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Cosleepers? Help!

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How do your nights typically go as cosleepers? Do you go to sleep when your baby does? Do you getting them to sleep then do things?

Nights have always been tough for us. He used to sleep in his crib until he was 6 months. He's not a great sleeper anyway but he ended up sleeping in 20 minute increments. Cosleeping it is. (tried the Ferber method a couple times and it worked for a week, had to do it again, worked for a week, etc - letting him CIO never felt right to me)

But now once he's down for the night he is well aware when I'm not there. I try to sneak around him to get up and do things but he always wakes up. I just can't go to sleep at 8:00 (and don't want to) so I've ended up just laying on the couch with him when he goes to bed. I absolutely can't stand it. I feel lazy and bored and sore from being in the same position for so long.

It's not working at all. Some things got to change but I feel like I've tried everything. He is SO attached to me. He won't have anything to do with my DH after 7. Any suggestions? Please be nice. I have an incredibly temperamental child.
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  • =Lee=B=Lee=B member

    Most nights my daughter starts off in her crib then when I go to bed she comes into bed with me.

    But, on rough nights like tonight and many other teething or wonky developmental shifting nights I end up in her room with her most of the evening because her 'mommy' radar goes off if I leave the room and she wakes in a total panic.  Tonight she I was in bed with her.  I was on my phone or laptop with her beside me.  I managed to escape much later to do some stuff before I go back to sleep.

    On the rough nights when I need to escape to do stuff my husband is on baby alert and if she wakes he goes in and lies with her.  She usually hates it and spazzes out but he manages to keep her calm (though wide awake) until I finish my stuff and retreat back to her room.  Then she passes right back out when I lie beside her.

    So...point being...can you have a bunch of stuff on hand to do when you get stuck in there?  I have stuff to read online, research, watch some tv, email everyone etc.  It beats staring at the wall.  Doesn't really solve anything to get me out of the room but she just sometimes needs me in there with her so I do my best to make the most of that time.

     

     

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  • SLGILL1978SLGILL1978 member
    Most nights my daughter is a good sleeper. I put her in the bed between 7-7:30 pm. I usually go to bed a couple hours later. Sometimes she does wake a couple of times and may fuss a little but as long as she can find her paci she is good. Other times when she just wants me, I go to bed with her and/or read. I also keep a pack n play in the living room so if I need to get stuff done I put her to sleep in there until I can get to bed.
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    SLGILL1978 said:
    Most nights my daughter is a good sleeper. I put her in the bed between 7-7:30 pm. I usually go to bed a couple hours later. Sometimes she does wake a couple of times and may fuss a little but as long as she can find her paci she is good. Other times when she just wants me, I go to bed with her and/or read. I also keep a pack n play in the living room so if I need to get stuff done I put her to sleep in there until I can get to bed.
    She sleeps in an adult bed by herself for a couple hours? Don't you worry that she could roll out and get hurt?
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  • SidraJediSidraJedi member
    Our bed is on the floor. I usually nurse her to sleep a couple of hours before I go to bed. I make sure that she is in a deep sleep and I gently unlatch and roll away, leaving her to sleep without me until I am ready to join her. Sometimes I have to slip her a paci to get away clean but usually I have to wait until she is deep enough asleep on her own and she won't miss me at all.
    This arrangement rarely fails.
    If she needs to nurse some more she wakes and either lies there crying for me or she gets up and crawls out of bed trying to find me before she starts crying and I go to nurse her back down.
    Sometimes she is up and at'em after a pre-bedtime nap and I end up begging her to stop playing and come to bed.
    Our apartment is small so we have to be quiet in the evenings in order for all of this to work.
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  • MrsG071809MrsG071809 member
    I usually nurse DD to sleep in our bed, and then once she's good and asleep will put her in the crib.  Like PP, sometimes I have to slip a paci in to keep her asleep.  She makes it a varying length of time in the crib each night and once she's up she comes into our bed.  DH goes in to try and get her back down, but like PP she seem's to have mommy radar and wants nothing to do with him, so he brings her to me and usually we'll just snuggle and she falls back to sleep.  Most of the time I don't have to feed her until her usual time around 5am.  I am good with this arrangement, I like getting a few hours of sleep with the bed to ourselves, but I love me some baby snuggles too. :)

    As far as being able to put your DS down and walk away...have you tried leaving him with a shirt of yours or a blanket that you've cuddled with so that he'll still smell your scent?  
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