Boomerang. (WARNING - BFP and CP mentioned)

E&B0811 · November 2013

For mobile bumpies - Boomerang. (WARNING - BFP and CP mentioned.)

This is long. Sorry.

I'm back. You ladies are great but I really had no interest in returning

I was Las Vegas for work. I woke up on Thursday at 1:15 am to go to the bathroom and had light spotting. It picked up a bit by 2. I called my doctor and she said to go to the hospital to get checked out. I was too scared to go to the ER alone u called my boss - best boss ever and she went with me. They did an ultrasound and bloodwork. I was only 4w4d and was pretty sure before I even got there that it was another miscarriage.

The nurse that did the blood draw was making all sorts of hilarious (sarcasm) jokes about how I was probably very drunk and how he hoped he didn't mess up my blood draw too much. I had to bring the hurt to his doorstep. I said, "while I appreciate that this is all very hilarious, I am thousands of miles away from home, at the ER with my BOSS (not my mom as they all assumed) and having the second miscarriage in 5 months. So, you must excuse me but this is not funny." Silence. Assclowns.

The hcg came back at 7 and the a-hole ER doc implied that I (a) was faking a pregnancy and really was just having a period or (b) was too dumb to know how to use an hpt. SO, I busted out ff and asked if he'd like to see my calendar/testing history. Assclown.

Ultrasound showed good ovaries but no pregnancy. And, as an added bonus, a fibroid that seems to be getting bigger since my last loss. AND, double bonus, another girl was in the er because she was feeling sick. Guess what???? She is KTFU and 9w along with a healthy baby. Strong heartbeat and everything. She just found out about morning sickness and the importance of drinking extra water during pregnancy. SMH.

I go to my OB on Monday for a f/u blood draw, ultrasound, discussion of the fibroid and next steps, and (hopefully) a good pep talk.

I'm disappointed. This feels like a punch in the gut but it's nothing like the last time - mmc @10w. I'm nervous for what, of anything, is next and the experience really resurfaces all of the heartache of my loss in July. I don't mean to be caviler about this loss but I'm greatful somehow that it wasn't another missed miscarriage or worse.

I have a friend that has had (unfortunately) significant experience with late term pregnancy and m/c loss. She said that her doctors have said that a CP is - for lack of a more appropriate description - a "better" type of mc because it generally doesn't have any adverse inference on your ability to get pregnant or carry a baby to term in the future. Instead it's just super shitty fucking luck. Has anyone else been told this or something similar?

Sorry to ramble. Damn it! I am pissed.

I'm out this time, but could really use some prayers for peace, patience and a better tomorrow.

alilbear · November 2013

I'm so so sorry. Huge TP to the ER and his incredibly insensitive behavior. MANY ((HUGS))!

Drgn30 · November 2013

@E&B0811 - ((hugs)) Sounds like an awful event was made even worse by the circumstances surrounding it. I'm so sorry.

ashtonblair123 · November 2013

I am so so sorry. Huge ((hugs)). I can't believe the doctor was such an a-hole. I thought they had to learn about bedside manner.

E&B0811 · November 2013

Hawkward said:
I'm so sorry. When you feel up to it, can you lodge a complaint with the hospital? That was horrible on both the nurse's and doctor's parts.

I was thinking about that. I don't know if it will do any good to change behavior, but it will probably make me feel better.

gscoville · November 2013

((huge hugs)) I'm so sorry, and angry on your behalf that the so-called professionals you dealt with were such asshats. I'm glad you said something, perhaps it'll help that individual to be more compassionate with the next patient.

RustyGirl3 · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and how they treated you. You shouldn't have had to deal with that on top of everything else. Glad you weren't alone.

(((HUGS)))

LaRomana09 · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for your horrible experience in the ER. (((HUGS)))

mara005 · November 2013

I'm sorry

p3ngu1nn · November 2013

((HUGS)) ((HUGS)) and more ((HUGS)). I am so sorry for your loss, that you weren't home with a better support system when it happened, that the doctors in the ER were asses and that you had to deal with seeing someone get told they were KU.

As someone who has had both second and first term losses I can say that I have been told the same thing as your friend. While any loss sucks and may be indicative of something, really early losses tend to not be an indicator of a problem. Little comfort, I know, but it is something.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

(Also, we need to come up with a stronger word than "sucks" because that just doesn't encompass the horribleness of a loss. But without sounding like a sailor I will stick with "sucks." )

TVLily · November 2013

So sorry for your loss and you having to deal with inconsiderate medical staff especially so far from home.

Take care of yourself ((hugs))

blackbird818 · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss and also for your ER experience!! I give you major props for putting both the nurse & dr in their place. Total asshats!!

Big (((hugs))) sweetie!! Be kind to yourself and remember we're here for you,

Eliz77 · November 2013

I am so, so sorry for your loss and all the circumstances around it. I think ER docs tend to have the worst bedside manner. At least, that is what it has been in my experience. SO many ((HUGS)) to you.

kaydee_2008 · November 2013

I'm so sorry huge hugs to you. What an asshat, I can not believe that doctor treated you that way it's just awful.

AnyMax · November 2013

I am sorry for your loss and your experience at the ER. That is just awful an so very unprofessional of them.

However, I am very taken back by the part about CPs being a better type of miscarriage. I am currently going through my third and no, my doctors do not tell me this is a good type of miscarriage to have. There is obviously something wrong and I obviously am not currently able of carrying to term - I cannot even make it to five friggen weeks.

BluEyedGirl26 · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself back here. I agree with pp about calling to complain. There's no reason for doctors/nurses to treat a patient like that, ever. They need a lesson in bedside manner and maybe if you call, you can save someone the heartache that you endured. So many (((hugs))).

luciddreamer106 · November 2013

I'm sorry you're back and that you weren't treated with sensitivity in the ER. (( hugs))

MsAmandaPants · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself back here. It sucks and just isn't fair. I'm also sorry that you had to deal with such incompetent assholes at the ER. I would write a complaint when you are up to it. (((hugs)))

E&B0811 · November 2013

@anymax - ((hugs)). I am so sorry.

SamanthaLaura16 · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself back here. I am also sorry you had to deal with that idiot in the ER. I wish they would look at your charts a little closer and realize why you are in there. The same kind of thing happened before my D&C the nurse asked if I had taken a pregnancy test to make sure I wasn't pregnant during surgery. I also gave you a smart a$$ answer.

gingerkid9989 · November 2013

((HUGS)) I am so sorry you are back and had such an awful experience.

@anymax and @ninthgirl ((HUGS)) to you too. I'm so sorry y'all are back too.

LizBlue · November 2013

the bump ate my post I think, but at the risk of repeating myself: I'm so so sorry. Hugs to you (and AnyMax and ninthgirl). This stuff is just not fair. Take care of yourself.

RustyGirl3 · November 2013

@anymax I am so sorry (((HUGS)))

princezjk · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself back here. (((HUGS)))

libby+nate · November 2013

I'm so sorry. This sounds like a horrible experience all around from the loss itself to the care in the ER. I'm glad you have such a wonderful boss. HUGE hugs to you.

carlsonbaby2014 · November 2013

@E&B0811, love, I am so, so, so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I was praying for a different outcome as I stalked you on Pgal.

AND OMG I want to punch that ass clown in the freaking face. UGH some people. :-L

I wish I could give you IRL (((HUGS))). Thinking of you right now and will definitely hold you close in my T&Ps.

peelester429 · November 2013

I wish we could meet for very, very strong drinks and commiserate together. I know nothing anyone can say right now will make you feel better. F*ck the universe.

megrae12 · November 2013

I am so sorry! I am so sorry you had to deal with the stupid idiots in the ER. You did better than I would have b/c my first inclination would be to punch them in the face. ((Hugs)) to dear. We are here for you.

@AnyMax ((Hugs)) to you as well. I am so sorry.

MyFirstRaspberry · November 2013

I am so very sorry you had to experience that. Sending you all my ((hugs)). What a bunch of twatwaffles at the ER!!

ashellypnut · November 2013

Oh hunny, I'm so sorry you're back. I cannot believe what you have just been through! Def TP to that ER & the dr too. And HUGE (((hugs))) to you my dear. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and know that we're here [no matter how long your post is

] GL love. xoxo

HeyMrsPotter · November 2013

I'm so sorry about your loss and the horrible hospital experience. Sending so many ((HUGS)).

esmith10 · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and all the circumstances surrounding it! ((Hugs))

LifeofCat · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and the way you were treated at the ER (((Hugs))) Take good care of yourself

peggels24 · November 2013

I'm so very sorry. And I hate hate hate the way you were treated at the hospital. It sounds like your doctor cares and hopefully you can work on a plan together that will help you.

dajhughes · November 2013

Oh no (((HUGS))) I am so so sorry. How scary that must have been to go through when you were away from home. ER doctors are their own special kind of asshats. I am sorry you had to go through all that. Hope you find comfort soon.

msteacher83 · November 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and the way you were treated. So unfair to have to deal with all that on top what is already truly awful.

I don't understand why medical professionals are not more sympathetic to losses. I had three ultrasounds in three days; one of the techs asked, "How far along are you?" and the other one said, "So you're pregnant then!" Um, no. Maybe read my chart next time. Sigh.

jap618 · November 2013

I'm so sorry for your loss & that you're back here (((hugs)))

That ER staff sounds like a bunch of douche canoes. I'm sorry you had to deal with that in the mist of everything else.

taberbtb · November 2013

Oh E. I am so sorry for all of this. How unprofessional!! Though they were likely not your first choice of people you could have with you, I am glad your boss is so awesome and that you didn't have to be alone. ((HUGS))

KMW08 · November 2013

I'm sorry you're back here (((hugs))). I'm proud of you for saying something to them, maybe it'll make them think twice next time. I'll put you back on the jan checkin next week love.

nyg2042 · November 2013

That doctor sounds like a real douchecanoe. I'm sorry you had to deal with him and all of this other crap. My heart hurts for you love. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, and sending lots of ((hugs))

kateitho · November 2013

I am so sorry that you find yourself back here. I've had some shitty experiences with the ER as well. I am dumbfounded by the fact that the hospital doesn't just assign ladies in our situatio to the OB that's on call.... I'd settle for a midwife or a Nurse Practitioner over an ER "doctor".