I'm soooo sick of hearing ....

tsmith312 · December 2013

So as I'm walking out of wal mart this afternoon , there's this really sweet girl ringing the bell collecting money for Salvation Army . So i say I'll do my good deed for the day and drop some money in her bowl . As I do she says to me " oh when are you due" ? I proceed to tell her March 24 , she then says wooooow your big I thought you were further along , you have a long ways to go have fun with that ! These comments are getting annoying !

wearebirds · December 2013

I feel ya! I'm SUPER tired of hearing "are you sure it's not twins?!"

YankeePeach08 · December 2013

I've just started lying to people

When I tell them mid-Feb they say I'll never make it, then when I explain that it is twins they tell me I don't look big enough. Sorry I can't win with you stranger at Target.

novelblessings · December 2013

This is really getting to me as well. At first everyone was telling me I was "soo small" and "no one can even tell your pregnant". Now that I've popped out everyone keeps saying "you're going to be huge by the end", "you're getting close right?". Today my one co-worker literally put her hand out to measure, in front of my belly, how much bigger she believes I will get in the next 3 months. Thanks for making me feel larger than I already feel!

ETA: Wanted to add, same co-worker yesterday wanted to have an office pool to guess how big LO will be at birth. She said she guesses 9lbs because I'm already "so big"....

ceh789 · December 2013

Laura8388 said:

Same! Beside the point, and don't want to start a debate- but there's a pic going around FB of the Salvation Army workers with a sign saying gay people deserve to die (or something like that) .... Think it's real??? In previous years I have always been a volunteer with ringing the bells so I sure hope it isn't real!!!!

Snopes says it's not.

https://www.snopes.com/photos/politics/salvationarmy.asp

People seriously have too much time on their hands if they're 'shopping this shit up for fun.

babylimas · December 2013

Oh my goodness, I have had people tell me that a lot, but I had my first insult yesterday. This CPA came to my office to reconcile one of our accounts. This was the honest to goodness conversation:

CPA: Oh wow you have gotten huge since last month!

Me: Yep, I popped.

CPA: When are you due again?

Me: March 7.

CPA: ::weird hysterical giggling:: oh my goodness you are huge! I am surprised it's not twins!

Me: Nope.

CPA: Are they sure nothing is wrong?

Me: Well actually I have extra fluid, so I am measuring ahead.

CPA: ::More weird hysterical giggling:: That sucks for you, I bet you can't wait for the baby to get out so you can look normal again.

Me: (getting a little annoyed) Well actually the baby is sick, so no I'm not in a hurry.

CPA: ::More laughter:: I'm sure he'll be fine.

Me: He actually has to have open heart surgery and has down syndrome.

CPA: ::laughs even MORE:: wow! That really sucks for you!

Seriously, I was so annoyed. I assume she was just being super awkward and kept saying the wrong thing, but every single sentence just got worse and worse. And the laughing!

bumpuser9058414 · December 2013

@laura8388 I'm not sure if the pic is real but the Salvation Army is very Christian and very Anti-Gay.

I'm getting the opposite comments, that I look too small, or "that's it?" Which is ridiculous because I don't look small at all. You just cannot win.

novelblessings · December 2013

@babylimas Wow! Just wow. She should have just said nothing at all.

tsmith312 · December 2013

YankeePeach08 said:
I've just started lying to people
When I tell them mid-Feb they say I'll never make it, then when I explain that it is twins they tell me I don't look big enough. Sorry I can't win with you stranger at Target.

Good idea I'll try that !!! Better yet I'll just tell people I'm due any day now !! In the beginning no one could tell I'm pregnant , now all of a sudden I've popped and people have jokes ! I didn't even think I was that big !

peachy0709 · December 2013

DH got a treat at a holiday party when he was standing next to me and women were making all those inappropriate comments people make (including my favorite, "Oh! I just thought you were getting fat"). Afterwards he asked if people really said things like that to me all day long.

tsmith312 · December 2013

@babylimas that's terrible ! I don't know how you kept it together ! I may have lost my S*** on her !

AriaAmante143 · December 2013

@babylimas I think in that situation you had every right to punch a bitch. WTF was wrong with her???

skeppler1 · December 2013

@babylimas.....I am so sorry they were so rude to you. They should be ashamed of themselves for acting that way.

I actually am having twins and I get the comment of how I am not big enough to be having twins. And no one that has made those comments have twins themselves so how would they even know??

People just need to say only nice things to pregnant women or just shut their mouths.

mhilpisch10 · December 2013

People just keep telling me "Oh just you wait it's going to get so much worse" "Just wait until (fill in the blank)" I'm like YEP. That's only the 10th time I've heard that today.

AriaAmante143 · December 2013

I've been having a REALLY hard time sleeping lately, and if I hear "This is just the beginning! Get used to it!" One more time I'm going to flip. You mean babies keep you up at night? I HAD NO IDEA.

mal2385 · December 2013

@babylimas that's truly aweful I'm sorry that happened. It's even worse that she didn't apologize.

I have had many people say to me oh look how cute. When are you due? March 11th oh wow still quit a ways a way. I always says it feels like no time at all to me. Then I get the lovely are you sure it's not twins? Um yep it's 2013 I saw my single baby in 4d!

twinlove314 · December 2013

Oh twins! Do they run in your family?! I know people are curious, but my goodness. Plus, anytime someone asks that, I feel compelled to explain that identical twins don't run in families like fraternals do. I'm tempted to just start telling the random strangers that ask, yes

liamandlettie · December 2013

YankeePeach08 said:
I've just started lying to people
When I tell them mid-Feb they say I'll never make it, then when I explain that it is twins they tell me I don't look big enough. Sorry I can't win with you stranger at Target.

I did this ALL the time with my last pregnancy (with strangers) Its easier then saying shut the f***up. Oddly...no one has really said much this time.

babylimas · December 2013

Oh, and I should say I wasn't mad at this woman afterwards. She is insanely awkward and it was obviously very nervous laughter. It was just so over the top that I had to walk away. She kept digging herself deeper and deeper. She got her work done so fast that morning, so I bet she totally knew she screwed up.

PinupMomma08 · December 2013

@babylimas I am so sorry anyone would have the gall to say something so terrible. Assfaces.

I think since we haven't hit Christmas yet, people still think March is an eternity away. No. Its like around the corner. Plus it really doesn't help that women about to give birth on tv look like they are in their 6th month. That last month is brutal, lol.

YankeePeach08 · December 2013

babylimas said:

Oh my goodness, I have had people tell me that a lot, but I had my first insult yesterday. This CPA came to my office to reconcile one of our accounts. This was the honest to goodness conversation:

CPA: Oh wow you have gotten huge since last month!
Me: Yep, I popped.
CPA: When are you due again?
Me: March 7.
CPA: ::weird hysterical giggling:: oh my goodness you are huge! I am surprised it's not twins!
Me: Nope.
CPA: Are they sure nothing is wrong?
Me: Well actually I have extra fluid, so I am measuring ahead.
CPA: ::More weird hysterical giggling:: That sucks for you, I bet you can't wait for the baby to get out so you can look normal again.
Me: (getting a little annoyed) Well actually the baby is sick, so no I'm not in a hurry.
CPA: ::More laughter:: I'm sure he'll be fine.
Me: He actually has to have open heart surgery and has down syndrome.
CPA: ::laughs even MORE:: wow! That really sucks for you!

Seriously, I was so annoyed. I assume she was just being super awkward and kept saying the wrong thing, but every single sentence just got worse and worse. And the laughing!

:-O

ntdane · December 2013

I'm another twin mama who keeps getting told I'm not big enough for twins. I want to start carrying a pic of me at 41 weeks with DS. I'm already bigger than that so I think we're doing pretty good. Twins=elephant to most people, no matter how far along you are.

KTdid81 · December 2013

@babylimas I am sorry she was so rude. Kudos to you for taking it so well. I don't know if I would have taken it so lightly.

My SIL told me that our MIL told her she was getting a big ass during her 9th month of pregnancy. I couldn't believe it. SIL didn't say anything to her. I would have told her to F-off.

novelblessings · December 2013

PinupMomma08 said:

I think since we haven't hit Christmas yet, people still think March is an eternity away. No. Its like around the corner. Plus it really doesn't help that women about to give birth on tv look like they are in their 6th month. That last month is brutal, lol.

Yea I've had a few comments about how far away March is. I always just say "yep only a couple more months". I think if I weren't pregnant I'd think March seems far away too, especially with all the snow in between.

pepperedmoth · December 2013

babylimas said:
Oh my goodness, I have had people tell me that a lot, but I had my first insult yesterday. This CPA came to my office to reconcile one of our accounts. This was the honest to goodness conversation:

CPA: Oh wow you have gotten huge since last month!
Me: Yep, I popped.
CPA: When are you due again?
Me: March 7.
CPA: ::weird hysterical giggling:: oh my goodness you are huge! I am surprised it's not twins!
Me: Nope.
CPA: Are they sure nothing is wrong?
Me: Well actually I have extra fluid, so I am measuring ahead.
CPA: ::More weird hysterical giggling:: That sucks for you, I bet you can't wait for the baby to get out so you can look normal again.
Me: (getting a little annoyed) Well actually the baby is sick, so no I'm not in a hurry.
CPA: ::More laughter:: I'm sure he'll be fine.
Me: He actually has to have open heart surgery and has down syndrome.
CPA: ::laughs even MORE:: wow! That really sucks for you!

Seriously, I was so annoyed. I assume she was just being super awkward and kept saying the wrong thing, but every single sentence just got worse and worse. And the laughing!

WHOA. Just......whoa.

People post all the time about how someone was "sooooooooo rude" and usually I'm all, "meh, just a little awkward," but THAT????

Aaaaaaaaaaarrrrghhhhhraaaeeeeeeeeaiiiiiiiii. Not OK.

legallyginger · December 2013

babylimas said:
Oh, and I should say I wasn't mad at this woman afterwards. She is insanely awkward and it was obviously very nervous laughter. It was just so over the top that I had to walk away. She kept digging herself deeper and deeper. She got her work done so fast that morning, so I bet she totally knew she screwed up.

You are a far, far better person than I am. I would have let my bitch flag fly anyway.

This is one reason I'm kind of glad I'm overweight. I wear a lot of big hoodies, so its not totally obvious. Strangers are too scared to ask if I'm pregnant, so no comments about how big/small I am.

saisongbird · December 2013

I had a school event last night where my chorus performed at a local store. I am new to the building this year so the parents didn't know what I looked like pre-pregnancy. I overheard one parent say to another, "HOW pregnant is she?" Gee, thanks. And yes, I can hear you.

kaking78 · December 2013

@legallyginger I am with you on this one. Only in the past few weeks have I moved from looking chubbier to looking pregnant. I can still (barely) zip my winter coat, so unless someone knows what's going on already they aren't brave enough to comment.

Momackf · December 2013

I'm getting...

Them- " oh your having a baby"

Me -"Yes I am"

Them -" oh it's definately going to be a boy"

Me -" we'll actually it's a girl"

Them- " no way possible look at how you are carrying"

Me -" actually I have had 2 ultrasounds and both said girl"

Them- "They are so wrong he must be hiding"

Me -" we'll see in march"

Them -" just wait, I'm always right!"

lindsey1031 · December 2013

babylimas said:

Oh my goodness, I have had people tell me that a lot, but I had my first insult yesterday. This CPA came to my office to reconcile one of our accounts. This was the honest to goodness conversation:

CPA: Oh wow you have gotten huge since last month!
Me: Yep, I popped.
CPA: When are you due again?
Me: March 7.
CPA: ::weird hysterical giggling:: oh my goodness you are huge! I am surprised it's not twins!
Me: Nope.
CPA: Are they sure nothing is wrong?
Me: Well actually I have extra fluid, so I am measuring ahead.
CPA: ::More weird hysterical giggling:: That sucks for you, I bet you can't wait for the baby to get out so you can look normal again.
Me: (getting a little annoyed) Well actually the baby is sick, so no I'm not in a hurry.
CPA: ::More laughter:: I'm sure he'll be fine.
Me: He actually has to have open heart surgery and has down syndrome.
CPA: ::laughs even MORE:: wow! That really sucks for you!

Seriously, I was so annoyed. I assume she was just being super awkward and kept saying the wrong thing, but every single sentence just got worse and worse. And the laughing!

Oh. My. GOD! What an idiot. I hope you think of something clever to say to her next time she comes in. Not snarky, just clever and something that is just enough to make her feel dumb and uncomfortable.

nisnyder · December 2013

I work with a bunch of middle-aged women who were "baffled" at my 15 week bump..."Oh my....I don't think I was that big until the sixth month! Are you sure you're not carrying twins!?" Now it's "you must be soooo uncomfortable..." Nope, I'm good. Sometimes I wonder why people feel the need to say anything at all!

Mommyglam2 · December 2013

I'm the opposite. Everyone is telling me I look too thin! Like I lost weight or like I am sick And that I'm not big for 28 weeks! I just wanna pop and have swollen feet and face!!!

futurecody · December 2013

DHs aunt is absolutely obnoxious with this.... Worst part is she thinks she is relating/being funny. At thanksgiving she greeted me with "hey there fattie!" Then last night I posted a pic on FB of DH and me with him all decked out in his Army gear. Her comment? "WOW!! Can you get any huger?!"

BabyVDM · December 2013

seriously?

for months everyone here was crying because they wanted to see defined bumps and now that you have them and people comment on how big they are you complain?

For christ's sake it's not an insult, it's an observation and one that people love to see.

I am having twins and I am huge, and everyday people comment, and laugh and want to see my profile. Strangers smile when they see me. It's part of being pregnant and people love to see it.

nothing wrong with big healthy bellies on healthy women.

I don't get why it's annoying or upsetting.

Obviously you look big, so laugh and be happy along with them.

lvlichelle · December 2013

I have had a couple people at work make comments. One guy says all the time "You are really starting to poke out" another guy today said "you are bigger and bigger each time I see you". A lady at my work tells me "She is watching me grow bigger each day". While I am happy that I am showing.. it does get old after a while. The one thing that kinda gets to me is when I am talking to someone then I notice they are looking at my belly.. it is weird.. like are they hearing what I am saying or are they just sizing me up, lol.

russetmile · December 2013

I'm done with people telling me to harden my nipples and massage my perinial. Nope, it's not going to happen! Also, I'm done with people implying we'll be bad parents because we're not going to do it their way. We're different people, we have different life experiences and even though we're first timers, we'll do what we think is best for our baby we have loved since the BFP!

YankeePeach08 · December 2013

BabyVDM said:

seriously?

for months everyone here was crying because they wanted to see defined bumps and now that you have them and people comment on how big they are you complain?

For christ's sake it's not an insult, it's an observation and one that people love to see.

I am having twins and I am huge, and everyday people comment, and laugh and want to see my profile. Strangers smile when they see me. It's part of being pregnant and people love to see it.

nothing wrong with big healthy bellies on healthy women.

I don't get why it's annoying or upsetting.

Obviously you look big, so laugh and be happy along with them.

I have to disagree here. Wanting to see a defined bump or look pregnant does not mean anybody wants a stranger to make rude and insulting comments to them.

People saying "you look pregnant now" or "wow you are getting bigger" isn't really an insult but the strangers/acquaintances that comment that women look farther along are basically calling them fat...which is an insult. It is not their place to comment on someone's size.

I think most of the general public would be upset if some random stranger commented on their physical appearance without an invitation to do so...baby bump does not equal critique my physique.

Sarahermyo · December 2013

I am also march 24th !!

cierravictoria · December 2013

I get so sick of having to answer the question, "How are you feeling?". Every time I go into work about 5 people ask me, and every time it's the same answer!

ceciljbrown · December 2013

I'm just sick of the daily "How are you feeling???" from everyone at the office, followed by the "Well, it's all worth it" or "You must be soooo excited!".

My answer today is the same as it was yesterday and the day before that, and the day before that, and it's the same as it will be tomorrow. Because even if I do feel like shit, you don't really want to know about it. And I know it's worth it, otherwise I wouldn't have done it. And I'm not a bubbly outgoing person whose excitement is all on the outside. Right now, I'm nervous as fuck. I'm due on March 1, which is really not that far away.

Sarabearo3 · December 2013

I get "you're still so small, are you eating enough?" "have they checked to make sure the baby is growing properly" etc...it really irritates me. I don't even think i'm that small! A family member even told me "wow you can't even tell, but then again with my kids I WANTED to look pregnant" uhm??? what is that supposed to mean? I wanted to hit her

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