Lying about baby's name?

MiaMyPuggle · December 2013

Are you lying to people about the name you're choosing or names you are possibly using?
I've been. And I've been judged on them! The exact reason why I'm not disclosing our name.
My grandmother said Cassidy reminds her of the 70's and Partridge Family and Hope is too religious...??? Ummm. This is why I'm not close to you, Nana.

Arrgcr · December 2013

My mom doesn't like Adalyn. STILL. Even though my auntie just died, I still told her 'I could give a rats ass. That's her name' this past week when I was down for the funeral. (I wasn't trying to upset my mom. I had been crying all day over losing a woman who I was very close to and snapped. I did apologize for my wording later.)

I got tired of negative comments and no one seeming to have ever heard the name. I let them know quite fast I could care less.

ScarlettDahlia · December 2013

We've been pretty open with our name choice, but I kind of wish we didn't share because of the comments.

Well, mainly my mom's comments. She is irrationally annoyed with our name choice and I have no idea why. And she's insisting on using Ellie as a nickname. Ummm, we're having a son. So no? And my dad can't remember what we're naming him and keeps calling him Isaac. I have no idea.

Deblondie1 · December 2013

We've been open about having a short list but no definite name. I wonder if family thinks we are keeping it from them. But since that isn't really our style, I doubt it. We just can't agree on what moniker to stick her with for the rest of her life.

thegosiers · December 2013

Even though we are definitely still deciding on a name, I still don't want to share our ideas with randoms. I don't need their unsolicited opinions!

MamaP19 · December 2013

I don't bother lying. My family blew it last time around - so no more privileged information for them. We told them a few that we had in mind for DD early on and couldn't believe how negative they were. MIL is the only one this time that knows the 3 names we are considering. We have a favorite, but likely won't pick for sure until we see him.

pinkyxboo · December 2013

We have a name but when people ask I just tell them we haven't decided yet. It's easier to say that then deal with the unwanted looks and the negative reactions.

megngregk · December 2013

I'm sorry you're getting rude remarks about the name (even if it is a fake). Hopefully they will be more receptive once LO is here. We have been openly sharing our name and haven't had any negative comments about it. Luckily everybody seems to like it.

A guy in my unit just had a baby a week ago and they named him Lincoln. Our section leader was a total jackass and kept saying "What kind of stupid name is that? Who names their kid Lincoln? That's a last name". He went on and on about it, and I could tell the other guy was getting really pissed. It pissed me off for him, and I finally had to tell my section leader to STFU.

ac1259 · December 2013

We've shared our name with anyone who has asked and we generally don't get negative comments but it's a fairly common name. DH's parent's actually prefer our middle name as a first name (which I would be OK with) but DH doesn't like it for a first name..We're happy with our choices though and haven't gotten too much kickback. and FTR @MiaMyPuggle- my girls' middle names are Joy and Grace...I feel like we could definitely get the "religious" comments but whatever..DH and I both went to a Christian college so a lot of our friends could care less:)

waterlily2k2 · December 2013

We just tell people that we have a couple names on our list and we want to wait to see what he looks like. I made the mistake of sharing the list with my sisters, and of course they had something to say about a couple of them. I made an even bigger mistake mentioning a name or two to MIL. She still thinks this LO should have my maiden name (also happens to be a first name) somewhere because DS has DH's name as his mn, so "it's only fair". I don't give a rats ass, and I actually don't like it for a name. I even told her that (in nicer words of course) and she is still pushing the issue. So now this one is either Willies Jeep or Number Two. She actually thought DH was very serious when he told her about Willies Jeep. I've also heard the story about how DH got his name a million times.

CanadianGamerMom · December 2013

Before we were expecting, we had told people the names we had chosen (we have a list of 4-5 names). We have a definite name for our first boy and first girl, the other names are possible names for future kids. After people found out we were pregnant they asked what names we had picked, if we had any picked yet. I said yes, but we aren't telling anyone the names until baby's here. If you don't remember the names we told you, then you'll just have to wait! (No one remembered btw). Our names are non negotiable, so I didn't want to give people the opportunity to say anything negative about them. I'm not going to lie about it and say we don't know names, or tell them random ones. If people don't remember the names we've chosen, that's their fault. Can't say I never told you! haha

CeeJC121013 · December 2013

I have been telling people what the name is if they ask. I haven't had any pushback at all from friends, although the name we have chosen is pretty simple and I don't see why it would ruffle anyone's feathers. The only person who has said anything negative is my dad, who I expected this from because he's always super opinionated. He even made up his own names to call my niece and nephew because he didn't like theirs. I just roll my eyes at him. The parents get to choose the name, not the grandparents or anyone else. It doesn't bother me.

Tcbrannon222 · December 2013

That stinks that people would be so rude! I have told everyone LO's name and haven't heard rude comments well atleast to my face. Harper Clare! I could careless what others think. It's your baby!!!

RedSaffron · December 2013

It all depends on who ask. If its random strangers then I have no problem telling them the baby's name because I will never see them again. If its close friends and family, I just tell them we haven't decided yet. My MIL wants us to name the baby a combination between SO's and my name which would be Alchris (Al-Chris). Um yeah, hell no.

Shmiggles · December 2013

We learned our lesson about sharing names when BILs girlfriend got upset that we "stole her name". So now we just tell people we haven't decided and listen politely while they list hundreds of names

JaneW2 · December 2013

I've been saying to everyone except immediate family that I haven't picked a name yet, but in fact I picked out his name before he was even conceived. (Not sure what I would have named a girl, though.)

MamaP19 · December 2013

RedSaffron said:

It all depends on who ask. If its random strangers then I have no problem telling them the baby's name because I will never see them again. If its close friends and family, I just tell them we haven't decided yet. My MIL wants us to name the baby a combination between SO's and my name which would be Alchris (Al-Chris). Um yeah, hell no.

Seriously?!

Shannahbee · December 2013

I don't lie; when people ask if we've chosen a name, we say yes but that it will be a surprise when the baby is born. Nobody has pushed me on it yet!

Siblynika · December 2013

I don't see any point in lying about the name. Your child, your choice. As long as you and SO like the name, no one else's opinion really matters

Lawmax14 · December 2013

We originally were convinced it was a boy and mentioned a name that we loved to the MIL and family and they totally rolled out negative comments and I got "I will not call him that, that's a terrible name. I'll call him his middle name (which was going to be the same as my husbands)" Ummm no bc that's not his name so when we found out it was a girl we immediately decided on a first name and decided not tell anyone (friends, family, coworkers, nobody). His family is so upset with us about it but mine could careless they are just happy to have a baby in the family. The middle name has been an issue but we finally decided yesterday. We've thought about telling them on Christmas (I'm due Jan. 9th) but at this point they can just learn her name when they meet her at the hospital

I don't want hear the comments from people period. If we like it isn't that what matters? We are the parents after all.

Lawmax14 · December 2013

Just glad to read there are other people like us, just not saying a word about it. MIL makes me feel like I'm the only one to decide not to tell her name. Idc but also glad there are others out there

AnnikaD20 · December 2013

We make up ridiculous names that no one believes are real. Things like Threshadon, Potatocannon, Hismajesty, and James-bond. Before we knew gender, I told people that if it was a boy it would be Gandalf, and if it was a girl it would be Dumbledora.

We try to have a new name of the week, and this week it's Frederick, but we'll call him Freddy so we can always say "ready freddy?" and middle name Mercury.

I don't think it's lying if everyone knows you're not serious, but we're not disclosing any of our legitimate choices.

Jenten810 · December 2013

We haven't received any negative reactions to the name we've chosen, but we're considering lying about his middle name (just saying he doesn't have one). We don't want my family to feel compelled to call him RJ, which they've already mentioned doing, since DH has a negative association with a kid named RJ from his childhood.

ashleywiz · December 2013

MamaP19 said:

RedSaffron said:

It all depends on who ask. If its random strangers then I have no problem telling them the baby's name because I will never see them again. If its close friends and family, I just tell them we haven't decided yet. My MIL wants us to name the baby a combination between SO's and my name which would be Alchris (Al-Chris). Um yeah, hell no.

Seriously?!

@redsaffron ... Haha! Classic. Put that in the baby book so your kid can thank you for being awesome for not naming LO that.

pennstated912 · December 2013

My mom wouldn't stop guessing names (she was sending me around 30 names a day and would ask if she's getting "warmer" with each one). I finally got annoyed enough that I told her that I would tell her the name.

I told her Aenus Testicyles. She has not guessed any names since then.

HappyDoc · December 2013

I'm somewhat confused as to why anyone would lie about their selected name for LO. Eventually they are going to know, and seems to me that if someone is bold enough to say something, it won't matter when you tell them.

twobluelines · December 2013

We just tell people we aren't sharing and most people seem to understand that. The only one who pushed me at all was a co-worker. When her daughter told my co-worker that the grandson she was carrying would be named Santana myco-worker told me how weird the name was so I just tell her that We don't want anyone opinions on it and she seems to understand.

RedSaffron · December 2013

@mamap19 - I kid you not, she likes it when parents combined their names for their baby and was dead serious about Alchris for our baby girl. @ashleywiz I definitely will

She owes me big time haha.

Escher28 · December 2013

We've been telling everyone the baby's middle name (my FIL's name), but that we're keeping his 1st name a surprise. Most people say good. A few people think we're being silly though, and one lady at my job will not stop trying to guess the name.

monkeybutt61612 · December 2013

We haven't decided yet, but are having a tough time. I'm so sick of everyone's opinion. I now just openly judge the shit out the names people suggest to me. "No, I don't like that at all, but thanks."

bellamatson · December 2013

We have gotten so much shit for using "Maddox" as the name for this LO. It totally goes with our last name... But people say it's too much like my husbands name (Matthew)
I've told people in the past when they said "really?" That when they carry a baby for 9 months and push it out of their vag hole they can name their baby... Until then shut the fuck up... Smiles

CeeJC121013 · December 2013

Jenten810 said:
We haven't received any negative reactions to the name we've chosen, but we're considering lying about his middle name (just saying he doesn't have one). We don't want my family to feel compelled to call him RJ, which they've already mentioned doing, since DH has a negative association with a kid named RJ from his childhood.

They did that to my sons name too! He is Colton James and family members were immediately trying to make him "CJ". We had to put a stop to that quickly. Or "Colt", which isn't as bad but that's not what we named him!

In my husbands family there are quite a few people who go by their middle names and my husband goes by an abbreviation of his. On top of that, he's in the military so now all of the people from work call him by his last name only and get confused when they hear me call him by his name, which is not his first name and then we have to explain all over again. It can get so confusing. So I am naming my kids exactly what I intend to call them!

MiaMyPuggle · December 2013

HappyDoc said:
I'm somewhat confused as to why anyone would lie about their selected name for LO. Eventually they are going to know, and seems to me that if someone is bold enough to say something, it won't matter when you tell them.

I got hell for my son's name and it really broke my heart and ruined it for me. I do care if people judged his name bc I felt like he would get picked on by other kids. It's a good name in my opinion and a family name.
People are less inclined to judge a baby's name to his/her face bc that's the name and there ain't no goin back!

ac1259 · December 2013

AnnikaD20 said:
We make up ridiculous names that no one believes are real. Things like Threshadon, Potatocannon, Hismajesty, and James-bond. Before we knew gender, I told people that if it was a boy it would be Gandalf, and if it was a girl it would be Dumbledora.

We try to have a new name of the week, and this week it's Frederick, but we'll call him Freddy so we can always say "ready freddy?" and middle name Mercury.

I don't think it's lying if everyone knows you're not serious, but we're not disclosing any of our legitimate choices.

@AnnikaD20- my DH did this for boy names..wouldn't give me any serious names just said we were going to name the baby gandalf or Bowser(who messes with a kid named bowser- his words...) luckily we're having a girl and he came to his senses:) but I think that's awesome what you're doing- keeping people on their toes! One of my friends had a "joke" name for her son and it wound up sticking...lol but it works for them!

BABYROSEJEANS17 · December 2013

People are just so judgmental especially in the South. We've already decided on his name but are giving the line, "We've narrowed it down, but when we meet him we want to be sure it fits..." blah blah blah. I'm tempted to come up with obnoxious names (a la Friends..."This is my husband, Crap Bag.") just to throw them off, but I know we're going to get crap when we reveal his name.

last14real · December 2013

We have narrowed it down to three and dh's family asked what they were last week. We told them and the responses we got were Rylee is ok, we don't like Shaylee but how about shayla (not what we chose),Emma is pretty butt dh's little brother hates the name. I said Emma is pretty thinking why would a 17 yr old guy care what a bb girl's name is? His response is that there is a gorilla at his school named Emma...not a real gorilla just a big boned, hairy, probably very self conscious girl named Emma. I told him he sucked and to be nice to her. What a brat, and that is why we shouldn't have told them.

km_md · December 2013

Most of our immediate family knows the names that are on our short list, but usually when people ask, I just tell them that we are still deciding. I am having a hard enough time trying to decide on a name that I like and am happy with - I don't need unsolicited advice from others!

becky3211 · December 2013

RedSaffron said:

@mamap19 - I kid you not, she likes it when parents combined their names for their baby and was dead serious about Alchris for our baby girl. @ashleywiz I definitely will She owes me big time haha.

My DH is on this kick too! But Becky and Mike makes names like Bike, so he now has decided that he wants to combine our middle names to be LO's MN if baby is a girl...Jalyn isn't awful for a MN but I'm not sold.

MamaP19 · December 2013

HappyDoc said:

I'm somewhat confused as to why anyone would lie about their selected name for LO. Eventually they are going to know, and seems to me that if someone is bold enough to say something, it won't matter when you tell them.

In my experience people have felt more open to be critical of a name when they see it as just as possibility - meaning before LO has been born and the name is on the birth certificate. Even if I presented it as "DDs name is... " people still tried to tell me what was wrong with the name and suggest other options. Once DD arrived though, I never heard one negative comment - even from people that had previously disliked her name.

I will say that I totally understand making up a fake name or saying something ridiculous. When I was pregnant with DD I worked in a small office with several older women. If I told them I knew the name but wasn't sharing I just got a few glares. If, however, I told them we weren't sure yet, they spent all day everyday suggesting awful names to me that they liked. Drove me crazy..

Roses87 · December 2013

I see no point in lying. If you don't want to share the name, just tell people that. Whenever someone asks me what names we are thinking about I just say "we are not sharing our names choices" I say it very non nonchalantly.

ashybear · December 2013

We haven't been lying about the name, just about the fact that we don't know yet. Both DH's and my sister each know, but everyone else can wait until they meet him.

Our sisters know because they are incredibly supportive (and say things like "I already love this baby so much, it doesn't even matter what his name is.") and know how to keep a secret. I wouldn't actually mind if they told our parents, but I 1) Want to be sure, 2) 2) Would like to surprise my Grandma, and 3) Don't want to share with DH's judgy brother/SIL pre-LO's arrival (keeping in mind that their children's middle names are Sage, Glacier and Blue).

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