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Crazy shit your in-laws do

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MIL just showed up with a big bag of gumballs...and skittles...and pez...for my 26 month old DS.

Then she acted like DH and I were crazy for saying he can't have it...

She was also in our house for a solid 20 minutes before she even glanced at DD. DD was sleeping in her bouncy seat in the living room...about 10 ft from where MIL was standing.
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  • MtnChickaDMtnChickaD member
    My ILs came to stay with us for a couple weeks (WAY too long) and cleaning out my pantry/fridge after they left was ridiculous. God forbid one looks at what we have in the house before going to the store. Five packages of spaghetti three of them open, an open box of honey bunches of oats and an open huge bulk bag of honey bunches of oats and it just kept going. This was all food they bought for themselves to eat. I don't understand how they aren't totally broke with how wasteful they are. They also did at least one load of laundry every other day but usually a couple.

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  • JenMatt2010JenMatt2010 member
    She just tried to put headphones blasting Christmas music on my 7 week old....
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  • germanpicklegermanpickle member
    MosyMama said:

    Natalie2290 said:

    My MIL was giving DS colic calm which I told her he didn't need at that time. She shot it ALL down his throat. DS started to chock. His eyes watered his face red and he wasn't coughing or crying. She did nothing. I ripped my baby out of her arms, threw him over my knee and hit his back until. He spit it all over my knee and stared to scream. I have never been so happy to hear him scream. 

    MIL was yelling at me for hitting his back. I freaked the fuck out and yelled at her. That she is never to put any fucking thing in my sons mouth! That she could have killed him and of course I was hitting his back to get it up!
    She later bitched to DH saying that I was over reacting and that DS was fine and not chocking. 


    That's so scary. Good thing you were around!
    Holy. Shit.

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    What the fuck

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  • sfshortersfshorter member
    Well I don't consider this bad, but my inlaws bought dd a four wheeler for Christmas. Not a toy hot wheels.

    She has been asking for one this year, so her pop went out and bought her one. She's going to flip her lid.
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  • norbert5norbert5 member
    @jgslr, heads would have rolled if I was you.
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  • sleepy33sleepy33 member
    NRyan55 said:
    When my in-laws came when lo was born they were annoyed we wouldn't go shopping or out to dinner (a week and a half post csection/birth). After dh told them we wouldn't be going anywhere they would then make breakfast for themselves only and leave shopping for the day...all day. They ate through my freezer meals, didn't change a single diaper, and basically treated it as a vacation even though they're both retired and it's their first grandchild. Pff..and to think I thought they would help out..yeah right. Let's just say I was ready for them to gtfu.
    Omg @jgslr I would be furious
    Yeah I would have cut them for eating my freezer meals.
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  • KesshoKessho member
    Like every time since Jace was born DH's dad and new stepmom always remark upon his skin. They always comment on how light/ dark he is. They really want him to be fair skinned like me. I'm just so tired of it.
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    Emilyusc211 said:

    trackgirlparis said:

    @jgslr they sound lovely! I can relate to the first part...DD was born on Canadian Thanksgiving at 4am...MIL assumed DH would be going to dinner at her place, LEAVING ME AND DD AT THE HOSPITAL. When he told her no, she was furious and didn't understand why he had to "miss out on thanksgiving." :|

    Woah. And I thought my inlaws were self centered!
    My MIL is the definition of self centered.



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  • sleepy33sleepy33 member
    My SIL came to visit with her 3 month old baby. The first night she was here, my folks came over to see her baby and to watch the basketball game. After dinner, she gives her baby to my mom to cuddle, then goes into my kitchen and stays in there for over 2 hours, cleaning every single dish, removing everything from my counters (including my microwave) and wiping them all down, and rearranging everything. Eventually, I was like, WTF is going ON in there, can you come out and take your damn baby please?
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  • BlessUrHeart29BlessUrHeart29 member
    Wow! You all have some seriously crazy in-laws!

    I was actually pleasantly surprised by my in-laws when they were here over thanksgiving. It wasn't perfect; my mil made a couple of judgy comments that were based on situations that I am pretty sure she dreamt up, but at least she helped a lot with food and clean-up.

    The only really frustrating thing was that they wouldn't let DS nap! So by mid-afternoon he was a total mess. It was awful. Then they would keep commenting about how overstimulated he was without seeming to realize that they had anything to do with it. But I know I'm not the only one who dealt with that!
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  • mrsbrooksiemrsbrooksie member
    My ILs like to invite people to our house. We were very intentional in asking anyone planning to hold our LO prior to 8 weeks to get TDap and flu shot. Not only was MIL not thrilled that I shot down driving 3.5 hrs to their house for TGiving at a house full of random people and cats and dogs but she then thought itd be a gold idea to tell DHs aunt "to just invite herself up" to see LO. She also encouraged BIL and SIL to come up this weekend and STAY with us. SIL is SICK. I'm sorry...but didn't you have 2 children? Do you not understand how this works?
    ILs did come this weekend and I can officially add another annoying item to my list :-) When he's hungry and I audibly say "looks like its time to eat, LO" they ignore me and grab his pacifier or walk away from me. Not cool. DH ignored also ignored me and I dont think he'll do that again.
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  • sleepy33sleepy33 member
    edited December 2013
    MrsTucker2011 said:

    sleepy33 said:

    My SIL came to visit with her 3 month old baby. The first night she was here, my folks came over to see her baby and to watch the basketball game. After dinner, she gives her baby to my mom to cuddle, then goes into my kitchen and stays in there for over 2 hours, cleaning every single dish, removing everything from my counters (including my microwave) and wiping them all down, and rearranging everything. Eventually, I was like, WTF is going ON in there, can you come out and take your damn baby please?

    That's too bad she cleaned your entire kitchen for you while everyone else sat in the living room watching tv...
    Oh and when I say she washed every dish, I mean she hand-washed them...even though we have a dishwasher. And moved the microwave to a spot on the counter that she said was 'more accessible'...
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  • AjoydAjoyd member
    My MIL didn't throw away a single thing from DH's childhood. I'm talking toys he didn't even like. She's been bringing them to out house, which makes me want to kill her, but the really thoughtless thing she did was bring a bunch of stuff when they came to meet the baby. I was still in the hospital and I come home to all this crap in my house. I wanted to throw it all in the driveway.


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  • germanpicklegermanpickle member
    sleepy33 said:

    MrsTucker2011 said:

    sleepy33 said:

    My SIL came to visit with her 3 month old baby. The first night she was here, my folks came over to see her baby and to watch the basketball game. After dinner, she gives her baby to my mom to cuddle, then goes into my kitchen and stays in there for over 2 hours, cleaning every single dish, removing everything from my counters (including my microwave) and wiping them all down, and rearranging everything. Eventually, I was like, WTF is going ON in there, can you come out and take your damn baby please?

    That's too bad she cleaned your entire kitchen for you while everyone else sat in the living room watching tv...
    Well yeah, it wasn't unappreciated, it was just...odd. Also her kid was fussing to be fed for about the last 45 min of that time, so that was stressing my mom out. I just would never presume to disassemble and rearrange someone else's kitchen at 9 at night rather than socialize and care for my kid. I finally had to go in there and be like, hey that's your kid crying. It was a nice idea, just strange execution.
    I had almost the same situation once and I totally get you.

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    Ajoyd said:

    sleepy33 said:

    MrsTucker2011 said:

    sleepy33 said:

    My SIL came to visit with her 3 month old baby. The first night she was here, my folks came over to see her baby and to watch the basketball game. After dinner, she gives her baby to my mom to cuddle, then goes into my kitchen and stays in there for over 2 hours, cleaning every single dish, removing everything from my counters (including my microwave) and wiping them all down, and rearranging everything. Eventually, I was like, WTF is going ON in there, can you come out and take your damn baby please?

    That's too bad she cleaned your entire kitchen for you while everyone else sat in the living room watching tv...
    Oh and when I say she washed every dish, I mean she hand-washed them...even though we have a dishwasher. And moved the microwave to a spot on the counter that she said was 'more accessible'...
    I'd be pissed if someone moved shit around in my kitchen!
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  • bkeane619bkeane619 member
    This is little but gets on my nerves. MIL calls both my boy and girl Mami. She's not Latino, she's Irish. She called my son baby Jesus for at least a year too. I'm atheist.
    She also uses the word whinging and not whining.
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    bkeane619 said:
    This is little but gets on my nerves. MIL calls both my boy and girl Mami. She's not Latino, she's Irish. She called my son baby Jesus for at least a year too. I'm atheist. She also uses the word whinging and not whining.
    Ugh my MIL called DD1 Mami as well. It annoyed the piss out of me.

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  • emmylou78emmylou78 member
    edited December 2013
    bkeane619 said:

    This is little but gets on my nerves. MIL calls both my boy and girl Mami. She's not Latino, she's Irish. She called my son baby Jesus for at least a year too. I'm atheist.
    She also uses the word whinging and not whining.

    Whinging would mean whining. I've heard it used in the UK. My bf uses the word squinny(?) for whiney. I had never heard that one.

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  • yesthisiskim0401yesthisiskim0401 member
    Well, right now SIL is apparently in the beginning stages of getting a divorce and MIL was all to willing to share every detail. It just confirms what a shitty person and mother SIL is.

    MIL tried using the bathroom that we have set up strictly for DD1. As in, she peed using the Sesame Street toilet seat. She also couldn't fathom why we had a step stool by the sink.

    She also offered to clean up my kitchen after T-giving. She's a cluts and has zero organizational skills so I turned down her offer (add me to the anal about my kitchen organization club, @sleepy33 ). I had to nurse DD2 so MIL took it open herself to do dishes. 2 plates are so chipped that they will have to be replaced, at least two glass cups were smashed, and I still cannot find two of my glass serving dishes. Oh, and I had to rewash half of my dishes because they had food still on them.

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  • JenMatt2010JenMatt2010 member
    yesthisiskim0401 said:


    MIL tried using the bathroom that we have set up strictly for DD1. As in, she peed using the Sesame Street toilet seat. She also couldn't fathom why we had a step stool by the sink.

    What. The. Fuck.

    I was waiting for you to show up in this thread! Haha
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    JenMatt2010 said:

    yesthisiskim0401 said:


    MIL tried using the bathroom that we have set up strictly for DD1. As in, she peed using the Sesame Street toilet seat. She also couldn't fathom why we had a step stool by the sink.

    What. The. Fuck.

    I was waiting for you to show up in this thread! Haha
    I got effed up IL stories for days!! Lol

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  • JenMatt2010JenMatt2010 member
    yesthisiskim0401 said:

    JenMatt2010 said:

    yesthisiskim0401 said:


    MIL tried using the bathroom that we have set up strictly for DD1. As in, she peed using the Sesame Street toilet seat. She also couldn't fathom why we had a step stool by the sink.

    What. The. Fuck.

    I was waiting for you to show up in this thread! Haha
    I got effed up IL stories for days!! Lol
    Oh same over here, I'm just trying to not think about them, but her bringing gumballs was just too much...
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    @allymp13 please oh please tell me you texted her back?!
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  • sleepy33sleepy33 member
    NRyan55 said:

    MrsTucker2011 said:

    sleepy33 said:

    My SIL came to visit with her 3 month old baby. The first night she was here, my folks came over to see her baby and to watch the basketball game. After dinner, she gives her baby to my mom to cuddle, then goes into my kitchen and stays in there for over 2 hours, cleaning every single dish, removing everything from my counters (including my microwave) and wiping them all down, and rearranging everything. Eventually, I was like, WTF is going ON in there, can you come out and take your damn baby please?

    That's too bad she cleaned your entire kitchen for you while everyone else sat in the living room watching tv...
    I don't think the question was " things your ILs do that you hate" I think it was "crazy things". It would be pretty crazy for me to go to my SILs house, hand my baby to her mother, and rearrange her kitchen/hand wash everything for 2 hours. It is nice, but weird.

    @sleepy33 that reminds me of an idiosyncrasy of my MIL, she "doesn't trust" dishwashers so she hand washes everything and uses the dishwasher as a drying rack.

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    Well, my MIL is a 'don't trust dishwashers' person, so I know where she gets it from at least!
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  • Amjoy25Amjoy25 member
    @sleepy33, maybe your "kitchen triangle" was nonexistent and SIL is the mayor of kitchen organization?

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  • mweav1025mweav1025 member
    My in-laws always complain about money.  Hence why they never come to visit.  I understand that it's half way across the country but we did it once, and I think they could do it at least once to meet their new grand baby.  Well after explaining about how they cannot afford to come out here at all, my FIL calls DH and ask him advice about TVs.  I guess DHs step mom is getting a raise and they are going to buy two tablets(one for MIL and one for DHs brother) and going to buy a new and bigger TV.

    I applaud my DH for not going off on his dad because you could tell he was fuming.  Instead of using the extra money to come out here to visit(which would probably be cheaper then all the new gadgets they are buying) they are buying things that they really do not need at the moment.  They always then to think of themselves first.  When we visited over a year ago, MIL was upset every time DD1 was watching something on TV and so MIL would go to her room to watch what she wanted, and then was upset when DD1 didn't want to interact with her.

    It upsets me and makes me sad for them and my kids that they will hardly know that side of the family. There was close to three years between times when they saw DD1 and they have only seen DD2 over Skype and probably won't get to meet her in person until after she turns one because of us having to save for a trip out there since they will never even try and come to us.
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  • palm513palm513 member
    Okay, really it is my mother who is driving me nuts this time around. Last time my mom was wonderful and my MIL was the monster. But now my mom has jumped off the deep end. She lives 4 miles from me and is retired. But is always complaining she doesn't get to see her grand kids I need to take them to her house. First of all it is not at all easy to get three kids under two ready to go anywhere, and secondly she has a little dog that won't leave any of the boys alone and last time we were there he chewed up the pacifier that I left in LO carseat and a bottle he pulled out of the diaper bag on the couch... And when I recommend she comes over her she always has a reason she can't or it takes her 3 hours to leave her house and she gets here as all the babies are going down for their naps, and complains she can't spend time with them or she grips cause I tell her she can't bring her dog. 

    Also, the twins have so many toys that I have been having a hard time deciding what to get them for Christmas... I finally narrowed it down to 4 wheelers, bikes, a swing set, or one of the big tool shed sets. I asked her for her advise on which she thought I should get and we never came to a conclusion, two days later she calls me telling me she bought each boy a bike, a 4wheeler, and the $200 tool set, and she found a used swing set fort set up for only $150 and bought it as well... so now I am back to square one on gifts and she has spent $300 on each of the twins.... And I have nothing I can think of to buy them. 

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    Amjoy25 said:

    @sleepy33, maybe your "kitchen triangle" was nonexistent and SIL is the mayor of kitchen organization?

    Well all I know is we only have one outlet on the countertop area, and she moved the micro far enough away that we'd have to get an extension cord to make it work. Fail.
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    Heather6789 said:

    bkeane619 said:

    This is little but gets on my nerves. MIL calls both my boy and girl Mami. She's not Latino, she's Irish. She called my son baby Jesus for at least a year too. I'm atheist.
    She also uses the word whinging and not whining.

    Whinging would mean whining. I've heard it used in the UK. My bf uses the word squinny(?) for whiney. I had never heard that one.

    Eta autocorrect fail
    It does mean whining. I just hate it lol.
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    MIL started to make a bottle with STEAMING hot tap water.  I could see it steaming from across the room.  Fortunately. LO fell asleep and I dumped it and made him a nice room temp, bottled-water bottle.  Oh and she suggested we start loading his bottle with rice cereal because he is so hungry/fussy.  Um no, I don't care if your kids survived it.
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