Post Your Randoms

MrsCase1 · December 2013

Here are mine:

1. At my appointment this week I asked the midwife about a random pain I was having. She proceeds to go into this lecture about how FTMs really feel pain because they're not used to it. Except, I am not a FTM. And she should know this given she saw me my last pregnancy and had examined me two minutes early and saw my c/s scar. Glad she does not do my primary care, LOL!

2. Last week I baked my all-time favorite cookies. Then I didn't eat them. Now I am craving cake but am afraid to waste anything else I crave and then lose interest in one bite in.

3. It was my birthday Tuesday and my husband didn't even get me a card. A card is the only thing I really care about. I wasn't expecting a gift since this is his slow season at work but c'mon, DH! Get it together!

4. I can't come up with a good reason to get out of my pajamas today. I worked all morning and this week has been crazy so I think I have earned a pj day!

5. Still haven't done any Christmas shopping. We bought for Lincoln but nobody else. We might not either!!

babygabe614 · December 2013

I am just totally unproductive this week because I know I have a 5-day weekend coming up and I don't have to host or cook hardly anything allll weekend long.

I would do anything for a bacon cheeseburger with fried onions and BBQ sauce right now.

It is annoying that one of my best friends' birthday is the day after xmas. By the time xmas is over, I am relieved to not have to schlep all over the place but then I am forced to go to whatever stupid bar or club she wants, and spend more money than I want to - every year. You're turning 27 honey, this is not a milestone so I should not be going broke for you.

I totally forgot to buy my coworkers gifts this year and ended up getting them some cheapo things from target on Tuesday night. I don't even feel bad about it, even though most of them actually put thought into their gifts.

Luna C · December 2013

2. Last week I baked my all-time favorite cookies. Then I didn't eat them. Now I am craving cake but am afraid to waste anything else I crave and then lose interest in one bite in.
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I keep doing this. I buy something because it looks so good in the store, then once I make it I'm sick of looking at it. Dude likes it, because he gets to eat it all.

MrsCase1 · December 2013

Luna C said:

2. Last week I baked my all-time favorite cookies. Then I didn't eat them. Now I am craving cake but am afraid to waste anything else I crave and then lose interest in one bite in.
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I keep doing this. I buy something because it looks so good in the store, then once I make it I'm sick of looking at it. Dude likes it, because he gets to eat it all.

My husband doesn't eat so there is not way to salvage what I cook. His coworkers love it but he often forgets to bring stuff in with him. I hate wasting food or money! Ugh!

MrsCase1 · December 2013

babygabe614 said:

It is annoying that one of my best friends' birthday is the day after xmas. By the time xmas is over, I am relieved to not have to schlep all over the place but then I am forced to go to whatever stupid bar or club she wants, and spend more money than I want to - every year. You're turning 27 honey, this is not a milestone so I should not be going broke for you.
I totally forgot to buy my coworkers gifts this year and ended up getting them some cheapo things from target on Tuesday night. I don't even feel bad about it, even though most of them actually put thought into their gifts.

I agree that if it is not a milestone birthday she should cool it.

I don't think you should have to spend money to exchange gifts with co-workers. I do not miss this about office life, LOL!

amackattack · December 2013

Last night I hung out one on one with one of my friends....lately it's all been couple friends we've been hanging out with. It was really nice! We got dinner, coffee, pedicures, and went shopping. I loved it.

I look horrible today. The pants I'm wearing are humongous on me and I'm not wearing a belt and my shirt's not long enough to stay tucked in....it looks so weird. Also for some reason I'm wearing underpants waaaay too big so they're really loose and i have some major panty lines going on with loose undies and loose pants that are tan. I didn't do my hair this morning or last night so i just put it up with a pen and my acne is as bad as could be, and I don't wear makeup because that just gives me more acne. I am gross.

I am going through a major slump at work. Not motivated...not getting things done... I dont know whats wrong with me. Good thing H got promoted!

A coworker gave me a reeeeally cute notebook for christmas that's going to be my daily to do notebook, I'm excited! They also all liked the cups and crystal lite I gave them which I was surprised about.

Also, I'm going to tour a daycare today. It's about 30 seconds from our house.

MissBHaven1024 · December 2013

1. I was craving peanut butter blossoms last week. I made 26 of them, ate 3 right away, and haven't touched them since.

2. I have been eating lemons nonstop! I can't get enough of them. I cut them into quarters, and then sprinkle salt on them, and use a fork to scoop out the pulp! It's so delicious to me, but everyone else thinks I'm weird.

3. I am getting impatient waiting for the results from my free cell DNA test. It's been 9 days now, and even though I was quoted 21 days, I was hoping they would come in sooner! I just want to know that the baby is healthy after that slightly worrisome NT scan 3 weeks ago.

4. My vagina feels like someone has kicked me with a steel-toe boot!

5. DH felt the baby move for the first time last night, and he got so excited! He fell asleep last night with his hand on my stomach for hours. It was so sweet!

That's all I have for now...

momof5sept18 · December 2013

1.) My ribs and stomach muscles have been super sore but I decided to clean anyways even though DH said he would take care of it when he got home, and he told me to take a chill pill and my response was "I can't take chill pills, my doctor specifically said ONLY TYLENOL" then proceeded to clean and then texted him afterwards saying house was done but he has laundry detail.

2.) I can't seem to get enough cream cheese. I don't know what the deal is. I made homemade pizza's for dinner last week and used cream cheese instead of tomato sauce.

3.) I LOVE Chicken&Dumplings and thought for certain it would mask the fact that I'm eating meat and boy was I wrong! I can't eat meat of any kind besides pepperoni without getting sick. Zofran helps me to not get sick, but the texture is gross too so I still end up spitting it out, sooo I guess no eating meat til June. Oh how I love my vegetarian baby lol

4.) I have had to change my cleaning supplies like 3 times because my nose is so sensitive and I just want my old cleaner back! (Stupid, I know, but I love cleaning!) Which also leads to, I want my muscles to feel better so I can clean without spending the rest of the day on the couch.

5.) Since telling my 4yo & 2yo boys Mommy is pregnant my 4yo has become totally self concious of what he eats because he is now pregnant too and won't eat hot foods, and some other of his favorite things in fear of hurting his baby and constantly tries to take the hot sauce from me so I dont hurt his baby brother/sister. -.-

Thats all for now.

lest12 · December 2013

I am having a horrid day. My family is fighting and cancelled Christmas because of my sister and I.

She is getting married in September. Big wedding and everyone in the immediate families are in the bridal party... except my DH. I was so hurt and told her so. Her solution was to have our baby in the wedding, and he can walk the baby down the aisle. I thought this was adding insulf to injury. She told me it was her fiances decision and she had to respect it. So, I said I wasn't comfortable being in the wedding anymore.

I'm pretty upset. DH and my sister are super close, we are all super close, except dh and her fiance, who get along but just arent bff's. I think it's so mean to leave dh out of a major family event and want no part of it.

That's all I got today.

babyt614 · December 2013

MissBHaven1024 said:
2. I have been eating lemons nonstop! I can't get enough of them. I cut them into quarters, and then sprinkle salt on them, and use a fork to scoop out the pulp! It's so delicious to me, but everyone else thinks I'm weird.

**I have been OBSESSED with lemons since getting pregnant! I havent eaten them like that but i've been squeezing half a lemon into cold or hot water several times a day. and going through lemonade like it's my job!!

MrsCase1 · December 2013

emilyh107 said:

My nephews are 15 & 12 and I am having the hardest time trying to find them something for Christmas. I keep asking what they want but I'm not getting any response that really help. They are both athletic and into music but I am stuck. Suggestions are welcome, by the way. Groupon is really ticking me off with how long it's taking to get something. They keep saying one thing but it usually ends up not being true. When I was in the hospital yesterday, they had a nurse that was training and going around with the other nurse. When it was time to get my IV, the new nurse was doing it. Well, it took her forever to find my vein. I've never had a problem with them finding it but I was pretty dehdryated so I imagine it's a little tougher to find. After an hour of putting hot towels on my arm and sticking me about 5 times, she finally called in the other nurse, who got it on her first try. I'm all for the nurse learning but I really needed some fluids in me and it was a tad bit ridiculous. My OB wasn't happy at all and kept apologizing.

iTunes gift cards?

MrsCase1 · December 2013

lest12 said:

I am having a horrid day. My family is fighting and cancelled Christmas because of my sister and I. She is getting married in September. Big wedding and everyone in the immediate families are in the bridal party... except my DH. I was so hurt and told her so. Her solution was to have our baby in the wedding, and he can walk the baby down the aisle. I thought this was adding insulf to injury. She told me it was her fiances decision and she had to respect it. So, I said I wasn't comfortable being in the wedding anymore. I'm pretty upset. DH and my sister are super close, we are all super close, except dh and her fiance, who get along but just arent bff's. I think it's so mean to leave dh out of a major family event and want no part of it. That's all I got today.

@lest12 is everyone else's spouses included or is it just the "blood family"? May I ask why it was insulting to have your husband walk your baby down the aisle? I am in no way trying to diminish your feelings, just trying to understand. I know for a fact when my BIL gets married I will in no way be included in the wedding. I am fine with it because it is their wedding and I want them to have it their way. Like I said, not trying to diminsh your feelings AT ALL since every family dynamic is different. Is your sister OK with your family's reaction or do you think she is behind it?

MrsCase1 · December 2013

MissBHaven1024 said:

1. I was craving peanut butter blossoms last week. I made 26 of them, ate 3 right away, and haven't touched them since.

2. I have been eating lemons nonstop! I can't get enough of them. I cut them into quarters, and then sprinkle salt on them, and use a fork to scoop out the pulp! It's so delicious to me, but everyone else thinks I'm weird.

1. Those are one of my favorite cookies!

2. Love lemons, pregnant or not!

lest12 · December 2013

Mrs Case said:

lest12 said:

I am having a horrid day. My family is fighting and cancelled Christmas because of my sister and I. She is getting married in September. Big wedding and everyone in the immediate families are in the bridal party... except my DH. I was so hurt and told her so. Her solution was to have our baby in the wedding, and he can walk the baby down the aisle. I thought this was adding insulf to injury. She told me it was her fiances decision and she had to respect it. So, I said I wasn't comfortable being in the wedding anymore. I'm pretty upset. DH and my sister are super close, we are all super close, except dh and her fiance, who get along but just arent bff's. I think it's so mean to leave dh out of a major family event and want no part of it. That's all I got today.
@lest12 is everyone else's spouses included or is it just the "blood family"? May I ask why it was insulting to have your husband walk your baby down the aisle? I am in no way trying to diminish your feelings, just trying to understand. I know for a fact when my BIL gets married I will in no way be included in the wedding. I am fine with it because it is their wedding and I want them to have it their way. Like I said, not trying to diminsh your feelings AT ALL since every family dynamic is different. Is your sister OK with your family's reaction or do you think she is behind it?

It's OK. I knew posting it that it is a weird situation and every family dynamic is different, so what might totally be OK in one family wouldn't fly in another. Also, I didn't include all the details (didn't want to bore anyone to death) so it is hard to understand all the ins and outs.

I'll start off with, my family is extremely, almost to the point of painfully, close. We all talk multiple times a day and hang out several times a week. Holidays, life events, mundane events are always 'family' things. That's just our dynamic.

DH is actually the only IL on either side of the family so it isn't like there's a comparable person here.

The only other serious relationship is my brother and his girlfriend. A few weeks ago, my sister asked what I thought about brother's girlfriend being in the wedding. My sister isn't particularly close to her, in fact, she's much closer to my H. I thought it was kind of screwed up that she'd want to invite the GF and not DH.

To be honest, my feeling (and my mother) is that both DH and my brother's girlfriend should be in the wedding party and be included. I get that it is the bride and groom's "day", but I think when you decide to have a big wedding like this, they become more like family events. If you start including 90% of the people but not everyone, you're going to hurt feelings; I think saying that it is "your day" and using that as an excuse to leave certain family members out is a shitty thing to do (and what they are doing).

I guess I'm most upset because my sister loves DH, they have always been very, very close. My sister said to a few other family members that she would want DH to be in the wedding, but it is her fiancé's decision and apparently he said no. I don't understand why he would want to purposely leave him out, especially if my sister asked him. I think that's crappy.

So after her fiancé said no, dh can't be in the wedding, my sister suggested that he walk our baby down the aisle. It just feels like she is trying to throw him a bone or looking for a way to include him, but to me, I think it is even more embarrassing to have him walk our baby down the aisle, wearing a suit while all of the other men in the family are wearing tuxes and standing at the alter and actually in the bridal party.

Does any of that make sense?

jaybee11 · December 2013

1. I think I've eaten about half a dozen candy canes today. The peppermint helps with my nausea, but I may be going a little overboard...

2. I've been getting cases of bottled water and lugging it several blocks back to my office because our ice machine/water filter has built up black gunk in the lines and I can't bring myself to drink it anymore. I place 4-5 bottles in the fridge at a time so there's always a cold bottle on hand. This morning I opened the door to grab one (should have had at least one left from yesterday afternoon) and they were all gone. I had previously suspected some shrinkage, but this confirmed it for me. Damn people quit stealing from the hormonal pregnant lady--that's a good way to get throat-punched!

3. I really don't care about my job anymore. Even before I got pregnant, I had given myself a deadline of June 30 to figure out what I wanted to do with my career, and I was going to quit the corporate world. I'm not planning on coming back to work after the babies, so I feel like I'm just killing time to get the sweet maternity leave benefits. Shh...don't tell anyone!

amackattack · December 2013

@lest12- We ended up doing no in laws in the wedding, but there were a lot of in laws so it was easy to make the distinction. I think if the GF is in the wedding (which is surprising IMO), then your DH should definitely be included. Otherwise I could see not doing in laws just because that's what we did. How does your H feel about it? Will he feel weird if they let him in and he knew the groom didn't originally want him in it? Also, what is the fiance's problem???

That sounds like a really stinky situation all around :(

jaybee11 · December 2013

@lest12 - What does your husband think about it? Are his feelings hurt, or is it more you and your mom wanting him to be included? I honestly would be relieved not having to be in a wedding party--it ends up being more of an obligation than anything else. Either way he gets to attend the wedding, but this way he can relax.

Pepper6 · December 2013

1. I have been in such a bitchy mood the last 2 days, it's like super PMS. Part of it is because I didn't sleep well at all 2 nights ago (and not great last night either), then I was slammed at work yesterday and ended up staying an hour late, which then caused me to get stuck in traffic. Today hasn't been much better except my boss finally left the office so I can get some shit done, but then asks if everything is okay because I sound 'irritated' when he calls me every 5 minutes.

2. I'm still just not really excited for Christmas this year. I don't know why, but it seems like everyone is in this funk where we sort of got jipped on the happy Christmas season. Also, I think it's stupid that Christmas is on a Wednesday. WTF am I supposed to do with that? I'm thinking about just saying 'fuck it' and taking the rest of the week off, so I'll only be working a half day on Monday and then bumming it up the rest of the week.

lest12 · December 2013

Thanks for the perspective, guys.

What makes it worse, and what makes me feel worse, is that DH just automatically assumed her WOULD be in their wedding. He is super close to my family and loves my sister like his own, so he just figured he would be a part of it because we are all a part of it.

It's crappy. I kind of have kept him in the dark about what was going on because I didn't know how to tell him any of this (and honestly, I was kind of hoping that my sister and her fiancé would come to their senses). I told him about some of it today (not all of it, I just don't want to hurt his feelings like that) and he just doesn't understand why they wouldn't just ask him.

lest12 · December 2013

mullenem said:

Lcgroenewe said:

@lest12- We ended up doing no in laws in the wedding, but there were a lot of in laws so it was easy to make the distinction. I think if the GF is in the wedding (which is surprising IMO), then your DH should definitely be included. Otherwise I could see not doing in laws just because that's what we did. How does your H feel about it? Will he feel weird if they let him in and he knew the groom didn't originally want him in it? Also, what is the fiance's problem???

That sounds like a really stinky situation all around :(

I agree and second the "how does your H feel about it?" My husband (then fiance) wasn't in my sister's wedding and really, he could not have cared less. But, I was in both of his sister's weddings (but we're really close, like actual sisters, not just ILs). Truthfully, I think the worst part is her passing all the blame off on her fiance. She should grow a pair and either say "Look, fiance, he's in the wedding" or "Sorry, sister, but we really feel like the wedding party is full enough."

My DD was in my SIL's wedding at 7 months old. My husband carried her down the aisle and loved it (though he was also in the wedding, she was passed off to a cousin at the end of the aisle).

Pretty much. The bold especially.

I think it would be cute for this LO to be in the wedding... if DH was also in the wedding. I think a man carrying the baby down the aisle might be adorable.

I just can't get past the idea that it is my sister's consolation prize for DH.

Pepper6 · December 2013

lest12 said:

Mrs Case said:

lest12 said:

I am having a horrid day. My family is fighting and cancelled Christmas because of my sister and I. She is getting married in September. Big wedding and everyone in the immediate families are in the bridal party... except my DH. I was so hurt and told her so. Her solution was to have our baby in the wedding, and he can walk the baby down the aisle. I thought this was adding insulf to injury. She told me it was her fiances decision and she had to respect it. So, I said I wasn't comfortable being in the wedding anymore. I'm pretty upset. DH and my sister are super close, we are all super close, except dh and her fiance, who get along but just arent bff's. I think it's so mean to leave dh out of a major family event and want no part of it. That's all I got today.
@lest12 is everyone else's spouses included or is it just the "blood family"? May I ask why it was insulting to have your husband walk your baby down the aisle? I am in no way trying to diminish your feelings, just trying to understand. I know for a fact when my BIL gets married I will in no way be included in the wedding. I am fine with it because it is their wedding and I want them to have it their way. Like I said, not trying to diminsh your feelings AT ALL since every family dynamic is different. Is your sister OK with your family's reaction or do you think she is behind it?

It's OK. I knew posting it that it is a weird situation and every family dynamic is different, so what might totally be OK in one family wouldn't fly in another. Also, I didn't include all the details (didn't want to bore anyone to death) so it is hard to understand all the ins and outs.

I'll start off with, my family is extremely, almost to the point of painfully, close. We all talk multiple times a day and hang out several times a week. Holidays, life events, mundane events are always 'family' things. That's just our dynamic.

DH is actually the only IL on either side of the family so it isn't like there's a comparable person here.

The only other serious relationship is my brother and his girlfriend. A few weeks ago, my sister asked what I thought about brother's girlfriend being in the wedding. My sister isn't particularly close to her, in fact, she's much closer to my H. I thought it was kind of screwed up that she'd want to invite the GF and not DH.

To be honest, my feeling (and my mother) is that both DH and my brother's girlfriend should be in the wedding party and be included. I get that it is the bride and groom's "day", but I think when you decide to have a big wedding like this, they become more like family events. If you start including 90% of the people but not everyone, you're going to hurt feelings; I think saying that it is "your day" and using that as an excuse to leave certain family members out is a shitty thing to do (and what they are doing).

I guess I'm most upset because my sister loves DH, they have always been very, very close. My sister said to a few other family members that she would want DH to be in the wedding, but it is her fiancé's decision and apparently he said no. I don't understand why he would want to purposely leave him out, especially if my sister asked him. I think that's crappy.

So after her fiancé said no, dh can't be in the wedding, my sister suggested that he walk our baby down the aisle. It just feels like she is trying to throw him a bone or looking for a way to include him, but to me, I think it is even more embarrassing to have him walk our baby down the aisle, wearing a suit while all of the other men in the family are wearing tuxes and standing at the alter and actually in the bridal party.

Does any of that make sense?

I get why it sucks, especially because you have a very close family, but he's right. His wedding party is his decision, and her wedding party is her decision. It's not really fair of her to ask him to put someone he may not be as close with in his WP just because.

Basically, it's okay to have hurt feelings over it, but I think you might be overreacting if it's to the point where your "very close family" has cancelled your holiday plans because of it.

lest12 · December 2013

It will remain to be seen if the holiday plans remained cancelled - I think my mother might be overreacting on that part 8-|

MrsCase1 · December 2013

lest12 said:

It's OK. I knew posting it that it is a weird situation and every family dynamic is different, so what might totally be OK in one family wouldn't fly in another. Also, I didn't include all the details (didn't want to bore anyone to death) so it is hard to understand all the ins and outs.

I'll start off with, my family is extremely, almost to the point of painfully, close. We all talk multiple times a day and hang out several times a week. Holidays, life events, mundane events are always 'family' things. That's just our dynamic.

DH is actually the only IL on either side of the family so it isn't like there's a comparable person here.

The only other serious relationship is my brother and his girlfriend. A few weeks ago, my sister asked what I thought about brother's girlfriend being in the wedding. My sister isn't particularly close to her, in fact, she's much closer to my H. I thought it was kind of screwed up that she'd want to invite the GF and not DH.

To be honest, my feeling (and my mother) is that both DH and my brother's girlfriend should be in the wedding party and be included. I get that it is the bride and groom's "day", but I think when you decide to have a big wedding like this, they become more like family events. If you start including 90% of the people but not everyone, you're going to hurt feelings; I think saying that it is "your day" and using that as an excuse to leave certain family members out is a shitty thing to do (and what they are doing).

I guess I'm most upset because my sister loves DH, they have always been very, very close. My sister said to a few other family members that she would want DH to be in the wedding, but it is her fiancé's decision and apparently he said no. I don't understand why he would want to purposely leave him out, especially if my sister asked him. I think that's crappy.

So after her fiancé said no, dh can't be in the wedding, my sister suggested that he walk our baby down the aisle. It just feels like she is trying to throw him a bone or looking for a way to include him, but to me, I think it is even more embarrassing to have him walk our baby down the aisle, wearing a suit while all of the other men in the family are wearing tuxes and standing at the alter and actually in the bridal party.

Does any of that make sense?

@lest12 I have more questions! But first, totally, totally bizarre that a GIRLFRIEND (as opposed to a fiance or spouse) would be included but a spouse would not. That would not sit well with me. So, 1. Could it be your sister is blaming her husband when really she doesn't want to have your DH in the wedding? 2. I sort've understand that from here she has to choose her husband over her family but you'd think something so simple, he would do to please his fiance by adding your DH. 3. What does your sister say about freaking CHRISTMAS being cancelled? 4. How does your Dh feel? If he doesn't care then this is not a battle I would take up. If he DOES care, then I would definitely feel incensed over the "snub." My husband is much more sensitive to that stuff and would care.

lest12 · December 2013

@Mrs case - I can't figure out a way to tag you because of the space!

1. I really doubt it - she loves DH and told both my aunt and my father she did want him to be in the wedding, but it was her fiancé's decision. I can't imagine her doing that.

2. I don't understand either. Why is it such a hassle to include him?

3. I don't know, we haven't talked all day. My family is crazy.

4. I posted above, but DH doesn't really know what's going on, because I haven't really told him, because I think he will be very upset. He assumed he'd be involved.

HeyAmberNicole · December 2013

So my random is more me bitching...is that okay?

My boyfriends parents aren't real good with dealing with money. They have needed to be "bailed out" on more than one occasion in the last 3-4 years. Boyfriend's older sister has ZERO sympathy and won't help, so boyfriend feels like it's his responsibility to bail them out.

I'm totally fine with this happening as long as it doesn't put us in a bind. With the bail out comes redoing their budget and figuring out what put them there. It's usually mom overspent on his sisters kids and they ate out too much and bought frivolous items. Boyfriend is on their account so that he can have access to their account when ish like this happens.

That being said, they basically overspent themselves and haven't done ANYTHING for Christmas. BF's mom came to him and asked if we could buy presents on their behalf and pay their mortgage. That's over $1000. Our budget is tight as it is with Christmas. Granted BF got a Christmas bonus (just like his father, they work for the same company) which was supposed to go to baby shopping and a new garage door. Now, it's going to them and then some.

I'm pretty frustrated because we have a baby on the way and so far, every penny of extra money has gone to other people that "need" money. I believe in helping family, but I'm also a firm believer that if you can't afford your lifestyle, you change it. Whether it's selling your house, getting rid of satellite TV, not spending HUNDREDS of dollars are your two granddaughters every week or whatever.

I think I'm also sad because now there's nothing under the tree for me cause what BF was spending on my gifts is now going to his parents. I know, that's a little selfish.

Color me mad.

Thanks for letting me rant...I really am at a loss as to what to do.

lest12 · December 2013

mullenem said:

lest12 said:

It will remain to be seen if the holiday plans remained cancelled - I think my mother might be overreacting on that part 8-|

Ha, my mom does this too! Ridiculous.
As for the "his side, his choice, her side, her choice" comment, I disagree. Maybe for the last generation this makes sense, but nowadays people of the opposite sex can be friends and having a "bridesman" or a "groomsmaid" isn't that unheard of. If the bride wants a BIL in the wedding, she should have a say in that.
There's also positions like readers, ushers, etc. where he could be placed and still could be included.

My mother usually pairs it with a big side of guilt! Holidays... no winning! I guess I also don't see the his side, his choice thing, either. If a woman is that close with someone, that's it? they're shit out of luck? Honestly, if we wanted to get down to it, I kind of think my future BIL is being a bit of a d-bag, he already has 7 or 8 groomsmen so what is one more, and my sister won't just ask him to knock it off for the sake of my DH/me, and that is really what bothers me because I'll always go to bat for my sister, even occasionally where DH is concerned.

Pepper6 · December 2013

HeyAmberNicole said:

So my random is more me bitching...is that okay?

My boyfriends parents aren't real good with dealing with money. They have needed to be "bailed out" on more than one occasion in the last 3-4 years. Boyfriend's older sister has ZERO sympathy and won't help, so boyfriend feels like it's his responsibility to bail them out.

I'm totally fine with this happening as long as it doesn't put us in a bind. With the bail out comes redoing their budget and figuring out what put them there. It's usually mom overspent on his sisters kids and they ate out too much and bought frivolous items. Boyfriend is on their account so that he can have access to their account when ish like this happens.

That being said, they basically overspent themselves and haven't done ANYTHING for Christmas. BF's mom came to him and asked if we could buy presents on their behalf and pay their mortgage. That's over $1000. Our budget is tight as it is with Christmas. Granted BF got a Christmas bonus (just like his father, they work for the same company) which was supposed to go to baby shopping and a new garage door. Now, it's going to them and then some.

I'm pretty frustrated because we have a baby on the way and so far, every penny of extra money has gone to other people that "need" money. I believe in helping family, but I'm also a firm believer that if you can't afford your lifestyle, you change it. Whether it's selling your house, getting rid of satellite TV, not spending HUNDREDS of dollars are your two granddaughters every week or whatever.

I think I'm also sad because now there's nothing under the tree for me cause what BF was spending on my gifts is now going to his parents. I know, that's a little selfish.

Color me mad.

Thanks for letting me rant...I really am at a loss as to what to do.

I'm with your BF's sister on this one for the most part. If I have family that's in a bind due to some unforeseen circumstances, then I'm willing to help out. But if they're in a bind due to dumb spending decisions, and it's happened many times before, continuing to bail them out is just enabling their habits because they know they always have someone to fall back on.

My sister is like this, and she owes my mom thousands of dollars, and now owes some aunts/uncles a few hundred. But what did she buy her husband for Christmas? A fucking iPad. I'm sorry, but when you needed to borrow $100 two weeks ago to make sure your water didn't get shut off, a $600 toy (that was purchased 5 days after that, so clearly, they had the money for the water bill, but decided to spend it on an iPad instead) should be no where in the realm of possibility. There is no way in hell I would ever lend my sister money at this point, especially not if it meant sacrificing my own Christmas just so they can have one. Fuck that.

nunzchucks · December 2013

@lest12 A little late to the party. I wish your H's feelings weren't hurt, but this may be a blessing in disguise. A three month old is going to need a decent amount of attention during all the wedding festivities and it may be easier to have one of you be able to be more flexible for LO. For my wedding, we asked BIL to be in the wedding party, but he and SIL asked that he not be so their kids could get naps and come to wedding stuff later. Hopefully this won't ruin Christmas!!

babygabe614 · December 2013

I am supposed to go to a work Christmas party in 10 minutes and I am so tempted to just get in my car and go home instead, and keep the bottle of wine I got for the host for myself.

amackattack · December 2013

Yay I'm glad people are still posting in here I love posting random things I'm pumped about! For christmas, H and I ordered a heated mattress pad. It came yesterday and we put it on our mattress and wow, it was heaven. A totally amazing snuggly sleeping experience, I did not think I would love it so much. I'm never going back!

jessicalynn0828 · December 2013

MissBHaven1024 said:

1. I was craving peanut butter blossoms last week. I made 26 of them, ate 3 right away, and haven't touched them since.

2. I have been eating lemons nonstop! I can't get enough of them. I cut them into quarters, and then sprinkle salt on them, and use a fork to scoop out the pulp! It's so delicious to me, but everyone else thinks I'm weird.

3. I am getting impatient waiting for the results from my free cell DNA test. It's been 9 days now, and even though I was quoted 21 days, I was hoping they would come in sooner! I just want to know that the baby is healthy after that slightly worrisome NT scan 3 weeks ago.

4. My vagina feels like someone has kicked me with a steel-toe boot!

5. DH felt the baby move for the first time last night, and he got so excited! He fell asleep last night with his hand on my stomach for hours. It was so sweet!

That's all I have for now...

I'm a mix of this and Lightning crotch like a mo-fo. Your Pain is felt!

)

rmjones15 · December 2013

HeyAmberNicole said:
So my random is more me bitching...is that okay?

My boyfriends parents aren't real good with dealing with money. They have needed to be "bailed out" on more than one occasion in the last 3-4 years. Boyfriend's older sister has ZERO sympathy and won't help, so boyfriend feels like it's his responsibility to bail them out.

I'm totally fine with this happening as long as it doesn't put us in a bind. With the bail out comes redoing their budget and figuring out what put them there. It's usually mom overspent on his sisters kids and they ate out too much and bought frivolous items. Boyfriend is on their account so that he can have access to their account when ish like this happens.

That being said, they basically overspent themselves and haven't done ANYTHING for Christmas. BF's mom came to him and asked if we could buy presents on their behalf and pay their mortgage. That's over $1000. Our budget is tight as it is with Christmas. Granted BF got a Christmas bonus (just like his father, they work for the same company) which was supposed to go to baby shopping and a new garage door. Now, it's going to them and then some.

I'm pretty frustrated because we have a baby on the way and so far, every penny of extra money has gone to other people that "need" money. I believe in helping family, but I'm also a firm believer that if you can't afford your lifestyle, you change it. Whether it's selling your house, getting rid of satellite TV, not spending HUNDREDS of dollars are your two granddaughters every week or whatever.

I think I'm also sad because now there's nothing under the tree for me cause what BF was spending on my gifts is now going to his parents. I know, that's a little selfish.

Color me mad.

Thanks for
letting me rant...I really am at a loss as
to what to do.

This sucks, and I feel for you. Setting boundaries with family is hard. I will say, it sounds like his family is including your income in their budget now, and it's making the problem worse. I would have a long talk with your bf, especially because you have your own family to provide for now.

Riverbabe701 · December 2013

1. Everytime I crave something, five minutes later it makes me want to vom

2. My DH and I have always had a really hard time with his mom/stepdad and sisters, they're freaking psycho. Everything blew up in the past 6-8months or so..the middle sister got married at the end of Oct and bought my wedding dress (knowing it was the same one I wore..less about the dress more about the disrespect) and to this day has not said a word to me, along with SOO many other rude/disrespectful things so that started some sh*t..not to mention the oldest sister had to get married 4mos after us cause 'her little brother is getting married and she's turning 30 in jan' god forbid u get married when it's right for u and ur bf which may happen after 30..ugh k sry. Anyways his fam treats me like absolute crap BUT WAIT suddenly I'm pregnant and matter!

It bothers me, as if nothing ever happened, his mom and middle sister text me or call all the time- I'm like, you defamed me in front of every single family member and person at that wedding! Am I nuts? I'm having a hard time understanding how our child suddenly makes me matter to them- it kinda just pisses me off even more. Oh my goodness I sound terrible, I'm sorry, it's just super complicated and 2+yrs worth of draaaama

3. Now that we r pregnant (and beyond excited about it!!!), it just gives my DH's oldest sister another reason to hate us, specifically me..got engaged first, married first, babies first. It stresses me out, like a lot. I'm kind of a people pleaser

redcloverbaby · December 2013

1. I have no desire to eat anymore. The only thing I want is peanut butter cap'n crunch.

2. I'm already so tired. I don't want to think about six kids in this house.

3. Hormones are starting to rage....at the same time my husband is quitting smoking!

4. I just want some sex and a Dr. Pepper

MrsCase1 · December 2013

Riverbabe701 said:

1. Everytime I crave something, five minutes later it makes me want to vom 2. My DH and I have always had a really hard time with his mom/stepdad and sisters, they're freaking psycho. Everything blew up in the past 6-8months or so..the middle sister got married at the end of Oct and bought my wedding dress (knowing it was the same one I wore..less about the dress more about the disrespect) and to this day has not said a word to me, along with SOO many other rude/disrespectful things so that started some sh*t..not to mention the oldest sister had to get married 4mos after us cause 'her little brother is getting married and she's turning 30 in jan' god forbid u get married when it's right for u and ur bf which may happen after 30..ugh k sry. Anyways his fam treats me like absolute crap BUT WAIT suddenly I'm pregnant and matter! It bothers me, as if nothing ever happened, his mom and middle sister text me or call all the time- I'm like, you defamed me in front of every single family member and person at that wedding! Am I nuts? I'm having a hard time understanding how our child suddenly makes me matter to them- it kinda just pisses me off even more. Oh my goodness I sound terrible, I'm sorry, it's just super complicated and 2+yrs worth of draaaama 3. Now that we r pregnant (and beyond excited about it!!!), it just gives my DH's oldest sister another reason to hate us, specifically me..got engaged first, married first, babies first. It stresses me out, like a lot. I'm kind of a people pleaser

Your SILs sound like they're single white female status. Ugh.

MrsCase1 · December 2013

redcloverbaby said:

1. I have no desire to eat anymore. The only thing I want is peanut butter cap'n crunch. 2. I'm already so tired. I don't want to think about six kids in this house. 3. Hormones are starting to rage....at the same time my husband is quitting smoking! 4. I just want some sex and a Dr. Pepper

I was craving peanut butter cap'n crunch for weeks but didn't give in. I bought the regular instead and it is not.the.same.

MrsCase1 · December 2013

rmjones15 said:

So my random is more me bitching...is that okay?

My boyfriends parents aren't real good with dealing with money. They have needed to be "bailed out" on more than one occasion in the last 3-4 years. Boyfriend's older sister has ZERO sympathy and won't help, so boyfriend feels like it's his responsibility to bail them out.

I'm totally fine with this happening as long as it doesn't put us in a bind. With the bail out comes redoing their budget and figuring out what put them there. It's usually mom overspent on his sisters kids and they ate out too much and bought frivolous items. Boyfriend is on their account so that he can have access to their account when ish like this happens.

That being said, they basically overspent themselves and haven't done ANYTHING for Christmas. BF's mom came to him and asked if we could buy presents on their behalf and pay their mortgage. That's over $1000. Our budget is tight as it is with Christmas. Granted BF got a Christmas bonus (just like his father, they work for the same company) which was supposed to go to baby shopping and a new garage door. Now, it's going to them and then some.

I'm pretty frustrated because we have a baby on the way and so far, every penny of extra money has gone to other people that "need" money. I believe in helping family, but I'm also a firm believer that if you can't afford your lifestyle, you change it. Whether it's selling your house, getting rid of satellite TV, not spending HUNDREDS of dollars are your two granddaughters every week or whatever.

I think I'm also sad because now there's nothing under the tree for me cause what BF was spending on my gifts is now going to his parents. I know, that's a little selfish.

Color me mad.

Thanks for letting me rant...I really am at a loss as to what to do.
Setting boundaries with family is hard. I will say, it sounds like his family is including your income in their budget now, and it's making the problem worse.

THIS!

redcloverbaby · December 2013

Mrs Case said:

redcloverbaby said:

Give in! Just had another bowl. Its the only thing worth living for right now;-)
That and the possibility of sex and Dr. Pepper;-)
1. I have no desire to eat anymore. The only thing I want is peanut butter cap'n crunch.

2. I'm already so tired. I don't want to think about six kids in this house.

3. Hormones are starting to rage....at the same time my husband is quitting smoking!

4. I just want some sex and a Dr. Pepper

I was craving peanut butter cap'n crunch for weeks but didn't give in. I bought the regular instead and it is not.the.same.

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