What are your "regrets"?

Heather91011 · December 2013

I have a couple "regrets" one during pregnancy and one after LO was born.

I wish I would have taken more belly pictures throughout my pregnancy. I really wanted to do the shirt pictures or the fruit/veggie pictures but I didn't.

I also wish I would have gotten the NB pictures done with my photographer or ordered the ones from the hospital.

Do you ladies have anything you wish you would have done?

psychdoc12 · December 2013

All my regrets are things beyond my control. Mostly being separated from her multiple times.

More pictures is always a good thing.

acethebase · December 2013

I wanted to get maternity pictures done in the worst way but things kept getting in our way. Also I regret blowing a whole bunch of money on things he didn't even use or need. People were so right when they said babies don't really need alot but no, apparently I love throwing away money @-)

MrsStuessyWI · December 2013

I wish I would have stood up a little more to the Drs and nurses in regards to DD. I mean, they took her away immediately to the NICU without really giving me much info. They said DH couldn't come with her right away and then started giving her sugar water and formula in the NICU without asking. And when they did tell me I was in such a daze I didn't even ask why or really ask why they were doing anything. Her NICU stay was completely pointless after the first couple hours and I wish I would have stood up a little more and maybe she would have been with me sooner.

And to this day I still don't totally get what was wrong with her in the first place.

deedee1017 · December 2013

I also wish I would have taken belly pictures, or at least just more pictures of me pregnant.

I also regret staying with my ob and wish I would have trusted my gut and went elsewhere. Baby and I are healthy but I just feel like he did what was in his best interest and most convenient for him.

Slap8out · December 2013

I have the same regrets, but if I have another baby and I do actually take more pictures will it cause problems?!
I wish I would have loved my pregnant body more, knowing now that I lost all the weight and then some.

Edit: can't type.

SnoopyLuv · December 2013

Not letting them place the third epidural for my VBAC. Maybe I could have done it or if I had a doula I could have handled the (unplanned) unmedicated labor. I've been struggling with the what ifs of her birth a lot in the past week. I chalk it up to my depression.

I wish I had exercised too. And I'm still pissed I didn't do family maternity pictures. I regret that I never forced my dad to feel the baby kick. He probably wouldn't have fought me towards the end.

ballygirl · December 2013

I wish I had gotten some good newborn photos. We got some from the hospital but they were rushed and didn't cone out very good.

sleepy33 · December 2013

I regret letting my H tell our nurse at the hospital that we didn't want her to take the baby to the nursery for a couple of hours for a rest. I kept thinking that I'd convinced him I needed it, then he kept telling her no when she came back, until I finally had an ungodly sobbing meltdown. I think our poor nurse probably thought I had the world's biggest ass for a husband, really he was just nervous about the baby being out of our sight and wasn't really thinking about me not getting solid sleep.

taylormarie923 · December 2013

I wish I had showed DH how to take photos on the iPhone so the birth pictures weren't a blurry mess.

DETrent · December 2013

We waited around too long to have newborn photos done professionally. Sads.

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MtnChickaD · December 2013

I regret letting my ILs stay with us so long (total ~3wks) even though I was unhappy with the situation. I really think it hindered bonding between LO and DH in those first few weeks.

Era: also what @charlie1178 said. I went ten days over before being induced. Sometimes I think I should have waited longer but I wasn't sleeping so I don't know if that's realistic. I got an epi, pitocin is a cruel bitch, but wonder if I had just stuck it out I would have been fine. I was 8cm when they checked right after the epi. One of my nurses totally psyched me out saying I probably wouldn't deliver before 7pm when I came in at 5am. Delivered at 2:48, what a douche, I regret letting her get in my head.

MrsStuessyWI · December 2013

Also, I wish I had let me mom in the delivery room. There was miscommunication between me, my mom and the hospital. I had told them to please keep my mom updated, if she asked for updates but for some reason they wouldn't tell her even after I told them they could and should. Now I wish I would have just let her in the room. I know she would have respected us if we had asked her to leave at any point. I am totally letting her in for my next baby. Also, all modesty TOTALLY goes out the window so why not.

MissLauraPants · December 2013

Not too big of deal but I wish I had taken more pictures in the baby with the family and me in it.

I wish I had told people to come visit me on the second day of the hospital because they really did not care about us that day so we were just sitting there bored.

I wish I had pumped sooner.

I wish I had not let me mom in the labor room although it was very short and probably out of my control at that point.

I wish I had wore makeup the day of!!! Lol I had no idea he would come that day or that fast.

caseyp10 · December 2013

Newborn photos.

yesthisiskim0401 · December 2013

Cave Buffy Spin I regret nothing photo Buffyspinregretnothing.gif

Kidding.
I regret not documenting my pregnancy better - pictures, writing down what happened and when (first kicks and such), etc.

MrsAxilla · December 2013

Both kiddos have the same shirt from our favorite band. I really wanted to get a picture of them together both wearing it, but I didn't and now baby's head is too big to fit it over.

EmJ&B · December 2013

I wish I hadn't given in to DH and left the hospital on day 2. Looking back, an extra day might have really helped me

Welshgirl12 · December 2013

I wish I had thought ahead and asked someone to take the "traditional" post cesarean photo of me with baby and DH! And that I checked photos after they were taken because 90% of the ones with me I have my boobs hanging out. Not family friendly!

psychdoc12 · December 2013

I do wish sometimes that I'd tried harder to push, even though the OB said even after the C-section that she thought a vaginal birth would have been impossible. Avoiding the C-section complications would have changed everything. There will always be what-ifs.

Pickle123 · December 2013

Not really a regret since it was beyond my control....but I wish my mom could have been there for the birth. I just went too fast and she got there an hour after he was born.

mancila60 · December 2013

I wish I would have taken more pictures as I grew.

Also I wish I wouldn't have let H go to work the day LO was born. He almost missed the birth.

And I wish I wouldn't have rushed myself to go into labor.

StefMurph · December 2013

MrsAxilla said:
Both kiddos have the same shirt from our favorite band. I really wanted to get a picture of them together both wearing it, but I didn't and now baby's head is too big to fit it over.

Cut a slit up the back and take the pic!

I regret not having more bump pics or taking on right before they induced me.

I regret not fighting the nurses taking my baby to the NICU because she was cold. I was still pretty drugged and felt like I had no choice. Looking back, I know that the room was cold and I should've told my family to keep her wrapped up well....and we shouldn't have asked for help turning on the heater for her. It landed her 30 hours in the NICU --unnecessarily (IMO).

I regret not having a written birth plan. I went far too long in pain and my husband and sister sucked ass and didn't think to ask for meds for me--again, I was drugged on magnesium because of my bp spiking so I don't remember most of the day.

Eta- I also regret not have the traditional c section pic of my head, baby and dh. I didn't get to see her for an hour (once I was back in my l&d room), which doesn't bother me, but not having that pic of our new family kills me.

knottied2a666e3e38a2a87 · December 2013

I wish I would have eaten better and exercised more during pregnancy so I wouldn't be in such a weight battle now. I wish we would have done the newborn photos sooner (he was 5 weeks) so that I could have gotten the announcements out sooner. Wish I would have journaled more about the pregnancy. Wish I could have toughed it out for the epidural blood patch after it all went wrong...I suffered needlessly for two weeks just because I was freaked. Wish I would have waited longer to DTD after birth.

kcs7 · December 2013

MrsAxilla said:
Both kiddos have the same shirt from our favorite band. I really wanted to get a picture of them together both wearing it, but I didn't and now baby's head is too big to fit it over.

I was glancing thru these and saw yours...if you dont mind ruining it, could you make a cut in the back to make room to get it over lo's head and still get your picture??eta I didnt read thru all posts before posting!

I see others suggested too!

My regret has been since he has been born...not documenting better how he grew and firsts...

HFrizzle · December 2013

DETrent said:
We waited around too long to have newborn photos done professionally. Sads. (

This!

sweettooth87 · December 2013

Totally not getting a family picture at the hospital and not taking more newborn photos. We got professional ones that are amazing, but I would trade them in a second for more candid ones taken by DH and me.

bkeane619 · December 2013

I regret having my kids so late. We have been together for 11 years. At least financially we were in a good place to have them. I might have regretted them earlier not having enough to support them so you never know.

asilwhite · December 2013

I regret not having the natural birth I wanted and planned for with Bradley classes and a doula. After I got the epi after bring in labor for 24 hours and almost no amniotic fluid left LOs HR dropped, my BP dropped and I almost had an emergency c. I blame myself for possibly putting my son's life in danger and I feel like a failure for being the only client my doula had that didn't go naturally.

I know in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal but it was important to me and it still bothers me 10 weeks later. Ugh. I couldn't get pregnant or deliver naturally, my body sucks!

Also I wish I had worked out more.

Kessho · December 2013

I regret not eating better and exercising while pregnant. Also not getting a belly band during third trimester baby was heavy! I regret not getting husband more involved/ forcing him to read material.

I regret not putting I the order for my pump sooner, for letting the nurse treat me so badly about feeding Jace, for eating so much of my mom's cooking for two months, for gaining back the weight I lost.

sooner1981 · December 2013

Just FYI--you can always ask to sit down with your little one's treating neonatologist and get a run down of the treatment that they received while in the NICU and why each test/procedure was ordered.

It may help you come to grips with it faster if you have a better understanding of why everything that was done was considered necessary at the time?

KerCo51 · December 2013

I definitely regret not taking more pics during my pregnancy. I regret not being more adamant for an ultrasound when I told the doctors that i though DD was breech. Even though it may not have changed things. I regret being so nervous about having a c-section, it wasnt a big deal. I regret not kicking the ass of the nurse who gave DD a bottle in the hospital, because she said she was a "lazy eater."

sweettwilight16 · December 2013

I wish, when DH was taking pics right after she was born, that he got a little video. And there were some pics I wish I had gotten at my shower. My sister took a bunch, but they were mostly of me opening gifts, the cupcakes, etc. I wish I posed for more with friends & family.

Nothing major though. I'm pretty happy with how everything turned out

Inn2 · December 2013

I wish my body would have cooperated better.

I wish I had not made so many mistakes BFing/my body would cooperate more.

I wish I wasn't one and done.

MrsTucker2011 · December 2013

I wish I had asked them to call us to approve visitors before they let them up to our room.
I really regret my mom getting the stomach flu just hours after I went into labor. She couldn't see him or me till he was almost a week old. :-(

calibr8te · December 2013

I regret not having my real camera constantly attached to me because most of my pics are taken with my iphone. Quality is subpar and he will never be that small again. Even though we did a professional newborn photo shoot, there are so many cute ones that we have but are not family album quality.