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May 2014 Moms
jjtyler
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Told the new company that I was Pregnant and staying at old company....
jjtyler
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Last week, I was all nervous about telling the new company I was pregnant, and then I was offered a deal to stay at the old company I was presently leaving. I was not leaving because I wanted to, I was leaving because my old boss screwed me.
I called the new company on Friday to tell them I was pregnant and staying at old company because they countered.
In less than a 2 second pause, she congratulated me and matched the offer (which I was embellishing, because old company did not know I was pregnant).
- 4 months FULLY paid maternity
- Potential for increase of salary
Then my potential new boss call me and basically said ALL THE RIGHT THINGS you say to a woman who just told you that she was pregnant...as well as every possible ego stroke you want to hear.
HR chick calls me back and basically says that they understand that I have a lot to think about and, "whatever it takes to not hear a no."
Old company gave me a guarantee that I asked for and I would be the head of the initiative. It is work that I love to do. It is the devil I know. I also know I can have an infrastructure set up to roll however I need to at the end of my pregnancy...and when I return from leave. There is a lot unknown at the new company...it's a new industry, even though I am the expert in my field on the team. I get 3 months leave at old company.
Fiscally and rationally, the new job is the black and white right decision.
But starting a job at 15 weeks pregnant? I have an 8 year old with lots of school vacations that I am comfortable with old company to work from home or have her come in with me...I cannot do that with new as I am going to have to be balls to the wall for 5 months before I leave.
I am leaning OLD as it is the short-term decision that works for family...but I am terrified of making a long-term mistake.
Help!
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Re: Told the new company that I was Pregnant and staying at old company....
I started a new job and then found out I was pregnant. So you're in a good place
Starting a new job is difficult. But you can do it!!! The benefits alone sound amazing. Remember why you started looking for a new job in the first place.
You are starting a new chapter as a Mom with two kids... make a fresh start at a new job.
Good luck!
I personally do not think it's a good business move to ever stay with a current company because of a counter offer. I think it's too short sighted. If it were me, I would make the change. I know change is scary especially with everything else going on in your life right now, but it can also be a really good thing. It sounds like they really like you and want you on board, so maybe they will be more flexible than you anticipate. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! It's not an easy decision.
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
Also I think you mentioned that your job will only be guaranteed for a year. A year from now? A year after you return from leave?
The first 6+ months after returning to work were the hardest for us as far as adjusting. I was looking for a job during that time and it was very stressful having to continue at a job where I was not happy. With that experience behind me, I would prefer to adjust to a new job before the birth of a child if I had the choice or would want to wait at least a year afterward.
Also consider if you are planning to have more children. Could you be in this same boat fairly soon? We had to put off TTC # 2 for about a year while I was looking for a new job, getting hired and putting in enough time to qualify for FMLA.
Good luck!!
little chkn born 06/30/11
baby chkn born 04/22/14
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GL with your decision!!
The other reason I was leaning towards old job honestly....I have been through so much change in the past year. I live on Long Island and about 4 blocks out of the flood zone for Sandy...we had a tree fall on the house (with us in it). Add the job stress, moving out to fix the house, hubby and I stressed and not getting along and then getting along...the pregnancy, asking for the layoff and going through 8 rounds of interviews over 4 months with this new job.
I would love a coast year. It may not be the smart long-term decision...but that's honestly why I have a death grip on this back and forth.
The crazy bitch is gone. This new guy guy knows he can't do it without me....I can coast a little. I selfishly want to do that. Like press pause for a guaranteed year.
I'm literally crying right now...I have to make final decision in 25 minutes.
My own feeling is go with the new company, but it's easy to say that since it's not my life that would be changing. (In my own life, I like my rut. I'm just seriously impressed by how much the new company wants you, and it sounds like an industry that might have more long-term job security.)
If you really truly don't want to switch companies, is there some way you can graciously acknowledge how hard they're trying to get you and be final in your decision to stick with the current company so they basically leave you alone and stop trying to come up with a sweeter deal?
The other company made it challenging, but the right decision for me was to stay at the old company. With my tenure and experience, I think it would be best for at least the next year (which I have guaranteed)...things are progressing really well and honestly a couple of things happened already that solidified my decision. I did cry like a baby when I finally got it through to the other company. They had the global head of communications call me.
I had severe pain walking when it rained and the cold set in here in NY last week. I have a surgically repaired hip joint due to a car accident a few years ago. It appears that it may have retorn my labrum :-( Since I cannot take any of the medications I was on pre-pregnancy, I have to go back to my ortho surgeon and synch up with my OB on a plan...this is all happening to me at week 15 without ANY extra weight....I can only imagine what will happen when I have a full size baby resting on the hips. May mean bedrest, may mean work from home days....regardless, the flexibility of staying here means LESS stress at least (which after having pre-e the last pregnancy is a whole 'nother concern my OB is telling me over and over)
So, althought black and white, I 100% agreed that the new company was the better company and what I should have gone with....personally, I think it was best that I stayed.
Bummer about your hips.