I ate a turkey hoagie

JennyBJen · December 2013

@rainydayluck I didn't ask any questions. Maybe you should read the previous threads before you throw your opinion. And I won't let anyone dictate if I stay or decide to leave.

JennyBJen · December 2013

@GhostMonkey ...please show me where I said I disliked everyone that is here...I stay cause it's my right.

And have you had a miscarriage because of something that you ate to be able to claim this "fact"? And actually early miscarriage account for 50 percent of miscarriage, so they can and do reoccur. I see you on these boards all the time maybe you need to humble yourself and look at the loss boards.

And from what I noticed in your previous posts on other threads your not even pregnant...is that true? What nothing better to do with you time than to come pregnancy boards and berate people that are.

I pity you.

ThereBeDragons · December 2013

JennyBJen said:

@GhostMonkey ...please show me where I said I disliked everyone that is here...I stay cause it's my right. And have you had a miscarriage because of something that you ate to be able to claim this "fact"? And actually early miscarriage account for 50 percent of miscarriage, so they can and do reoccur. I see you on these boards all the time maybe you need to humble yourself and look at the loss boards. And from what I noticed in your previous posts on other threads your not even pregnant...is that true? What nothing better to do with you time than to come pregnancy boards and berate people that are. I pity you.

I'll jump in. As you can see by my signature- I've got a loss card to play too. Even a late loss. Pain Olympics yo.

Most people who have an early miscarriage won't go on to have 2 or more. Most people who get pregnant carry to term. You and me? We're not most people. We are part of the special 2% that has had a really horrible thing happen beyond the first trimester. As such- we get to freak out more reasonably (my psychiatrist calls this Rational Fear) and get a lot more cautious about our babies. We get to make our spouses carry the groceries. We get to refuse to go out in crowds because we might get sick and getting sick might make us lose the baby. We get to place and have placed upon us all kinds of extra restrictions and precautions.

What we don't get to be is sanctimonious about how the other 98% of the population handles a low risk pregnancy.

People have been having babies since before the dawn of civilization. There is an unbroken chain of successful breeding behind you that goes back to the first cavemen who got it on while running from wooly mammoths. Having babies is surprisingly hard to screw up unless you have other medical issues. Issues that, 100 years ago, would have resulted in simply not having children. It's a goddamn modern medical miracle that some of us can have children at all. And those of us who are medical miracles don't have any special right to look down on those who get it done as easily and efficiently as those cavemen did.

I wish you the best in your pregnancy, but for the love of kittens- remember that we're special and don't judge the rest of the world from the same set of restrictions we have.

momthatlifts · December 2013

@GhostMonkey ...please show me where I said I disliked everyone that is here...I stay cause it's my right. And have you had a miscarriage because of something that you ate to be able to claim this "fact"? And actually early miscarriage account for 50 percent of miscarriage, so they can and do reoccur. I see you on these boards all the time maybe you need to humble yourself and look at the loss boards. And from what I noticed in your previous posts on other threads your not even pregnant...is that true? What nothing better to do with you time than to come pregnancy boards and berate people that are. I pity you.

Most miscarriages don't occur because someone at a hoagie sandwich. And I don't need to go over to the loss board to "humble" myself, it doesn't make me feel better looking at other woman's losses.

spacepotatoes · December 2013

A lot of women here have had losses. I would bet cash money that not one of them miscarried because they ate deli meat or had one glass of wine. It just doesn't work that way.

Also, if I'm white trash because I plan to have half a glass of wine at Christmas, which my doctor completely supports, then yee-frickin'-haw!

spacepotatoes · December 2013

melOHdy said:

Have we asked if @Jenandtim828 is related to @jessandtim?

I have to do a double take every time I see her screen name because I always think it is jessandtim.

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momthatlifts · December 2013

Or the same person

JennyBJen · December 2013

@ThereBeDragons I am definitely not judging and only wish the best for everyone in their pregnancy...easy or not.

I also understand that we are the minority when it comes to late losses, thank goodness for that statistic.

My only point is that I don't understand the rude comments when a first time mama is just looking for some support. Whether her concern be founded or not, this is a community of support from what I understood and she was getting some mean comments for no reason.

I don't live in a bubble and don't recommend it. There was no medical reason for the loss of my son and I am aware that there was nothing I or anyone else could have done to prevent it. It was Gods will and I trust that.

I just don't relate to or understand mean remarks for no reason.

Good luck to you as well.

Manateearmz · December 2013

I appreciate the advice and snark I received in the 1st tri. I realized that I needed to calm my tits about a few things. Thanks to the bluntness of many ladies I realized that I could enjoy many things in my pregnancy. JFC I wondered once if it was ok to crack my knuckles...ya imagine how that would've went over if I asked it in here.

It helps first time moms to realize they are overreacting about certain things. It will cause you to be more laid back once the kid is out of you. Trust me, chill out now or it will be a rough road ahead.

Meghanalewis · December 2013

I agree!!! I'm very disappointed reading these replies. I view these boards as a source of support (one that helped me through a miscarriage). Someone should be able to post a legitimate question without being made to feel stupid. Come on ladies we're supposed to be supporting each other, not starring in Mean Girls preggo edition. SMH.

Manateearmz · December 2013

They're making a Mean Girls spaghetti sauce commercial?

Lame joke Sorrynotsorry

Meery82 · December 2013

Meghanalewis said:

I agree!!! I'm very disappointed reading these replies. I view these boards as a source of support (one that helped me through a miscarriage). Someone should be able to post a legitimate question without being made to feel stupid. Come on ladies we're supposed to be supporting each other, not starring in Mean Girls preggo edition. SMH.

Nope.

And do not use the term preggo. It's not a word. My ipad tried to autocorrect it to Oregon. So there you go.

Meghanalewis · December 2013

Damn ladies. Wow. Maybe there's another board you might feel more welcome on with your nastiness? I see you have children. Really setting a good example aren't we?

Meghanalewis · December 2013

And I can use whatever words I choose, regardless of whatever you or your iPad say.

PrimRoseMama · December 2013

Meghanalewis said:
Damn ladies. Wow. Maybe there's another board you might feel more welcome on with your nastiness? I see you have children. Really setting a good example aren't we?

Who says who is not welcome? Are you suddenly arbiter of who belongs here & who doesn't? It's a free message board open to the public.

My kids understand that straight forward does not equal rude. You missed that day of real life, it appears. Thank you for concerning yourself about the welfare of my kids though! Do you feel sorry for my husband too?

I'm LOL that you can "use whatever words you want to" but everyone else can't?

Twiggymommy · December 2013

I love this thread... Where's the popcorn gif?

yvanehtnioj · December 2013

BINGO! I have the I feel sorry for your children box, the this is supposed to be a support group box, the you guys are mean box, the Ghost Monkey isn't even pregnant box, and a bonus pain olympics box covered.

Meery82 · December 2013

Meghanalewis said:

Damn ladies. Wow. Maybe there's another board you might feel more welcome on with your nastiness? I see you have children. Really setting a good example aren't we?

You annoyed me when using the term preggo, but now I think you're just fucking obnoxious. Take your glittery rainbow ass on over to BabyGaga or somewhere and leave us to our 'nastiness'. And oh, our poor children! They have it so bad with us hateful mothers.

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Cranang · December 2013

RedheadBaker said:

JennyBJen said:

@GhostMonkey ...please show me where I said I disliked everyone that is here...I stay cause it's my right. And have you had a miscarriage because of something that you ate to be able to claim this "fact"? And actually early miscarriage account for 50 percent of miscarriage, so they can and do reoccur. I see you on these boards all the time maybe you need to humble yourself and look at the loss boards. And from what I noticed in your previous posts on other threads your not even pregnant...is that true? What nothing better to do with you time than to come pregnancy boards and berate people that are. I pity you.

Considering you've never posted on the Loss boards, I'll thank you to not invite people to come on over and gawk at us.

Yeah, I lost my son back in June. Had absolutely nothing to do with me eating lunchmeat or drinking a half-glass of wine (both of which my doctor supports for all his patients, regardless of their loss history). Unless you know something my OB and perinatologist don't?

Hey, don't bring us "loss" people into it. That's crap. My loss was not caused by a little wine here and there and my cravings of turkey sandwiches. And yes, after I lost my first daughter at 37 weeks, I did the same things again when I got pregnant a few months later.

Cranang · December 2013

Bliss+Berry said:

Bliss+Berry said:

spacepotatoes said:

melOHdy said:

Have we asked if @Jenandtim828 is related to @jessandtim?

I have to do a double take every time I see her screen name because I always think it is jessandtim.

Every time I see her screen name, I just think here comes some more stupidity from a total fucking moron who has no fucking clue what she's talking about at.all.

Annnnnnddd, I just found out this genius is on my BMB now. Awesome. (insert the most massive eyeroll here).

@Bliss+Berry, you crazy bitch...gettin' yourself knocked up again!! :-) I kid...that's awesome. Congrats!!

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angelstar975 · December 2013

GhostMonkey said:

Meghanalewis said:

I agree!!! I'm very disappointed reading these replies. I view these boards as a source of support (one that helped me through a miscarriage). Someone should be able to post a legitimate question without being made to feel stupid. Come on ladies we're supposed to be supporting each other, not starring in Mean Girls preggo edition. SMH.

This was not a legitimate question. She already knew that it was stupid and what she was reading didn't apply to what she ate, and she asked it anyway.

This is not Kindergarten. There are stupid questions. And we are not your teacher that is paid to be nice to you.

Um, no. What I read DID apply to what I ate. It just seems that what I read was incorrect.

angelstar975 · December 2013

RedheadBaker said:

angelstar975 said:

GhostMonkey said:

Meghanalewis said:

I agree!!! I'm very disappointed reading these replies. I view these boards as a source of support (one that helped me through a miscarriage). Someone should be able to post a legitimate question without being made to feel stupid. Come on ladies we're supposed to be supporting each other, not starring in Mean Girls preggo edition. SMH.

This was not a legitimate question. She already knew that it was stupid and what she was reading didn't apply to what she ate, and she asked it anyway.

This is not Kindergarten. There are stupid questions. And we are not your teacher that is paid to be nice to you.

Um, no. What I read DID apply to what I ate. It just seems that what I read was incorrect.

FYI, not everything you read on the Interwebs is true.

Lol. Hence why I asked. But thanks!

mamaloaf · December 2013

This is the gift that just keeps on giving

Manateearmz · December 2013

DD knows what a ridiculous question is thanks to me. She also knows that the appropriate response is a blank stare. Blank stares don't translate well over the internet so I'm required to use small words and an enormous amount of sarcasm.

kbojo1221 · December 2013

You are fine! Hope it was a yummy sandwich. I either toast my sandwich or heat the meat in the microwave.

By the way, sorry for some of the rude comments people were making. I think people forget the point of this board. Your question is not dumb(especially if this is your first pregnancy).

Manateearmz · December 2013

@nellybluth I'm sorry for the people who feel the need to apologize on the behalf of others.

Does that balance it out?

flerlgirl · December 2013

TeenQueenMob · December 2013

Manateearmz said:

They're making a Mean Girls spaghetti sauce commercial? Lame joke Sorrynotsorry

It's not a commercial, it's a visual advertisement TYVM.

livkight · December 2013

I think that with your first "better safe than sorry" is the mantra most of us live by. I think it shows a bit of good ol' selflessness to consider what can and cannot provide optimal health for our babies. That said, don't worry too much.

Worrying and stressing about everything you crave/eat probably isn't healthy either.

Hope you don't take some of the pointless rude comments to heart. I think this could be a great and nurturing place to learn and grow together.

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imakeeff0rts · December 2013

NellyBluth said:

livkight said:

I think that with your first "better safe than sorry" is the mantra most of us live by. I think it shows a bit of good ol' selflessness to consider what can and cannot provide optimal health for our babies. That said, don't worry too much. Worrying and stressing about everything you crave/eat probably isn't healthy either. Hope you don't take some of the pointless rude comments to heart. I think this could be a great and nurturing place to learn and grow together.

Really? So pregnant women who eat lunch meat or sushi are just selfish. Gotcha.

Kind of like that time I ate cinnamon toast crunch. I think @PrimRoseMama remembers that...

SGC29 · December 2013

livkight said:

I think that with your first "better safe than sorry" is the mantra most of us live by. I think it shows a bit of good ol' selflessness to consider what can and cannot provide optimal health for our babies. That said, don't worry too much. Worrying and stressing about everything you crave/eat probably isn't healthy either. Hope you don't take some of the pointless rude comments to heart. I think this could be a great and nurturing place to learn and grow together.

This is pretty silly. No one who chooses to have deli meat or caffeine or whatever else is selfish. Which is basically what you are implying. I get that being a first time mom you may want to over analyze and worry about every.little.thing, but I promise you it is a complete and total waste of time. It only takes a tiny bit of common sense to realize what are true dangers to your fetus and what are not.

PrimRoseMama · December 2013

Eating sushi & deli meat is selfish? Lol! What a crock of shit.

livkight · December 2013

you'll notice that I didn't say anything about what IS selfish. I for one intend to enjoy sushi, and I've already eaten deli turkey and diet coke. chill out, ladies. yeesh.

aearish88 · December 2013

wow. good thing this is a support group for women who are going through something completely foreign to them.

i definitely wouldn't worry about it. and definitely don't worry about these complete assholes on here.

you were concerned. you wanted to make sure you weren't harming your child. asking for advice shouldn't be reason to be treated the way some of these assholes are treating you.

aearish88 · December 2013

spacepotatoes said:

JKBMA2014 said:

GhostMonkey said:

Manateearmz said:

Boy I can't wait to rejoin the tri boards. I really can't fucking wait to rub my pregnant sushi, feta cheese, deli meat loving belly all up in this bitch.

It almost makes me want to get pregnant again so I can post a 3rd tri pic where I am eating sushi, drinking a glass of wine and flipping off the camera.

Almost.

I actually had a glass of wine on Thanksgiving- No shame either

I am having some at Christmas. And I am excited about it.

you should all be so proud. a mother is trying to do everything possible to protect her baby, and this is how you react? and you are some child (or childrens) role model?! No wonder our kids are all growing up with such disrespect and lack of compassion. GET A GRIP.

aearish88 · December 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

wow. good thing this is a support group for women who are going through something completely foreign to them.
i definitely wouldn't worry about it. and definitely don't worry about these complete assholes on here.
you were concerned. you wanted to make sure you weren't harming your child. asking for advice shouldn't be reason to be treated the way some of these assholes are treating you.

Oh. This isn't a support group. It's against the TOS to call people assholes, just FYI. But I can say that you are ACTING like an asshole, which you are.

i'm an asshole? have you read the entire post? people are calling her a "dumb bitch" and much more. but I'M the asshole. ooookay.

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