I'm the awful relative/friend/spouse that is super duper specific and I get angry when people buy me stuff that isn't on my wish list. I get even angrier when people don't give me a gift receipt. Call me an ungrateful twat, I'll take it.
Option A) Go to the wish list, buy gift, get gift receipt in case it was already purchased by another person.
Option Purchase gift card to suggested stores.
It's not that hard, there are no points for creativity in this game.
I'd honestly rather get no gift at all if they don't bother with a gift receipt.
I know I'm a bitch about this ::awaits flaming::
ETA: I always buy off of other people's wish lists and get a gift receipt, so I'm still a bitch but not a hypocrite
yah...I've never seen A Christmas Story or It's a Wonderful Life. But, I've also never seen ET and whole bunch of other "classics" so there's that.
Yesterday S was given the wrong bottle at school and she ingested 2oz of someone elses's BM. I guess the two bottles (hers and the other kid) were both warming up, they were the same type of bottle, and had similar labels. One of the teachers (not any of her normal ones), picked the wrong bottle, and it wasn't until they fed her 2oz and she was really pissed off and not wanting to eat the bottle that they figured out what had happened. I did my due diligence and called the pedi to make sure there wasn't anything we needed to do, but honestly, I'm not that worried about it. I think her school was more freaked out about it happening since they have protocols in place for this type of thing than we were. I'm probably going to be called a bad mama for this, but it is what it is.
@crazycoffeegirl sorry that happened to you guys! It is a good thing your LO knows her mommy's milk, it sounds like she was like get this other s*& out of my face. :P
@crazycoffeegirl I don't find it weird at all. My nephew once picked up a bottle my sister had prepped while watching Abbie and drank the whole thing (6oz!). He hasn't had BM since he was about 3mo and he was around 14mo around the time. My sis was freaked but to me it was NBD.
Mine - this week I needed a nap so badly that I stuck Ab in her PNP to play in front of the tv and I took a nice 45min nap.
I can't stand people who get uppity about driving in the snow. Yes, it's dangerous, I get that. You don't want to drive in it, fine.
My issue comes in when people startin with the commentary, "I (should be italicized, but can't on mobile) don't drive in the snow. I'M not risking MY life", etc.
Also, when able bodied people make it seem like it's impossible for them to get out in the snow. I call bullshit. Yes, snow is a bitch to deal with. If you'd rather couch it with some hot cocoa than deal, fine, but say THAT instead of saying you CAN'T get out.
Mine is that a pretty big reason (but not the BIGGEST reason) that I want to BF for at least a year is to hopefully reap the alleged health benefits to myself (lower risk of ovarian and breast cancers). My paternal grandmother died of complications from breast cancer before her 30th birthday so I'm at higher risk, although I don't have the BRCA genes, thankfully.
I have another - I only found out about Nelson Mandela's death because ONE person on my fb newsfeed posted about it. That's how frequently I read the news these days. I spend my non-working time at work bumping and Christmas shopping online.
I understand that. We lived in Upstate NY when I learned to drive so I've always dealt with snow. But it seems like everywhere else in the country this is the biggest catastrophe imaginable. When we lived in Phoenix there was a frost warning and my company actually made everyone sit through a meeting about how to warm up your car and scrape windows. I just walked out.
Here in NC, if they forecast snow anywhere within a 100 mile radius people completely panic. Grocery stores get raided, restaurants close. We were doing a test drive the only day last winter when it snowed and the sales guy looked like he wanted to wear two seat belts. DH decided to show him how to do donuts.
So my UO is I hate people who panic when they hear snow and buy the dumbest things at the super market. You need 3 things. 1) booze 2) matches 3) snacks. That's it. Also, state DOTs- FYI spreading sand does nothing to help make the roads safer. Get some fucking salt!
I'm just full of them today. If I knew I'd remember it, I'd save one for next week.
Last year I bought my parents two baby's 1st Christmas ornaments (for 2013) with the girls' intended names on them - this was how we shared the news of their sexes. I told them they could keep the ornaments for their tree.
At Thanksgiving I told them I changed my mind and asked for them back.
I'm the awful relative/friend/spouse that is super duper specific and I get angry when people buy me stuff that isn't on my wish list. I get even angrier when people don't give me a gift receipt. Call me an ungrateful twat, I'll take it.
Option A) Go to the wish list, buy gift, get gift receipt in case it was already purchased by another person.
Option Purchase gift card to suggested stores.
It's not that hard, there are no points for creativity in this game.
I'd honestly rather get no gift at all if they don't bother with a gift receipt.
I know I'm a bitch about this ::awaits flaming::
ETA: I always buy off of other people's wish lists and get a gift receipt, so I'm still a bitch but not a hypocrite
I like you! But I'm really tempted to flame this one... A gift is supposed to be a token of someone's appreciation of you, thoughtfulness of you, etc.
Personally, I hate gift registries and wish they didn't exist. But for Christmas the thought of actually getting angry when people don't give you something off your specified list astounds me. My sisters get mad when my mom gives them presents they don't like (she gives really bad gifts) and I think it's disrespectful, insulting, and downright spoiled behavior. Sorry!
That's fine, that's why it was my FFFC. I look at it this way, when I give someone a gift, it's for them not for me. Personally when I spend money on someone I want them to like it! If I spend 40 bucks on something, I don't want it sitting in a box in their basement, I'd rather give them a gift receipt and let them exchange it for something they will actually use.
That's just me.
ETA: I live in a very small house with virtually no storage. So it's literally an issue when I get things I don't need. I've ended up donating brand new items because I don't have any use/place for them. That's why I said I'd rather get no gift at all if someone doesn't want to buy me something I need. ::shrugs::
I'm enjoying this as the only Christmas that I won't need to do that dumb Elf on a Shelf or buy DS a ton of real presents. I mean, I still will, but I'm also going to wrap up all of my old cell phones for him. He loves my old cell phones.
I have another one, slightly (majorly?) AWish. He totally could have fallen off the chair and smashed his head on a million things. So of course I took a picture.
@Boo0512, not a flame, but I'm on the complete opposite side of you. I like when someone buys me what they think I will like. And get annoyed when my SIL gives me a specific wish list... And they're all gift cards. Wtf?!? How bout I just hand you a check? To me that's not what Christmas is about. But that's just my preference.
@crazycoffeegirl, That wouldn't bug me that bad either, but it prob would bug DH. I think if the woman is conscientious enough to pump for her child, she's prob not on drugs or taking crazy medications, so the milk is fine. Funny she didn't like it though. I also would nurse another baby or donate milk in a second. I would let my baby drink donated milk if I knew the mother wasn't taking anything. Not sure about letting someone else nurse him though, just from a completely 100% selfish "I would get jealous" standpoint.
Speaking of milk- I would nurse someone else's baby without batting an eyelid.
Ditto. I give milk to my friends who are a gay couple who adopted a baby girl. Or at least I did until my supply dropped. Now I hoard my precious dwindling supply for C.
A couple days ago I was so tired and C pooped in her diaper like 20 minutes into falling asleep. I changed her on our bed finally got her back to sleep and then just passed out for the night. H came home a while later and also came to bed. When I was remaking the bed the next morning I discovered C's poopy diaper all rolled up in between our sheets. H and I literally slept all night with her little bundle of turd and didn't notice.
I bought a Christmas present for my niece who lives in Australia and loves getting clothes from American only retailers like Hollister and Abercrombie. Well I hadn't done laundry in a bit and need a warm sweater badly so I ripped the tags off and wore the sweater. It's now my sweater, she will get a lovely card with cash.
Hey @Shantxtell, I'll take your donations, or let you nurse S, but she might have other ideas since apparently she has very particular tastes.
@NJAZgirl, I think S likes formula...she hasn't gotten pure BM in a bottle since she was 2 weeks old so if it's not coming directly from me, she probably knows it should taste like formula for the most part. Or she's just brilliant and knows it wasn't from me
And @LaxMOM44, that actually reminds me, how's the supplementing going? Have you taken C back in for a weight check or anything? I hope she's gaining weight!
@Boo0512, I kind of get you. I have a smallish house with limited storage too, and I prefer a minimalist style anyway - clutter makes me anxious. I also have a different decorating style than my mom and BFF so I tend not to much like (and definitely don't need) the stuff they buy for me. And I HATE that they're wasting good money on something I don't like, especially my mom as my parents don't have much money. But I would never get angry about it, or let the gifter know I don't like something. Hell, I even feel bad not using it and I never return anything. It really is the thought that counts.
That said, I also work really hard to buy everyone really thoughtful gifts that I know they'll love and there are only a few people on my list who do the same for me! That does irritate me a bit.
Thanks @crazycoffeegirl yes she has finally doubled her birth weight so I was allowed to start solids again. Yay!!! She seems to be doing really well with the extra bottles of formula. Thank god for formula.
@Boo0512, I kind of get you. I have a smallish house with limited storage too, and I prefer a minimalist style anyway - clutter makes me anxious. I also have a different decorating style than my mom and BFF so I tend not to much like (and definitely don't need) the stuff they buy for me. And I HATE that they're wasting good money on something I don't like, especially my mom as my parents don't have much money. But I would never get angry about it, or let the gifter know I don't like something. Hell, I even feel bad not using it and I never return anything. It really is the thought that counts.
That said, I also work really hard to buy everyone really thoughtful gifts that I know they'll love and there are only a few people on my list who do the same for me! That does irritate me a bit.
Yeah I have pretty specific decorating taste that doesn't match my MIL/SIL so that's been an issue.
Also, I should have clarified, the person that gave me a gift I didn't like never knows. I always thank them and they are none the wiser.
I have another today.
I can't stand people who get uppity about driving in the snow. Yes, it's dangerous, I get that. You don't want to drive in it, fine.
My issue comes in when people startin with the commentary, "I (should be italicized, but can't on mobile) don't drive in the snow. I'M not risking MY life", etc.
Also, when able bodied people make it seem like it's impossible for them to get out in the snow. I call bullshit. Yes, snow is a bitch to deal with. If you'd rather couch it with some hot cocoa than deal, fine, but say THAT instead of saying you CAN'T get out.
I used to be like this... until I totaled my car in a snowstorm. Now I still drive in it when I need to but I get panicky and tremble about it. I know its irrational but the roads really are dangerous when its icy or visibility is bad and the other erratic drivers around you make it even more dangerous. I think people should stay off the roads as much as possible in that kind of bad weather. Flurries are different - but true wet snow or ice is what I mean.
Yep, DH's sister died driving in a snow storm. I am definitely a believer that everyone should stay off the road unless it is an emergency.
My FFFC is that I don't congratulate the girls who I'm "friends" with on FB that are single when they announce they are pregnant. I shake my head at all the "I'm so happy for you" responses and move on. Call me judgmental - I just have my personal views and I don't think getting pregnant with a guy you have dated shortly or barely know calls for a "congratulations".
@Boo0512, I kind of get you. I have a smallish house with limited storage too, and I prefer a minimalist style anyway - clutter makes me anxious. I also have a different decorating style than my mom and BFF so I tend not to much like (and definitely don't need) the stuff they buy for me. And I HATE that they're wasting good money on something I don't like, especially my mom as my parents don't have much money. But I would never get angry about it, or let the gifter know I don't like something. Hell, I even feel bad not using it and I never return anything. It really is the thought that counts.
That said, I also work really hard to buy everyone really thoughtful gifts that I know they'll love and there are only a few people on my list who do the same for me! That does irritate me a bit.
I was like that too. For my wedding I got soooo annoyed when people bought me things that weren't on my registry. We has a 450 sq ft NYC apartment. Where was I going to put a bread maker? But being apart of DHs family totally changed me. My family is huge so we all do a lot of gift cards just because it's easier. DH and his sister are the only grand kids on his moms side. MIL has a sister who only has cats. So his grandmother, mother, aunt and the aunt's cats all buy us a ridiculous amount of gifts. Nothing expensive (all about shear quantity) but it takes all day to open presents. Needless to say I have every " As Seen on TV" gift, tacky home decor, about 4 stars named after me, I'm sponsoring a tiger, some kind of lynx and what I think is an entire small African village, and I kid you not, a partridge in a pear tree salt and pepper shaker. Do I need any of this? Nope, but honestly they live for this now and I've come to love it all. The tackier the better!
Another... We only have one bathroom and L is napping upstairs and I don't dare go up there and risk waking her up (I'm enjoying my alone time!) So, I just peed in the laundry tub. I couldn't hold it anymore!!!
My related FFFC is that I hate getting decorative presents or things that I won't use. I recieved a 3 foot tall Harry Potter one year and my husband loved it and I HATED it! I like HP and all but what the hell am I going to do with a huge HP!?!?!
My mom over Thanksgiving gave me 5 ornaments for DD. My MIL also said she's getting us some ornaments for DD. DH called her and asked her not to get any- we already have enough of the "my first christmas" ornaments. She went off on a tangent and said she's getting them whether we like it or not. I really want to toss all of them.
My related FFFC is that I hate getting decorative presents or things that I won't use. I recieved a 3 foot tall Harry Potter one year and my husband loved it and I HATED it! I like HP and all but what the hell am I going to do with a huge HP!?!?!
OK now that is hilarious - and ridiculous. My Dad gives tchotchkes like this all the time. The worst is how he thinks we are all still 6 years old. He gave me a strawberry shortcake storybook set... 2 years ago! I swear. And he has given me a HP necklace, a HP miniature action figure collection and an HP blanket. Terrible. But I appreciate the thought and that he recognizes how much I liked Strawberry and HP! At least that's what I tell myself as the stuff collects dust...
My BIL gave it to me and when the cats broke it, I cheered!!!!! I told them it was sad though.
@RoxZ32 you made me think of another! LO's room is across from the bathroom and even though she does pretty well with sleeping through noise sometimes I'm super paranoid because I want my precious time to myself. That being said, H has come home and found "floaters' in the toilet...no, not once...but TWICE. Yup, I'm sure he's never been so attracted to me.
Re: the milk...I don't think it would bother me either if LO drank someone else's BM, because like like PP said, the mom is probably pretty cautious. I actually think I would be more upset if I was the other mom for giving away my BM! I have a hard enough time pumping enough for LO let alone someone else's kid! I totally would nurse another baby though (if I had lots to go around). Whenever my newborn nephew cries I have this weird urge to give him my boob.
Re: bad gift...Can we please do a thread after Christmas for worst gifts our LOs received? I know it's the thought that counts and we have to be gracious IRL, but we can make fun on here.....can't we?
Re: FFFC
I only gave DD 6 Hannukkah presents.
I'm the awful relative/friend/spouse that is super duper specific and I get angry when people buy me stuff that isn't on my wish list. I get even angrier when people don't give me a gift receipt. Call me an ungrateful twat, I'll take it.
Option A) Go to the wish list, buy gift, get gift receipt in case it was already purchased by another person.
Option
It's not that hard, there are no points for creativity in this game.
I'd honestly rather get no gift at all if they don't bother with a gift receipt.
I know I'm a bitch about this ::awaits flaming::
ETA: I always buy off of other people's wish lists and get a gift receipt, so I'm still a bitch but not a hypocrite
Eta: Between my fam and the in laws we exchange lists/links to lists via email.
O14 January Signature Challenge: Snow Fails
Yesterday S was given the wrong bottle at school and she ingested 2oz of someone elses's BM. I guess the two bottles (hers and the other kid) were both warming up, they were the same type of bottle, and had similar labels. One of the teachers (not any of her normal ones), picked the wrong bottle, and it wasn't until they fed her 2oz and she was really pissed off and not wanting to eat the bottle that they figured out what had happened. I did my due diligence and called the pedi to make sure there wasn't anything we needed to do, but honestly, I'm not that worried about it. I think her school was more freaked out about it happening since they have protocols in place for this type of thing than we were. I'm probably going to be called a bad mama for this, but it is what it is.
sorry that happened to you guys! It is a good thing your LO knows her mommy's milk, it sounds like she was like get this other s*& out of my face.
:P
Mine - this week I needed a nap so badly that I stuck Ab in her PNP to play in front of the tv and I took a nice 45min nap.
I can't stand people who get uppity about driving in the snow. Yes, it's dangerous, I get that. You don't want to drive in it, fine.
My issue comes in when people startin with the commentary, "I (should be italicized, but can't on mobile) don't drive in the snow. I'M not risking MY life", etc.
Also, when able bodied people make it seem like it's impossible for them to get out in the snow. I call bullshit. Yes, snow is a bitch to deal with. If you'd rather couch it with some hot cocoa than deal, fine, but say THAT instead of saying you CAN'T get out.
O14 January Signature Challenge: Snow Fails
My FFFC: I've never heard of Paul Walker before this week.
Stupid fucking cancer.
But...WTF is wrong with all my other FB friends!?
I understand that. We lived in Upstate NY when I learned to drive so I've always dealt with snow. But it seems like everywhere else in the country this is the biggest catastrophe imaginable. When we lived in Phoenix there was a frost warning and my company actually made everyone sit through a meeting about how to warm up your car and scrape windows. I just walked out.
Here in NC, if they forecast snow anywhere within a 100 mile radius people completely panic. Grocery stores get raided, restaurants close. We were doing a test drive the only day last winter when it snowed and the sales guy looked like he wanted to wear two seat belts. DH decided to show him how to do donuts.
So my UO is I hate people who panic when they hear snow and buy the dumbest things at the super market. You need 3 things. 1) booze 2) matches 3) snacks. That's it. Also, state DOTs- FYI spreading sand does nothing to help make the roads safer. Get some fucking salt!
Last year I bought my parents two baby's 1st Christmas ornaments (for 2013) with the girls' intended names on them - this was how we shared the news of their sexes. I told them they could keep the ornaments for their tree.
At Thanksgiving I told them I changed my mind and asked for them back.
Edited for typo
Personally, I hate gift registries and wish they didn't exist. But for Christmas the thought of actually getting angry when people don't give you something off your specified list astounds me. My sisters get mad when my mom gives them presents they don't like (she gives really bad gifts) and I think it's disrespectful, insulting, and downright spoiled behavior. Sorry!
That's fine, that's why it was my FFFC. I look at it this way, when I give someone a gift, it's for them not for me. Personally when I spend money on someone I want them to like it! If I spend 40 bucks on something, I don't want it sitting in a box in their basement, I'd rather give them a gift receipt and let them exchange it for something they will actually use.
That's just me.
ETA: I live in a very small house with virtually no storage. So it's literally an issue when I get things I don't need. I've ended up donating brand new items because I don't have any use/place for them. That's why I said I'd rather get no gift at all if someone doesn't want to buy me something I need. ::shrugs::
@crazycoffeegirl,
That wouldn't bug me that bad either, but it prob would bug DH. I think if the woman is conscientious enough to pump for her child, she's prob not on drugs or taking crazy medications, so the milk is fine. Funny she didn't like it though. I also would nurse another baby or donate milk in a second. I would let my baby drink donated milk if I knew the mother wasn't taking anything. Not sure about letting someone else nurse him though, just from a completely 100% selfish "I would get jealous" standpoint.
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A couple days ago I was so tired and C pooped in her diaper like 20 minutes into falling asleep. I changed her on our bed finally got her back to sleep and then just passed out for the night. H came home a while later and also came to bed. When I was remaking the bed the next morning I discovered C's poopy diaper all rolled up in between our sheets. H and I literally slept all night with her little bundle of turd and didn't notice.
I bought a Christmas present for my niece who lives in Australia and loves getting clothes from American only retailers like Hollister and Abercrombie. Well I hadn't done laundry in a bit and need a warm sweater badly so I ripped the tags off and wore the sweater. It's now my sweater, she will get a lovely card with cash.
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@NJAZgirl, I think S likes formula...she hasn't gotten pure BM in a bottle since she was 2 weeks old so if it's not coming directly from me, she probably knows it should taste like formula for the most part. Or she's just brilliant and knows it wasn't from me
And @LaxMOM44, that actually reminds me, how's the supplementing going? Have you taken C back in for a weight check or anything? I hope she's gaining weight!
@Boo0512, I kind of get you. I have a smallish house with limited storage too, and I prefer a minimalist style anyway - clutter makes me anxious. I also have a different decorating style than my mom and BFF so I tend not to much like (and definitely don't need) the stuff they buy for me. And I HATE that they're wasting good money on something I don't like, especially my mom as my parents don't have much money. But I would never get angry about it, or let the gifter know I don't like something. Hell, I even feel bad not using it and I never return anything. It really is the thought that counts.
That said, I also work really hard to buy everyone really thoughtful gifts that I know they'll love and there are only a few people on my list who do the same for me! That does irritate me a bit.
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Also, I should have clarified, the person that gave me a gift I didn't like never knows. I always thank them and they are none the wiser.
We only have one bathroom and L is napping upstairs and I don't dare go up there and risk waking her up (I'm enjoying my alone time!) So, I just peed in the laundry tub. I couldn't hold it anymore!!!
My SIL is doing elf on the shelf for my nephew. Well she hung my nephew's underwear all over the Christmas tree.
When she posted it a picture of this on FB I couldn't bring myself to like it and thought it was just plain awful on so many levels.
WTH happened to imagination?!