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Baby Shower - Okay to put "no clothes please!"?

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Re: Baby Shower - Okay to put "no clothes please!"?

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  • wtfisupwtfisup member
    @mschaub2, I totally get you. We're minimalist and pretty utilitarian. Our friends are the same. None of us are into wasteful things, even if it comes with sentiment. We're conscientious of consumerism and the environment; we value our money. So if one of your showers is among a group like that, do what you need. 

    I also think it's normal to have a hand in planning the shower. How would the host invite people without help? It's not like they know all your friends/family/etc. And they're going to want your input. I.e. some people like games; some people would throw themselves off a bridge before having to sniff melted chocolate in a diaper. 

    I generally think "traditional" baby showers are miserable, though, and that folks should do whatever to make them fun and practical. 

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  • rmjones15rmjones15 member
    ktwils2010 said:

    Agree with all pp that it is tacky to specify a gift on an invitation BUT wanted to add:
    As a cloth diapering mama (for the past two years) it is not the end of the world to have a few packs of disposables around. There will be situations where you want them. For example - the first week home when you are sleep deprived and can't remember your own name, let alone to do diaper laundry and what the heck your wash routine is supposed to be; traveling; when everyone in the family has a stomach bug (you do not want to be cleaning diapers when you are also puking and running to the bathroom); a stubborn diaper rash pops up or the dreaded yeast monster, etc etc I think you get the idea. People will get the hint that you plan to cloth if you register for cloth, I didn't receive any diapers at my showers for my dd. But had I received a couple packs, that would have worked out okay.

    I agree with this. I used cloth at home, but didn't mess with them on vacations. There are plenty of times a disposable will be necessary for your sanity, so it wouldn't be the end of the world to have some. But if you register for cloth, chances are people will embrace it and buy you one or ignore it and buy something else.
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  • TMH2013TMH2013 member
    ekcarrington said:

    It appears I'm in the minority - but I don't find that tacky at all.  I live in a small apartment and have no desire to get boat loads of crap I don't need at my shower.  I found a registry - SimpleRegistry.com - where you can create registry items - this is kind of like the Honey Fund idea for folks getting married.  I plan to create "funds" for various things rather than asking for a lot of stuff. This is my welcome message:


    "Since we're starting a family in a small city apartment, we need to keep a keen eye on how much stuff we acquire.  Just because we're going minimalist on the baby gear, though, doesn't mean we aren't happy to accept your love and support in other ways!  This registry will allow you to contribute to a number of things that mean much more to us than diaper genies and stuffed animals. (Though we did add a few things we really want!)"

    Then, I have an item for clothes for the first year that reads: No one can predict how big our baby will be or how quickly she'll grow.  To save money and space we'd love to set money aside to buy clothes that fit as they're needed throughout the year.

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    I realize that people will buy us clothes anyway because buying baby clothes is fun - but at least it may reduce the number of extraneous things we get.  This may be an option for you, rather than saying this straight out on the invite.  I'll be including my registry on the invite, so when people go to shop they'll see these messages.  This registry also allows you to add items from anywhere on the internet - so we will add what clothing and other items we do want - newborn onesies, etc... 

    Obviously peopel can spend their money on whatever they want, like someone said, but the whole idea of a registry is so they spend money on what YOU want.
    This. I don't see why people get so bent out of shape on people requesting for some things they feel strongly about not to be included, or vice versa. If this is the case, and people weren't supposed to ask or suggest what they wanted, when did the Idea of a registry become acceptable and not tacky? Now I do think the request should be accompanied by a "we are grateful for whatever you bring" type message, but I don't see any issue with putting some kind of statement below about why you all want to receive something other than clothes. And if your guests are people that are close to you, they should want to provide you with what YOU want and not what they want or don't want to give you just because you specifically requested. To me, that's a selfish guest.
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  • mschwaremschware member
    Damn, some of you girls are rough! If I received an invitation with those exact words I might think, "well that's odd, but ok".. But I wouldn't be offended AT ALL! In my opinion, I don't think you should say "no clothes.." Cause clothes are fun and cute and like everyone said you can return it (as well as the diapers) and if u have a registry they will get an idea of what u want and like. But I don't think it would be awful to mention that the mother is planning to use cloth diapers and she is having a boy/girl or isn't finding out the gender...Cause that's helpful. People that come to your shower obviously care about you and want to get you something they know you will use... But I wouldn't say to bring a certain item on the invite. All ya need is a little rewording. Best of luck to you :)
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