Husband started Basic.

prken95 · December 2013

My husband started Basic Training for the army only like 2 and 1/2 weeks ago. I miss his so much and being pregnant is not helping all my emotions

He gets to come home for christmas in exactly two weeks then has to go back. so I am counting down the days. I wish he could be here for all of this but I know he is doing this for us and our country. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

TaylorHam86 · December 2013

Sort of... But no, not really. My twin baby brothers are both in basic right now. Totally not the same kind of relationship, but we are very close and it's the first time the three of us have been "separated," plus the pregnancy hormones are causing me to be all dramatic about it. Where is your husband? When he gets done with basic, will he be coming home or does he have more training to do first?

One of my brothers has a serious girlfriend here who he will probably marry. I remind her to try and think about how great it is that they have the opportunity to write each other love letters. Most people don't have that kind of sentiment anymore. I think it will be great for them to hold onto those letters so their kids can read them one day!

dwnslde · December 2013

My husband has been in for 6.5 years and deploying soon. Hugs! Basic is hard and I had so many emotions through out that and Ranger School. Hugs!!

prken95 · December 2013

The twins went in together? I think thats really cool, It'd be confusing if they're identical. (: My husband is in fort benning, where are your brothers? I got a lot of letters while he was in reception that keep me going, but I havent gotten any since he started basic yet. The first two weeks of basic are supposed to be the slowest on letters. Are your brothers coming home for christmas?
And he has to go to AIT in Texas for 46 weeks, just shy of a year, because he is going to be a Radiology Specialist. As soon as the baby is born I will be moving down there, but by that time his second phase of training kicks in and he gets to decide where we move. Big stuff!
Getting married is such a huge commitment on its own. adding the military in it makes it so much bigger. Its a great feeling, theres a lot of pride in my husband.

prken95 · December 2013

dwnslde said:

My husband has been in for 6.5 years and deploying soon. Hugs! Basic is hard and I had so many emotions through out that and Ranger School. Hugs!!

Thanks to you and your husband for your service. I admire your strenght, for sure. Thanks for the kind words!

pandadair · December 2013

They let him out for Christmas? That's really nice. When my husband was at Navy bootcamp, they let some of them have an unplanned phone call Christmas evening. Definitely take advantage of him being back. At least, if I remember correctly, he still has training after basic, right? So you don't have to worry about a deployment before baby is here.

My husband and I were together, but not yet engaged while he was at bootcamp. I sent him a letter or card every single day. My favorite one from him was written on toilet paper, because he snuck off to write it. The time apart is rough, but I think knowing that they're going through something hard and you can't really support them is worse.

prken95 · December 2013

pandadair said:

They let him out for Christmas? That's really nice. When my husband was at Navy bootcamp, they let some of them have an unplanned phone call Christmas evening. Definitely take advantage of him being back. At least, if I remember correctly, he still has training after basic, right? So you don't have to worry about a deployment before baby is here.

My husband and I were together, but not yet engaged while he was at bootcamp. I sent him a letter or card every single day. My favorite one from him was written on toilet paper, because he snuck off to write it. The time apart is rough, but I think knowing that they're going through something hard and you can't really support them is worse.

For the last couple years theyve been doing exodus, I know the army and Air force do it but I dont know about the navy, my dad was in the Navy though. He gets to come home for 2 weeks and 3 days, its really nice. Id be such a bigger mess if he couldnt come home. And then he goes back to basic until February and has almost a year in AIT, what would be your A school. Thats cute about the toilet paper(: And youre right, I keep trying to make sure i put that Im proud of him but I wish I could be there to cheer him on, sounds dumb, but its true!

TaylorHam86 · December 2013

@prken95 Yep, they both went in together and they're both doing the same kind of contract to work towards special forces (I don't know if I'm wording that right, silly civilian me). They are not identical, but they look like it to most people. They are at Benning too! Delta Co. What about yours?

Yes, they get to come home for Christmas. I can't wait. I've gotten a few letters but not very many. One of them is able to call me, my parents, and/or his girlfriend about once a week, but the other one doesn't get as many privileges. Apparently his platoon gets in trouble a lot so they have more consequences.

Kudos to you for being an Army wife. It takes a certain kind of strength. You have a lot to be proud of.. and so does he!

prken95 · December 2013

cunninghammy said:

@prken95 Yep, they both went in together and they're both doing the same kind of contract to work towards special forces (I don't know if I'm wording that right, silly civilian me). They are not identical, but they look like it to most people. They are at Benning too! Delta Co. What about yours?

Yes, they get to come home for Christmas. I can't wait. I've gotten a few letters but not very many. One of them is able to call me, my parents, and/or his girlfriend about once a week, but the other one doesn't get as many privileges. Apparently his platoon gets in trouble a lot so they have more consequences.

Kudos to you for being an Army wife. It takes a certain kind of strength. You have a lot to be proud of.. and so does he!

Ive only gotten one call while he was in basic, so that one is lucky! My husband is in Freedom Co. , your brothers are in infantry I take it? Mine is in noncombat training. Thats cool that theyre both in Ft Benning though ! Only 2 more weeks. (:

prken95 · December 2013

cunninghammy said:

@prken95 Yep, they both went in together and they're both doing the same kind of contract to work towards special forces (I don't know if I'm wording that right, silly civilian me). They are not identical, but they look like it to most people. They are at Benning too! Delta Co. What about yours?

Yes, they get to come home for Christmas. I can't wait. I've gotten a few letters but not very many. One of them is able to call me, my parents, and/or his girlfriend about once a week, but the other one doesn't get as many privileges. Apparently his platoon gets in trouble a lot so they have more consequences.

Kudos to you for being an Army wife. It takes a certain kind of strength. You have a lot to be proud of.. and so does he!

& Thank you . Im only 18 so I have a looonnng life of being an Army wife ahead of me (:

pandadair · December 2013

prken95 said:

pandadair said:

They let him out for Christmas? That's really nice. When my husband was at Navy bootcamp, they let some of them have an unplanned phone call Christmas evening. Definitely take advantage of him being back. At least, if I remember correctly, he still has training after basic, right? So you don't have to worry about a deployment before baby is here.

My husband and I were together, but not yet engaged while he was at bootcamp. I sent him a letter or card every single day. My favorite one from him was written on toilet paper, because he snuck off to write it. The time apart is rough, but I think knowing that they're going through something hard and you can't really support them is worse.

For the last couple years theyve been doing exodus, I know the army and Air force do it but I dont know about the navy, my dad was in the Navy though. He gets to come home for 2 weeks and 3 days, its really nice. Id be such a bigger mess if he couldnt come home. And then he goes back to basic until February and has almost a year in AIT, what would be your A school. Thats cute about the toilet paper(: And youre right, I keep trying to make sure i put that Im proud of him but I wish I could be there to cheer him on, sounds dumb, but its true!

Cool! It's definitely been a few years since hubs was in bootcamp. I know what you mean about wishing you could cheer him on. What they're (the military) is doing with their training is for a purpose, but it sucks to know that they're struggling through some shit and you can't be there as a support. That said, enjoy the year at AIT. I wasn't necessarily fond of my husband's schedule at Nuke school for those two years (seriously, it was awful), but he was still around more than he was once he was on a boat. Obviously your situation will be different, but just enjoy the relative regularity of that first year of your marriage. Jeez, enlisting, getting married and a baby. You crazy kids

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SunnySky06 · December 2013

Lurker coming out. Welcome to army life. My husband has been in for 8.5 years and we've been married for 7.5, it doesn't get easier being away you just learn to build a support system. My husband is actualy a drill sgt but we are at fort sill. My husband had to leave for a leadership course when I was 8.5 weeks pregnant and will finally be coming home next week when I'm 16 weeks pregnant and even though I'm use to spending time apart due to the military it has been a new experience for me since I'm pregnant and feeling like an emotional roller coaster. Just write him letters and be happy he gets to come for exodus, it will be a welcomes break for the both of you.

Junebug060609 · December 2013

My husband is deployed. Was gone for Thanksgiving, will be for Christmas, his bday and maybe Easter. Praying he is able to be home for the birth.

As an aside...he probably isn't going to decide where you go...not in the pick anywhere kind of sense anyhow. Just don't want you to have the wrong impression. My DH is Navy, 18 yrs in, and when his window for choosing his next station comes up he has to pick from what is available for his specialty/rank at the time. He likely will have a lot of choices if he is a radiologist since most bases have hospitals and those hospitals need xrays and ultrasounds...but it will depend what ones have openings when he is looking.

prken95 · December 2013

pandadair said:

prken95 said:

pandadair said:

They let him out for Christmas? That's really nice. When my husband was at Navy bootcamp, they let some of them have an unplanned phone call Christmas evening. Definitely take advantage of him being back. At least, if I remember correctly, he still has training after basic, right? So you don't have to worry about a deployment before baby is here.

My husband and I were together, but not yet engaged while he was at bootcamp. I sent him a letter or card every single day. My favorite one from him was written on toilet paper, because he snuck off to write it. The time apart is rough, but I think knowing that they're going through something hard and you can't really support them is worse.

For the last couple years theyve been doing exodus, I know the army and Air force do it but I dont know about the navy, my dad was in the Navy though. He gets to come home for 2 weeks and 3 days, its really nice. Id be such a bigger mess if he couldnt come home. And then he goes back to basic until February and has almost a year in AIT, what would be your A school. Thats cute about the toilet paper(: And youre right, I keep trying to make sure i put that Im proud of him but I wish I could be there to cheer him on, sounds dumb, but its true!

Cool! It's definitely been a few years since hubs as in bootcamp. I know what you mean about wishing you could cheer him on. What they're (the military) is doing with their training is for a purpose, but it sucks to know that they're struggling through some shit and you can't be there as a support. That said, enjoy the year at AIT. I wasn't necessarily fond of my husband's schedule at Nuke school for those two years (seriously, it was awful), but he was still around more than he was once he was on a boat. Obviously your situation will be different, but just enjoy the relative regularity of that first year of your marriage. Jeez, enlisting, getting married and a baby. You crazy kids .

Yeah, my dad likes to tell my husband that he likes to get everything done at once. I was 5 weeks pregnant on my wedding day, and only married 2 months when he shipped out. Youre deffinitly right, and about a month after the baby is born I will be moving to texas with him, so we will be living together again, finally. Seems like a long time, but Im sure itll go by fast!!

pandadair · December 2013

Junebug060609 said:

My husband is deployed. Was gone for Thanksgiving, will be for Christmas, his bday and maybe Easter. Praying he is able to be home for the birth. As an aside...he probably isn't going to decide where you go...not in the pick anywhere kind of sense anyhow. Just don't want you to have the wrong impression. My DH is Navy, 18 yrs in, and when his window for choosing his next station comes up he has to pick from what is available for his specialty/rank at the time. He likely will have a lot of choices if he is a radiologist since most bases have hospitals and those hospitals need xrays and ultrasounds...but it will depend what ones have openings when he is looking.

Good point. For my husband it didn't even work out that nicely. They had him draw up a dream sheet ranking the 5 things he'd most prefer (1. Boomer, 2. Washington, 3. West Coast, etc.) and then... sent him to a boat not at all on the list. At least it wasn't Guam. FX for you that he is back for the birth. I frickin' hated the uncertainty of those deployments.

peachysweet4 · December 2013

My DH has been in the AF for 8 years. We were engaged when he left for basic and got married after tech school and before first duty. I still have the letters from basic. Cherish them

Good luck. It's hard but you guys can do it!

RedInLove · December 2013

prken95 said:

The twins went in together? I think thats really cool, It'd be confusing if they're identical. (: My husband is in fort benning, where are your brothers? I got a lot of letters while he was in reception that keep me going, but I havent gotten any since he started basic yet. The first two weeks of basic are supposed to be the slowest on letters. Are your brothers coming home for christmas?
And he has to go to AIT in Texas for 46 weeks, just shy of a year, because he is going to be a Radiology Specialist. As soon as the baby is born I will be moving down there, but by that time his second phase of training kicks in and he gets to decide where we move. Big stuff!
Getting married is such a huge commitment on its own. adding the military in it makes it so much bigger. Its a great feeling, theres a lot of pride in my husband.

So he's going to Ft. Sam Houston! I went there for AIT in 1996. If you can get down there with him, San Antonio was one of the main areas we were allowed to go in, we would always hang out at the Riverwalk.

prken95 · December 2013

SunnySky06 said:

Lurker coming out. Welcome to army life. My husband has been in for 8.5 years and we've been married for 7.5, it doesn't get easier being away you just learn to build a support system. My husband is actualy a drill sgt but we are at fort sill. My husband had to leave for a leadership course when I was 8.5 weeks pregnant and will finally be coming home next week when I'm 16 weeks pregnant and even though I'm use to spending time apart due to the military it has been a new experience for me since I'm pregnant and feeling like an emotional roller coaster. Just write him letters and be happy he gets to come for exodus, it will be a welcomes break for the both of you.

Im definitely happy he gets to come home and I will be even happier when he actually gets here, being pregnant definitly feels like it is about 20x worse that it really is. Thanks for you and your husbands service (: Im glad he gets to come home soon !

prken95 · December 2013

Junebug060609 said:

My husband is deployed. Was gone for Thanksgiving, will be for Christmas, his bday and maybe Easter. Praying he is able to be home for the birth. As an aside...he probably isn't going to decide where you go...not in the pick anywhere kind of sense anyhow. Just don't want you to have the wrong impression. My DH is Navy, 18 yrs in, and when his window for choosing his next station comes up he has to pick from what is available for his specialty/rank at the time. He likely will have a lot of choices if he is a radiologist since most bases have hospitals and those hospitals need xrays and ultrasounds...but it will depend what ones have openings when he is looking.

I hope is able to come home for the birth ! And another wife of a 68P informed me that in the second phase they get to pick which base they will be on , according to how many spots they can fill. The only reason he gets to decide is because his AIT is so long, it also depends on his place in the class, if he is just about dead last itll be decided for him because Everything will already have been picked. I know itll be limited, its like you said, but its closer to a choice than he will likely get again. Thanks for yours and your husbands service(:

QOTR · December 2013

Thanks to him for his service and to your family for your sacrifices. I hope he remains safe.

Junebug060609 · December 2013

@pandadair We have had that happen. Lets just say that living in San Diego for three years wasn't on our radar until it was the only option that would give him shore duty during the years we wanted to TTC (we were 34 then, 37 now, so putting off TTC wasn't a good option). Thankfully this time at least we got the base we wanted...though we'd have preferred a different ship.

I guess either way he will be coming home to a helluva change. I will either be out-to-here pregnant (was just starting to show when he left to catch up with his ship) or will have a newborn.

prken95 · December 2013

RedInLove said:

prken95 said:

The twins went in together? I think thats really cool, It'd be confusing if they're identical. (: My husband is in fort benning, where are your brothers? I got a lot of letters while he was in reception that keep me going, but I havent gotten any since he started basic yet. The first two weeks of basic are supposed to be the slowest on letters. Are your brothers coming home for christmas?
And he has to go to AIT in Texas for 46 weeks, just shy of a year, because he is going to be a Radiology Specialist. As soon as the baby is born I will be moving down there, but by that time his second phase of training kicks in and he gets to decide where we move. Big stuff!
Getting married is such a huge commitment on its own. adding the military in it makes it so much bigger. Its a great feeling, theres a lot of pride in my husband.

So he's going to Ft. Sam Houston! I went there for AIT in 1996. If you can get down there with him, San Antonio was one of the main areas we were allowed to go in, we would always hang out at the Riverwalk.

Yupp! And i will be able to move with him a little after the baby is born! And thanks, for the info :

peachysweet4 · December 2013

Where is he wanting to go? We were lucky and got our top pic for his first duty station now we are at JBLM in WA which was #4 or 5.

prken95 · December 2013

peachysweet4 said:

Where is he wanting to go? We were lucky and got our top pic for his first duty station now we are at JBLM in WA which was #4 or 5.

Are you talking to me? Its so confusing now! If so, thats about 7 months away, itll depend on the spaces available. So we have no clue at this point! Especially not until he starts AIT.

peachysweet4 · December 2013

prken95 said:

peachysweet4 said:

Where is he wanting to go? We were lucky and got our top pic for his first duty station now we are at JBLM in WA which was #4 or 5.

Are you talking to me? Its so confusing now! If so, thats about 7 months away, itll depend on the spaces available. So we have no clue at this point! Especially not until he starts AIT.

Yes, you sorry haha. No, I know I mean where does he and you *want* to go. It helps to prepare ahead and research areas so when the time comes and you find out where he's elegible to go have a list in mind. I'm constantly doing that now and we are here for 3 more years haha.

prken95 · December 2013

peachysweet4 said:

prken95 said:

peachysweet4 said:

Where is he wanting to go? We were lucky and got our top pic for his first duty station now we are at JBLM in WA which was #4 or 5.

Are you talking to me? Its so confusing now! If so, thats about 7 months away, itll depend on the spaces available. So we have no clue at this point! Especially not until he starts AIT.

Yes, you sorry haha. No, I know I mean where does he and you *want* to go. It helps to prepare ahead and research areas so when the time comes and you find out where he's elegible to go have a list in mind. I'm constantly doing that now and we are here for 3 more years haha.

Oh, i have no clue. I havent been anywhere to know where I want. Ft Leonard wood would be nice just because we would be closer to where we live now, but its really up to my husband. Im indecisive. aha

ebox322 · December 2013

You are one tough cookie! My husband has been in the navy for almost 5 years and I couldn't imagine him being in basic while I was pregnant. I met him fresh out of A school because he got stationed in my hometown. I have SERIOUS respect for all you ladies that have had to endure deployments. DH has miraculously not been deployed in the last 3 years. He did C school in Texas when we first were dating and it was really hard being apart.

I applaud you for taking on so much at once!! So glad you get to see him for Christmas

pandadair · December 2013

@Juenbug060609 I've heard that San Diego is very nice, at least! We were in Pearl Harbor, which I dreaded at the time, but ended up loving. The boat, however, was a different story. Crazy how much experiences can differ based on that. We actually put off TTC for those reasons, but we also knew he'd be 6 yrs and done. Again, FX for you and you'll be in my thoughts. Your husband will certainly have a lot of awesome waiting for him on the pier!

jntaylor11 · December 2013

Nope. Just went through a 9.5 month deployment tho (we got pregnant like within days of his homecoming lol) anyway, it's very difficult. In some ways I was glad to have my son to keep me busy but it was very hard & bittersweet at times because he missed so much of our sons life. Just try to keep yourself busy with whatever you can. Being busy helps pass the time. This likely won't be your only separation, but in some ways it seems to be the hardest IMO.

RedInLove · December 2013

prken95 said:

RedInLove said:

prken95 said:

The twins went in together? I think thats really cool, It'd be confusing if they're identical. (: My husband is in fort benning, where are your brothers? I got a lot of letters while he was in reception that keep me going, but I havent gotten any since he started basic yet. The first two weeks of basic are supposed to be the slowest on letters. Are your brothers coming home for christmas?
And he has to go to AIT in Texas for 46 weeks, just shy of a year, because he is going to be a Radiology Specialist. As soon as the baby is born I will be moving down there, but by that time his second phase of training kicks in and he gets to decide where we move. Big stuff!
Getting married is such a huge commitment on its own. adding the military in it makes it so much bigger. Its a great feeling, theres a lot of pride in my husband.

So he's going to Ft. Sam Houston! I went there for AIT in 1996. If you can get down there with him, San Antonio was one of the main areas we were allowed to go in, we would always hang out at the Riverwalk.

Yupp! And i will be able to move with him a little after the baby is born! And thanks, for the info :

You are lucky to get to live with him, that is not always typical for IET soldiers.

I did my basic at Leonard Wood. It was so cold there!! Almost as cold as Ft. Drum in January.

My suggestion for his duty station wish list, besides choosing based on location, is to try to pick a post that he could be busy at, as in he will see and do more. When DH went active duty, he wanted a post that would be very busy and active so he picked posts that had active ranges and a lot of artillery and ordnance activity so he would run a lot of disposal missions. He got his top choice, Ft. Bragg, NC, and spent several very busy years there.

If I remember correctly, Leonard Wood is mostly a training post, lots of basic training and AIT there. But that was also over 15 years ago.

Bacon2 · December 2013

You will make it. Trust me. But I do know the emotions you are feeling.
My husband just left Mon for a 7 month deployment.

FunSizeGrl · December 2013

They get to leave basic for Christmas?? The Army is so different! lol My husband and I were together when he went through Marine boot camp. Three months of solely snail mail for communication. It was not an easy adjustment. It gets easier! I loved having a count down. For some people the count downs are too daunting but I really liked crossing off every day.

We've been in San Diego for a few years but next year we're going to an Army base, maybe we'll cross paths

prken95 · December 2013

RedInLove said:

RedInLove said:

prken95 said:

The twins went in together? I think thats really cool, It'd be confusing if they're identical. (: My husband is in fort benning, where are your brothers? I got a lot of letters while he was in reception that keep me going, but I havent gotten any since he started basic yet. The first two weeks of basic are supposed to be the slowest on letters. Are your brothers coming home for christmas?
And he has to go to AIT in Texas for 46 weeks, just shy of a year, because he is going to be a Radiology Specialist. As soon as the baby is born I will be moving down there, but by that time his second phase of training kicks in and he gets to decide where we move. Big stuff!
Getting married is such a huge commitment on its own. adding the military in it makes it so much bigger. Its a great feeling, theres a lot of pride in my husband.

So he's going to Ft. Sam Houston! I went there for AIT in 1996. If you can get down there with him, San Antonio was one of the main areas we were allowed to go in, we would always hang out at the Riverwalk.

Yupp! And i will be able to move with him a little after the baby is born! And thanks, for the info :
You are lucky to get to live with him, that is not always typical for IET soldiers. I did my basic at Leonard Wood. It was so cold there!! Almost as cold as Ft. Drum in January. My suggestion for his duty station wish list, besides choosing based on location, is to try to pick a post that he could be busy at, as in he will see and do more. When DH went active duty, he wanted a post that would be very busy and active so he picked posts that had active ranges and a lot of artillery and ordnance activity so he would run a lot of disposal missions. He got his top choice, Ft. Bragg, NC, and spent several very busy years there. If I remember correctly, Leonard Wood is mostly a training post, lots of basic training and AIT there. But that was also over 15 years ago.

it probably still is but itll be for the 2nd part of his training so as long as its available it would be nice to be close to my family for the last half of his training especially with a new baby! We will see though, you make a good point though so I will definitely bring it up to my husband when he gets home

daisyemerson · December 2013

Right there with ya. I got my BFP one week after my husband deployed. He's missed the entire pregnancy so far. I'm just so thankful it's a shorter deployment and he'll be home for the 2nd half of my pregnancy and the birth (knock on wood!)
Welcome to military life! I'd say it gets easier, but it doesn't. You learn to cope and deal with it and become all the more stronger for it, but it can be tough.

kendy20 · December 2013

My husband is in the Air Force and left for his first deployment when I was about nine weeks along. It's been a little over a month now, but he is missing our 5 year wedding anniversary this month

along with all the other holidays. BUT he should be back two weeks before our due date. Some days are harder than others but I'm just staying busy with work and what not and hoping the time goes by fast for these next five months :-)

MunchkinMoon · December 2013

I know how hard that is (from the opposite end, I was in the military and had to do basic years ago), so first, I'm sorry that you're going through this alone. And second, thank you to you and your husband (military spouses are just as important- they're the support for the troops!) for your sacrifice.

With that said, hang in there. Make small countdowns to the next times you can see him, call him, etc, rather than counting down until the end (since sometimes that number is so large that it is overwhelming). And as a always, write, write, and write! :-/

Junebug060609 · December 2013

pandadair said:
@Juenbug060609 I've heard that San Diego is very nice, at least! We were in Pearl Harbor, which I dreaded at the time, but ended up loving. The boat, however, was a different story. Crazy how much experiences can differ based on that. We actually put off TTC for those reasons, but we also knew he'd be 6 yrs and done. Again, FX for you and you'll be in my thoughts. Your husband will certainly have a lot of awesome waiting for him on the pier!

San Diego was pretty nice. As I told him as we were realizing it was going to happen, "There are a lot worse places to get sent...". It was difficult though to go through my sons pg, birth and first two years thousands of miles from our support system.

@munckinmoon Amen to the little countdowns. Looking at how many months to go is depressing...but knowing it is X days until he can call again is more doable.

RedInLove · December 2013

Trying to get close to home is always great, it doesn't always happen so when you can get it, take it! We're out now, and back home in NH. DH spent all his time (after training in Florida for a year) at Ft. Bragg, NC, and considered transferring to a Washington DC unit at one time which wold have halved the distance we were from home. He ended up getting out, so a move never happened.

And you are definitely not alone! You have us here, of course! And in case you have not seen it yet, there is a military board here on the Bump, and one on the Nest as well. You might be able to find other spouses there for where ever you are going, especially if he's still in training as there won't be as many spouses among that group of soldiers as you would have at his permanent duty station.

We were both Army (I was Reserve, DH was Reserve and Active), so if you have any questions I'm happy to try my best to answer them.

SNOakes · December 2013

I'm a wife of a marine. We had been together for a few years when he joined. I will say this, you are SO lucky you got a phone call, let alone a Christmas visit. The marines don't allow that. I got 4-5 letters the whole time he was gone and he had to sneak around to do that. I didn't realize the army was lenient enough to let them come home for Christmas! Seems like a different world to me, lol! I'm so glad you get that though, because I was not pregnant when he was gone. I just wanted to tell you good luck and you definitely aren't alone. Reach out to the women in his unit or squad, there is usually a group that passes on all the info from the unit. They are all in the same boat and can provide support, even if its just over the Internet. Good luck, you can do this!

pandadair · December 2013

SNOakes said:

I'm a wife of a marine. We had been together for a few years when he joined. I will say this, you are SO lucky you got a phone call, let alone a Christmas visit. The marines don't allow that. I got 4-5 letters the whole time he was gone and he had to sneak around to do that. I didn't realize the army was lenient enough to let them come home for Christmas! Seems like a different world to me, lol! I'm so glad you get that though, because I was not pregnant when he was gone. I just wanted to tell you good luck and you definitely aren't alone. Reach out to the women in his unit or squad, there is usually a group that passes on all the info from the unit. They are all in the same boat and can provide support, even if its just over the Internet. Good luck, you can do this!

I remember this coming up on another thread, but definitely reach out to the FRG of his unit when you know where you'll be stationed. And look for online military communities on that base. When I was freaking out about our move to Hawaii because we couldn't get ahold of anyone, I posted my concern on the submarine wives board. Lo and behold, another lady contacted me, got my name, passed it along, and the very next day I got a phone call from the Chief of the Boat. You will find that most people in the community are very helpful and supportive.

FunSizeGrl · December 2013

I agree, the military community can be the strongest ad most helpful. I've seen wives stop to help another family in need in so many instances. You'll run into drama, but that's just life. Check out some Facebook groups if you haven't already. There are some that are geared towards those goon through basic and there is at least a few for every single base out there!
We actually went the opposite route of redinlove and went far from home for our first duty station. We love traveling and wanted to see something new.

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