How much do you trust your nanny? (kind of long, sorry)

Re: How much do you trust your nanny? (kind of long, sorry)

• mommymegan831 member

  November 2013

  I did my best to read through all the response, but I just didn't see the red flag.  I nannied/ babysat for a few families in college and my steady boyfriend (now DH) was always welcome when I stayed late and we would hang out while the kids slept.  I never would have done it without the families inviting him, but it always made me feel more comfortable and part of the family that they trusted me in that way. 

   The fact that your nanny may have written going to the library then crossed it off and you think she lied because the library was closed is a huge stretch.  There's many times I would do something like that because I'm just not thinking and then realize it.  Is your nanny's handwritting really that distinct that you can clearly tell if it's hers or not under something that has been heavily crossed out?

  I understand the log book, most daycares/nanny I know of do it for atleast 1 1/2 years.  I think its sorta pointless, but very standard.  I also think it's common courtesy to know where your child is at all times.  It's not like she's a family member doing you a favor, she's working.  Unless you have an arrangement that she takes your LO with her on her errands, I wouldn't think she should be doing personal errands while she is watching your LO.  When I nannied the family did allow me to take the little girl where ever I wanted, which again I really appreciated, but I always gave them a heads up where I was going.  Especially these days it's not hard to send a text.

  I don't see why you'd be upset or think there's a problem, but if you really are I think drop ins are a great idea.

  I also see you're due with #2.  Since you say you can't afford what other families are paying her are you planning on asking her to watch another one?  DD went to a SAHM, so it was sort of similar to a nanny, but by around 2 I knew I wanted her with other kids and w/ #2 coming i couldn't afford to pay double what we were paying.  Although after being with her for a year I was starting to have second thoughts, I stuck it out till she was 2 and I had DS.  I stayed home with them both for 6 months and sent them both to daycare.  It's really worked out for the best.  I was concerned about a baby in daycare, but he's done great.

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• kjdean member

  January 2014

  I trust our nanny but not to the point of entrusting her where our safe is, etc. Instead of using the logbook, she records my kids' activities throughout the day on a sheet and shows me the video of them through her phone to keep me connected to my family while I'm at work.
  
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• Lilly&Co member

  January 2014

  We have a log book but I write a list of things that I prefer them to do. IE  Library for story time, Kidville activities… I give them 3 choices and then the nanny initials  and checks off what it is they did. She will also leave the receipt to prove they have gone. I do not necessarily trust her  as recently she said they went somewhere and they actually went to the mall. We have nanny cams and I will Skype with them at lunch if I am able. I am a control freak when it comes to my kids, but I totally ok with that. I do not apologize to her for having high standards. 

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