Late Term and Child Loss
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Really not looking forward to Thanksgiving tomorrow
mingaling2
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I thought I'd be okay with it, but now I'm filling up with a sense of dread. I just keep imagining trying to feel "normal" with all my in-laws and them sitting there feeling sorry for me. They are nice and not stressful, but I just want to blend into the background and I can't with DD there always needing me.
I asked DH how he was feeling, then he made some jab about antagonizing him. Apparently he thought I was insinuating that he wasn't "missing her enough" which I wasn't, but he's processing things as well. It was a big misunderstanding, but we got into a huge weepy disagreement and now I really, really hate the idea of going even more.
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Re: Really not looking forward to Thanksgiving tomorrow
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
I never understood why people said the holidays were a hard time of year. I never understood how it couldn't just make people happy...until last year. The holidays are so miserable when you're sad. DH and I skipped thanksgiving and Christmas last year. It physically hurt my heart to think about celebrating without my Jillian. This year we're going to try, but don't pressure yourself. If it's too hard for you right now don't go. Do whatever you need to do to protect your heart. If you decide to go, I wish you a peaceful day.
Jillian Rose- born 8/26/12 at 24 weeks. "It broke my heart to lose you but you didn't go alone, for a part of me went with you, the day God took you home"
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Are you able to stay home? You're still so fresh from your loss....at barely two months I still wasn't even fond of leaving the house if I absolutely didn't have to. My niece's 4th birthday party was on the one month annviersary of our loss and I just couldn't force myself to be around happy people celebrating children's birthdays, when I'll never get to celebrate my daughter's. Everyone said they missed us, but they understood. Big hugs to you.
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Like pp said, I never really understood just how sad the holidays could truly be until we had to get through our first set of holidays without Devon. I was a mess. I barely remember Thanksgiving last year because it was such a blur; I remember sitting on my parents' couch and bawling my eyes out for almost 20 minutes because it sucked to be at that point without my baby. Christmas was better, but it was still hard.
I'm so sorry that you have to face the holidays without your baby; I'm sorry all of us have to face the holidays without our babies. It totally blows. **HUGS**
My DH and I were having similar issues - I felt like he wasn't sad enough and he felt like I was too sad. It wasn't until we sat down with our therapist and she helped us talk through it, and explained that everyone grieves differently, and that what we were each feeling was totally normal. The best thing for our relationship was to accept that we were grieving differently and that that was okay. It's not easy, I know. ((Hugs))