Does anyone else feel like sex is a chore anymore?

amandaautum · December 2013

Sorry may be tmi! But my husband is like totally set on this happening and I'm totally hiding in my bathroom. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I do. I dont want him to feel like I don't love him or I'm turned off because that's not the case. I'm just totally not feeling the vibe for the past week

mamakiss · December 2013

What sex? Haha, nothing going on here for 5 weeks or so. Sorry I can't be of help

LyndseylovesHugh · December 2013

Yeah, we haven't had sex in weeks. I am pretty sure he doesn't want me to puke on him and that is all I feel like doing right now. Just talk to your H about it, I am sure he will be understanding, you are pregnant after all and most likely not feeling so hot right now.

earichar23 · December 2013

I'm making a weekly effort but honestly it's extremely uncomfortable right now. I know if DH knew how it felt he wouldn't mind skipping for a while but I would miss the intimacy. It's a tough call for me.

coachg · December 2013

TOTAL chore! I'm like I got my 2 kids now...Bye!

alysie89 · December 2013

Forget it! I told DH that until I could keep food down and my boobs stopped feeling like there was an electric fence connected to them I was officially not available/had headache/ was tired/ just couldn't bring myself to want it.

amandaautum · December 2013

I gave in. He's now snoring away while I try not to throw up in my mouth. Being pregnant rocks dude. :-q

Erin1510 · December 2013

We haven't had sex in ummm...6 weeks or so? Granted, 3 of those weeks I was off limits due to some spotting issues. Now that I can, I'm just ehh about it. I'm nauseous, my boobs hurt, etc. Its safe to say the last time we had sex is probably when I got pregnant!

Hopefully the 2nd trimester will be more accommodating for sex!

reils500 · December 2013

I was placed on pelvic rest today and part of me was glad to have an excuse to not be having sex.

Huahine · December 2013

I was on pelvic rest first tri last time, and by the time second tri rolled around I was totally ready to go. Third tri I couldn't get enough. All that extra blood flow, things were just more responsive/sensitive than normal. I hope things are the same this time around!

thecatsmeow1972 · December 2013

I haven't felt like having sex much either. Husband is starting to try subtle seduction techniques at this point but I'm just simply not in the mood.

tourqeyes · December 2013

amandaautum said:
Sorry may be tmi! But my husband is like totally set on this happening and I'm totally hiding in my bathroom. It's not that I don't enjoy it, I do. I dont want him to feel like I don't love him or I'm turned off because that's not the case. I'm just totally not feeling the vibe for the past week

Yes, a chore is something I do not like to do hence why we have not had sex since DTD ----> BFP

bewilderingstar · December 2013

Its a once a week thing and getting me to have sex with him is definitely a chore. He's been a total hornball lately too which is normally not like him.

I gotta tell ya though, these orgasms as a pregnant lady are pretty freaking amazeballs!

netsirk2013 · December 2013

Wow sorry guys.... I've been like a rabbit. You would think we hadn't conceived yet....

mommyfied · December 2013

Ugh, sex.. I try to limit it to as rarely as possible. If we do, it's in the shower so I don't have to do any cleaning after - and also I feel gross. Between the vomiting and bad stomach I generally don't want any movements of my body. Daily chores is just simple enough to manage :P

DanaerysTargaryen · December 2013

No sex here with the nausea. But hubby is being very understanding and is talking to our little one in me and asking him to make mommy feel better so daddy can get some poontang.

ashtonblair123 · December 2013

No sex here. it makes me :-& DH is ok though because he thinks it'll be like last time where I ay not ave wanted during first tri but wanted it all the time the rest of the pregnancy.

likeanoldtimemovie · December 2013

Um, I'm having the opposite problem. I can't get enough!

redhotmama7 · December 2013

Gee, I was just gonna start a thread because I'm like a rabbit too... Omg it's all I want all the time I feel like a freaking teenager again.

cakebatter27 · December 2013

I'm too scared to TBH.

Kabee4 · December 2013

I'm not allowed to have sex and it's killing me. I want it soo bad.

[Deleted User] · December 2013

I try to 1-2x a week but DH has been good about not coming looking for it.

mamaloaf · December 2013

netsirk2013 said:

Wow sorry guys.... I've been like a rabbit. You would think we hadn't conceived yet....

Ditto. Slowed down a bit this week, thought. Mostly because I'm just too cold and don't want to shave my legs...

sarahdallen · December 2013

I definitely have the desire...at work when I'm actually alert and awake. But the second I get home and put my wife/mom/cleaning lady hat on t it goes away and I'm asleep on my sons floor by 8:30. Hoping we can make it happen during nap time this weekend...haha, yeah right!

mrscurlygurl · December 2013

It is so uncomfortable for me. It's like I'm too sensitive or something. I've been trying for once-twice a week, but it ain't working.

RrachieRay · December 2013

We read you can spot or cramp up afterwards and so have been waiting to get past the first trimester for that. Haha. Easier said than done! It's hard after you've been trying (I.e. Doing it every other day!) Lol. That doesn't mean HE doesn't get some though!

Gotta take care of him because HE's been taking care of ME!!!

Lola825 · December 2013

We haven't since I got the BFP. Between the bloating, sore boobs, nausea and exhaustion I just can't get in the mood. He has been wonderful about it though, I'm really thankful for that because normally he'd be a pain in the ass about it.

gallifreygirl · December 2013

What with how I'm feeling and the fact that some days I'm asleep before he wakes up (he works nights) we haven't had sex in weeks.He doesn't seem to mind too much or at least hasn't said anything about it.

singingirl96 · December 2013

oh, you just wait. you will probably want it again during the 2nd trimester, but when you get big and uncomfortable, you won't want it. While you're breastfeeding (if you are) you'll not want it, then when you start wanting it again, you'll end up pregnant with your second... cycle, repeat.

LPetra · December 2013

Yup, this pretty much sums up our last two years.

singingirl96 said:

oh, you just wait. you will probably want it again during the 2nd trimester, but when you get big and uncomfortable, you won't want it. While you're breastfeeding (if you are) you'll not want it, then when you start wanting it again, you'll end up pregnant with your second... cycle, repeat.

Artistmom30 · December 2013

1st pregnancy, I hated the thought of having sex. I had no drive. This pregnancy, I actually want to. I totally feel you though. Been there but I am kinda glad I have some drive this time around.

AutumnBonfire · December 2013

My morning sickness gets worse in the evenings (when I see my husband) and I don't want him anywhere near me. We has a little discussion last night about how he needs to respect my personal space and stop breathing his breath in my face. So yeah, no. Even if I did want to, I don't even have the energy. I was ready for bed at 6:30 last night.

lizsheik · December 2013

I think I might be the only one who disagrees - lol... I thought sex more of a chore pre pregnancy.. not any more! With these hormones raging I cant get enough.... i think i wear him out! lol. Plus with more blood flowin' in that region its been amazing!

BettyBoop86 · December 2013

We have not even attempted since the day after IUI, almost 2 months.

Stacigirl413 · December 2013

No sex here either. Much like PP not because I don't enjoy it (clearly I do LOL) but mine is more of the reasoning because I take progesterone suppositories and it is not pretty down there from time to time (sorry for the TMI). DH already saw our son come out of there I don't need to have him see this too. LMAO

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cyndelgrace · December 2013

I've never really had this problem but it's very common. For me, pregnant sex is my favorite! I got it twice last night and I'm revving up for date night tonight. (my youngest is sleeping at grandmas for the FIRST TIME, we'll be getting BUSY). I'm not as sick this pregnancy but with my others, I would just bite the bullet and would usually feel better after. I hope the husbands that are going weeks without are getting pity hand jobs at least.

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bchildrn · December 2013

catarntina said:
I have pityriasis rosea, which is some stupid .viral rash that I've had for the past month. &nbsp. My PCP said I can't do anything about it except let it run its course. Every time I even think about having sex, the itchiness flares up. Thank God it's not considered to be contagious.

We haven't had sex since we conceived, mainly due this. I started feeling slightly better, then I got a head/chest cold. And now the itchiness is worse. I think my immune system is just taking a beating.

DH is really being a saint about it.

Omg i had it too!!!! Funny was we didnt know i was pregnant yet, but my dad guessed i was pregnant bc my mom had spots when she was pregnant. When wr found out my dad was like I knew it!

To the issue at hand. I totally feel you ladies. I was kind of in the mood yesterday so we did last night and I ended up so nauseous afterward it was awful :-(

I feel bad too because DH is ready to go all the time, esp with thr girls getting huge and I feel so bad saying no but I'm just not into it.

beccaxrad · December 2013

I don't even want anyone touching me, let alone sex. I have absolutely NO desire to sex it up at the moment. Poor DH...

amandaautum · December 2013

This is my second!! Haha I was never like this with my first

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