Tonight (after his happy hour with work friends) DH said the following: "I don't think you realize how badly I need to sleep right now." "I have to go to work tomorrow...but my job brings home the money!" "If you have a bad day you can sit DD1 in front of the TV and stick DD2 on our boob and relax." After this, he fell asleep on the couch while I was (of course) putting DD2 to bed, which took 5ish hours tonight. So, on Saturday I will be nursing the baby then leaving him with both kids and a mess of a house to have lunch and a movie, like an adult with no one needing me to wipe their butt or feed them. Then we will discuss his remarks (these were just the golden ones, there were more) until I feel better. He's not aware of my plan, but he isn't on call for work, we have no plans, and for the first time in 7 years his studying for school is not a priority over my sanity. I'm taking some time for me, dammit!
TL;DR: DH turned into a bit of a chauvinist tonight and He. Will. Pay.
Two under two, here we come!
Re: VENT Oh DH, you are in for a WORLD of pain
BFP#1: 11.22.2012 EDD: 7.22.2013 DS Born 7.24.2013
BFP#2: 11.26.2014 EDD: 7.25.2015 *chemical confirmed 12.08.14*
Enjoy your Saturday! You deserve it.
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Oh lawd.... I can imagine the anger you feel right now. Make it good, I mean hours, like 8-9 of them how long is his work day? You need to be gone that long on both Satuday and Sunday. Fuck him... it's hard being a SAHM.
I can't wait until he tries to put DD1 in front of the TV and just constantly feed DD2 so he can "relax" He needs a goddamn wake up call, and fast.
That being said, he can communicate that to you without being a dick. Staying at home is not easy. Please make sure you take an extra long mom vacation Saturday so he gets the point
However, that doesn't mean that your "job" isn't as important, that you don't deserve a break, or that you are unworthy of his respect. If he doesn't like your arrangement, he needs to verbalize that to you instead of making underhanded passive-aggressive comments when he's buzzed.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
He's been better since then. He's still half a dumb-ass. Not sure how his ass would get wiped if I wasn't around. Good luck, OP.