UO

snowgirl427 · December 2013

LaxMOM44 said:
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:

I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.

My mom never had me believe in Santa. She said it was so sad for her finding out that she didn't want to do that to me. I grew up knowing about Santa but she also posed it as a wonderful story. She told me that I couldn't tell other kids because it was their parents job to tell when they were older... So no issue there.

That being said. I'll probably let LO believe in Santa.

LaxMOM44 · December 2013

No my issue isn't with the lying. My attitude is more why do it? So you spend all this time making them believe in something and then eventually tell them it isn't real? Seems like a lot of effort. My 5 year old nephew asked me why the mall Santa and the Santa that showed up at his school didn't look the same...so I scrambled to make up some lie and then I thought why? What's the point and when do you decide to stop lying. I don't remember thinking of Santa as magical and full of wonder. It was more like a fact and then it wasn't. Like one day there was a man that could fly and sneak in your house and then my parents told me that was impossible and all that lying for nothing. Can't she fin wonder and amazing and magic in the awesome things that ACTUALLY happen in this world? Isn't it just easier to say Christmas is a time when family gives gifts to each other? Meh anyways I knew I'd likely be the only one who felt this way. As I said I'll be doing Santa but only so my kid isn't overly precocious about whole thing.

Also can I emphasize I am neither religious not hippy dippy, I am probably just being a Scrooge.

TheyCalledHerKate · December 2013

MrsM1111 said:

Boo0512 said:
Well everyone who saw my FFFC last week knows how I feel about gift receipts lol. I always always always give gift receipts because I want my money to be put to use. If you hate what I picked out or got a duplicate I'd be bummed that my purchase went straight into a donation bin. That's me though. I'm a bitch about gifts I guess.

My UO in light of all the Christmas shopping is that I think it sucks that most people aren't willing to look for or pay a little extra for items made in the USA.

By no means does everything in our house come from a USA manufacturer but my DH and I do make a diligent effort to buy things made in the USA, even if they cost more. They are always better quality than the item that is made in China and its better for our economy.

The first thing my FIL looks for on anything brought into his house is where it was made. If its made anywhere but in the USA we will sit through an evening of rants... We are now in good habit to look for US made items unless its unavoidable (nick nacks).

My OU is that it drives me nuts when people don't send thank you cards from showers or weddings. There are 2 weddings we went to last year (and showers) that we didn't receive a thank you for and its still bothering me... I'm a stickler for etiquette.

I agree with you. I mean how lazy are you that you can't write a nice note to show your appreciation. There is no excuse (unless someone was hospitalized or something).

Oohgurl · December 2013

Wait. Santa isn't real???

bhjones1980 · December 2013

2013sarabelleATX said:

bhjones1980 said:

My UO.... seeing people take holiday pictures with their LO draped in Christmas tree lights makes me seriously cringe!

The chewing/electrical risk, the little fragile glass blubs filled with gas, the fact those lights say to WASH hands after handling.....

EEEK!

Well crap. We did this, and now I feel like a complete asshole. I had no idea.

beaubecca said:

TradeMama said:

FYI lots of Christmas lights contain lead, and the CPSC advises not to let children handle them.

I have heard this too. If you wash off their hands and skin after and don't let them get the lights in their mouth, I still don't think 10 minutes of handling will cause lead poisoning.

Eta by lights I mean the cord too, obviously.

I love the results of the pictures too, very pretty, wish I could get one... but all I think about is LO shoving those light strands in his mouth the SECOND I put them within arms reach (no matter how far away I am sitting from him).

That is why it is an UO I guess!

LaxMOM44 · December 2013

Oohgurl said:

Wait. Santa isn't real???

Love!

Lolalipsy · December 2013

I think the magic and joy of Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny far outweigh the few tears that there may be when they find out they're not real. At least IMO it does.

I wouldn't be convincing them that the Santa in the shops is the "real" Santa.

c-elizabethf · December 2013

All of the Santa talk made me think of this

You sit on a throne of lies photo lies.gif

coffeeandbooks · December 2013

I remember as a kid just really wanting to believe and willfully ignoring the evidence. I never got mad at my parents for lying...in fact I was a little hurt when my dad just matter of factly told me he didn't. I am pretty excited for my LO to think Santa is coming!

LaurenJeff10 said:

Boo0512 said:

This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO: I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
I agree. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. On one hand I want my kids to have that sense of magical wonder. On the other hand I don't want to hurt my kids' feelings when they find out I lied to them for several years. It's tough.

When I found out about SC the thought never crossed my mind that my parents lied to me for several years. I was just sad the magic was over.
You took the words right out of my mouth. I never felt betrayed that my parents lied to me for years and years, I was just disappointed like, oh that's sad. For like.. a day. And I found out in a bad way not even from my parents, but from my friend's older sister who just blurted it out. I had younger siblings, but then it became fun to be in on the secret with my parents. I was probably younger than the average kid when they "find out", so maybe that helped lessen the blow, idk.

I guess my UO is that I think it's silly to not do Santa if your only reason is because you don't want to lie to your kids. Like, I hate the idea of Santa, I am not lying to my child, oh the horror! Yeah it may be stupid, made up nonsense, but t's just part of being a kid, IMO.

TheyCalledHerKate · December 2013

I didn't buy one gift for my baby girl for Christmas until yesterday. I buy her clothes and things she needs all the time but she grows out of things so fast that I never save them to be unwrapped. I will also admit that I saw someone on the June BMB say they spent $1000 on Christmas presents for their baby and though I love to shop I'm not sure how that's even possible unless you were buying a car seat, high chair, furniture etc.

coffeeandbooks · December 2013

@TheyCalledHerKate - yeah I think it is silly to spend a lot of money on gifts for LO at this age. Just seems like a waste, you know they would be happy if you just let them play with the wrapping paper.

emmy236 · December 2013

DH and I just bought R a few toys he'll play with down the road. Like the Fisher Price walker, a car that he can chase after etc. We're having Christmas with my parents next week and then real Christmas with the ILs so he'll have plenty to open. We aren't giving him our gifts until we get back and it's really just so we can take pictures of him opening them by our Christmas tree. I think we spent $60 total.

bhjones1980 · December 2013

We aren't buying him any Christmas presents...

PumpkinAndThePeanut · December 2013

OK, it's no longer Thursday but I have a UO now after reading something posted on the FB page of a BLW group I'm in (I'll forget by next Thursday). I think a lot of attachment parents (like my SIL) get very defensive about the lack of support they get for their parenting style, or the unwanted comments on how they do things, but I think they bring it on themselves by talking about it all the time or posting about it all over FB. If they're going to get upset by the responses, why put it out there for all to see?

I consider myself an attachment parent, and we do some things that more "mainstream" parents wouldn't agree with (bedsharing, baby-led weaning, I plan to do extended breastfeeding if the girls want to, etc.) But I don't volunteer my alternative parenting choices to acquaintances and people who I don't know very well. I don't post pics of my LOs doing their BLW thing on facebook. I don't voluntarily offer information about us bedsharing. Because I don't want or need other people's opinions on my parenting choices. I don't think people should have to censor what they share, unless they're going to get butthurt when they don't like the response.

kmcd23 · December 2013

@pumpkinandthepeanut I feel that way about a lot of parenting choices. I think I'm kind of an attachement parent, I EBF, NIP discreetly, baby wear, and bedshare at times. I'm definitely crunchy. But I think that regardless of your parenting style, if someone is an AW in real life, they're going to advertise what they do, and get defensive about it because that means more AW. It's annoying, but I think it's universal. lol

bumpuser8130818 · December 2013

@pumpkinandthepeanut absolutely agree! Though I do put pics of blw on fb, but they are for out of town family mostly.

Shoegal36 · December 2013

@pumpkinandthepeanut I totally agree and I think that can apply to anything. I have a friend who complains about all the "unwanted advice" and comments she gets, and I'm thinking...then stop posting all your problems on Facebook! Of course people are going to offer advice when you post every.single.morning about how you only got 2 hours of sleep and your baby doesn't stop crying all night long. Heaven forbid if someone suggests some type of sleep training...she has a fit. I don't know what she expects. If I don't want someone's advice and they ask me how LO is sleeping I say "great!" (totally not the case) lol

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