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shellbell813 · December 2013

I'm pretty sure DH wants to, so yes.

I hope to try!

Yes!!!

Pro-choice. For all the reasons listed above, as well as the fact that if someone is seriously considering abortion for whatever reason, that child is probably better off not coming into this world. And unfortunately, it's just not rational to expect all of those unwanted children to be adopted. However, for situations like those mentioned where multiple abortions are had because it's "like birth control," we need to have some serious monitoring and therapy for some of these people. If you have more than 3 abortions without legit reasons, you should have to be spayed. (Sorry if that comes off harsh, but I have known people with that attitude and they have no right to be bringing a child into the world...) I do also agree about the need for family planning education. I think it should be mandatory, but that will never happen.

Pepper6 · December 2013

Circumcision: yes

Breastfeeding: I definitely want to try, but I'm not going to beat myself up if I have issues

Vaccinating: absolutely

Pro-life/Pro-choice: As far as I'm concerned, there's no such thing as pro-life. There's only pro-choice and anti-choice. If you support a women's right to choose, regardless of your personal feelings, then you are pro-choice. If you believe that you have the right to make that choice for other women, then you are anti-choice. That being said, I'm obviously pro-choice, but I think the real focus for everyone on both sides of the issue needs to be pro-prevention and education.

rmjones15 · December 2013

LoHerrim said:

rmjones15 said:

LoHerrim said:
My H's niece (who is his age) has had 6 abortions. She uses them for birth control because (and I quote), "I don't want to take a pill every day and condoms are not as fun." This is where I get a bit judgy. She has 4 children and all but 1 have been taken away from her.
I've struggled with this with my clients. I really agree with PP, we need a lot more education on family planning.
MediCal pays for abortions in California, so she didn't care about any kind of family planning. She enjoyed getting them because her dr also prescribed pain meds after. This choice makes my stomach turn. I'm sorry if I offend anyone but that is my opinion.

You didn't offend me. I just wish more education was a part of the process. When I had my son, my dr was aware that it was an uninteresting pregnancy, and I didn't leave the hospital before making a decision on birth control. I'm sure she would have respected my decision had I decided not to use birth control, but she made sure I knew that I did not need to have another unintentional pregnancy. Sounds like this wouldn't matter with your husbands niece, so I I guess this doesn't matter either.

MissBHaven1024 · December 2013

Circumcision- yes
Breast feeding- yes
Vaccinations - yes
Pro life/pro choice- pro choice

ncbelle · December 2013

Circumcision: No

Breastfeeding: Yes

Vaccinating: Yes for the most part

Pro-Choice

feistybear · December 2013

Circumcision: yes, DH is Breastfeeding: yes, still am with Elli Vaccinating: yes, all the necessary ones Pro-life/Pro-choice: I would never get an abortion, that's my personal choice. That being said I view it as most the PPs, I believe we all have free will and should be able to make our own decisions based on our individual beliefs and circumstances. I totally agree we need more and better education.

momof5sept18 · December 2013

Circumcision: No.
Breastfeeding: Hopefully!
Vaccinations: Yes.
Pro-Life/ Pro-Choice: When it comes to me personally, I am Pro-Life, I could never abort. But when it comes to others, you never know why they may be aborting and I rather there be a safe place for them to make their choice then women everywhere dying from unsanitary abortions or from self aborting, etc. If a woman is a victim of rape, incest, etc and they choose to abort thats one thing. But I do not think it is okay to use abortions as birth control just because its legal and available.

emfoxc · December 2013

Circumcision: yes, though I'll leave the final say up to H

Breastfeeding: yes

Vaccinating: yes

Pro-life/Pro-choice: choice

flerlgirl · December 2013

LilNunz1 said:

flerlgirl said:

Yes, yes, yes, life - but things get confusing for me around rape and incest.
GET OUT OF MY HEAD @LILNUNZ1 This is my answer exactly.

I'm starting to run out of these to send you

We'll have to make our own... tomorrow we will have to dress alike.

kellyjayne · December 2013

Circumcision: Yes

Breastfeeding: yes

Vaccinating: yes

Pro-life/Pro-choice: Choice. I would never make that choice, but I have plenty of friends who have, and I would never judget hem.

chickpea912 · December 2013

Circ: Yes, per the religious reasons I discussed with I think @Joules235 so long ago
BF: intend to, hoping for a much better supply this time around
Vax: Yep.
Choice all the way. I don't know if I would ever do it, but it should be an available option. I get irrationally and extraordinarily pissy at the religious church goers who picket a local women's clinic around the corner from me.

I'm finding it really interesting the number of women who defer to their husbands on the circ issue. I feel it is an issue, like so many others, that we make together. I'd love to hear the reasons why others said that.

k318 · December 2013

Circumcision yes
Breast feeding - tried last time, ended up pumping And miserable, not sure what I want to do this time..
Vaccinating - yes and on time. If you don't want to vaccinate your kid or choose a delayed schedule, keep your kid away from mine! Unless of course this is for medical reasons, then your kid could use the herd immunity.

Pro-choice. At this point in my life it is not for me, but who knows what life will bring. Who am i to say what is right or wrong for someone else.

colllydon · December 2013

Yes no yes choice

ricecakes1216 · December 2013

Circumcision: yes

Breastfeeding: will

Vaccinating: will

Pro-life/Pro-choice: pro-life

PinkKEL9 · December 2013

Yes, Yes, I plan on doing it as long as I can, yes and pro-life

Interesting thread

xnbride · December 2013

Circumcision: yes

Breastfeeding: I am going to try to Bf. I Bfed all of my kids in one way or another for varied amounts of time.

Vaccinating: yes

Pro-life/Pro-choice: pro-life

SarainColorado2013 · December 2013

chickpea912 said:

I'm finding it really interesting the number of women who defer to their husbands on the circ issue. I feel it is an issue, like so many others, that we make together. I'd love to hear the reasons why others said that.

Good question - I'm one of the people who said that and had no idea so many others would too! We do make most decisions together though he says I get 51% vote on pregnancy-related stuff since it's my body on the line. For the circumcision question, the reason I'm deferring to him is I can really see both sides of the issue whereas he is strongly in favor of circumcision. If I had a strong opinion then it would definitely be something we'd need to hash out together, but since I'm torn I figure he can make the call. I also deferred the decision about whether to find out the sex to him since I was ambivalent about that too.

oakley84 · December 2013

Circ- yes
Breast feeding-yes
Vaxing- yes
Strongly pro-choice

The only ones I get riled up about are the last two. I will judge the hell out of anyone who doesn't vax and has no medical reason for doing so!

bumpuser9343355 · December 2013

Circumcision: I would say yes, but I honestly haven't talked about it with DH yet

Breastfeeding: Will

Vaccinating: Will

Pro-life/Pro-choice: Pro-choice; I don't know if I could ever have an abortion myself, but I was never in the position to have to make that decision, so I don't know.

chaysefaith · December 2013

@mullenem I didn't say no and I know your question wasn't directed at me but I'm answering anyway

I didn't try to breast feed either of my girls. My main reason may have had faulty thinking behind it but I don't drink milk and I don't take calcium supplements so I felt my kids were going to just as much nutrition, if not more, from formula than they would get from me.

Also, I was incredibly young and the thought of breast feeding creeped me out.

littlemonstermama · December 2013

Circumcision: Leaving it up to my husband, and he's totally torn.

Breastfeeding: I will try very hard. I will do anything to be successful, including but not limited to NOT listening to my MIL's passive aggressive comments about pumping or my hippie friends on Facebook who post memes about the evils of formula.

Vaccinating: Not vaccinating is crazy to me, just like drinking raw milk. I just can't understand what people think the benefits are. Never heard a reasonable argument that can beat, "It prevents death and widespread disease and does NOT cause autism."

Pro-life/choice: I would never get an abortion ever, as far as I know. But I've never been in a situation where I needed to decide either. I guess that makes me pro-choice.

mattanda2011 · December 2013

Circumcision - I don't have strong feelings about it and if this one is a boy I will most likely leave it up to DH

Breastfeeding - yes

vaccination - yes

Pro-life/pro-choice : I am pro life unless it's a life risk to the mom, and in with @lilnunz1 I get confused when it comes to incest and rape

colllydon · December 2013

mullenem said:

colllydon said:

Yes no yes choice

As I think the only one who said a direct no to BFing, can I ask why? I completely understand that it doesn't work out for everyone and that's okay, but you aren't even going to try, or try the first six weeks or something? I understand that some people have medical issues that can prevent it but baring that, I do feel that it's important to at least try it.

Haha nope, you want my reasons find the thread where joules went all crazy town and read that one. (I only say that because joules would agree she went crazy town herself)

ETA also I'm not the only one. One more ETA cause I'm kinda pissed your trying to start drama. Not your kid= not your concern.

Mrs_D_in_KY · December 2013

Circumcision: yes. DS is already circumcised and DH thought I was crazy for even asking when I was pregnant. I'm like okay that is your area.

Breast feeding: I'm hoping I can EBF this time around where I EPed for a year with DS.

Vaccinating: yes

I am usually pro life but it gets kind of weird when you bring up rape or incest.

Read247 · December 2013

Penis snip: yes

BF: yes

Vax: yes

Pro-CHOICE: just because I wouldn't do it personally doesn't mean I think the choice should be taken away for women who want/need one. Honestly, since having a child I understand how much of a toll it takes on your body and your emotions and I would never force that on anyone that didn't want it.

emandjp · December 2013

Yes, yes, yes and 100% pro-choice.

Kamiegrace1 · December 2013

Circumcision: yes

Breastfeeding: yes

Vaccinations: yes

Choice/life: Pro-life

MississippiCatfish · December 2013

Yes yes yes life

ETA: I know I'm likely going to get flamed for this, but it is a genuine question. For those who are pro-choice but so against the woman not using BC and having multiple abortions - why is that? If you don't feel that abortion is wrong, why would it matter to you the reason that someone else is choosing to have one? What is the harm that she's doing? This is 0% snarky. I'm genuinely asking because I don't understand that line of thinking. I think that most people who are pro-life would say that they believe the baby is a person and that it equates to murder, and that would be the issue. To be pro-choice, you must not feel quite that way, right? So what does it matter to you if someone has an abortion because something terrible has happened or due to their own "irresponsibility." Just trying to understand!

EmbracingChange · December 2013

Pro circ

Not breastfeeding

Will vaccinate

Pro choice

MNOpea · December 2013

MississippiCatfish said:
Yes yes yes life

ETA: I know I'm likely going to get flamed for this, but it is a genuine question. For those who are pro-choice but so against the woman not using BC and having multiple abortions - why is that? If you don't feel that abortion is wrong, why would it matter to you the reason that someone else is choosing to have one? What is the harm that she's doing? This is 0% snarky. I'm genuinely asking because I don't understand that line of thinking. I think that most people who are pro-life would say that they believe the baby is a person and that it equates to murder, and that would be the issue. To be pro-choice, you must not feel quite that way, right? So what does it matter to you if someone has an abortion because something terrible has happened or due to their own "irresponsibility." Just trying to understand!

I think I was the first person to say that and for me it comes down to that as I said I think that in most cases life is the answer, but that I don't have control over anyone else's choices. I also think it's related to needing more education and family planning. I guess I don't have very solid reasons for how I feel, I just don't think that with all the other options there are abortions should be taken lightly and using them as birth control is not taking them seriously.

Pepper6 · December 2013

MississippiCatfish said:
Yes yes yes life

ETA: I know I'm likely going to get flamed for this, but it is a genuine question. For those who are pro-choice but so against the woman not using BC and having multiple abortions - why is that? If you don't feel that abortion is wrong, why would it matter to you the reason that someone else is choosing to have one? What is the harm that she's doing? This is 0% snarky. I'm genuinely asking because I don't understand that line of thinking. I think that most people who are pro-life would say that they believe the baby is a person and that it equates to murder, and that would be the issue. To be pro-choice, you must not feel quite that way, right? So what does it matter to you if someone has an abortion because something terrible has happened or due to their own "irresponsibility." Just trying to understand!

I have an old friend from hs who has had 4 abortions because she used that as a form of birth control. The reason it bugs me so much is because the anti-choice crowd often use women like this as the poster child for all abortions, so her blatant disregard for prevention gives those people ammo against something that can be beneficial for women who might consider that option. At the end of the day though, it's still her body and her choice so even though I think she's stupid for purposely having unprotected sex, its really none of my business.

chaysefaith · December 2013

@MississippiCatfish I actually do believe that a baby is a person, however, as it is a person that has no thoughts or feelings I think it is the woman's right to choose since it's a baby in her own body. The problem with using abortions as birth control is that it goes so much beyond that. If you are using abortion as birth control, there are so many other options that are so much better for you and your body. And to make such flippant decisions as "I'll just abort it if I get pregnant" without trying to prevent it from happening is incredibly irresponsible. Also, I can't imagine that an abortion is good for your body, especially when done repeatedly. At some point it becomes less of an issue of whether or not the baby is a person and more of an issue of taking responsibility for yourself and your actions. And as the proverb goes, it takes a village to raise a baby, if the village sees an act of negligence and irresponsibility and does nothing to correct, then they are falling.

oakley84 · December 2013

MississippiCatfish said:

Yes yes yes life ETA: I know I'm likely going to get flamed for this, but it is a genuine question. For those who are pro-choice but so against the woman not using BC and having multiple abortions - why is that? If you don't feel that abortion is wrong, why would it matter to you the reason that someone else is choosing to have one? What is the harm that she's doing? This is 0% snarky. I'm genuinely asking because I don't understand that line of thinking. I think that most people who are pro-life would say that they believe the baby is a person and that it equates to murder, and that would be the issue. To be pro-choice, you must not feel quite that way, right? So what does it matter to you if someone has an abortion because something terrible has happened or due to their own "irresponsibility." Just trying to understand!

I am 100% pro-choice but I actually wonder the same thing. I believe that it does not matter what the reasons are, a woman's body is still theirs and it is still their choice to make, and it's not up to others to decide what is a "legitimate" reason to have an abortion.

Like you said above, it's either taking a life or it isn't. Why is it ok sometimes?

rainbowdashh · December 2013

Circumcision: nope

Breastfeeding: yes

Vaccines: yes, delayed though

Pro-choice or pro-life: I would never choose to have an abortion, I don't think I could go through with it. But, I would never want the choice to have one taken away from any woman. Their body, their choice.

MississippiCatfish · December 2013

oakley84 said:

MississippiCatfish said:

Yes yes yes life

ETA: I know I'm likely going to get flamed for this, but it is a genuine question. For those who are pro-choice but so against the woman not using BC and having multiple abortions - why is that? If you don't feel that abortion is wrong, why would it matter to you the reason that someone else is choosing to have one? What is the harm that she's doing? This is 0% snarky. I'm genuinely asking because I don't understand that line of thinking. I think that most people who are pro-life would say that they believe the baby is a person and that it equates to murder, and that would be the issue. To be pro-choice, you must not feel quite that way, right? So what does it matter to you if someone has an abortion because something terrible has happened or due to their own "irresponsibility." Just trying to understand!

I am 100% pro-choice but I actually wonder the same thing. I believe that it does not matter what the reasons are, a woman's body is still theirs and it is still their choice to make, and it's not up to others to decide what is a "legitimate" reason to have an abortion.

Like you said above, it's either taking a life or it isn't. Why is it ok sometimes?

Right. That's what I was curious about.

I understand what you're saying @snlt1012. I agree that turning to any surgical procedure when there's a non-surgical option is not going to be the most prudent decision for your body! I just got the feeling from reading a handful of comments that it was more from a moral, "that's so wrong," standpoint and wondered why.

Thanks for the open conversation ladies:)

puttyeast · December 2013

Circumcision: no. I was on the fence and my boyfriend said no. I respect his opinion, especially since he is the one with a penis experience.

Breastfeeding: yes

Vaccines: yes

Pro-choice or pro-life: Pro-choice.

JNerd · December 2013

circumcision: honestly - I defer to hubby because I don't have one and don't have any real leanings either way. I don't see it a genital mutilation, nor a hygiene issue (either way) and so prefer to leave to decision to someone who at least has some experience with the equipment.

Bf/ff. I honestly know how has Bfing is, and that some women can't, but I do believe that every woman should at the very least try and not give up at the first sign of trouble. The most important thing is that baby gets fed- regardless of how.

Vax- I honestly don't understand how people can Not vaccinate. People the world over would do anything for the resources we have and it seems foolhardy to throw the technology and opportunities away and jeopardize the lives of others in the process - unless it is ACTUALLY medically necessary not to.

Pro-life-Pro-Choice. I really struggle with this one. I don't know if I have a real stance on it. As much as I don't believe that I have the right to dictate what another does with their body, I do also believe that someone needs to advocate for the (unborn) child. I struggle because I knew someone who was engaged and living with her fiancé, Ina very stable relationship/life and had an abortion because she had one semester of school left and didn't want to be pg for it. That seemed wrong to me.
But- when you include things like t18, rape, and incest I really don't think there is a blanket answer.
I also struggle because as much as I don't know if I could make the decision myself, I do wonder what type of life an unwanted child would end up having.

These are my honest answers and are ones that I am sure others with find issue with.

Read247 · December 2013

I think about it this way: you have the right to shoot (and kill) an intruder if you fear for your life. So are you going to leave all your doors and windows open and shoot everyone who comes in and tries to rob and or harm you? Or are you going to close and lock your windows and doors? Just because you have the right to take a life doesn't mean you shouldn't find ways to prevent that from happening... Especially when its something as simple as locking a door, or putting on a condom.

ETA: in reference to why women shouldn't use abortion as birth control.

MississippiCatfish · December 2013

JNerd said:

These are my honest answers and are ones that I am sure others with find issue with.

People have actually been really respectful so far, I think. It's kind of awesome. Threads like this are refreshing to me.

ETA: I don't mind the occasional pot-stirrer or drama queen, either. Just liking the balance. Haha.

JNerd · December 2013

MississippiCatfish said:

JNerd said:

These are my honest answers and are ones that I am sure others with find issue with.
People have actually been really respectful so far, I think. It's kind of awesome. Threads like this are refreshing to me.

ETA: I don't mind the occasional pot-stirrer or drama queen, either. Just liking the balance. Haha.

My answers were also long as some people (respectfully) asked for explanations as to why they feel the way they do. I see most issues along a grayscale as many of these issues are not black/white.

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