How's the telling people your prego going?

1stbabyohmy1 · December 2013

Hubby and I had a plan to tell each of our parents individually at a certain time along with a couple of our friends, and then a picture of the 12 week ultrasound for the great grandmas to open up at the same time at xmas to let rest of fam know and then let facebook world know on New Years, as we will be 14 weeks by then and out of 1st trimester. However there has been some "hiccups".

My mom was starting to piece things together the day before we told her. She still seemed surprised and liked the way we told her. (6 weeks)

His parents came over for dinner and the surprise went well for that too ( 10 weeks)

My best friend I told a few days before his parents because she was in town and wouldn't be back until March and that went well.

Here's where things started messing up... at a cookie party I was at this past Sun, my sister in law was looking at my mother in laws camera because she had just took a bunch of pics of my nephew and she was reviewing the pics, and there was a pic on there of my hubby and I holding up brownies announcing we were prego to his parents. She screamed and showed me the picture. I flipped out and realized that since the cookie party was small this year and there was only 1 person there that didn't know and she was my mother in laws best friend, I decided to tell her too. I just was praying that my sister in law didn't tell my husbands brother and no one else says anything either because we really wanted to keep it a surprise a little bit longer for most people and didn't want anyone finding out through others. Then I got news this week that our xmas plans have changed and now there are less people at xmas this year and it's at a different location. Still have a plan with the grandmas just looks like we have to let some other people know by phone now as they won't be there. Praying that everyone is quiet for 2 more weeks!

How about you??

1982Babies · December 2013

Only my best friend and DH know.

starlight0412 · December 2013

Well we've told only close family and friends yet some how a bunch of other people have found out (i.e we shouldn't have told DH's loud mouth sister). So at this point in time more people know than I would like. But as long as things go well I'm not complaining. It's kind of nice that people know because they've been very supportive and are sharing in our excitment.

ashtonblair123 · December 2013

My BF, SIL, Mom, and DH know. Pretty much everyone else will find out when I decide to announce on FB because they all have big mouths and can't be trusted with secrets.

RichLab · December 2013

well our close family and friends know, and my uncle got really excited and posted it on FB so that saved me a few more awkward phone calls :-) our families did us the favor of spreading the news out to other family members, so it has been really good :-) we still dont look or feel pregnant, so i always feel weird telling people when i still ahve a hard tiem believeing it lol our little Rockstar is staying quiet for now, im sure eventually they will come out with a BANG!

knitsandgiggles · December 2013

In addition to DH's parents, my "parents," my best friend, and a smattering of my coworkers, there is probably everyone at DH's job because he accidentally dropped a "well, I would like to be home at that time to spend time with my wife and kids" during a meeting. The slip up was pounced on and he is neither confirming or denying.

Nothing on Facebook until mid-January at the earliest though.

helloblueeyes · December 2013

So far the only people who i've told (after the initial my fam, his fam) is one family friend that was with us on thanksgiving, my friend on the other side of the country and a couple coworkers.

I'm thinking i'll probably post something like merry xmas from me, DH, animals and the baby on facebook on xmas just to get it over with. Both my mom and my sis keep bugging me about when they can tell people and i'm sick of it.

biglewzer · December 2013

1stbabyohmy1 said:

Hubby and I had a plan to tell each of our parents individually at a certain time along with a couple of our friends, and then a picture of the 12 week ultrasound for the great grandmas to open up at the same time at xmas to let rest of fam know and then let facebook world know on New Years, as we will be 14 weeks by then and out of 1st trimester. However there has been some "hiccups".
My mom was starting to piece things together the day before we told her. She still seemed surprised and liked the way we told her. (6 weeks)
His parents came over for dinner and the surprise went well for that too ( 10 weeks)
My best friend I told a few days before his parents because she was in town and wouldn't be back until March and that went well.
Here's where things started messing up... at a cookie party I was at this past Sun, my sister in law was looking at my mother in laws camera because she had just took a bunch of pics of my nephew and she was reviewing the pics, and there was a pic on there of my hubby and I holding up brownies announcing we were prego to his parents. She screamed and showed me the picture. I flipped out and realized that since the cookie party was small this year and there was only 1 person there that didn't know and she was my mother in laws best friend, I decided to tell her too. I just was praying that my sister in law didn't tell my husbands brother and no one else says anything either because we really wanted to keep it a surprise a little bit longer for most people and didn't want anyone finding out through others. Then I got news this week that our xmas plans have changed and now there are less people at xmas this year and it's at a different location. Still have a plan with the grandmas just looks like we have to let some other people know by phone now as they won't be there. Praying that everyone is quiet for 2 more weeks!
How about you??

I think it's impossible to keep this a secret when you opt for this trickle down effect of telling people. Typically, when you pick and choose who you tell over the course of a month, your big surprise becomes a fail.

seells · December 2013

We are telling DHs parents and my Dad and step mom at Christmas. My best friends all know, DHs best friend knows. (He's married to DHs cousin who CANT keep a secret so he hasn't told her)

Once my MIL in law knows she will tell the rest of the family. There is no way she can keep a secret.

shanaynerz · December 2013

We've told our parents, our brothers, my best friend, and a few other close friends. After my doctor appointment Friday I'm tempted to tell my two other best friends, since I'll be seeing them around Christmas anyways.

alyssa719 · December 2013

Wow. Sounds like we're the only ones keeping completely quiet. We haven't told any of our friends or family currently.

I finished putting together our Christmas presents that will tell my mom and his dad yesterday, and I dunno what he's doing for his mom but it should be at Christmas also. We'll send out cards after that to our close family/friends, and hope it trickles since if I put it on FB, it won't be for a long time.

cakebatter27 · December 2013

DH and our parents. Telling my bff in person this weekend. If everything goes well next week we will tell my sister and bil at Christmas. Work at 13 weeks and everyone else at 20.

hutsellwilson · December 2013

My mom and step-dad, DW's parents, and out siblings know plus a few very close friends. We're waiting to tell my dad and step-mom until right before Christmas (step-mom has perpetual diarrhea of the mouth and wouldn't respect our request to not tell anyone, which would put me in a pregnancy hormone-fueled tailspin likely resulting in hurt feelings and/or bodily injury). We've been telling close friends in person, as we see them. We'll make a big announcement around Christmas, which is pretty close to the end of the first tri. Telling people has gone wonderfully--everyone has been so excited and full of love for us and LO.

tourqeyes · December 2013

1982Babies said:
Only my best friend and DH know.

SexyB we know. What r we chopped liver?

tourqeyes · December 2013

Parents siblings and very close friends. Plus a few random strangers

AnnaMPAdams · December 2013

We've told our parents and best friends, but it was a nightmare with the family. My parents wanted to know why we waited so long to tell them about their grandchild and scolded me. They also wanted to know if we told DH's parents first. (We didn't.) DH's family was excited but his mom won't keep her mouth shut even though we keep telling her not to tell. She just keeps telling more and more people and then apologizing every time. I wish we had waited to tell, because honestly everybody wants to make it all about them. I'm too hormonal to be nice to these people.

Lola825 · December 2013

Only my parents know for now. My DR is a close family friend and my mom is a maternity nurse so I was afraid she would find out before I could tell her.

Our families will find out on Xmas, we may never share it on Facebook. That's to be determined still.

mlebates · December 2013

Only my parents, my uncle (because he lives with them), and my BFF know. Oh and my May 2012 mommas know. I'm sending Christmas cards out next week to announce to my 3 brothers, and their families, and his parents, and 3 of his siblings.

Everyone else will have to wait until 25weeks. (April 1st

)

Yingyanglove · December 2013

We are sharing this announcement with family for Christmas

AngieO26 · December 2013

We told both our parents the day after we found out at about 4 weeks. Super early but we've been trying for a while and they both knew our struggles and thought it would be best to have support if anything happened. I also told my sister and brother that day and they we're very excited. He has yet to tell his brothers we're waiting to tell everyone at Christmas. I'll be 10 weeks then. That's when we'll let our daughter know too (my Step-daughter). I told my two best friends at 6 weeks for the same reason we told our parents early too. Just keeping it off Facebook till the we're out of the first trimester.

redhotmama7 · December 2013

My mom knows and some friends and it's killing me to tell everyone else Christmas can't come soon enough!

gallifreygirl · December 2013

Our parents know, all of my siblings except for my youngest brother know (he's like 14 if something happens he would take it pretty hard so we'll tell him at Christmas). A few of my friends know, anyone who my MIL has come into contact knows but since she knows almost no one I know that doesn't really matter. And a few of my close family friends know, including the wife of my husband's boss though she's not telling him because we all know he can't keep a secret and if he found out then practically everyone I know would find out too.

mrichards212 · December 2013

April 1st announcement! That is funny! Love it!

Erin1510 · December 2013

We have told siblings and my husband's father because he came to visit us before Thanksgiving (his mom can't keep a secret so she won't know until after we tell my parents on Christmas Eve).

Random others know, like my best friend and some not so close friends (who aren't friends with us on Facebook so there's no risk of it leaking to my parents). We're officially announcing on Christmas Eve after my parents know.

rachoochoo2 · December 2013

We have only told family and a couple of my closest friends...and a bunch of random internet strangers. ;)Still trying to decide what the best time to share is and had planned to do it next week but my u/s today pushed my due date back a week so I would be 9 weeks next week instead of 10 so I may hold out at least another week.

AMcLaws · December 2013

Everybody and their flipping sister knows. Hubby was far too excited to keep it quiet. And I told work because I get VERY sick, and I wanted them to know what's up.

katmittens · December 2013

My best friend knows, my horse riding coach and one person I trust at work (wanted someone to help run support/interference in case I m/c at work) Oh and my hairdresser...they know everything don't they, haha! needed to tell a few people so I didn't explode.

So hard not to tell my parents, but I just can't trust them to keep quiet until 12weeks.

I'm the eldest of my generation on both my mum and dads side of family and the first to have a baby on both sides too. They have been dropping hints for grandkids the last 6 years since I met my husband. They are going to go nuts!!!

DH side there are quite a few little ones around so they will be excited, but not how I think my family will be. Can't wait to see reaction

8 sleeps to go.....plus a few more if we hold out to Christmas.

Jing22 · December 2013

We still have not told.

brooklynesque · December 2013

We've told our parents, an aunt and uncle whom I'm close to, my husband's sister and a few close friends. This is more people than we would have told by now if we had gotten pregnant the normal way but it was such a looong road to get here that people knew we were doing a DE IVF cycle. We're telling my brother and SIL over Christmas break but telling them to hold off on telling my 5yo nephew; I don't believe in telling little kids in the 1st tri because having to explain a loss to them would really, really suck.

mindy.jock · December 2013

I'm due at the end of July, we found out the week before Thanksgiving when we would be going away with my inlaws for 5 days, who are hardly tolerable without buckets of wine. Their diet generally consists if things like smoked salmon, soft cheese, so we thought it would be best to just let them know why I was being picky (and maybe I'd get a pass to nap.)

Since we were telling them we told my parents, who were excited and told to keep quiet. They told my sisters, my grandparents and lord knows who else. We went home for a Christmas festival last weekend, it's not the town I went to school in my my parents are very involved in the community. I was congratulated by at least one couple that I didn't know. At least they're excited for first grandbaby?

We told the inlaws out at dinner the first night we were on our thanksgiving trip. She smiled and said, "congratulations, when you go back to work we'd be happy to take the baby 1-2 days a week so you can do that." (Over my dead body.) He said "So you'll be back to work after what, 6 week?" (12, maybe never) I told him 12 and he was horrified by how long that is. Then he asked if my husband would be going across the country to elk hunt for 10 days (8 of which have no human contact) next September. When I pointed out that the baby would only be 6 weeks old fil said, "oh, that'll be a fight." That's pretty much how they responded. There was some reference to how they took 8 years to get pregnant and were surprised when it happened and it sounded like maybe fil thought he was off the hook. They proceeded to bring up how I needed to watch my weight for the next 4 days. That's about 80% of what they had to say.

I told my closest friends since I needed to vent while we were out there. I then told several ladies at work when I got back because they asked how the trip was. They were happy and supportive, which was nice after since a horrible holiday. I also know that if I were to miscarry, and seemed sad at work, these same people would ask what was wrong, because they care.

Hubby told the ladies he works with as one is about as far along as I and she shared that with us.

If there is a next time, I think I'll just stick with the secret.

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