April 2013 Moms

UO Thursday

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My small UO: I do not like eggs. Hate the way they smell. If DH is cooking them, I seriously want to gag.

My bigger UO: I know the "do what works for your family" "don't knock it till you've tried it" mantras.... But I think bed sharing is crazy. I absolutely can not fathom sleeping in the same bed as Maddie. (I'm sure my views would be at least slightly different if I had been able breastfeed)
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  • I find being asked to give to a charity (all worthwhile, I'm sure) at ever single store transaction so annoying. We give to two charities every year on our own, I don't need to be asked for money when I'm buying toilet paper.
  • TuckleUp said:

    I find being asked to give to a charity (all worthwhile, I'm sure) at ever single store transaction so annoying. We give to two charities every year on our own, I don't need to be asked for money when I'm buying toilet paper.


    While I understand what you mean, I worked for a store where we were proud sponsores of the march of dimes. We had it plastered all over the store that we supported this charity and when people would give me their reasoning for not wanting to it made no sense to me. You can see that we sponsor this charity...you should and can expect to be asked to donate. If you don't like it, don't shop there or just kindly say we already donated.
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  • I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.
    This is the part that gives me a freaking aneurysm. And yet, these are the same parents who will be screaming at coaches for not giving their angel enough field time, emailing teachers on weekends to complain about "unfair" tests, and calling my office when their 20 year old college student has a roommate problem. Either be a concerned, involved parent or don't. Don't pick and choose over your own dumb ass convenience. 
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  • Mine: I cannot fathom those of you who still rock your LOs to sleep. My back and my sanity would have cracked long ago.

    I am a rocker... and I kinda like it! But along with this I cannot fathom those who are still cosleeping! I guess some say it makes them more relaxed and makes you not move. If I tried cosleeping with my DD now I would be so sore and miserable! We coslept up to 5 months and I felt paralyzed when I woke up half of the time! I do totally get cosleeping though, it is the only way my DD would sleep for the first 5 months but now that she is so active I feel like she would just slap me in the face and roll around the whole night.
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  • I miss Christmas party's where people get dressed up. Ugly sweaters & pj party fun once. But I miss having a reason to get dressed up.
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  • I absolutely love to buy people gifts, but I put a ton of thought into it.  I hate this culture of "give me your list of things that you want for Christmas and I'll go get you something off the list." It just seems so artificial and manufactured and against the whole point of gift giving, which is to put thought and effort into something that you think the recipient would enjoy.  Other than buying for each others kids, I really hope that next year my friends and family all agree to just say "forget it" with the crazed gift giving and focus on spending time together and just enjoying each others company.  This is so dumb.  Whenever I want something I just go buy it. 


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  • andertrr said:
    Mine: I cannot fathom those of you who still rock your LOs to sleep. My back and my sanity would have cracked long ago.
    Haha, I still do this.  It's not as bad as it sounds though!  

    My UO.... I secretly hate christmas and the obligatory gift giving we do.  I love the christmas season, putting up the tree, seeing christmas lights, the music, everything, BUT the gift givning.  I will give a couple gifts to LO, and will give presents to him in years to come, I just hate it that now that we're broker than we've ever been because of daycare costs, everyone is STILL expecting gifts from us.  My mom is like, "what are you getting for the kids?" - my sister's kids who are usually disappointed anyway with what I get them (and in the past I dropped a nice wad of cash on them).   

    I don't feel good today, so I think I'm extra negative!
    See my post above!  slightly different but similar sentiment.  It is all just so manufactured.
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  • Mine is work related and will probably get me flamed to high hell but...  I don't believe in this "if someone hits you don't hit them back, go tell the teacher" and "if you hit back you both will get the same punishment."  While I do protect my students that do this and I can see why they want the kid to tell the teacher, my daughter will be taught if someone hits you, give them a chance to apologize (because it may have been an accident) and then hit them back if it was malicious.  If more bullies got beat up by their aggressors I think that we'd have less bullying.  In addition, if someone starts a fight, it's not fair to get punished as harsh for defending themselves. 
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  • I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.

    This! Except I'm guilty of judging. It's the RFing/FFing this that really gets me going though. It's not an issue with this group yet, but there's no reason, possibly short of severe, severe car sickness, that is good enough to turn your LO FFing early. Turning a carseat FFing at age one is not some big milestone like people from my hometown seem to think.
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  • I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.
    This! Except I'm guilty of judging. It's the RFing/FFing this that really gets me going though. It's not an issue with this group yet, but there's no reason, possibly short of severe, severe car sickness, that is good enough to turn your LO FFing early. Turning a carseat FFing at age one is not some big milestone like people from my hometown seem to think.

    People thought I was BSC for keeping my first RF until she was about 20 months.  No one even cared that she was only 20 pounds.  I got a lot of "but she's a year old" and "what if you're in an accident and she breaks her legs".  Um.... sit down and don't comment on things that you don't know about. Thanks!
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  • I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.
    This! Except I'm guilty of judging. It's the RFing/FFing this that really gets me going though. It's not an issue with this group yet, but there's no reason, possibly short of severe, severe car sickness, that is good enough to turn your LO FFing early. Turning a carseat FFing at age one is not some big milestone like people from my hometown seem to think.
    People thought I was BSC for keeping my first RF until she was about 20 months.  No one even cared that she was only 20 pounds.  I got a lot of "but she's a year old" and "what if you're in an accident and she breaks her legs".  Um.... sit down and don't comment on things that you don't know about. Thanks!

    Yes! A girl I went to school with has an 11 month old and earlier this week she posted on FB asking when people turned their LOs around. I was disgusted by the answers. One lady with a 2 year said she had her son in a booster. She was shocked when I said DD1 was RFing and just turned 2 and that I hoped to RF until 3 or 4 at least. Several people commented on her legs.
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  • andertrr said:
    Mine: I cannot fathom those of you who still rock your LOs to sleep. My back and my sanity would have cracked long ago.
    Haha, I still do this.  It's not as bad as it sounds though!  

    My UO.... I secretly hate christmas and the obligatory gift giving we do.  I love the christmas season, putting up the tree, seeing christmas lights, the music, everything, BUT the gift givning.  I will give a couple gifts to LO, and will give presents to him in years to come, I just hate it that now that we're broker than we've ever been because of daycare costs, everyone is STILL expecting gifts from us.  My mom is like, "what are you getting for the kids?" - my sister's kids who are usually disappointed anyway with what I get them (and in the past I dropped a nice wad of cash on them).   

    I don't feel good today, so I think I'm extra negative!
    And this is why we've never exchanged gifts in my family...till this year.

    My little sister suggested we do secret Santa since there are just too many of us and I'm already stressed out! This will be the last year we do this nonsense!

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  • I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.
    This! Except I'm guilty of judging. It's the RFing/FFing this that really gets me going though. It's not an issue with this group yet, but there's no reason, possibly short of severe, severe car sickness, that is good enough to turn your LO FFing early. Turning a carseat FFing at age one is not some big milestone like people from my hometown seem to think.
    People thought I was BSC for keeping my first RF until she was about 20 months.  No one even cared that she was only 20 pounds.  I got a lot of "but she's a year old" and "what if you're in an accident and she breaks her legs".  Um.... sit down and don't comment on things that you don't know about. Thanks!

    Yep. My son is almost 3 and still rear facing....
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  • Kate_C said:

    Maybe this is more appropriately a confession, but I don't understand why people get super overly emotional and sad at funerals of very elderly people. DH's grandpa just passed. He was 89 and in poor health. Is it sad that he is gone? Sure. But he didn't exactly have a quality existence over the past couple years. No one should have to live being shuffled from a nursing home to the hospital indefinitely.

    He had a great, long life. Seems like the focus should be on celebrating his life and legacy instead of mourning his passing. It's not like he was a 35 year old father of three who will miss watching his kids grow up. That warrants mourning what he will miss. But at 89, you hopefully have had a full life already.

    Or maybe I'm just a heartless bitch.

    Nope I agree! My Grandma passed away last year and she was 103. She had buried 5 out of 8 of her children and her husband had been dead for like 70 years and she said she was ready to go! She still had her mind but her body was ready to be done. Of course I'm sad she's not here anymore but we all have to go sometime and 103 sounds like a good age to check out!
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  • Kate_C said:
    Maybe this is more appropriately a confession, but I don't understand why people get super overly emotional and sad at funerals of very elderly people. DH's grandpa just passed. He was 89 and in poor health. Is it sad that he is gone? Sure. But he didn't exactly have a quality existence over the past couple years. No one should have to live being shuffled from a nursing home to the hospital indefinitely. He had a great, long life. Seems like the focus should be on celebrating his life and legacy instead of mourning his passing. It's not like he was a 35 year old father of three who will miss watching his kids grow up. That warrants mourning what he will miss. But at 89, you hopefully have had a full life already. Or maybe I'm just a heartless bitch.
    I agree with you on this, my Grandmother died at 86 a few years back, and although I was sad because I would never see her again and miss her, I felt a sense of release and peace about it since she was in such poor health and her quality of life was so bad towards the end (she kept having strokes and was so miserable being on all the medication).

    After her funeral, the family got together at a restaurant and ate and had some drinks, more laughing than crying and reminiscing about the good old days.  It was the first time we had all been together in years.  She would have really loved to see that.


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  • Kate_C said:
    Maybe this is more appropriately a confession, but I don't understand why people get super overly emotional and sad at funerals of very elderly people. DH's grandpa just passed. He was 89 and in poor health. Is it sad that he is gone? Sure. But he didn't exactly have a quality existence over the past couple years. No one should have to live being shuffled from a nursing home to the hospital indefinitely. He had a great, long life. Seems like the focus should be on celebrating his life and legacy instead of mourning his passing. It's not like he was a 35 year old father of three who will miss watching his kids grow up. That warrants mourning what he will miss. But at 89, you hopefully have had a full life already. Or maybe I'm just a heartless bitch.
    I agree with you on this, my Grandmother died at 86 a few years back, and although I was sad because I would never see her again and miss her, I felt a sense of release and peace about it since she was in such poor health and her quality of life was so bad towards the end (she kept having strokes and was so miserable being on all the medication).

    After her funeral, the family got together at a restaurant and ate and had some drinks, more laughing than crying and reminiscing about the good old days.  It was the first time we had all been together in years.  She would have really loved to see that.


    I had all four grandparents living until just a few years ago -- my moms parents are both still alive, and they are 94 and 97 respectively.  They are starting to fade and it is so hard to watch.  It isn't a tragedy whatsoever when elderly people die... but that doesn't make it any less sad.  My grandparents have been a huge part of my life, every single holiday, for all of my 36+ years and I will be very sad to see them go, and will probably cry my eyes out.

    That said, I know they do not have a great quality of life right now and that the end is near -- so it won't be "OMG, the unfairness of it!" sort of situation, just... sad and missing them!  

    And then we'll probably get very drunk.
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  • Oh my gosh, so many great UOs today!

    My bigger UO: I know the "do what works for your family" "don't knock it till you've tried it" mantras.... But I think bed sharing is crazy. I absolutely can not fathom sleeping in the same bed as Maddie. (I'm sure my views would be at least slightly different if I had been able breastfeed)  @melissad23

    I couldn't agree more. I was able to breastfeed but I value the time that my husband and I have together at night and from what I have heard/read it hinders their ability to STTN because they can smell their mothers milk and they want to eat

    I try not to judge when I see a child wearing a thick coat or snowsuit in their carseat. But I'm a carseat nazi....and I do some serious side eyeing when I see something done improperly when it comes to carseat safety. Especially when the parent KNOWS they're putting their child at risk and are willing to take that risk.

    This. except I judge the shit out of people. I actually went as far to ask the teachers at daycare about it. I kept seeing all these babies come in in their puffy coats and I couldn't for the life of me figure it out. Were the parents un-hooking them and putting that coat on for the 10ft walk into the building? and the teachers said no, unfortunately a lot of the kids ride to school like that. WTF?! I am hoping people just aren't educated about it and not that they are knowingly putting their children at risk.

    Maybe this is more appropriately a confession, but I don't understand why people get super overly emotional and sad at funerals of very elderly people.

    I agree with this and to take it a step further - I cannot stand when people constantly make facebook statuses about people passing and even worse - tag the deceased person in their status! I think social media has made it harder for people to move on
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  • hatroopes said:
    Sol1790 said:
    My UO I don't get the excuse "he is too young to remember christmas so I am not buying the baby a gift". It's our babies first christmas I think a nice new wrapped gift would be fun it doesn't have to be expensive. Plus when they get older they can see the pictures! :)
    When they look at the pictures from their first Christmas, I doubt they'll be asking "...and where was my gift?" It doesn't have to be about gift giving...that's not what Christmas and the holidays are about.
    I dont' think anybody needs an excuse to buy or not buy anybody a gift.  If you don't want to, fine.  If you do - knock yourself out.
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  • Mine: I cannot fathom those of you who still rock your LOs to sleep. My back and my sanity would have cracked long ago.

    What do you mean by rocking to sleep? Like, rocking to a dead sleep every time they wake up? No. No no no no. Haha 

    I do, however, rock with Ginny in the glider before bed every night. She goes into her crib still slightly awake though. I love it. I "rocked" Charlie before bed until he was almost 2. Its just nice quiet time. 


    Like, rock into a dead sleep every time they wake up. I did it with Ava until 4 months and killed myself. Sometimes it would take 45 minutes. Believe me, I'm not judging- I just honestly could not physically do it. I snuggle with Mila as I feed her before bed and I love that time, too. It's just nice to be able to put her down awake and leave quietly ;)
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  • When I see babies in shopping carts without covers, I cringe and hope that the parent sanitized the crap out of the cart first. I had a horrible staph infection as a baby, and it was from a shopping cart. Don't even get me started on people putting their infant car seats on the front of a shopping cart. There is a picture right on the cart showing you not to do that. I read a horrible story about a cart tipping over in a parking lot and I will spare you the gory details.


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  • Grace0609 said:
    I think it is weird at times to see people get so worked up about certain safety issues (ie carseats) and then not care at all about others (necklaces on babies, putting babies to sleep on their bellies, choking hazards, etc). I don't know that the folks on this board fall into this category, but I know people IRL who are like this. It's fun to pick one issue to be safe about. Again, not saying it is that way for the car seat advocates on this board, but it made me think of a couple people I know.
    I think some of us do not find everything to be a horrifying safety issue, though, and we've been over that before. Yep, DS wears an amber necklace. Nope, he is not choking to death. He is supervised while wearing it. I even let him chew on toys that have hit the ground in our house (gasp). However, you will not find my kid in a snowsuit in his carseat, and you won't find him in a shopping cart without a cover. So I guess everyone has their own version of what constitutes a safety or health hazard.
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  • I think people's obsession with germs is over the top.  We have no shopping cart cover, no high chair cover, and i generally abide by the 5 second rule.  Guess what: no ear infections, no fevers, no illness whatsoever.  The world is germy folks, unless you are going to bubble wrap your kid until they're 18, might as well get used to it and help them build up natural defenses. 

    There's germs, and then there's shopping carts.... https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=2859060

    Just sayin'.
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  • I think people's obsession with germs is over the top.  We have no shopping cart cover, no high chair cover, and i generally abide by the 5 second rule.  Guess what: no ear infections, no fevers, no illness whatsoever.  The world is germy folks, unless you are going to bubble wrap your kid until they're 18, might as well get used to it and help them build up natural defenses. 

    Ah! I was too shy to say this. But true! I think some people exaggerate.
  • I think people's obsession with germs is over the top.  We have no shopping cart cover, no high chair cover, and i generally abide by the 5 second rule.  Guess what: no ear infections, no fevers, no illness whatsoever.  The world is germy folks, unless you are going to bubble wrap your kid until they're 18, might as well get used to it and help them build up natural defenses. 

    This totally!  In fact, the state of MN is "thisclose" to banning anti-bacterial stuff, because it is being linked to obesity, infertility, and even autism!  Health immune systems are built by exposure to some germs! 
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  • I absolutely love to buy people gifts, but I put a ton of thought into it.  I hate this culture of "give me your list of things that you want for Christmas and I'll go get you something off the list." It just seems so artificial and manufactured and against the whole point of gift giving, which is to put thought and effort into something that you think the recipient would enjoy.  Other than buying for each others kids, I really hope that next year my friends and family all agree to just say "forget it" with the crazed gift giving and focus on spending time together and just enjoying each others company.  This is so dumb.  Whenever I want something I just go buy it. 


    I agree with this 100% (if the gift isn't given for the sentiment of gift giving, don't even bother). BUT I will say, if someone is going to bother anyway I'd rather it be with something I want than something I have no use for.
    Well, i agree with that too, but I think the issue is that people just go out buying a bunch of crap instead of putting thought into a personal gift, because the expectation is there that we all MUST buy gifts for each other, and I think that defeats the purpose!
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  • I think people's obsession with germs is over the top.  We have no shopping cart cover, no high chair cover, and i generally abide by the 5 second rule.  Guess what: no ear infections, no fevers, no illness whatsoever.  The world is germy folks, unless you are going to bubble wrap your kid until they're 18, might as well get used to it and help them build up natural defenses. 

    There's germs, and then there's shopping carts.... https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=2859060

    Just sayin'.
    I just want to point out that it states that one of the only places with more germs is a playground, and my child won't be wearing gloves and bubble wrap to the playground.
    If I hadn't seen pictures of myself with a horrible staph infection all over my body as an infant, then I probably wouldn't be too worried about it either. I just know if DS looked the way I did, I would be in tears. My mom absolutely insisted I get a cover, and I can understand why.
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  • Another one is.. stop with the outrage over what people say. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Even if the opinion is harsh. Take for example of Duck Dynasty's Phil.. who said homosexuals are wrong. Of course I expected him to say something like that, lol. I still love Duck Dynasty though. I really don't like how everyone must be politically correct or else they will get 503928 blogs written about them and people acting like they mean to tar and feather someone..
    Well sure -- everybody has the right to their own opinion.  That red-necky duck guy can say whatever he wants, just like I have the right to call him a redneck.  But then everybody also has the right to be offended by it (and A & E has the right to shit-can his ass).

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    Another one is.. stop with the outrage over what people say. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Even if the opinion is harsh. Take for example of Duck Dynasty's Phil.. who said homosexuals are wrong. Of course I expected him to say something like that, lol. I still love Duck Dynasty though. I really don't like how everyone must be politically correct or else they will get 503928 blogs written about them and people acting like they mean to tar and feather someone..
    Well sure -- everybody has the right to their own opinion.  That red-necky duck guy can say whatever he wants, just like I have the right to call him a redneck.  But then everybody also has the right to be offended by it (and A & E has the right to shit-can his ass).

    They do have that right. Even though I find it ridiculous. Also, I find it hypocritical of people who are offended by this to call him derogatory names and what not as well.
     
     
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  • I absolutely love to buy people gifts, but I put a ton of thought into it.  I hate this culture of "give me your list of things that you want for Christmas and I'll go get you something off the list." It just seems so artificial and manufactured and against the whole point of gift giving, which is to put thought and effort into something that you think the recipient would enjoy.  Other than buying for each others kids, I really hope that next year my friends and family all agree to just say "forget it" with the crazed gift giving and focus on spending time together and just enjoying each others company.  This is so dumb.  Whenever I want something I just go buy it. 


    I agree with this 100% (if the gift isn't given for the sentiment of gift giving, don't even bother). BUT I will say, if someone is going to bother anyway I'd rather it be with something I want than something I have no use for.
    Does this also go for shower gifts because I remember when we were pregnant people would get ripped a new one for saying that they didn't like or want a gift? I agree 100%, but I also ask people what they want because I would like for them to get something that they can use and want rather than something random that they will never use.
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