I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
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Okay, this may spike some controversy but this is just how I feel.
I think it's stupid when people get judged for rehoming a pet that is aggressive, especially towards their kids. I know that's not a likely scenario but it is in our home right now. We just adopted a dog, she is a female GSP and she has been wonderful. However, there have been some instances where she has been aggressive towards me and DD; showing teeth, growling, even snapping at us. I have corrected her each time but knowing in the back of my mind that she has been aggressive towards DD makes me very nervous to keep her around.
I keep my eye on her, especially around DD as best as I can, but things happen. I would just hate for her to snap at DD, or worse her bite her and cause permanent damage. Now, I'm not saying I'm kicking her out of the house right away. I'm going to keep an eye on her and keep trying to correct the situation, as well as teach DD to be more careful around her but if this persists, you bet your sweet ass she is getting rehomed.
aggression is always a good reason to rehome if you have children because the situation is potentially dangerous. i just can't stand to see pets be rehomed for other stupid reason
Totally agree, my lovely pit bull was left at the shelter for this reason "I have four kids, I don't have time" and while I understand that four kids is a lot of work, I know she didn't pop out all four after getting this dog... He's 2 and a half years old so I'm guessing the kids wanted a puppy and they didn't realize the work. I love him so much and he is such a sweet heart and so perfect, so I'm glad I found him
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I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
My UO is that I don't agree in children having huge, elaborate, expensive birthday parties ever, but especially before the age of maybe 4-5 when they're old enough to ask for a birthday party.
I received invitations to 4 birthday parties this weekend, 4!!! The oldest kid is turning 2. And all are at rented out places that I know are costing my friends $500+ for 2 hours of a party. It's just ridiculous to me. Your kid is NEVER going to remember this party so why bother.
DH and I are all for mom and dad and maybe grandma/grandpa at home for a small birthday, some homemade cake and pizza and maybe a small gift until our kids are at least 5. Done. I never had a "big" birthday party until I was 10 and I turned out just fine
Our kids get family parties only until Kindergarten and then they can start having friend parties, but we still don't do elaborate parties for that. My daughter will be turning 9 on Jan. 4th and we're doing a pedicures and pancakes party. She gets to invite 3 friends over for pancakes and then they can do each other's nails...the nail polish will be bought from the dollar store and I'll get some fun toppings for the pancakes, but that's about it. Easy, but cute
Okay, this may spike some controversy but this is just how I feel.
I think it's stupid when people get judged for rehoming a pet that is aggressive, especially towards their kids. I know that's not a likely scenario but it is in our home right now. We just adopted a dog, she is a female GSP and she has been wonderful. However, there have been some instances where she has been aggressive towards me and DD; showing teeth, growling, even snapping at us. I have corrected her each time but knowing in the back of my mind that she has been aggressive towards DD makes me very nervous to keep her around.
I keep my eye on her, especially around DD as best as I can, but things happen. I would just hate for her to snap at DD, or worse her bite her and cause permanent damage. Now, I'm not saying I'm kicking her out of the house right away. I'm going to keep an eye on her and keep trying to correct the situation, as well as teach DD to be more careful around her but if this persists, you bet your sweet ass she is getting rehomed.
@J&NL, I completely agree with you on this. Dog's are allowed to give warning signs, if they don't then they just bite/snap and that's bad. As you said, I think it's just as important to teach DD to recognize the warning signs as it is to train the dog
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BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13 Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
The excessive freaking out about whether you're getting a boy or girl might be a little annoying, but I don't think it's awful to focus on a question whose answer is always good, when the answers to the other questions are a little scary. Obviously I knew the point of the a/s was to make sure everything was cool with the baby-because there is a potential that the tech may have bad news for you at said scan, that's kind of a nerve wracking thing to focus on! Knowing the sex is an added bonus, but while you're waiting and making an effort not to worry about things you can't control, is it really that bad to choose to focus on, "we could find out boy or girl" which are clearly both good things, instead of, "oh shit what if something's wrong?"
Okay, this may spike some controversy but this is just how I feel.
I think it's stupid when people get judged for rehoming a pet that is aggressive, especially towards their kids. I know that's not a likely scenario but it is in our home right now. We just adopted a dog, she is a female GSP and she has been wonderful. However, there have been some instances where she has been aggressive towards me and DD; showing teeth, growling, even snapping at us. I have corrected her each time but knowing in the back of my mind that she has been aggressive towards DD makes me very nervous to keep her around.
I keep my eye on her, especially around DD as best as I can, but things happen. I would just hate for her to snap at DD, or worse her bite her and cause permanent damage. Now, I'm not saying I'm kicking her out of the house right away. I'm going to keep an eye on her and keep trying to correct the situation, as well as teach DD to be more careful around her but if this persists, you bet your sweet ass she is getting rehomed.
@J&NL, I completely agree with you on this. Dog's are allowed to give warning signs, if they don't then they just bite/snap and that's bad. As you said, I think it's just as important to teach DD to recognize the warning signs as it is to train the dog
I'm constantly telling DD to be careful around her. She's 3 though so sometimes (by that I mean all the time) she doesn't listen to me, especially when I'm not in the room with her. She's used to playing with our other dog, who we've had since he was 6 weeks old so he's used to her rough housing with him. The new dog, gets annoyed by her and growls at her. While I was in the kitchen the other morning, I even heard June, the new dog, snap at her and DD said she bit her. So at this point, I'm really on the fence about it.
Also, it has nothing to do with the work load of having another dog. We love our dogs and treat them like family. I'm just thinking of the safety of my kids.
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
OH OH OH!!! I actually thought of one this morning and was like "and its THURSDAY!!! I have an UO!!" <---- organized.
I think its f-ing ridiculous when people support football teams that have nothing to do with them. Like, they live in Chicago, they have never been outside of Illinois in their whole lives, they have no connection to Texas at all but they decide they are Cowboys fans. Especially since you *never* hear of people assuming unconnected fandom of crappy teams. Its always "No, I've ALWAYS loved the Patriots/ Packers!!!".
Even more pathetic: assuming fandom of your DH's team when you have one of your own. I literally lose respect for women who do this. I have a friend who was born and raised in San Diego, Chargers fan her whole life. Married a Green Bay supporter and now supports them. Because her husband does. WTF is that? Have some self respect, woman.
Where I'm from, we're surrounded by these people on the college front, better known as Walmart Wolverines.
ETA - now that i've read the rest of the comments - if you went there at all, I say you can root for that team. If your family went there, root for them. But if you have NO affiliation at all, you can cheer for them, but don't talk sh*t. You have no ground to stand on.
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
I can see what you mean. I just remember being pregnant with DD and being excited for the anatomy scan so I can find out the sex, even though I knew it wasn't just for that purpose.
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
Pretty sure the doctors office who is in charge of scheduling and performing said scan is usually quite informative about what care these women are receiving and why. I highly doubt anyone's OB is keeping quiet that the anatomy scan is for checking out the baby and making sure it's developing right.
I think it's crazy when parents flat out lie to their older kids (over 10) when they ask about Santa. We do Santa for fun, but I don't go to great length for deception, and if a middleschool age kid comes and asks me if it's real, I'm not going to lie. I mean come on? What logical 11 year old is still going to believe in a magic elf unless their parents are flat out lieing to them. Drives me crazy
I feel the same way about people who talk about Jesus as if he's still actually among us. If that's accepted as normal, why can't we talk about Santa as if he's still around? At least he brings us presents. ;-)
We rehomed our Doberman last year, not because he was aggressive (sweetest dog ever!) but because we didn't have time for him. And that's a legitimate statement. We didn't and wouldn't have taken him to a shelter, we took him to a friend of ours with kids similar ages and much more land, dogs his size, and a SAHM. When I say we didn't have time I mean that we had two kids, DH worked 60+ hours/week, I worked, and I was in nursing school. Yes, all of that came after the dog, but it still wasn't fair to him to be trapped in a small house for 14+ hours/day when he is meant to have lots of room and run around and play. My point is, sometimes "we didn't have time" is legitimate and it is better for the dog to be rehomed - to a loving home and not a shelter. It was the hardest thing we've ever done and I still cry about it and miss him so much but I know we did the right thing. Anyway, I very much dislike the arguments against any rehoming as well, especially from pet owners without kids. Just because the dog came before the kids doesn't mean life won't happen and get in the way.
I don't see anything wrong with people getting excited about finding out the sex of their baby. I get excited every time I have an ultrasound, not because I get to find out medically relevant information about my child, but because I get to see my baby! There's a lot to get excited about with pregnancy, whether it's for good reasons or for frivolous ones. I say let people be excited if they want to, and share that excitement with others, because honestly it's no skin off my nose what they get happy about. And it is the thing that gets made a big deal by The rest of the world; everyone asks if you know what you're having. As team green I don't have anything to say, but I can imagine being really excited that I finally get to answer the questions with "yes! I know what we're having! It's a..."
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While I don't find it flame worthy to focus on finding out the baby's sex at the anatomy scan instead of freaking out at the what ifs, I AM really stoked that everyone on our board who wants to know the sex is getting/has gotten their scans done already. This "the professional ultrasound tech couldn't tell me because it's way too early to reliably tell, but you all look at my ultrasound blob and weigh in, is that a penis??!" trend was killing me.
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
Pretty sure the doctors office who is in charge of scheduling and performing said scan is usually quite informative about what care these women are receiving and why. I highly doubt anyone's OB is keeping quiet that the anatomy scan is for checking out the baby and making sure it's developing right.
My doctors office never went into specifics. There are many providers who are vague with stuff like that. I'm always told something along the lines of "we'll see you back in 4 weeks for the big ultrasound and find out whether or not it's a boy or girl!" and nothing about "we're going to make sure the baby has all its vital organs." So I'd say it's very likely there are women out there who legitimately do not know.
ETA: I'd be willing to say that MOST providers operate on a "don't ask don't elaborate" basis and are not openly informative about anything related to someone's specific care and testing. I don't see that with absolute clarity because I have no evidence on the matter, just speculation from personal experience as a patient and witnessing countless doctor/patient interactions in the hospital. This is what contributes to the empowerment movement of maternity care.
Also, it has nothing to do with the work load of having another dog. We love our dogs and treat them like family. I'm just thinking of the safety of my kids.
I completely understand your fear; that can be a scary situation and of course worrisome how the new dog will be with the new baby added into the pack. Tough choices my dear. When it comes to it, the safety of the kids and yourselves always comes first!
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Also, it has nothing to do with the work load of having another dog. We love our dogs and treat them like family. I'm just thinking of the safety of my kids.
I agree with what you have to say about rehoming aggressive dogs. Some people just treat it as a first resort and that's what annoys me. Everyone is so quick to say their dogs are part of the family, but the second one snaps at a kid, out the door it goes. What's worse is that it's usually the owners who are responsible for the behavior. So anyway, that wasn't even directed at you, but I just wanted to say if you are still trying to find a way to rehabilitate your dog, you could always look into a certified canine behaviorist (dog whisperer - NOT a dog trainer). They're fairly costly (my friend charges about $400 per class but one class is pretty much all it takes), but worth it if you want your GSP to stick around. Good luck!
edit to add price guesstimate.
I agree. We got a St. Bernard mix when he was just 5 weeks old. He was terrified of people. We would take him to the park and people would want to pet him, but he would hid behind me. I would tell him it's okay, meaning "it's okay the people won't hurt you." However what I didn't know I was doing was actually telling him his behavior was ok. We instilled that behavior in him unknowingly. We sent him to a specialized dog trainer for a month. It was VERY expensive, $1700 but it was so worth it. Our dogs are our part of our family. I hope they love this little girl and everyone gets along smoothly!
I can't stand when people correct others on the gender/sex wording. Who gives a rat's ass. You know what they mean.
I feel the same way when people get corrected for saying they went to their 20 week u/s to find the sex. No shit, that's not the MAIN purpose of the scan but can someone just say they wanted to get the scan so they can find out the sex without getting flamed/corrected?
As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
As a FTM, I can honestly say I had no clue what to expect from the A/S except for the fact that that was the particular time when we would get to find out the sex as well. That's all people ever mentioned about it. I had no clue til joining these boards that it would be a long scan where they measure and check everything about the baby. So yeah, I would have said, can't wait for our 20 week ultrasound to see what the baby is! because I wouldn't have known any differently. My OB didn't even mention that that was what they would do. Not the most helpful of doctors.... but we won't go into that.
@smushi: yes!!! I feel awful because I had no idea there was anything else to it, my doctor even only referred to it as an anatomy scan and didnt explain anything! I was so excited when the technician started pointing everything out and I was like "this is awesome, I didn't know you'd be checking everything!" I feel so naive because I'm a first time mom and I thought any complications would kind of just be sprung on me when the baby came out... Relieved now thoigh
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I don't necessarily feel bad for not knowing at first. It just makes me grumpy when people get flamed on here for being excited about finding out the sex, as if that's all there is to it, when they may not know that that is only 1/100 of it.... It's just assuming people are vapid and immature, when in reality, we just don't know yet I mean, heck, my sister has had two children, and she tells me everything pregnancy related, and even she didn't mention the fact that the big scan means all the important info. I don't think any of us on the internet forums really try to give each other the benefit of the doubt very often... It's more fun to be snarky and cutting. And then we wonder why people react negatively to it...
I think women who allow their husbands to dictate what they eat while pregnant have issues. Seriously. I'm all for having a healthy discussion about food safety, potential risks and deciding TOGETHER on what you each feel comfortable with, but at the end of the day, your judgment should be trusted. If your husband finds you so irresponsible that he has to control what you eat, maybe he shouldn't have gotten you pregnant at all.
I would straight up Chuck Norris my husband's face if he ever had the audacity to say 'you can't/aren't eating that'.
MY DH would be in the hospital too!
A smart man should know better than question anything his pregnant wife eats or says a smart woman raises her son to say "honey, you are gorgeous, here's another brownie sundae" and "can I massage your back and feet again tonight"
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I think women who allow their husbands to dictate what they eat while pregnant have issues. Seriously. I'm all for having a healthy discussion about food safety, potential risks and deciding TOGETHER on what you each feel comfortable with, but at the end of the day, your judgment should be trusted. If your husband finds you so irresponsible that he has to control what you eat, maybe he shouldn't have gotten you pregnant at all.
I would straight up Chuck Norris my husband's face if he ever had the audacity to say 'you can't/aren't eating that'.
because of our previous issues, when i got pregnant this time we decided to do EVERYTHING by the book so that if something went wrong we wouldn't be able to blame ourselves. So he would be a little more contentious of what I was eating and if it was on the "do not eat" list he'd say something. It's not that he thought I was irresponsible, it was just something we agreed onand he wanted to make sure no "rules" were being broken. It's his baby too. now that i'm well into 2nd trimester we are both getting lax on the rules because they are no so much a risk anymore. I will eat a deli sandwich or have a small glass of wine with no comments from him. It's more about the battles you are willing to fight.
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As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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aggression is always a good reason to rehome if you have children because the situation is potentially dangerous. i just can't stand to see pets be rehomed for other stupid reason
Totally agree, my lovely pit bull was left at the shelter for this reason "I have four kids, I don't have time" and while I understand that four kids is a lot of work, I know she didn't pop out all four after getting this dog... He's 2 and a half years old so I'm guessing the kids wanted a puppy and they didn't realize the work. I love him so much and he is such a sweet heart and so perfect, so I'm glad I found him
Then I peed on a stick...
BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
The excessive freaking out about whether you're getting a boy or girl might be a little annoying, but I don't think it's awful to focus on a question whose answer is always good, when the answers to the other questions are a little scary. Obviously I knew the point of the a/s was to make sure everything was cool with the baby-because there is a potential that the tech may have bad news for you at said scan, that's kind of a nerve wracking thing to focus on! Knowing the sex is an added bonus, but while you're waiting and making an effort not to worry about things you can't control, is it really that bad to choose to focus on, "we could find out boy or girl" which are clearly both good things, instead of, "oh shit what if something's wrong?"BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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As a PgALer this is one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm also Team Green so it infuriates me even more. At the end of the day, the most important part of your a/s is finding out the sex? I don't think so, how about making sure the baby has all the necessary organs to survive to adulthood happy and healthy, that's far more important.
I do agree that some people are a little bit more open and vocal about their similar thoughts, but c'mon now people, the gender of the baby is the last thing the docs care about at an a/s unless of course there's something wrong with your baby's xx or xy chromosomes (for instance they have an extra sex chromosome or are missing one).
It's just one of those things that always makes me roll my eyes. Obviously it's not the only reason for the scan and I'm pretty sure anyone with a brain knows that but I always see people getting corrected, flamed and judged for saying that they want to find out the sex.
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
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I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
Pretty sure the doctors office who is in charge of scheduling and performing said scan is usually quite informative about what care these women are receiving and why. I highly doubt anyone's OB is keeping quiet that the anatomy scan is for checking out the baby and making sure it's developing right.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
I've always seen it in response to people referring to the AS as the "gender scan/US" and I think corrections are warranted there. It's not true that everyone knows there's more to that US than finding out the sex. Some people legitimately think that 20 week US is to determine the sex and don't know the other very important reasons why it is performed. It's called an anatomy scan for a reason and people who specifically refer to it as the gender scan should be corrected IMO. It's not flaming, it's informative. This is not the same as someone being excited about finding out the sex at the AS.
Pretty sure the doctors office who is in charge of scheduling and performing said scan is usually quite informative about what care these women are receiving and why. I highly doubt anyone's OB is keeping quiet that the anatomy scan is for checking out the baby and making sure it's developing right.
My doctors office never went into specifics. There are many providers who are vague with stuff like that. I'm always told something along the lines of "we'll see you back in 4 weeks for the big ultrasound and find out whether or not it's a boy or girl!" and nothing about "we're going to make sure the baby has all its vital organs." So I'd say it's very likely there are women out there who legitimately do not know.
ETA: I'd be willing to say that MOST providers operate on a "don't ask don't elaborate" basis and are not openly informative about anything related to someone's specific care and testing. I don't see that with absolute clarity because I have no evidence on the matter, just speculation from personal experience as a patient and witnessing countless doctor/patient interactions in the hospital. This is what contributes to the empowerment movement of maternity care.
BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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I agree. We got a St. Bernard mix when he was just 5 weeks old. He was terrified of people. We would take him to the park and people would want to pet him, but he would hid behind me. I would tell him it's okay, meaning "it's okay the people won't hurt you." However what I didn't know I was doing was actually telling him his behavior was ok. We instilled that behavior in him unknowingly. We sent him to a specialized dog trainer for a month. It was VERY expensive, $1700 but it was so worth it. Our dogs are our part of our family. I hope they love this little girl and everyone gets along smoothly!
Then I peed on a stick...
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
MY DH would be in the hospital too!
A smart man should know better than question anything his pregnant wife eats or says
a smart woman raises her son to say "honey, you are gorgeous, here's another brownie sundae" and "can I massage your back and feet again tonight"
BFP #1 11/19/12 EDD: 7/25/13 Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d
BFP#2 3/1/13 EDD: 11/5/13 Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w D&C 4/11/13
Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.
BFP#3 8/5/13 EDD: 4/13/14 Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14.
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Then I peed on a stick...
because of our previous issues, when i got pregnant this time we decided to do EVERYTHING by the book so that if something went wrong we wouldn't be able to blame ourselves. So he would be a little more contentious of what I was eating and if it was on the "do not eat" list he'd say something. It's not that he thought I was irresponsible, it was just something we agreed onand he wanted to make sure no "rules" were being broken. It's his baby too. now that i'm well into 2nd trimester we are both getting lax on the rules because they are no so much a risk anymore. I will eat a deli sandwich or have a small glass of wine with no comments from him. It's more about the battles you are willing to fight.
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette