Actually, I'm going to state my opinion after all. You and others were RUDE. There's a difference between sharing information and being rude and you definitely crossed that line.
Hmmm. Not to mention the training neccessary to know how to use an U/S machine.
PS I LURVE these threads. I spent a good hour reading some old one last night from May 2014 who thought my child should have invitations to her "Surgical Extraction Day Parties" every year. That was high entertainment.
Hey, it's a legit question. Are you a parent or a child?
I'm totes a parent. Let me guess. You're going to feel sorry for my child aren't you? Save your breath. Nope. I don't waste time feeling sorry for others' kids, so no worries there.
"I've surprised myself in that I'm even less "hormonal" or emotional than normal when pregnant. I was sure I would be the other way around, as that's what I've always heard! No emotional crying or irrational behavior really...anybody else feel the same?"
"I've surprised myself in that I'm even less "hormonal" or emotional than normal when pregnant. I was sure I would be the other way around, as that's what I've always heard! No emotional crying or irrational behavior really...anybody else feel the same?"
"I've surprised myself in that I'm even less "hormonal" or emotional than normal when pregnant. I was sure I would be the other way around, as that's what I've always heard! No emotional crying or irrational behavior really...anybody else feel the same?"
Oh come on people. Lighten up, the post was funny. People freaking out about not getting an early ultrasound. If you can't find a sense of humor now I don't know what you will do once you become a parent. and guess what? You are going to hear things all the time about parenting and how you are doing it wrong that you don't want to hear. Take what you want and leave the rest behind, getting butt hurt and throwing a tantrum each time will just make even more people want to smack you.
@michellexm are you new to TB? A lot of us have come from TTGP, PGAL, and 3T. We've grown accustomed to the snark and give flat out honest answers. There's no pussy footing around and ass kissing. If you are offended by blunt responses I suggest baby center or some other site known for farting rainbows and throwing baby dust around.
I agree that there is a level of acceptance of snark and being blunt because of the environment we are in, but is it necessary? yeah there are people with that kind of personality, and we are all very different in how we handle things, but isn't it just easier to ignore and walk away? I guess that could apply to me in this case, i could just walk away and not reply to this at all, but in this case, i am compelled to ask, why? is farting rainbows such a bad thing? I worked at Disney, I friken vomited pixi dust, i get it, it can get exausting, but it didn't mean i was going to walk up to someone with pixi dust covered eyes and yell "THERE IS A SHORT MAN IN THAT COSTUME!"
Wow. I don't see what's so entitled about being excited about your first pregnancy and being disappointed that you won't see the baby for 16ish weeks. Sheesh. I'm sure NONE of the people posting negative responses ever wished they could have an early u/s to see their baby. IMHO, I also think there's a difference between "blunt responses" meant to be helpful and maybe a bit of a reality check and sheer rudeness. I think all the drama on this thread is what happens when people get called out on their insensitivity. I don't understand wasting one's time being mean to someone b/c you think their opinion is silly or naive.
I would personally pay for an US if I didn't get one until that late, and actually by choosing to go to an OB rather than a midwife here I AM paying for all those scans/early appts completely out of pocket
But anyhow, I'm used to the snark - been around a LONG time - people need to just remember that there are ALL sorts of people on thebump - some nice, some snarky, some not so nice (Just like IRL!!!). You can't expect all sunshine and rainbows to your posts - that's just not how a message board works. You will also get honest opinions and probably some snark. Just take the advice you like and don't stress
I paid out of pocket for an ultra sound at a boutique, and it was one of my favorite experiences having u/s!! Comfy bed, warm room, soft baby music, dim lights, inscents,and watching your baby jump around on a big tv screen! I would totally do that again over clogging the OB/hospital u/s room. It's way more like a spa experience.
Btw, it's 1 thing being excited, and wanting an early u/s. But not everyone NEEDS one. If you know your LMP, and/or when you O'd you don't NEED an early u/s. Typically they check your ovaries, measure your baby and sack and ute, and date how far along you are. It's fun to see your bean. But it isn't necessary. And like pp's have said it drives up medical costs!!!
BFP - March 31st 2013 - MC on April 6th 2013<br>
BFP - May 11th 2013 - MC on May 15th 2013<br>
BFP - June 22nd 2013 - MC on June 30th 2013<br>
BFP - September 2013 - MC September 2013<br>
BFP - October 31, 2013 - December 17th - found out baby stopped growing at 7wks - natural MC December 20th 2013
Women should support and uplift one another. I don't do ultrasounds. At all. I did when I miscarried with my first pregnancy and in hindsight, wish I would not have. But, if mama feels that is important to her, let her be empowered to make those choices with a trusted care provider. I am flabbergasted looking through these feeds. This is not community.
Re: Because I am a giver...
Actually, I'm going to state my opinion after all. You and others were RUDE. There's a difference between sharing information and being rude and you definitely crossed that line.
Hmmm. Not to mention the training neccessary to know how to use an U/S machine.
PS I LURVE these threads. I spent a good hour reading some old one last night from May 2014 who thought my child should have invitations to her "Surgical Extraction Day Parties" every year. That was high entertainment.
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
And I'm sure you are a completely objective judge of that.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
Ahh, I love a good "I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR CHILDREN!!". What about the husbands, can you feel sorry for them too?
Nope. I don't waste time feeling sorry for others' kids, so no worries there.
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
Legitimate. With the definition in this case of not spurious or unjustified, if you are attempting to be "smart" with your question.
Who are you again?
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
You're welcome. First one's free.
"I've surprised myself in that I'm even less "hormonal" or emotional than normal when pregnant. I was sure I would be the other way around, as that's what I've always heard! No emotional crying or irrational behavior really...anybody else feel the same?"
You might need to edit your topic discussion...
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12177282/anybody-not-feeling-hormonal-or-emotional#latest
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
CAUTIOUSLY expecting Jace in July August 2014
IMHO, I also think there's a difference between "blunt responses" meant to be helpful and maybe a bit of a reality check and sheer rudeness. I think all the drama on this thread is what happens when people get called out on their insensitivity. I don't understand wasting one's time being mean to someone b/c you think their opinion is silly or naive.
I would personally pay for an US if I didn't get one until that late, and actually by choosing to go to an OB rather than a midwife here I AM paying for all those scans/early appts completely out of pocket
But anyhow, I'm used to the snark - been around a LONG time - people need to just remember that there are ALL sorts of people on thebump - some nice, some snarky, some not so nice (Just like IRL!!!). You can't expect all sunshine and rainbows to your posts - that's just not how a message board works. You will also get honest opinions and probably some snark. Just take the advice you like and don't stress
Btw, it's 1 thing being excited, and wanting an early u/s. But not everyone NEEDS one. If you know your LMP, and/or when you O'd you don't NEED an early u/s. Typically they check your ovaries, measure your baby and sack and ute, and date how far along you are. It's fun to see your bean. But it isn't necessary. And like pp's have said it drives up medical costs!!!
Heather
Southern CA
2nd Pregnancy
May 2012 -- MC
Due Date July 5, 2014 <--- prayers for sticky baby