BF at Target

mrscrcalli · December 2013

Bluebird2318 said:
Also, the types of things that we censor and attempt to make more decent are typically the things we attribute more shame to, no? Isn't that counter-productive?

Bluebird you are so hot right now.. Whip your titty out in my trailer.

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smushi · December 2013

Serenla said:

Serenla said:

Rrrrrachel said:

I'm assuming she means she plans to pump bottles for when she's out of the house. I'm pretty modest, but I never batted an eye at bf.

This. BFing and modesty had nothing to do w/ each other for me.

As long as we are saying things like, "whip it out," and "got an eyeful," etc. we aren't going to make much progress.
What's wrong with saying "whip it out?" I don't think being prudish about it will solve anything easier. Edit additional.

This, and the fact that how people refer to BFing on an internet forum is pretty irrelevant. I highly doubt any of us are going to sit down in a restaurant and say "hold up a second, I gotta whip out a titty here."

Or maybe I will. Maybe I'll whip both out, but the unused one will have a tassel on it.
I'm not very eloquent so I always say "I'm gonna whip out my titty"
I am a pretty blunt person, I use phrases like "whip it out" and curse a bit. But hey they do say that people who swear are generally more honest .

Nipple is a swear word, right?

Serenla · December 2013

smushi said:

Serenla said:

mrscrcalli said:

Bluebird2318 said:

Serenla said:

LalaMama81 said:

Rrrrrachel said:

I'm assuming she means she plans to pump bottles for when she's out of the house.

I'm pretty modest, but I never batted an eye at bf.

This. BFing and modesty had nothing to do w/ each other for me.

As long as we are saying things like, "whip it out," and "got an eyeful," etc. we aren't going to make much progress.
What's wrong with saying "whip it out?" I don't think being prudish about it will solve anything easier.
Edit additional.

This, and the fact that how people refer to BFing on an internet forum is pretty irrelevant. I highly doubt any of us are going to sit down in a restaurant and say "hold up a second, I gotta whip out a titty here."

Or maybe I will. Maybe I'll whip both out, but the unused one will have a tassel on it.

I'm not very eloquent so I always say "I'm gonna whip out my titty" I am a pretty blunt person, I use phrases like "whip it out" and curse a bit.

But hey they do say that people who swear are generally more honest

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Nipple is a swear word, right?
It must be, DH giggles everytime I say it

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Rogue237 · December 2013

There is only one thing this thread is missing, ladies. Christ on a cracker!

mrscrcalli · December 2013

Rogue237 said:
There is only one thing this thread is missing, ladies. Christ on a cracker!

I love when you WHIP OUT this gif Rogue.

Rogue237 · December 2013

That is my official Bump stance. On all things.

mrscrcalli · December 2013

ImnAtari said:

Atari wtf is this??? Has me rolling!

fourthnlast · December 2013

strawberrytree said:

I've totally done that before. Also while holding him in my arms and walking around the grocery store pushing the cart with my elbows- now that one was a bit tricky!

That's impressive!

csmily51 · December 2013

Fitting rooms aren't that far away?

pdilly2b · December 2013

I agree that BFing in public, even uncovered, does not automatically make you immodest, which I think was at least part of the point Lala was trying to make.

ksulli · December 2013

My college roommate & I grabbed lunch shortly after I'd had dd and she was *shocked* that I BF DD right at the table because I am so modest, but she was really happy I went for it. We lived together for 3 years and she probably never even saw me in just underwear. You can BF without showing anything- I just layered, one shirt went up, the other went down, baby went on and nobody saw any of my business.

pdilly2b · December 2013

@ksulli -agreed, Nursing tanks are def key for not showing off too much post partum tummy.

Rrrrrachel · December 2013

That's pretty much what I do, too. I live those microrib tanks from target. The necks are nice and stretchy.

myschlove · December 2013

i nursed in target once, but i went to the dressing room... not because i was ashamed but it was the best place to sit down and relax and also because my baby was a little older and hard to carry. we had some issues so for the first month or two i had to practically be topless to get it going

this time around i plan on bringing my moby wrap and attempting to nurse while wearing (you can cover them so its totally discrete, no one will know!

also i can keep shopping

lol my sis did that and no one noticed!

nycgirlkat · December 2013

Ohhhh, you are all going to hell with your foul titty language and dancing Jesus....

I applaud all of you moms able to BF in public while multitasking. I can't walk and chew gum at the same time. I'll have to practice!! I'm a wreck about BFing because I want it to work out so badly.

In OT, a woman I work with said to me today very disapprovingly, "I hope you aren't going to BF". And I was so shocked by it! She says, "then you can never be anywhere without the baby, you will always be feeding the baby, no one else will be able to" and I felt like saying, "where the hell am I going to go in the first few months of my child's life without him/her anyway??" I just found it to be an interesting take on it...

thomas930 · December 2013

csmily51 said:

Fitting rooms aren't that far away?

Fitting rooms are for trying on clothes...not eating lunch

mrscrcalli · December 2013

csmily51 said:

Fitting rooms aren't that far away?

Fitting rooms are for trying on clothes...not eating lunch

i will not each my lunch in a fitting room Target has super small fitting rooms. the baby section has rockers, let someone say something.

TallaB · December 2013

mrscrcalli said:

csmily51 said:

Fitting rooms aren't that far away?

Fitting rooms are for trying on clothes...not eating lunch

i will not each my lunch in a fitting room Target has super small fitting rooms. the baby section has rockers, let someone say something.

Eating lunch in the fitting room will just allow me to relive my highschool days when I had to eat lunch in the bathroom stall!

ETA I realize I won't be the one eating lunch...but i'll be preparing my child for the future!

nikki912 · December 2013

nycgirlkat said:
Ohhhh, you are all going to hell with your foul titty language and dancing Jesus....

I applaud all of you moms able to BF in public while multitasking. I can't walk and chew gum at the same time. I'll have to practice!! I'm a wreck about BFing because I want it to work out so badly.

In OT, a woman I work with said to me today very disapprovingly, "I hope you aren't going to BF". And I was so shocked by it! She says, "then you can never be anywhere without the baby, you will always be feeding the baby, no one else will be able to" and I felt like saying, "where the hell am I going to go in the first few months of my child's life without him/her anyway??" I just found it to be an interesting take on it...

That bitch needs a boob slap.

I hate the argument that no one else gets to feed the baby. Because that's the ONLY thing to do with a baby. Idiots.

BiggerinRealLife · December 2013

Love that "titty" has made it into this thread, like, 50 times. We should do shots.

I will be BF-ing with a tent-like cover. Not because I'm modest (even though I kind of am) but because, once fully engorged with milk, I'm pretty sure my pre-pregnancy 38G's would terrify small children if out in the open. Plus, I don't want strangers to think my boobs are trying to eat my baby. The mental picture of how the heck I'm gonna breast feed already has me flummoxed.

LittleLady77 · December 2013

I totally support all ladies who NIP and I hope I can too. With twins I won't even need the tassels!

smushi · December 2013

nikki912 said:

Ohhhh, you are all going to hell with your foul titty language and dancing Jesus....

I applaud all of you moms able to BF in public while multitasking. I can't walk and chew gum at the same time. I'll have to practice!! I'm a wreck about BFing because I want it to work out so badly.

In OT, a woman I work with said to me today very disapprovingly, "I hope you aren't going to BF". And I was so shocked by it! She says, "then you can never be anywhere without the baby, you will always be feeding the baby, no one else will be able to" and I felt like saying, "where the hell am I going to go in the first few months of my child's life without him/her anyway??" I just found it to be an interesting take on it...
That bitch needs a boob slap. I hate the argument that no one else gets to feed the baby. Because that's the ONLY thing to do with a baby. Idiots.

Whip out that tit and smack a bitch!

Emily041285 · December 2013

My Target must not be very cool, we don't have rockers in the baby section...

zoopsiedaisy · December 2013

AprilMay9 said:

LalaMama81 said:

Emily041285 said:

My Target must not be very cool, we don't have rockers in the baby section...

Neither of mine do either.

The baby section at my target sucks. The dressing rooms are big though.

Our target has them but they are up on a shelf. That would be awesome. Like being on a throne while nursing. :-h

Edit because I out thrown the first time. I'm losing my mind

Momof8inSC · December 2013

I've been there and done that. I have nursed all 6 kids and has BF in public literally everywhere lol no chair?! Floor it is!!!

pdilly2b · December 2013

I actually liked nursing in fitting rooms because I could take all of my shit in there and spread out and DH could come in too and not just be standing around waiting for us, and it was quiet with no distractions. Though I never did it when it was busy and people were waiting for a room, which would be a little rude.

I would slap anyone who suggested I nurse or pump in a bathroom. That's just nasty.

Serenla · December 2013

@pdilly2b They let men into the women's fitting area?

sugarrush · December 2013

Serenla said:

@pdilly2b They let men into the women's fitting area?

the targets ive been to now have unisex fitting rooms... not sure how "new" that is to some stores

pdilly2b · December 2013

@Serenia - yeah, places like Target, Kohl's (I guess in different dept's but usually empty and not specifically marked as womens or mens), American Eagle, Tommy Hilfiger, Express, Old Navy... all unisex dressing rooms. I actually can't think of any place where they are monitoring and would have a problem.

reillyea · December 2013

I'm all about breast feeding and while I don't think everyone needs to use a cover I still think there is a thing called modesty and just because you have a baby doesn't call to completely expose yourself in public. I have literally seen women walking through my workplace with half their shirt up over their shoulder and their boob hanging out. I'm sorry I just don't think that is ever necessary. I do plan on breast feeding and if I can't use a cover and don't have a shirt that works I will go and sit in my car or the restroom.

thomas930 · December 2013

reillyea said:
I'm all about breast feeding and while I don't think everyone needs to use a cover I still think there is a thing called modesty and just because you have a baby doesn't call to completely expose yourself in public. I have literally seen women walking through my workplace with half their shirt up over their shoulder and their boob hanging out. I'm sorry I just don't think that is ever necessary. I do plan on breast feeding and if I can't use a cover and don't have a shirt that works I will go and sit in my car or the restroom.

That's fine if it works for you. I won't eat food in a bathroom so I don't expect a baby to. Just because you've witnessed one or two women not be modest does not mean that all are like that. I have never witnessed a BF mother totally exposed.

myschlove · December 2013

I agree that women should have the right to breastfeed anywhere they need to.

But don't give women a hard time for preferring to cover themselves or nurse in a changing room if they are more comfortable doing so. We are not telling YOU to do it, thats just our personal feelings for ourself.

I think the bottom line comes down to having the right to choose and having the right to nurse harassment free!

the same could be said about giving a bottle harassment free! being a first time mom can feel like a loose/loose situation sometimes.... you give a bottle and its "gasp, your not breastfeeding" or your nurse and its "your baby will be too attached" (which is super dumb, but I've heard it) or "nurse, just don't go out in public" (which is not realistic)

One thing I love about expecting my second is that I'm much more relaxed this time around! you gotta do what you gotta do! make the decision that works best for you and your baby and don't give others a hard time for doing the same if its different from what works for you!

Rrrrrachel · December 2013

Nursing is hardly the only part of mothering you'll get judgement for no matter what you choose to do.

Serenla · December 2013

I have been watching a lot of videos on BFing and maybe this will help.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GYrZEsPPRws

AcaAwkward · December 2013

myschlove said:
I agree that women should have the right to breastfeed anywhere they need to.

But don't give women a hard time for preferring to cover themselves or nurse in a changing room if they are more comfortable doing so. We are not telling YOU to do it, thats just our personal feelings for ourself.

I think the bottom line comes down to having the right to choose and having the right to nurse harassment free!

the same could be said about giving a bottle harassment free! being a first time mom can feel like a loose/loose situation sometimes.... you give a bottle and its "gasp, your not breastfeeding" or your nurse and its "your baby will be too attached" (which is super dumb, but I've heard it) or "nurse, just don't go out in public" (which is not realistic)
One thing I love about expecting my second is that I'm much more relaxed this time around! you gotta do what you gotta do! make the decision that works best for you and your baby and don't give others a hard time for doing the same if its different from what works for you!

You didn't just say it was YOUR personal preference. You said you believed in a "thing called modesty" and "just because you have a baby, doesn't mean you have to expose yourself." That's passing judgment on mothers who choose to be more open about NIP than you might.

Rock out with your cover and nurse wherever you feel comfortable, but don't expect others to have the same M.O. or make snide comments about their lack of modesty.

DD hated the cover -- so did I, especially when it was 110 in Dallas in August. I'm not shy, and there is no way I'm sitting in a public bathroom to nurse my child (ick). I always tried to plan an outfit conducive to NIP, but I've definitely found myself in public a little less covered than I'd prefer... Oh well! A happy nursing baby and a tiny nip-slip is much preferable in my book than a baby screaming to be fed during brunch.

MamaFantastic · December 2013

wow, i missed all of this! i nursed in public, but i generally used a cover. i nursed a lot in church and i wasn't comfortable doing so without a cover, given the fact that most of my best friends' husbands were milling around. nobody ever pressured me - it was just my personal preference.

i also chose to BF in the motherhood maternity changing rooms when i was at the mall. again - no pressure to do so, but if i had my infant with me and i had schlepped all the way to the mall, i was guaranteed to need a reasonably relaxed sit-down break halfway through anyway, and the dressing room allowed me to spread out in a quiet, non-distracting place where he'd latch better and stay on better. for me, the boring factor of the dressing room was the most important element in my decision to go there. my kiddo hit 4 months and decided the world was AMAZING and way better than the boob... and unless i was in a quiet, dark, boring place, he wouldn't stay latched.

myschlove · December 2013

@AcaAwkward

perhaps you need to reread what i said. I never once say the word modesty in the two posts I've made on this subject.

You are getting onto to me by quoting someone else. I believe this is the comment you are thinking of:

reillyea said:

I'm all about breast feeding and while I don't think everyone needs to use a cover I still think there is a thing called modesty and just because you have a baby doesn't call to completely expose yourself in public. I have literally seen women walking through my workplace with half their shirt up over their shoulder and their boob hanging out. I'm sorry I just don't think that is ever necessary. I do plan on breast feeding and if I can't use a cover and don't have a shirt that works I will go and sit in my car or the restroom.

I didn't actually make this comment. I simply said "I agree that women should have the right to breastfeed anywhere they need to. But don't give women a hard time for preferring to cover themselves or nurse in a changing room if they are more comfortable doing so. We are not telling YOU to do it, thats just our personal feelings for ourself."

I stand by my comment. Im in no way making a judgement or asking you to do the same... I have no problems with women nursing whenever they need to, My point was to stop giving those a hard time if they are more comfortable with a cover. I wasn't directing anything to you personally, just to anyone in general who makes sarcastic remarks about not liking to eat in a changing room.

the next time you have something to say, make sure you are quoting the right person.

BiggerinRealLife · December 2013

3crazykitties said:

BiggerinRealLife said:

Love that "titty" has made it into this thread, like, 50 times. We should do shots.

I will be BF-ing with a tent-like cover. Not because I'm modest (even though I kind of am) but because, once fully engorged with milk, I'm pretty sure my pre-pregnancy 38G's would terrify small children if out in the open. Plus, I don't want strangers to think my boobs are trying to eat my baby. The mental picture of how the heck I'm gonna breast feed already has me flummoxed.

@biggerinreallife now we know where you got your screen name from! DAMN GIRL you got some biggums!

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@3crazykitties Haha sure! That's where my name came from. We'll go with that.

AcaAwkward · December 2013

myschlove said:
@AcaAwkward

perhaps you need to reread what i said. I never once say the word modesty in the two posts I've made on this subject.

You are getting onto to me by quoting someone else. I believe this is the comment you are thinking of:

reillyea said:
I'm all about breast feeding and while I don't think everyone needs to use a cover I still think there is a thing called modesty and just because you have a baby doesn't call to completely expose yourself in public. I have literally seen women walking through my workplace with half their shirt up over their shoulder and their boob hanging out. I'm sorry I just don't think that is ever necessary. I do plan on breast feeding and if I can't use a cover and don't have a shirt that works I will go and sit in my car or the restroom.

I didn't actually make this comment. I simply said "I agree that women should have the right to breastfeed anywhere they need to. But don't give women a hard time for preferring to cover themselves or nurse in a changing room if they are more comfortable doing so. We are not telling YOU to do it, thats just our personal feelings for ourself."
I stand by my comment. Im in no way making a judgement or asking you to do the same... I have no problems with women nursing whenever they need to, My point was to stop giving those a hard time if they are more comfortable with a cover. I wasn't directing anything to you personally, just to anyone in general who makes sarcastic remarks about not liking to eat in a changing room.

the next time you have something to say, make sure you are quoting the right person.

Oooooooookay, I stand corrected on my ability to quote.

But who was giving anyone a hard time about using a cover?

myschlove · December 2013

A few people have made comments about nursing in the changing room.

That's what I was referring to... And also, this topic has come up before and people have made comments.

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