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May 2014 Moms
Push Present
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Re: Push Present
A girl can dream though..... *sigh*
I know my husband and if I don't make it obvious what I want he won't get it or even think it's an option.
Also, I don't know what the guy version of the gift is but i had boudoir photos done (meant to be an anniversary gift) and they ran late coming back. I had the finalized book around the time I got my bfp and gave it to him as a reminder of how I looked pre pregnancy and all that.
So I guess both are things we planned to give to each other any way and he may use this as the time to do that or not.
What I dislike is the idea that we should be entitled to a gift for giving birth. To me, it's what generations of women have been doing for centuries before me and will continue to do for who knows how long after. It's a part of life. It's what we signed up for when we decided we wanted a kid. We knew I'd have to carry it for 9 months and that at the end of that, I'd have to deliver it somehow. Call me crazy but I just don't think that entitles me to a super special reward any more than any other woman on the planet.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
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The rest of us c-section mothers didn't actually give birth so we are undeserving of gifts and special treatment.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
ETA: I'm assuming everyone making such arguments has neither a wedding ring nor an engagement ring. Why would you accept something like that from someone for something (getting married) that you chose to do and people have been doing for eons? Because it's a sweet gesture? Because it symbolizes something important to you? What a crazy idea.
that cheese is actually made with pasteurized milk, so you could safely eat it now! soft cheese is only iffy if it's not pasteurized
Maybe I'll call that my push present.
I don't think my DH even knows about the concept and I'm not sure I'll tell him about it. I love the stories about meaningful jewelry but that's not really my style. I think spontaneous presents end up meaning more to me than expected gifts.
I also think wedding presents to each other are stupid as well. So we decided to just buy ourselves an iPad, which we then sold because we never used it lol.
I actually find the fact that your dad did this 30 years ago very sweet and adorable. It was very thoughtful of him, especially back then. So I guess what really bothers me about push presents is that they're now a thing and women expect them and sometimes even tell their DH what to get them, that seems really cringeworthy to me.
But that doesn't change that I how I feel about really appreciating something of the sort and (pretending) to honor his heritage. https://www.speech-guru.com/scandinavian_wedding.php (last two lines)
again, personally, I know my husband, and I kinda have to ask for the things i like. It does take some of the mystery out of it but I don't ever doubt where the sentiment comes from. also, I would never ask for something I didn't feel like we could afford. FFS, I bought my own wedding ring. I know he's all for the idea of doing a "mother hood" ring, gifts in general are just not high on his priority list.
In all seriousness I think something like a piece of jewelry with the babies birthstone or something else meaningful would be sweet and thoughtful. I don't expect it, though.
My push present is the Tria laser hair removal tool. I had laser done before getting married, and this pregnancy brought all the hair back. So I told me husband that I want to get a Tria after the baby comes and redo my own laser hair removal. It's almost like a gift for both of us tho :P
In general I am okay with push presents like a sweet necklace, or charm, or something like that. I don't really understand why a woman is given $5000.00 or something like that for each child, but whatever, to each their own I guess.
That One Gal From Alaska
I love that! So adorable!
That One Gal From Alaska
You just made my pregnancy!
Now I don't have to have hungry eyes every time I go into the dairy department of Whole Foods!!!