Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
Yes, we all camp out at night in our trailer park circle, like they did with the old wagon trains. We have a grand old time until someone dies of a snake bite, true story bro. Edit Autocorrect.
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Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
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Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
wow, half witted trailer people huh?? I'll take my board full of half wits (per your holier-than-thou standards) than you fine individuals any day...
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
Yes, we all camp out at night in our trailer park circle, like the did with the old wagon trains. We have a grand old time until someone dies of a snake bite, true story bro.
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
wow, half witted trailer people huh?? I'll take my board full of half wits (per your holier-than-thou standards) than you fine individuals any day...
Us poor, lowly peasants and our Pottery Barn!
Yep berry, that was more dramatic than anything that has ever been said on A14. Trailer trash? Half witted? Your judgement is despicable and inexcusable. Gtg my chariot to my trailer awaits!!!
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
I find it odd that you're cursing in your posts and judging complete strangers. That's pathetic and seems to be the trashiest thing to me. Why are you stalking other boards? Are you talking about yourself? :-?
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
wow, half witted trailer people huh?? I'll take my board full of half wits (per your holier-than-thou standards) than you fine individuals any day...
Us poor, lowly peasants and our Pottery Barn!
Shit I'm screwed... I don't pay Pottery Barn prices. TARGET BItches!!!!!! I must be so far below her standards. I'm the scum on the scum on the bottoms of her shoe
Wel, now I really regret posting this, because I'm going to be getting notifications all freaking night.
And, as I was the one who posted, I wasn't stalking other boards...I'm on May '14 so I pop over to April occasionally to lurk.
To be fair, this IS TheBump. Any drama gets sniffed out and summarily GIF-bombed. It's just the status quo around here. Surely it wasn't that unexpected. )
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Wel, now I really regret posting this, because I'm going to be getting notifications all freaking night.
And, as I was the one who posted, I wasn't stalking other boards...I'm on May '14 so I pop over to April occasionally to lurk.
I don't believe there was an overall hate on etiquette, just a discrepancy in what the magic "rules" are that we were supposedly taught during finishing school.
Also *woof*
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For those of us that actually care about how we make the beloved people in our lives feel, this is looked down upon? It's cool to just throw manners out the window and do whatever you want, regardless of how it makes those you care about feel?
I'm confused as to all of the hate on etiquette here. Unless I'm the only one that thinks they never go out of style, even if it is 2013.
Yeah, there's no hate on basic etiquette. There's hate on the fact that people were called "trailer trash" for stating that they would attend a second shower for a friend under certain circumstances (typically assuming that it followed the very basic etiquette rule of being thrown by someone else and not asked for). There's hate on the idea that it's somehow unintelligent to use your own judgment about which showers are worth attending. If I love my friend and someone else is throwing her a shower to celebrate her second baby, I will damn well attend. It's all about caring how we make the beloved people in our life feel.
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Wel, now I really regret posting this, because I'm going to be getting notifications all freaking night.
And, as I was the one who posted, I wasn't stalking other boards...I'm on May '14 so I pop over to April occasionally to lurk.
Exactly!
Sometimes babies come early, ya know.
Obviously some are born prematurely, but that doesn't really justify lurking on another month's board. Isn't the point to mingle with others who share your month and possible due date? I'm sure most people don't get the urge to look in other birth month forums. There are plenty of universal forums on The Bump to scan.
Wel, now I really regret posting this, because I'm going to be getting notifications all freaking night.
And, as I was the one who posted, I wasn't stalking other boards...I'm on May '14 so I pop over to April occasionally to lurk.
Exactly!
Sometimes babies come early, ya know.
Obviously some are born prematurely, but that doesn't really justify lurking on another month's board. Isn't the point to mingle with others who share your month and possible due date? I'm sure most people don't get the urge to look in other birth month forums. There are plenty of universal forums on The Bump to scan.
I lurk other birth month boards all the time. They are normally boring but occasionally a real gem pops up.
That's fine. I'm sure you don't go around being pretentious about it though, which is causing conflicts. What I don't understand is how crazy people are trying to call others crazy.
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
Seriously, my eyes just rolled out of my head. And LOL at the one thinking she was going to insult me by asking if I shop at Pottery Barn. Loser.
Seriously though, that board is fucked. I think someone on my BMB links their drama once a week. That pinconey poster is like a rabid dog or something.
ETA: is it possible for an entire board to be made up of half witted trailer park people? (Vinny excluded of course).
If by half-witted you mean college-educated kindergarten teacher and by trailer park people you mean house-dwelling Los Angelino then yes. You have me pegged! So glad someone gets me...
I don't believe there was an overall hate on etiquette, just a discrepancy in what the magic "rules" are that we were supposedly taught during finishing school.
Also *woof*
Maybe that's part of the problem... Did you skip that week of finishing school?
Let's re-frame the question: You have a friend getting married for the third time. She has her own house, has been on her own for a while now, and you gave her lovely shower gifts the first time around and two lovely wedding gifts. Now, since her sister offered to host one, she's having a bridal shower because she wants new dishes, towels, etc.? Would you go since every marriage deserves to be celebrated, or would you think to yourself "geez, I've already bought a shower gift for her first shower and two wedding presents, she can buy her own towels... I'll get her a gift for the wedding" and skip it? I'd fall in the latter group. Same concept for a baby... People that want to buy gifts will when they visit the baby; you don't need a shower and risk offending anyone.
I speak for myself and I own my words. I have no 'ambassador' and I speak my mind where I see fit. Do I find name calling and ridicule acceptable? No.
With that said, the whole "things change" excuse is just that- an excuse. People still say 'please' and 'thank you', hold doors for people, and are generally mindful of being considerate to the people around them. Wouldn't it be ridiculous if people stopped doing that on the basis of "oh well, times are different"? Of course.
But these days people pick and choose the etiquette that they want to be applied to them and its not how it works. And unless you plan to ask every single person invited to said subsequent shower, you can't possibly know that everyone would be cool with it.
Etiquette is what it is. People choose how closely they want to adhere to it. There is nothing wrong with being mindful and respectful of the people who come to celebrate with you. It's not as pearl-clutchy as many people make it out to be.
That is so ridiculously ethnocentric. Borderline xenophobic. Etiquette is NOT universal, even in America, and it is completely ignorant to assume that the etiquette you were raised with applies to every person of every culture. That said, even Emily Post, whom you all seem to base your 'universal unchanging rules' from, has evolved over time... including regarding second showers. Insert dramatic gasp here.
I wouldn't use the new Emily Post Institute's 180 on the matter as any sort of authority. Emily Post passed 53 years ago, and of late, her grandchildren have taken over the Institute. They've moved far enough away from the original guide that most etiquette authorities find it laughable. If you want her opinion on the matter, you need to go back several editions, which, I assure you, does not look upon second showers favorably. If you'd like recently penned guidance on the subject, try Miss Manners: https://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/lifestyle/miss_manners/miss-manners:-a-baby-shower-for-a-2nd-child?
I speak for myself and I own my words. I have no 'ambassador' and I speak my mind where I see fit. Do I find name calling and ridicule acceptable? No.
With that said, the whole "things change" excuse is just that- an excuse. People still say 'please' and 'thank you', hold doors for people, and are generally mindful of being considerate to the people around them. Wouldn't it be ridiculous if people stopped doing that on the basis of "oh well, times are different"? Of course.
But these days people pick and choose the etiquette that they want to be applied to them and its not how it works. And unless you plan to ask every single person invited to said subsequent shower, you can't possibly know that everyone would be cool with it.
Etiquette is what it is. People choose how closely they want to adhere to it. There is nothing wrong with being mindful and respectful of the people who come to celebrate with you. It's not as pearl-clutchy as many people make it out to be.
That is so ridiculously ethnocentric. Borderline xenophobic. Etiquette is NOT universal, even in America, and it is completely ignorant to assume that the etiquette you were raised with applies to every person of every culture. That said, even Emily Post, whom you all seem to base your 'universal unchanging rules' from, has evolved over time... including regarding second showers. Insert dramatic gasp here.
I wouldn't use the new Emily Post Institute's 180 on the matter as any sort of authority. Emily Post passed 53 years ago, and of late, her grandchildren have taken over the Institute. They've moved far enough away from the original guide that most etiquette authorities find it laughable. If you want her opinion on the matter, you need to go back several editions, which, I assure you, does not look upon second showers favorably. If you'd like recently penned guidance on the subject, try Miss Manners: https://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/lifestyle/miss_manners/miss-manners:-a-baby-shower-for-a-2nd-child?
"But Miss Manners makes an exception for an informal gathering of the expectant mother's close friends who are moved to make a fuss over her a second -- or fifth -- time. However, the plea that a more formal gathering for the lady's entire acquaintance, complete with those detestable gift registries, would enable the guest of honor to parcel out her shopping is not charming."
From the article you linked itself, which is the whole point. There are exceptions to the rule based on the circumstances of the party. I highly doubt everyone who advocates for a second shower being okay is talking about a huge affair complete with a registry.
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Wow. It must be windy, because the trailer trash is blowing on over to the baby shower board. This shit is appalling. The most trailer-trashy part of this is the responses to bliss+berry's original comment. You are all proving her right. Bravo, "ladies". =D>
No, the most trailer-trashy part of this is the offensive crap spewed by bliss+berry unprovoked. You can't pull the holier-than-thou etiquette card in one breath and vomit that kind of garbage in the next. The "original comment" deserved all the responses it got. You reap what you sow. Bravo for pretending that the rage and vitriol that she pulled out of her ass is any better than the shit flung back at her in retaliation. =D>
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Shit I'm screwed... I don't pay Pottery Barn prices. TARGET BItches!!!!!! I must be so far below her standards. I'm the scum on the scum on the bottoms of her shoe
And, as I was the one who posted, I wasn't stalking other boards...I'm on May '14 so I pop over to April occasionally to lurk.
Also *woof*
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April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
Exactly!
With the possible exception of the equator, everything begins somewhere. - C.S.Lewis
Obviously some are born prematurely, but that doesn't really justify lurking on another month's board. Isn't the point to mingle with others who share your month and possible due date? I'm sure most people don't get the urge to look in other birth month forums. There are plenty of universal forums on The Bump to scan.
I lurk other birth month boards all the time. They are normally boring but occasionally a real gem pops up.
That's fine. I'm sure you don't go around being pretentious about it though, which is causing conflicts. What I don't understand is how crazy people are trying to call others crazy.
Let's re-frame the question: You have a friend getting married for the third time. She has her own house, has been on her own for a while now, and you gave her lovely shower gifts the first time around and two lovely wedding gifts. Now, since her sister offered to host one, she's having a bridal shower because she wants new dishes, towels, etc.? Would you go since every marriage deserves to be celebrated, or would you think to yourself "geez, I've already bought a shower gift for her first shower and two wedding presents, she can buy her own towels... I'll get her a gift for the wedding" and skip it? I'd fall in the latter group. Same concept for a baby... People that want to buy gifts will when they visit the baby; you don't need a shower and risk offending anyone.
I wouldn't use the new Emily Post Institute's 180 on the matter as any sort of authority. Emily Post passed 53 years ago, and of late, her grandchildren have taken over the Institute. They've moved far enough away from the original guide that most etiquette authorities find it laughable. If you want her opinion on the matter, you need to go back several editions, which, I assure you, does not look upon second showers favorably. If you'd like recently penned guidance on the subject, try Miss Manners: https://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/lifestyle/miss_manners/miss-manners:-a-baby-shower-for-a-2nd-child?