meant.

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

skamber said:

CDK211 said:

Thatkelsgirl said:

I apologize. This was worded wrong but shouldn't have been posted. Please everyone understand that I was only referring to one person. Anyways I'm so sorry if I offended anyone and I really do love this group.

I don't know...I may be wrong here, but I kind of think it's a little snarky to create a whole thread calling attention to something...because you were upset by one person.

Thank you, @cdk211
Exactly this. If you have a problem with one person, go to that one person.

I absolutely agree, I totally should have. Next time if I have an issue I Definitley will.

JNerd · December 2013

Babywear said:

I think I might be one of the women OP was referring to. I will say, my post (from yesterday) wasn't meant to be snarky, rather I was trying to convey my frustration at the redundancy, especially given the new creation of the name/sex thread.
Yes, I felt your comment was snarky. The poster was asking for thoughts on a particular name, however the sticky you are referring them to reads: " When you find out, post your baby's sex and the name you decide on here! (If you are team green, we would like to hear your name options). We're having a: We will name him/her: Due date: " The question wasn't redundant - it wasn't a decided name, so didn't belong in the sticky and I don't see why you we're mean to the poster. If you would like mods to create a 'name feedback' sticky, go for it.

There is a whole board dedicated to names - a great place to go when you feel the need to have your names validated by internet strangers.

Also, if you *read* the sticky thread, you would see that people don't just post their final decisions, they post contending names as well.

Happydance80 · December 2013

I have posted several posts in support of others (not in a while) but have never come here seeking support of any kind because of how unbelievably snarky A LOT of the women on this board are. It's better than other boards so its ok to be completely disrespectal of others because it's less disrespectal than another board?

PP are correct in saying that when someone is really in need of support
then the board is very supportive.
But god fucking forbid someone says/asks about something that irritates someone or all hell breaks loose. No, I'm not going to go
Looking for examples of this behavior just because people are so used to treating others like dirt in their daily life
That they don't see when they are being rude/snarky/bitchy to someone.

I personally am not bothered by gender posts. I like to look. I have CHOSEN not to click on a single name thread because it doesn't interest me. It feels really whiny to hear so many say that it's too much work for them to scroll or push next to find what they are interested in. So many of you guys say "it's the internet so you should expect negative replies etc... "To that I say, it's the Internet so expect people to not give a shit that you don't want them to post gender/name posts or symptoms or whatever else.

Seriously just ignore the post if you don't want to read it and stop getting your panties in a wad because someone irritates you or you don't agree with them (check out some of the past UO posts. Classy)

In summation,
I fully support OP

katekat8721 · December 2013

@happydance80 you don't even know what you're fully supporting as the OP deleted her post. You brought more snarkiness and negativity than anyone else here did. Untwist the panties chick. It's just the internet.

JNerd · December 2013

Happydance80 said:

I have posted several posts in support of others (not in a while) but have never come here seeking support of any kind because of how unbelievably snarky A LOT of the women on this board are. It's better than other boards so its ok to be completely disrespectal of others because it's less disrespectal than another board? PP are correct in saying that when someone is really in need of support then the board is very supportive. But god fucking forbid someone says/asks about something that irritates someone or all hell breaks loose. No, I'm not going to go Looking for examples of this behavior just because people are so used to treating others like dirt in their daily life That they don't see when they are being rude/snarky/bitchy to someone. I personally am not bothered by gender posts. I like to look. I have CHOSEN not to click on a single name thread because it doesn't interest me. It feels really whiny to hear so many say that it's too much work for them to scroll or push next to find what they are interested in. So many of you guys say "it's the internet so you should expect negative replies etc... "To that I say, it's the Internet so expect people to not give a shit that you don't want them to post gender/name posts or symptoms or whatever else. Seriously just ignore the post if you don't want to read it and stop getting your panties in a wad because someone irritates you or you don't agree with them (check out some of the past UO posts. Classy) In summation, I fully support OP

Happydance80 · December 2013

Obviously it was a spelling error- yes I meant disrespectful.

Yep. My post was shitty. I'll own it.

anordstrWed114947 · December 2013

I didn't know there was a proper form for on line message boards. I'm new to all this. There is a way to search? I can't get anything to work. This was created when I got married 6 years ago and have no idea how I got my name on here. Or what a ticker is either.

anordstrWed114947 · December 2013

Ok how about a key here ... Not to sound stupid what is all these check ins and AW? I figured out a few but all these short hands are confusing me. Is there something I missed that explains everything? I'm soo lost. As soon as I feel comfortable asking a question I see here I'm probably making people mad by not following a thread. What is or where is the rules?

anordstrWed114947 · December 2013

Thanks. I don't want to make anyone mad

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

anordstrWed114947 said:
Thanks. I don't want to make anyone mad

Just remember that you won't possibly be able to please everyone. A select few like things run a certain way, I recommend checking if something's already been posted before posting. Turns into a shit storm sometimes lol. Good luck. I'll meet ya in the shadows if you get scared lol

MrsRage · December 2013

Oh girls, there is so much hypocrisy going on back and forth it's getting out of hand.

Why did a bunch of you have to gang up on happydance for stating her opinion? And calling out spelling mistakes as a form of rebuttal is childish.

In any case, the opinions on this board are obviously split 50/50, so now that everyone has stated their point of view lets just move on! This was much more enjoyable before all the arguing back and forth.

Luna C · December 2013

JNerd said: There is a whole board dedicated to names - a great place to go when you feel the need to have your names validated by internet strangers.

Also, if you *read* the sticky thread, you would see that people don't just post their final decisions, they post contending names as well.

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And you're still claiming to not have any kind of snarky or nasty tone, correct? Just want to be sure I'm clear on that.

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