Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
divzzish
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Re: Looking for moms to be in my city
Hey there, I totally understand feeling alone in a new city and all the new changes. I live in the Renton area, so not too far from Seattle. You should check out meetup.com. I currently belong to this group https://www.meetup.com/Renton-Moms-to-Be-Ages-30-and-Up/. This is a good way to meet other first time mothers too. Feel free to hit me up if you'd like!
Welcome!
Hey Dhaueisen, thanks a ton for your response! The birth month board is only until the end of this year on this website & I am due in Feb 2014. I don't see the calendar for next year yet
That's the first thing I was looking on to connect with people.
You are not too far along. I wish you all the best
Sending you a big hug
Hey thanks,
I'll look into it right away! You women are awesome
I live in the Queen Anne area & I will look into all possible options to meet some lovely mommies to be out there!
Thanks again!
Hey GeorgiaGC, thanks for the advice, I am gonna check out the meetup options & see what works. Thanks a ton for your suggestion. Really appreciate it
Big hug
Heyy jrtmom, great to hear from you. I am in Queen Anne, where exactly are you located?
I am currently looking at the PEP website & it looks like a fantastic option. Also do let me know about the other option where I can meet other FTMs too, when & where do you guys meet up & how can I be updated about it or how do I join the group!
Thanks a ton for your suggestions & wish you all the best, hope you're not getting too jittery
Hugs
thanks for the info
Cheers!
Laura
I'm also expecting my first (10w5d today), and live in north Seattle. I've lived here my whole life so I know the city pretty well. Some friends have just had babies, but I don't know any that are currently pregnant. I work at a school and have the summer off and have been finding myself at a loss of what to do, given morning sickness and exhaustion, etc. Anyhow, would love to meet sometime!
Carley
Hey Divya!
I'm an expecting Mom in Queen Anne. Due date is November 30th. Would love to meet up. Maybe go for a slow stroll around the crown sometime?
My email is princesswoowoo@gmail.com. We had a group of QA expecting Moms that have gotten together once or twice to walk around the crown but with the summer schedules, it's been a while since we all got together. Will add you to that list.
All the best,
Karin
Divya, I had my NT scan yesterday too. How did yours go? I'm apparently a day ahead of schedule, due 2/18 instead of 2/19 now. (:
I'm attaching an ultrasound pic from yesterday and a 12w1d bump pic I just took this morning. Actually have a teeny bump now, it's exciting!
Maybe it would be quicker for me to just email people? Hmm.
Carley
Open to the public, but please RSVP: https://www.facebook.com/events/574783535900997/
Were you able to find any meetup groups or moms to-be clubs in Seattle? I just moved to First Hill from San Francisco and I'm due in March. I'd love to belong to a group and meet some locals. My email is sscollins@dons.usfca.edu.
Thanks!
Susi
I live on the Kitsap Peninsula, but I'm always up for a ferry ride to Seattle!