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In a bit of a pickle...

sarabentleyyysarabentleyyy member
edited December 2013 in Baby Showers
First time mom here. I am due March 6th. I live in Michigan and my only immediate family lives in Tennessee and Florida.

My sister in law wanted to throw my baby shower for me but the only time my family can get off is the week after Christmas.... So they want to hold it December 28th.... Is it just me, or is that just make no sense? Not to sound selfish but everyone will be broke from Christmas, have family in town, or be out of town. I know it's the only time my immediate family could be there for a baby shower but does that mean I should give up having a good first baby shower with gifts and friends?

I thought about just having this one with just my family and then another closer to my due date with friends and coworkers (most my friends are out of state as well) but I know it's considered rude for the mother to be to throw her own shower...

I don't know what to do! :[
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    Joy2611 said:
    somerandomchick said:
    I understand you're concerned about everyone being out of town but you sound kind of entitled worried about everyone being "broke" from Christmas and not able to buy you a good enough gift...
    Um, yes.  I *definitely* got this vibe, too. 
    You're not the only one. 

    Bottom line, they know you're having a baby and likely have allotted money already for it.  Honestly, who is to say that they won't send you something closer to your due date? I'd rather have a giftless shower with close family than soliciting everyone to travel again (more expense on their part) or to have a shower without family there.
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  • dragossoul84dragossoul84 member
    I'm sorry if I'm wrong but you sounds super gift grabby. I think instead of worrying how much people have to spend on you you should worry about spending time with people you love
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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member
    We threw my SIL's baby shower during Christmas week and it was beautiful.  Everyone came and she got plenty of gifts.  Just accept it and be gracious.
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  • sarabentleyyysarabentleyyy member
    edited December 2013
    My main concern isn't the gifts, so I'm sorry if it came across that way. I know if I was unable to show up to a party with something I would feel bad. I don't want to put people in that situation, of having to plan in my baby shower around a family holiday or not wanting to come because of a money restraint or something like that.

    The only family coming into town to the baby shower would be my brother, sister in law, and mother. And they had this trip planned prior to my pregnancy so it's not a special trip just for the baby shower. I just don't want it to be us three after my sister in law went through a bunch of planning. I do not want her to disappointed either.
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  • EmeraldCity84EmeraldCity84 member
    I read this more as not wanting guests to feel resentful of having to buy another gift immediately after they just had Christmas. 
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  • neverblushedneverblushed member
    If you were my friend or relative, and you were only going to be in town around the holidays, I'd expect that your hostess would schedule your shower around that time.

    I hope people aren't so broke after Christmas that they can't attend a baby shower!
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  • MMason12MMason12 member
    Joy2611 said:
    somerandomchick said:
    I understand you're concerned about everyone being out of town but you sound kind of entitled worried about everyone being "broke" from Christmas and not able to buy you a good enough gift...
    Um, yes.  I *definitely* got this vibe, too. 
    That's exactly the vibe I got too!!  It amazes me how many First Time Mom's find it the responsibility of every one else to buy their baby stuff. 
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  • TwiggymommyTwiggymommy member
    Not to be a bitch... But you made your self sound like a spoiled brat.

    Accept the shower as is or decline and not have one. It's really not that hard.
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