mom has cancer & angelversary

lrichmond86 · November 2013

I honestly can't remember if I still have my ticker for dd in my siggy bc I'm always in mobile. Just be warned I might...

I posted on my bmb, but thought you ladies would understand more. We found out today that my mom has cancer. She's only 52. I'm also less than a month from baby Gary's second angelversary. For some reason I'm having a harder time with it this year than I did last year. Add to that the news of my mom and some stress I have going on at school and I feel completely overwhelmed. Every time I think about baby Gary lately I cry. I was doing so well since dd was born, but I just feel so sad and angry. I can't help but feel like my family has had their share of crappy in the last two years, and now this. I want to be strong and supportive for my mom, but I feel like I'm barely hanging on myself. I have a therapist that I see and I'm making an appointment. My mom and I have had a strained relationship in the past, so there's a level of guilt involved, too. I don't know what the point of this is. I just want BOTH of my babies home with me. I want my mom to be healthy. I want my family to be happy. It seems so unfair that we're dealing with all of this at once. I'm just exhausted.

Noethola · November 2013

*Siggy warning**

I am sorry your mom has cancer and that you are going through this. When we found out my dad had cancer three years ago, it was such a hard diagnosis to hear. Cancer, though common because of its many forms, its so scary. Just hearing the word equates itself with pain, long treatments and finality.

My dad is in remission, but even this last month we had a scare that it had come back. He is healthy and thriving, and I so want him to enjoy moments with MY babies. I wanted them to know him.

I know that it probably feels like one more bad thing to be happening to you and your family, and coming at such an emotional time has to be hard. I hope that you are able to draw closer together as a family and truly support one another. I totally understand wanting to be surround by BOTH your babies and to feel some relief from the harshness of life. I truly hope that your mom's cancer is treatable and you will be able to say that she is in remission too. Huge ((hugs)).

stefuge · November 2013

I'm so sorry for the news about your mom, and to come so close to baby Gary's 2 year angelversary. Cancer is very scary, and I hope you all can come together and pull through this with each other. ((Hugs))

Auki13 · November 2013

I am so sorry about your mom, that news would be difficult to take at any time, but to be so close to a milestone like this makes it so much more difficult to bear. I totally understand how you feel about the second year being more difficult. Annabelle's second angelversary was this summer and it was definitely more emotional than the first year. It was like everyone "moved on" and my DH and I were left behind mourning the loss. I feel like every year is going to be difficult and emotional, but others only expect you to be sad that first year. I hope you can find some peace and just be gentle with yourself these next few weeks. (((HUGS)))

CRUN2012 · November 2013

I'm very sorry to hear about your mom. On the days when I'm feeling that I'm doing well regarding my loss I almost always flip out about at least one small thing for no apparent reason. I can't imagine when you have to endure two life-altering circumstances. They are each so consuming on their own. Praying for strength for you and your family!

mingaling2 · November 2013

I'm so sorry. Praying for you and your family.

schulme2 · November 2013

I'm so sorry. I hope they caught it early and she'll have a speedy treatment and recovery. Hang in there, mama.

kz's_girlygirl · November 2013

I am so so sorry. I hope that as her diagnostics continue, it is found to be treatable and that her course of treatment and recovery is quick. One of my best friend just had a double mastectomy after 6 wks of chemo- she is only 26! It is so incredibly hard to deal with a cancer diagnosis, and I am so sorry you and your mom are encountering it at such a fragile time.

I will be thinking of you all with love and peace

Bayberry12 · November 2013

I'm very sorry to hear this. I know it's hard to be supportive of others, even our parents, when we are still in need of so much support ourselves. I hope your therapist can help yo work through all these complicated emotions.

You'll be in my thoughts.

jbranden12 · November 2013

I am so sorry to hear this. Sometimes life is just really hard. ((HUGS))

bunnybun4 · November 2013

I am so sorry you are going through this on top of everything else. ((HUGS))

princezjk · November 2013

I am so sorry to hear about your mom and that you have so much to deal with at once. I hope your therapist can help you to handle all of this stress. Sending lots of (((hugs))) and T&P.

VyD81 · November 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Praying that everything will go well with her treatment and she will recover quickly. Hugs.

diamante1181 · November 2013

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Cancer is very difficult to deal with. I hope all will be well with her and that you will be okay, also. My t and p are with you today.