Is this a December thing?

mightymousy · November 2013

STM, do people weigh in on your due date no matter when you're due or is it particularly bad because we're due around the holidays?

I've about had it with people telling me "well I hope he comes on X date?", "I'd like it if he came on Christmas", "well hopefully he waits a while longer".

I COULD GIVE A FUCK when other people want my baby to arrive. I'm not trying to rush him out or anything, but I'm full term, Mr.MM arrives today, I'm prepared for when ever this baby decided to arrives and really don't care for people wishing me to go 2 weeks over due when I'm already hugely uncomfortable. As long as he's healthy why do people care so much?

Sorry, had to vent to you ladies before I bit someone's head of IRL lol. I'm very pregnant, very sick, and very fed up of living with my ILs.

mightymousy · November 2013

MDLS2010 said:

Not a STM, but I think it happens no matter when you're due. I know with my SIL people would say, "Oh, you should wait until this day because it's so and so's birthday" although it is probably a bit worse around holidays.

Uggghhhh those ones always get me! "You should wait", yeah because I have control over this or want to be pregnant longer than I need to be.

snickersforeveryone · November 2013

Yes, I constantly heard it from MIL that she wanted my daughter to be born on her birthday. Never mind the fact that DD would have been about 2 weeks premature if that had happened...

mightymousy · November 2013

Loolaide said:

Sorry. But, unluckily for people due during the other 11 months of the year, it's not unique to us. I constantly heard that S should come on St. Paddy's or I'd better hope he doesn't come on leap day or April Fool's Day when I was due in March. Oh and people with birthdays or anniversaries during that month always need to tell you the date no matter what. It's pretty harmless to me, unless I already don't like the person, in which case it's the most annoying thing ever.

People suck! lol. I hate that "you should have him on my birthday!" crap, you're some random chick I work with, why would I care if my baby is born on your birthday? Now if our baby comes a little early on the 7th and is born on Mr.MM's grandma's 90th birthday that would be kind of cool, but sorry random stranger at the restaurant I don't care that your son was born on christmas eve and how great it was.

lp0 · November 2013

I don't think it's a December thing. I think most people are at least a little narcissistic and think what they want or their opinion matters.

mightymousy · November 2013

I don't think it's a December thing. I think most people are at least a little narcissistic and think what they want or their opinion matters.

Lol yeah I think this is why it annoys me so much, it is narcissistic.

MamaGrillo · November 2013

Our accountant is just excited that we have another little tax write off..."so it's definitely December?!?!"

mightymousy · November 2013

Loolaide said:

^ yeah and apparently that they have to have an opinion or else can't contribute to the conversation. What about just saying something like "December birthdays are awesome! My birthday is in December too."

Yeah see that would be a perfectly acceptable response!

grannyweatherwax · November 2013

It's not just a Dec thing, I got it a lot with DD1. "Oh you should have her on Labor Day EL OH EL wouldn't that be so cute!?"

My MIL refuses to consider that LO will come on ANY OTHER DAY other than my due date. It's like my due date is the WORD OF THE LORD.

(Even though DD was 10 days early and my OB tells me at every appointment that I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead. AND DH was a preemie and born 6 weeks early. I have no idea why she is so adamant about this.)

mightymousy · November 2013

MamaGrillo said:

Our accountant is just excited that we have another little tax write off..."so it's definitely December?!?!"

LOL!!!! Now that's a good one

Wishing you positive financial gains is nice at least hehe, wishing you two extra weeks of suffering not so much.

Caitlinh27 · November 2013

I'm really tired of people saying "oh your not going to make it to the 26th" Well I might not but I really don't need your professional opinion. PLUS they only say that after looking at my belly. Sorry but the size of my belly is not in direct correlation to when I'm going to give birth.

jamrosj · November 2013

Just be sarcastic "So I'll definitely start clenching my legs together now, but should I unclench the day before in case labor takes a while?"

mightymousy · November 2013

pirategirlpink said:

It's not just a Dec thing, I got it a lot with DD1. "Oh you should have her on Labor Day EL OH EL wouldn't that be so cute!?"

My MIL refuses to consider that LO will come on ANY OTHER DAY other than my due date. It's like my due date is the WORD OF THE LORD.

(Even though DD was 10 days early and my OB tells me at every appointment that I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead. AND DH was a preemie and born 6 weeks early. I have no idea why she is so adamant about this.)

OMG MINE TOO!!!! WTF is with MILs??? When I try to remind her that my due date is not a set in stone arrival date and that he could come at any point now her response is nearly equal to a kid plugging their ears and singing "lalalalala". And her comments are always like "we don't want him to come on this day", "we don't want a 9 Lbs baby", I actually flat out said to her today "Who's this "WE"? Because I'm pretty sure it's ME who doesn't want to birth a 9 Lbs baby".

limeblue44 · November 2013

I don't know if this happens with all due dates but I am super sick of it as well! I couldn't give a rats ass when anyone else wants LO to arrive, she'll come when she comes. Seeing that she is related to DH... she'll do whatever the fluck she wants from here on out

mightymousy · November 2013

jamrosj said:

Just be sarcastic "So I'll definitely start clenching my legs together now, but should I unclench the day before in case labor takes a while?"

LOL I love it!

frankierokx · November 2013

I told a few friends that my c-section is booked for Christmas Eve. The response she gave me was ' Oh I am sorry, what a way to ruin Christmas'

Let's just say my English temper showed and I told her how much of an insensitive bitch she is.

X(

backoffunicorn · November 2013

Yeah, people do the whole well this day's my bday so maybe she'll decide to come then. The best is when people say to me "aww, a Christmas baby". Uh yeah, I'm Jewish.

grannyweatherwax · November 2013

mightymousy said:

pirategirlpink said:

It's not just a Dec thing, I got it a lot with DD1. "Oh you should have her on Labor Day EL OH EL wouldn't that be so cute!?"

My MIL refuses to consider that LO will come on ANY OTHER DAY other than my due date. It's like my due date is the WORD OF THE LORD.

(Even though DD was 10 days early and my OB tells me at every appointment that I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead. AND DH was a preemie and born 6 weeks early. I have no idea why she is so adamant about this.)

OMG MINE TOO!!!! WTF is with MILs??? When I try to remind her that my due date is not a set in stone arrival date and that he could come at any point now her response is nearly equal to a kid plugging their ears and singing "lalalalala". And her comments are always like "we don't want him to come on this day", "we don't want a 9 Lbs baby", I actually flat out said to her today "Who's this "WE"? Because I'm pretty sure it's ME who doesn't want to birth a 9 Lbs baby".

Mine just gets all weird and says "well, we will see what happens." I HATE when she says that. I don't even know what it means!

mightymousy · November 2013

Caitlinh27 said:

I'm really tired of people saying "oh your not going to make it to the 26th" Well I might not but I really don't need your professional opinion. PLUS they only say that after looking at my belly. Sorry but the size of my belly is not in direct correlation to when I'm going to give birth.

Ahhh yes everyone is an expert too right?! I had the massage therapist tell me during my massage (because I wanted to be making small talk instead of relaxing in the first place *eye roll*) on her highest authority that "boys are ALWAYS late, so mine will be late". Hmmm really, please tell that to all the ladies on here with male premies, see what they say...

mightymousy · November 2013

frankierokx said:

I told a few friends that my c-section is booked for Christmas Eve. The response she gave me was ' Oh I am sorry, what a way to ruin Christmas'

Let's just say my English temper showed and I told her how much of an insensitive bitch she is.
X(

Good for you!!!

mightymousy · November 2013

mightymousy said:

pirategirlpink said:

It's not just a Dec thing, I got it a lot with DD1. "Oh you should have her on Labor Day EL OH EL wouldn't that be so cute!?"

My MIL refuses to consider that LO will come on ANY OTHER DAY other than my due date. It's like my due date is the WORD OF THE LORD.

(Even though DD was 10 days early and my OB tells me at every appointment that I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead. AND DH was a preemie and born 6 weeks early. I have no idea why she is so adamant about this.)

OMG MINE TOO!!!! WTF is with MILs??? When I try to remind her that my due date is not a set in stone arrival date and that he could come at any point now her response is nearly equal to a kid plugging their ears and singing "lalalalala". And her comments are always like "we don't want him to come on this day", "we don't want a 9 Lbs baby", I actually flat out said to her today "Who's this "WE"? Because I'm pretty sure it's ME who doesn't want to birth a 9 Lbs baby".

Mine just gets all weird and says "well, we will see what happens." I HATE when she says that. I don't even know what it means!

I feel like that's MIL code for "I think I know better than you".

grannyweatherwax · November 2013

frankierokx said:

I told a few friends that my c-section is booked for Christmas Eve. The response she gave me was ' Oh I am sorry, what a way to ruin Christmas'

Let's just say my English temper showed and I told her how much of an insensitive bitch she is.
X(

How is having your first baby ruining Christmas? ESPECIALLY after all that you've been through. I am really glad you told her off.

mightymousy · November 2013

lorlor681 said:

Yeah, people do the whole well this day's my bday so maybe she'll decide to come then. The best is when people say to me "aww, a Christmas baby". Uh yeah, I'm Jewish.

Yeah that's another good self involved comment, because everyone celebrates the same religious holidays right?

fauxvegan · November 2013

This week DH has asked me to try and go into labor over the weekend. That way we can still have our Thanksgiving dinner with family. I know he's just joking (he says it laughing) but I still say,"yup, because I can control that..." sarcastically. Baby will come when ready, not when it's convenient to others!

frankierokx · November 2013

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

mightymousy · November 2013

frankierokx said:

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

Thanks!!

I'm anxiously waiting for a text right now. The first 6-7 hours minimum of the drive (the most dangerous portion) has no cell service what so ever. He's to text me when he arrives in the first town with service where we stop to gas up to let me know he's made it that far safely.

grannyweatherwax · November 2013

mightymousy said:

mightymousy said:

pirategirlpink said:

It's not just a Dec thing, I got it a lot with DD1. "Oh you should have her on Labor Day EL OH EL wouldn't that be so cute!?"

My MIL refuses to consider that LO will come on ANY OTHER DAY other than my due date. It's like my due date is the WORD OF THE LORD.

(Even though DD was 10 days early and my OB tells me at every appointment that I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead. AND DH was a preemie and born 6 weeks early. I have no idea why she is so adamant about this.)

OMG MINE TOO!!!! WTF is with MILs??? When I try to remind her that my due date is not a set in stone arrival date and that he could come at any point now her response is nearly equal to a kid plugging their ears and singing "lalalalala". And her comments are always like "we don't want him to come on this day", "we don't want a 9 Lbs baby", I actually flat out said to her today "Who's this "WE"? Because I'm pretty sure it's ME who doesn't want to birth a 9 Lbs baby".

Mine just gets all weird and says "well, we will see what happens." I HATE when she says that. I don't even know what it means!
I feel like that's MIL code for "I think I know better than you".

It IS and it makes me stabby.

lp0 · November 2013

riv06marce said:
This week DH has asked me to try and go into labor over the weekend. That way we can still have our Thanksgiving dinner with family. I know he's just joking (he says it laughing) but I still say,"yup, because I can control that..." sarcastically. Baby will come when ready, not when it's convenient to others!

We may have the same DH. He told me that if I could have the baby on a Friday afternoon that would really work out good because they are really busy at work. So I said maybe I'd talk to the baby and see if she could come Wednesday evening before thanksgiving since work is closed for the long weekend. He said he prefer not because he was looking forward to a few days of relaxing. He was joking but I kinda wanted to bitch slap him.

frankierokx · November 2013

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

Thanks!! I'm anxiously waiting for a text right now. The first 6-7 hours minimum of the drive (the most dangerous portion) has no cell service what so ever. He's to text me when he arrives in the first town with service where we stop to gas up to let me know he's made it that far safely.

I will be looking for a ' he is here' update when I get up! I bet you've got butterfly's waiting to see him!

Oooo you must let us know how he likes his photo of you too! :-D

shoeflypie · November 2013

It's bullshit. The only person that I let say a word is my Nana because her birthday is Christmas Eve. I make everyone else feel like shit for telling me their opinion by being super positive and then being the one to end the conversation by walking away or talking to someone else about a whole different topic. I'm due the 26th and my baby can come whenever he/she damn well pleases!

mightymousy · November 2013

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

Thanks!! I'm anxiously waiting for a text right now. The first 6-7 hours minimum of the drive (the most dangerous portion) has no cell service what so ever. He's to text me when he arrives in the first town with service where we stop to gas up to let me know he's made it that far safely.

I will be looking for a ' he is here' update when I get up! I bet you've got butterfly's waiting to see him!

Oooo you must let us know how he likes his photo of you too! :-D

Ooo that's right, it's nearly bed time across the pond! Well by the time he finally rolls in you'll probably be up again haha, yay for 18 hours ish of driving, poor guy. I totally do have butterflies already

can't wait to kiss him and snuggle with him. I'm going to be itching to give him the maternity photos but I'm going to try and wait for his birthday on the 3rd

brianad1204 · November 2013

My DH says to me all the time "her due date would be on a Sunday". He says he's joking but I know he is kind of serious. He is all into the football and fantasy football. I told him I'll be sure to tell our daughter that her father said she can't come on a Sunday. Like seriously?! Us mommys do not control this stuff!!

frankierokx · November 2013

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

Thanks!! I'm anxiously waiting for a text right now. The first 6-7 hours minimum of the drive (the most dangerous portion) has no cell service what so ever. He's to text me when he arrives in the first town with service where we stop to gas up to let me know he's made it that far safely.

I will be looking for a ' he is here' update when I get up! I bet you've got butterfly's waiting to see him!

Oooo you must let us know how he likes his photo of you too! :-D

Ooo that's right, it's nearly bed time across the pond! Well by the time he finally rolls in you'll probably be up again haha, yay for 18 hours ish of driving, poor guy. I totally do have butterflies already can't wait to kiss him and snuggle with him. I'm going to be itching to give him the maternity photos but I'm going to try and wait for his birthday on the 3rd

18 hours! That is a huge drive. Aww hun, I hope you have a wonderful reunion with him. You really do deserve it! You are going to make me wait till the 3rd of December, tut tut ;-) We are all 100% sure he will love them, because we all do!

mightymousy · November 2013

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

mightymousy said:

frankierokx said:

So excited for you that Mr. MM arrives today!!!!

Thanks!! I'm anxiously waiting for a text right now. The first 6-7 hours minimum of the drive (the most dangerous portion) has no cell service what so ever. He's to text me when he arrives in the first town with service where we stop to gas up to let me know he's made it that far safely.

I will be looking for a ' he is here' update when I get up! I bet you've got butterfly's waiting to see him!

Oooo you must let us know how he likes his photo of you too! :-D

Ooo that's right, it's nearly bed time across the pond! Well by the time he finally rolls in you'll probably be up again haha, yay for 18 hours ish of driving, poor guy. I totally do have butterflies already can't wait to kiss him and snuggle with him. I'm going to be itching to give him the maternity photos but I'm going to try and wait for his birthday on the 3rd

18 hours! That is a huge drive. Aww hun, I hope you have a wonderful reunion with him. You really do deserve it! You are going to make me wait till the 3rd of December, tut tut ;-) We are all 100% sure he will love them, because we all do!

Awwwww thanks :x

Ansleyturner · November 2013

My MIL is insisting LO comes on her birthday. Why would you want to share your birthday anyways??!

HerbanMom · November 2013

It's a dumb people thing, but it is particularly bad when you are due close to the holidays. Everyone kept insisting my guy would be born 11/12/13. I was totally laughing at everyone when 11/13/13 rolled around, no baby, and the family was all bent out of shape because they were all just soooooo sure.

Buckeye608 · November 2013

Not a STM, but it's funny that you mention this. I was at a coffee shop the other day and this guy asked when I was due. When I told him 12/15 he freaked out because that's his birthday. I did the polite "wow, that's neat" schtick, but he felt compelled to take out his driver's license and show me that his birthday was indeed 12/15. Um, okay?

On the flip side, he said some really sweet things about how awesome kids are, how much fun we'll have and how great it is to be a parent. Usually I get the "just wait" or "newborns are so hard" stuff.

So I guess between the two it all evens out in the end.

grannyweatherwax · November 2013

Soozerella said:

As someone who is not Christian and a FTM I can tell you I'm so over "Christmas baby". Like I can't even look them in the face because I know I'm giving them a "you're annoying me go away" look.
Maybe we should start telling people how stoked we are for our kwanza babies

I might say something about the Winter Solstice and the moon. I am just gonna start saying random shit.

Aycul18 · November 2013

frankierokx said:
I told a few friends that my c-section is booked for Christmas Eve. The response she gave me was ' Oh I am sorry, what a way to ruin Christmas'

Let's just say my English temper showed and I told her how much of an insensitive bitch she is.
X(

I don't celebrate Christmas, but I would think that rather than ruining it, having your baby would be the best Christmas gift ever... Just saying.

Aycul18 · November 2013

Ansleyturner said:
My MIL is insisting LO comes on her birthday. Why would you want to share your birthday anyways??!

Sharing birthdays runs in my family... My grandpa and uncle are on the same day, my dad and I are on the same day, and my mom and aunt are 1 day apart...

So far I don't mind sharing my birthday, it's always been weirdly nice... Then someone brought up the fact about how hard it will be when that person passes away, and that gives me the sads :-( I don't even want to think about that.

brianad1204 · November 2013

Everyone in my family is going crazy "assuming" when the baby's going to come. I'm due December 8th but my poppops bday is December 1st and my bday is December 4th and my grandpa's bday is Christmas Eve. Oh and my Mommom and brother in laws bdays are both December 29th. Everyone wants my LO born on their bday. I just want a happy healthy baby girl, it doesn't matter to me what day it is.

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