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one twin will not go to sleep easily...

amd1982amd1982 member
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hi everyone. i apologize for my absence as of late - i hope you're all doing well and are having fun preparing for the holidays. i was traveling for work a short while ago, then was Thanksgiving, and now prepping for Christmas (plus working FT) so needless to say I've been busy. Plus with two standing/almost walking 11 month olds my eyes are always glued on them!

i am having an issue with our DD - I'm really frustrated and could use some advice. I'm not one to compare my babies, they are totally different human beings which I love. DS has always just been a really easy sleeper. My in laws and parents can't get over how easy he is to put down. just goes right in the crib fully awake and boom, he's asleep. DD on the other hand has been a bigger challenge. it seems like there is always something...teething, a mess in her diaper, a cold, etc. and on top of that she was a late term preemie and low birth weight so we didn't sleep train much with her. however we've tried off and on (which i'm sure is our first problem that there is no consistency) to sleep train since 6 months and have just had a dreadful time. she seems to be so stubborn - literally she will cry for two hours and not sleep. And trust me when i say she is EXHAUSTED. i know some may say "she's trying to transition to one nap." nope, i know her sleep signs and she's yawning and rubbing her eyes. we've tried putting her down earlier, later, humming, using a lovey, white noise, pretty much every single trick in the book. DH and i are so fed up that right now we're letting her CIO. and i don't mean going in to reassure her - oh yes, we've tried that too. it only seems to get her more riled up.

i'm about at the point where i am just DONE. i know that sounds bad, and for anyone that doesn't believe in CIO you may want to leave this convo haha. but i cannot handle this for much longer. it is so stressful and just overall a PITA. i love her, she's my daughter, but i feel like there's been no consistency and she's been rocked a lot or given a bottle as a crutch and my thoughts are that she's almost one - she should be able to fall asleep on her own without help. i'm ready to just start putting her in the crib awake, fed changed and burped obviously, and letting her go to town. i'm ready to try this for as long as it takes. does anyone have experience with this? everywhere i seem to read online says "bedtime now should not be a stressful experience" (for 11 month olds). in our house it's the most dreaded time (other than naps!). any advice or just comiseration would be awesome right now as i'm just exhausted, frustrated and annoyed. thanks.

TTC #1 Since January 2011 Dx: PCOS and Anovulatory April 2012 BFP! Beta 1 5/22 - 1,000+ Beta 2 5/24 - 3,009 1st u/s 6/5 - TWINS!!! A/S Reveals we are Team PURPLE!!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker image image image  12/27 - surprise BFP - due August 2014
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Re: one twin will not go to sleep easily...

  • amd1982amd1982 member

    thank you very much for the response - our routine was similar: dinner, play a little, bathtime, playtime, story, bottle bed. we spaced it out obviously because with two everything takes a bit longer. the past few days i've done a bath before their 2nd nap as it gets them nice and relaxed and also is less stressful on DH and I. after long days at work, doing a bath at night can be difficult for us. the babes also love their bath, but HATE getting dressed afterwards so they would get all worked up. it's actually been good the past few nights and DD has slept through the night which is great.

     

    i appreciate the info on ferber - we did start his method for a while, but found that going into the room in increments did not help. however i may give it another go. thanks again!

    TTC #1 Since January 2011 Dx: PCOS and Anovulatory April 2012 BFP! Beta 1 5/22 - 1,000+ Beta 2 5/24 - 3,009 1st u/s 6/5 - TWINS!!! A/S Reveals we are Team PURPLE!!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker image image image  12/27 - surprise BFP - due August 2014
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    mg0202 said:

    You are right, you need consistency.  Set up a routine at bedtime so she knows it is time to sleep.  When she was younger it was bath, book, bottle, bed.  We have the sleep sheep and a nightlight on her humidifier we would turn on.  Did the same thing every night at the same time.

    If you are going to try CIO, I highly recommend reading Ferber.  There is a method to follow and teaches you about sleep cycles and such.  Worked for us in just a few days.  If his method isn't one you want to try there are tons of books on it. I just went to the library and there are several shelves just for sleep and children.

    Hang in there, I know sleep issues are tough!

    I agree with this. I'm all for CIO but ds like yours has always gone straight down. Now that's he's older we have weeks like this week nighttime was a ton if crying. For us that's 5-10 mins which never happens. We dot go in thought like I did two days this week makes t worse. So finally back to norm. Just be consistent and I do nothing to get ds excited before bed. Books milk bed done. Good luck

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