Not preparing until baby is born?

figgs0831 · December 2013

Am I the only one? Yes, we will have the basics needed to bring baby home, but that is it. I don't plan on doing a single thing until then. No shower, nothing. Am I the only superstitious (or paranoid) person here?

ksulli · December 2013

That was me last time except I had a shower, so I had pretty much everything we would need although I purchased none of it. Even the nursery furniture wasn't ordered until 36w, and delivered while I was home on leave.

Now that we're on round 2 I think all we need is new burp cloths, diapers and crib sheets.

Andrewsgal · December 2013

Honestly the last thing I would want to be doing with a newborn as a FTM is buying stuff. One on he things that made my life easier with both my kids is that I was 100% ready.

Nijay714 · December 2013

I'm doing the same thing! Not because of superstition though, but because of budgeting reasons.. This is our 2nd LO and one thing I learned from my first is I didn't need everything I purchased. Like I plan on buying a carrier right away, and purchasing a stroller later. I don't forsee myself going places that I'd need a stroller right away. So you'll be fine, just make sure you have your basics.

porterlove525 · December 2013

I'm paranoid too We're only getting very minimal things and a lot of stuff is being handed down to us, so I'll be holding off on bringing most of it into our house until after the baby is here (clothes, bureau, crib, highchair, swings, etc.). The joys of being team green are that our friends and family who are done having kids and want to get rid of all of their stuff are forced to wait until baby is here to drop off their goods because it could be a boy or a girl

I don't have a choice in not having a shower, even though I don't want one, my mother and sister are too excited and feel I deserve to celebrate this baby so they're having one for me. However, they're holding everything that I receive at my mum's house until I'm ready to bring it home.

We painted the nursery and plan to build some shelving in our closet for storage, but like I said, 95% of our stuff is coming as hand-me-downs (the joy of being the last of our family and friends to have kids) so the nursery will be pretty empty until April and I don't plan on buying many clothes at all.

LittleLady77 · December 2013

With twins they tell you to have everything ready by 28 weeks just in case. I'm following that advice. It's very rare to lose your baby after 24 weeks although it does happen. Ugh I don't even want to think about that.

thomas930 · December 2013

With your past I can understand the hesitation. Also, you really don't need much more than the necessities those first few weeks anyways.

jsoubel · December 2013

I personally couldn't do it, but my recommendation is to join Amazon Mom/Prime and then everything that you need can be easily ordered online, shipped to your door for free, and you can just focus on LO.

Smores730 · December 2013

My 1st came at 36 weeks and I was totally unprepared thinking I had at least another week. I think it worked out better for me though. I was able to take out what I needed and realize what I didn't. Had I "prepared" I would have, for example, felt the need to prewash the 20 bazillion blankets I was given when in fact I only used a couple and exchanged the rest for what I knew now I would definitely use.
With 2 babies though you are going to be very, very busy the first few weeks and leaving the house with them by yourself is probably going to feel overwhelming for a while. It was easier for me with a singlet to take a trip to BRU/Target and grab things.

Mustardseed2007 · December 2013

Well I'm a STM, and I am planning on buying nothing. I have a lot, so that helps. It is superstition this time around, no doubt about it.

snowclouds · December 2013

I think the most useful thing a STM on the bump told me before I had K was how overwhelming that first week is. I know that some cultures do this too and that's fine, but I would have a fully planned out registry and a registration to Amazon Prime so you can quickly order everything and add things as you need them. PPs are right...you don't need 20 blankets.

So if you want to do it this way just make a plan and list of what will need to be ordered and you can re-visit this after the birth to make sure you still want everything. It will make that first week a little less overwhelming as you get in the groove of motherhood and figure out BF and all of that.

jobabyyy · December 2013

I am only 23 weeks and I feel like I'm behind. I can't imagine waiting until after. I'm kind of a worrier type, though.

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