It's really random but I hate people who send you an invite for an event they know you can't attend. We just got invited to a wedding in California next summer for people we barely know. The groom's parents were our host family when DH played baseball there. The son, however, I didn't know well and all I heard about the girl was negative things from the mom. They know we have a baby and live 3,000 miles away and won't come but I still have to thank them and send a gift.
I hate when people ask for help on sites like Kijiji, you offer to give them something, then they bitch when you say they have to pick it up. I offered a woman a box of baby clothes for free. She wanted me to drop it off at her apartment. When I said I couldn't deliver it, she got pissy and said I shouldn't have offered if I couldn't deliver. WTF?
I think holiday photo cards of your kids are only ok up to a certain age...for me I don't think I will do it past one or two. After that, I think I will do a regular card and send a pic insert just to a few close relatives. I get cards with kids in high school and I think it is a little weird and feel bad for those kids!
It's really random but I hate people who send you an invite for an event they know you can't attend. We just got invited to a wedding in California next summer for people we barely know. The groom's parents were our host family when DH played baseball there. The son, however, I didn't know well and all I heard about the girl was negative things from the mom. They know we have a baby and live 3,000 miles away and won't come but I still have to thank them and send a gift.
Well, maybe that's my UO... in this case, I wouldn't send a gift. If it was someone I barely knew, I'm not sending them a present. Etiquette be damned!
Also - I didn't expect a gift from anyone who couldn't attend our wedding. Heck, I know there were people at our wedding that didn't bring a gift - a few friends who were having a rough time financially. I'd rather them be there to share the day with us than not come at all.
In this case I do have to send something. His parents were ridiculously kind to us and still are. I don't think they'd think badly if we didn't send something but I would. If we didn't have 3 other weddings we had to fly to next year or had R we would go. Can that be another UO? I hate when everyone you know decides to get married at the same time. We have 4 big weddings coming up that either myself, DH or probably R will be in. All of which we have to fly to and all of which I have to send both a shower and a wedding gift and one I have to go to the shower. Two are my family and two are for DHs friends who both went all out on our wedding and baby shower. I have no problem giving but I'm going to need a second job.
My UO is that I really don't like going to weddings. Or buying gifts for them. Luckily almost all of my friends are married now, most are even in the second baby stage. ETA that we invited 45 people to our wedding and didn't register for gifts. Plus, our wedding was super fun.
It's really random but I hate people who send you an invite for an event they know you can't attend. We just got invited to a wedding in California next summer for people we barely know. The groom's parents were our host family when DH played baseball there. The son, however, I didn't know well and all I heard about the girl was negative things from the mom. They know we have a baby and live 3,000 miles away and won't come but I still have to thank them and send a gift.
Well, maybe that's my UO... in this case, I wouldn't send a gift. If it was someone I barely knew, I'm not sending them a present. Etiquette be damned!
Also - I didn't expect a gift from anyone who couldn't attend our wedding. Heck, I know there were people at our wedding that didn't bring a gift - a few friends who were having a rough time financially. I'd rather them be there to share the day with us than not come at all.
In this case I do have to send something. His parents were ridiculously kind to us and still are. I don't think they'd think badly if we didn't send something but I would. If we didn't have 3 other weddings we had to fly to next year or had R we would go. Can that be another UO? I hate when everyone you know decides to get married at the same time. We have 4 big weddings coming up that either myself, DH or probably R will be in. All of which we have to fly to and all of which I have to send both a shower and a wedding gift and one I have to go to the shower. Two are my family and two are for DHs friends who both went all out on our wedding and baby shower. I have no problem giving but I'm going to need a second job.
wait - so your UO is that people invited you to a wedding that they "know you can't attend," because you are 3,000 miles away and have a baby. but you have 4 weddings you ARE going that you have to fly to, and you WOULD go if you didn't have the other weddings to go to?
And you know the parents well, but not the people getting married - it's not uncommon to get invited to people's weddings if you know the parents well. My parents invited their friends to my wedding, even if I didn't know them well, and vice versa. My IL's friends were at my wedding in another country... that neither of us had even met. It's really not that unusual.
And are you seriously complaining that people are inconveniencing you by getting married? Oy vey.
People that give you gifts should give gift receipts. We barely got any gift receipts for B's gifts when he was born. We still get gifts here and there without gift receipts. I also cant stand when people buy clothes for babies in ridiculous sizes. DHs aunt is buying him all these clothes but in the wrong seasons (9 month short sleeve onesies -18 month sweaters....hes wearing 9 months now...) and of course without a gift receipt! Either buy a gift card, ask what size the baby is, or dont buy clothes!
I think this sounds really bratty... People are giving you GIFTS. I get what you're saying, and this happened to us with DS1, but if something was the wrong size/wrong season we either put it away in hopes of using it for the next baby, or I gave it to a friend who could use it. It seems silly to complain about someones good intentions/kindness
Yes they are giving you gifts for this baby. Not the next baby or your friends baby or a nephew. THIS baby. Not everyone likes the same things or has the same tastes and therefore a gift receipt should be given so the baby can use the thing they bought for him or her. Im not saying Im ungrateful for getting a gift, Im saying it would be nice if they included a gift receipt because not everything that works for you works for someone else.
OMG - can you imagine living in a time before they HAD gift receipts?!?! And, like, people would give you stuff that you didn't like and you'd be STUCK with it?! And maybe you'd have to give it away, or regift it, and just appreciate that it's the thought that counts?! OMFG. The horror!
@Allison078 yeah I'm complaining because the last time I saw the people getting married was 6 years ago and last time I saw the parents was 5. We only invited the parents to our wedding (5 years ago) because we lived with them when we were engaged, it would of been rude not. They are lovely people but it's a lot to ask someone to travel to one of the most expensive parts of the country if you don't know them well and it seems like they are just fishing for a gift. The other weddings was just a vent. I'm happy to attend those, it's just a lot at once and a lot of traveling with a toddler. You don't need to get all huffy. It's not your job to bash everyone who has an opinion that differs from yours.
@Allison078 yeah I'm complaining because the last time I saw the people getting married was 6 years ago and last time I saw the parents was 5. We only invited the parents to our wedding (5 years ago) because we lived with them when we were engaged, it would of been rude not. They are lovely people but it's a lot to ask someone to travel to one of the most expensive parts of the country if you don't know them well and it seems like they are just fishing for a gift. The other weddings was just a vent. I'm happy to attend those, it's just a lot at once and a lot of traveling with a toddler. You don't need to get all huffy. It's not your job to bash everyone who has an opinion that differs from yours.
You said, "If we didn't have 3 other weddings we had to fly to next year or had R we would go."
so I'm not sure why it's gift grabby? it just seems contradictory.
It bugs me when people at work complain to me how they dont have the time to do something or its not their job to do it for over 20 mins and they could have just done the stupid thing in the amount of time they complained about it.
I don't think the song "My Favorite Things" should be considered a Christmas Song.
Also, I think it just plain sucks in general.
Totally agree ! Also every time I hear it now I think about how Yankee candles made those scents last year... who in the world wants a candle that smells like whiskers on kittens, warm woolen mittens, or schnitzel with noodles ?!
THANK YOU! When did the sound of music soundtrack jump into the holiday song genre.... super annoying!
Well everyone who saw my FFFC last week knows how I feel about gift receipts lol. I always always always give gift receipts because I want my money to be put to use. If you hate what I picked out or got a duplicate I'd be bummed that my purchase went straight into a donation bin. That's me though. I'm a bitch about gifts I guess.
My UO in light of all the Christmas shopping is that I think it sucks that most people aren't willing to look for or pay a little extra for items made in the USA.
By no means does everything in our house come from a USA manufacturer but my DH and I do make a diligent effort to buy things made in the USA, even if they cost more. They are always better quality than the item that is made in China and its better for our economy.
Well everyone who saw my FFFC last week knows how I feel about gift receipts lol. I always always always give gift receipts because I want my money to be put to use. If you hate what I picked out or got a duplicate I'd be bummed that my purchase went straight into a donation bin. That's me though. I'm a bitch about gifts I guess.
My UO in light of all the Christmas shopping is that I think it sucks that most people aren't willing to look for or pay a little extra for items made in the USA.
By no means does everything in our house come from a USA manufacturer but my DH and I do make a diligent effort to buy things made in the USA, even if they cost more. They are always better quality than the item that is made in China and its better for our economy.
The first thing my FIL looks for on anything brought into his house is where it was made. If its made anywhere but in the USA we will sit through an evening of rants... We are now in good habit to look for US made items unless its unavoidable (nick nacks).
My OU is that it drives me nuts when people don't send thank you cards from showers or weddings. There are 2 weddings we went to last year (and showers) that we didn't receive a thank you for and its still bothering me... I'm a stickler for etiquette.
I hate it when people return/exchange gifts I went through the trouble of picking out. You might as well just ask for cash if you plan on trading in my gift for something you really want.
I buy personalized gifts specifically so they can't be returned-- if they don't like it then they are no worse off than if I had gotten nothing.
I think the lights pictures are cute and would be ok if done carefully...but I definitely couldn't with LO. Everything goes in her mouth instantly. We call her Zombie Baby.
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
Don't forget that month of best behavior when they think Santa's watching!
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
I agree. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. On one hand I want my kids to have that sense of magical wonder. On the other hand I don't want to hurt my kids' feelings when they find out I lied to them for several years. It's tough.
I hate peppermint flavored anything, but especially with chocolate. Reminds me of tooth paste.
:-O Gasp! My favorite coffee creamer is peppermint mocha.
One of my favorite things about the holidays is the peppermint mocha coffee from McDonald's.
i also loathe coffee. Feel free to hate me lol
You hate coffee and peppermint? How does anyone hate coffee and peppermint???? If it makes you feel better, I will gladly accept all coffee and peppermint treats you don't want. I live on coffee with peppermint shots right now.
Well everyone who saw my FFFC last week knows how I feel about gift receipts lol. I always always always give gift receipts because I want my money to be put to use. If you hate what I picked out or got a duplicate I'd be bummed that my purchase went straight into a donation bin. That's me though. I'm a bitch about gifts I guess.
My UO in light of all the Christmas shopping is that I think it sucks that most people aren't willing to look for or pay a little extra for items made in the USA.
By no means does everything in our house come from a USA manufacturer but my DH and I do make a diligent effort to buy things made in the USA, even if they cost more. They are always better quality than the item that is made in China and its better for our economy
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
I agree. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. On one hand I want my kids to have that sense of magical wonder. On the other hand I don't want to hurt my kids' feelings when they find out I lied to them for several years. It's tough.
When I found out about SC the thought never crossed my mind that my parents lied to me for several years. I was just sad the magic was over.
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
I agree. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. On one hand I want my kids to have that sense of magical wonder. On the other hand I don't want to hurt my kids' feelings when they find out I lied to them for several years. It's tough.
When I found out about SC the thought never crossed my mind that my parents lied to me for several years. I was just sad the magic was over.
I could have written this post.
I cant wait to see B's face when he wakes up and sees what SC brought him. That was such a fun part of my childhood and I want him to experience that magic too.
I hate peppermint flavored anything, but especially with chocolate. Reminds me of tooth paste.
:-O Gasp! My favorite coffee creamer is peppermint mocha.
One of my favorite things about the holidays is the peppermint mocha coffee from McDonald's.
i also loathe coffee. Feel free to hate me lol
You hate coffee and peppermint? How does anyone hate coffee and peppermint???? If it makes you feel better, I will gladly accept all coffee and peppermint treats you don't want. I live on coffee with peppermint shots right now.
I hate coffee and peppermint as well. Or should I say I hate mint. Thin Mints, Spearmint, Mint choc. chip ice cream. Any of it.
I've tried flavored cappuchinos that I thought maybe I would like but just couldn't stand it. And no amount of sugar or creamer can get me to drink just regular coffee.
I hate it when people return/exchange gifts I went through the trouble of picking out. You might as well just ask for cash if you plan on trading in my gift for something you really want.
I buy personalized gifts specifically so they can't be returned-- if they don't like it then they are no worse off than if I had gotten nothing.
I am completely with you on this. A gift is a gift.
I hate peppermint flavored anything, but especially with chocolate. Reminds me of tooth paste.
:-O Gasp! My favorite coffee creamer is peppermint mocha.
One of my favorite things about the holidays is the peppermint mocha coffee from McDonald's.
i also loathe coffee. Feel free to hate me lol
You hate coffee and peppermint? How does anyone hate coffee and peppermint???? If it makes you feel better, I will gladly accept all coffee and peppermint treats you don't want. I live on coffee with peppermint shots right now.
I hate coffee and peppermint as well. Or should I say I hate mint. Thin Mints, Spearmint, Mint choc. chip ice cream. Any of it.
I've tried flavored cappuchinos that I thought maybe I would like but just couldn't stand it. And no amount of sugar or creamer can get me to drink just regular coffee.
Coffee and mint/chocolate hater here as well. :shudder:
This elf on a shelf silliness has made me realise my UO:
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
I agree. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it. On one hand I want my kids to have that sense of magical wonder. On the other hand I don't want to hurt my kids' feelings when they find out I lied to them for several years. It's tough.
When I found out about SC the thought never crossed my mind that my parents lied to me for several years. I was just sad the magic was over.
Yeah I guess I definitely remember thinking, "if he isn't real, why did my mom and dad tell me he was?" I know I made the connection that they lied to me and I didn't like it.
No permanent damage though
I'm sure I will tell LO that Santa exists because I don't want her to miss out on the fun. However, I will feel bad about lying to her.
Re: UO
After that, I think I will do a regular card and send a pic insert just to a few close relatives.
I get cards with kids in high school and I think it is a little weird and feel bad for those kids!
In this case I do have to send something. His parents were ridiculously kind to us and still are. I don't think they'd think badly if we didn't send something but I would. If we didn't have 3 other weddings we had to fly to next year or had R we would go. Can that be another UO? I hate when everyone you know decides to get married at the same time. We have 4 big weddings coming up that either myself, DH or probably R will be in. All of which we have to fly to and all of which I have to send both a shower and a wedding gift and one I have to go to the shower. Two are my family and two are for DHs friends who both went all out on our wedding and baby shower. I have no problem giving but I'm going to need a second job.
ETA that we invited 45 people to our wedding and didn't register for gifts. Plus, our wedding was super fun.
Also, I think it just plain sucks in general.
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The chewing/electrical risk, the little fragile glass blubs filled with gas, the fact those lights say to WASH hands after handling.....
EEEK!
My UO in light of all the Christmas shopping is that I think it sucks that most people aren't willing to look for or pay a little extra for items made in the USA.
By no means does everything in our house come from a USA manufacturer but my DH and I do make a diligent effort to buy things made in the USA, even if they cost more. They are always better quality than the item that is made in China and its better for our economy.
My OU is that it drives me nuts when people don't send thank you cards from showers or weddings. There are 2 weddings we went to last year (and showers) that we didn't receive a thank you for and its still bothering me... I'm a stickler for etiquette.
Herpes doesn't go away? Since when? Also can I get herpes from glitter?
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I buy personalized gifts specifically so they can't be returned-- if they don't like it then they are no worse off than if I had gotten nothing.
:-O Gasp! My favorite coffee creamer is peppermint mocha.
i also loathe coffee. Feel free to hate me lol
I don't want to lie to C and say that Santa brings presents. I don't really get the point of Santa and the only reason I will likely lie to her is so that she isn't the kid telling all the other kids that there is no Santa.
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I cant wait to see B's face when he wakes up and sees what SC brought him. That was such a fun part of my childhood and I want him to experience that magic too.
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I am completely with you on this. A gift is a gift.
Yeah I guess I definitely remember thinking, "if he isn't real, why did my mom and dad tell me he was?" I know I made the connection that they lied to me and I didn't like it.
No permanent damage though
I'm sure I will tell LO that Santa exists because I don't want her to miss out on the fun. However, I will feel bad about lying to her.