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Back to the unknown

stefugestefuge member
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So we got the call from the geneticist today, and all of our tests came back normal. Besides me having a slightly elevated lipoprotein, which most likely wouldn't cause anything, everything was normal. Which means we are back to "We have no idea what caused the placental abruption with DS2 or what caused the premature placental aging with DS1." I feel so conflicted, almost in shock. I was so sure the tests would show I had a blood clotting disorder, like they thought, and that that would at least give us an answer and at least be something productive out of our loss. But no. Everything is fine. Just a random incident. And really, it terrifies me to try again for another baby. That whatever is going on will hurt another of my children, and then the doctors will be like "Ooohh! That's what's going on!" and we'll finally figure it out, after we've suffered even more. Yes, I'm glad I don't have this disorder, but I also hate this unknown. I would rather deal with the bad then sit here in the unknown. I don't even know what to think, I just feel like I'm in shock.
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Me: 32 DH: 33  High School Sweethearts  Married 5/28/2005
DS1 born 6/5/10 at 40 weeks via emergency c-section due to fetal distress and IUGR caused by placental insufficiency
DS2 born still 8/28/13 at 32 weeks via emergency c-section due to a complete placental abruption - cause unknown
Baby #3 on the way, EDD 2/29/16.  Originally twins, but we said goodbye to Baby B at 8 weeks.
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  • diamante1181diamante1181 member
    I'm sorry the testing didn't reveal any answers. Sending you lots of hugs today :)

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  • irons633irons633 member
    I am sorry sweetie that you did not get the answers. Many hugs to you!!!
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  • NoetholaNoethola member
    ***Siggy warning***

    Do you know if they did a full panel for blood clotting disorders? I truly hope that they did all the tests they could have to help you get answers. It sucks to not know what would cause the death of our babies, because it means we dont know what to do differently if there is a next time. Im sorry to hear you didnt get any good answers. 
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  • jonahsmajonahsma member
    So sorry you didn't get the answers you wanted, hon.
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  • mingaling2mingaling2 member
    I'm sorry you didn't get any answers. I felt the same shock, wanting a reason to pin it down to so we could somehow work around it. Not having an answer is so hard. Thinking of you {hugs}.

     
    EDD 1/8/10 - our sweet sunshine DD born 12/30/09
    EDD 2/15/14 - Stillbirth at 21 wks 10/02/13
    EDD 8/12/15 - MMC 1/12/15
    EDD 12/24/15

      
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  • sunflwrasunflwra member
    One of my biggest fears is not knowing. I'm so sorry that this is what you're having to deal with. I'm similar to you in that I'd rather know something difficult that we can work through versus feeling like it just happened. I hope you can find some peace with it to move on in whatever way you all decide is best for your family.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

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  • jess123456jess123456 member
    I am also very sorry that you didn't get answers. It is so hard and frustrating. Thinking of you.
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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    I'm sorry. I get it. Patricia's death at 31 weeks and Anna's birth and subsequent brain hemorrhaging at 26 weeks are complete mysteries to my docs. We want more children but I can't imagine what we'll face next!


      Our Angel Patricia born sleeping 3/30/12 at 31 weeks
    Our Fighter Anna born early 1/8/13 at 26 weeks
    Hoping to bring home #3 due 9/9/15
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  • stefugestefuge member
    Thank you ladies, for all the support and encouragement. I am still feeling pretty let down by the rests but I'm planning to schedule a follow up with my doctor Io make sure we are checking in to everything.
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    Me: 32 DH: 33  High School Sweethearts  Married 5/28/2005
    DS1 born 6/5/10 at 40 weeks via emergency c-section due to fetal distress and IUGR caused by placental insufficiency
    DS2 born still 8/28/13 at 32 weeks via emergency c-section due to a complete placental abruption - cause unknown
    Baby #3 on the way, EDD 2/29/16.  Originally twins, but we said goodbye to Baby B at 8 weeks.
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