who effing cares about any of this? Post where you want....don't post...lurk...I don't give a flying fluck! Just answer my questions when I have them because I am a clueless ftm!!!!!!!!
Are any of you going to be attending the funerals of your fb or tb friends? Prolly not! There's how much weight you can put into the value of these "friendships".
Amen. Seriously. AMEN.
I love the post where someone pointed out how "when the FB group is mentioned, word will get back to them, and then they will all re-appear to stir the pot." Hummmmmmm.......
Word doesn't need to "get out" for us to notice. We're here. We're queer. Get over it. Oh wait. Different rally. N/m.
I can understand why you would want to close the group. The only reason I asked about it is because I never moved over after my LO was born (due 3/28, born 4/2) and I was hoping to connect with some other mamas. I'm new to this board. I don't see why that is so strange. More specifically, I was looking to connect with mamas who are in my area, since I have few friends with kids and have had no luck so far (in 7 months) meeting new people in my area. Sorry to create such a stir! Just trying to make some friends.
South Jersey. I've checked the local board, it's dead. I've tried repeatedly to join a moms group in my area, a couple aren't accepting new members and one hasn't responded to my request email.
@randomosity We love Ocean County! We are closer to Philly though. We love it here, so close to so many fun cities. A short-moderate drive to 5 or 6 different malls, lol.
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up." TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012 IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized! ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597 12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up." TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012 IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized! ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597 12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
If anyone is stirring up drama on this thread it's you. You have nothing to say about the actual post, you're just being rude for the sake of being rude.
It's not a popularity contest, but if you need to go recruit people to like your comments go right on ahead.
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
If anyone is stirring up drama on this thread it's you. You have nothing to say about the actual post, you're just being rude for the sake of being rude.
It's not a popularity contest, but if you need to go recruit people to like your comments go right on ahead.
I'm gonna have to go ahead and agree with this. You guys keep bringing it up when the conversation veers away. :-/
"I wanted you more than you'll ever know, so I sent love to follow wherever you go."
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
If anyone is stirring up drama on this thread it's you. You have nothing to say about the actual post, you're just being rude for the sake of being rude.
It's not a popularity contest, but if you need to go recruit people to like your comments go right on ahead.
BAHAHAH. THat's called a joke. Sarcasm.
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up." TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012 IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized! ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597 12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Just have to love it up for my A13 FB group 2 ladies
Call us STOOPID people and wonder why come out of the wood works to defend each other???
Yes, this sure showed everyone.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
If anyone is stirring up drama on this thread it's you. You have nothing to say about the actual post, you're just being rude for the sake of being rude.
It's not a popularity contest, but if you need to go recruit people to like your comments go right on ahead.
BAHAHAH. THat's called a joke. Sarcasm.
Right back atcha. And I see there is still nothing but rudeness.....
I was in the first fb group and got kicked out for not posting enough. I was deemed a lurker and no longer welcome. I missed the window on the 2nd group I guess which is unfortunate because those are the ladies I was the most familiar with. I have been on this bmb since Aug 12. I don't post much anymore because I don't feel as familiar with most posters since our babies were born... aside from Grace who was even on ttgp at the same time as me. Anyway I understand closing the fb groups for the reasons mentioned by mirrored, but not everyone being excluded is a stranger to that group. I do remember the drama over the 1st group too...tsharon was making the exact posts that mirrored is making now. People were "butthurt" over it. I agree that those who are new to this board should start another group if they wish to use fb.
I was in the first fb group and got kicked out for not posting enough. I was deemed a lurker and no longer welcome. I missed the window on the 2nd group I guess which is unfortunate because those are the ladies I was the most familiar with. I have been on this bmb since Aug 12. I don't post much anymore because I don't feel as familiar with most posters since our babies were born... aside from Grace who was even on ttgp at the same time as me. Anyway I understand closing the fb groups for the reasons mentioned by mirrored, but not everyone being excluded is a stranger to that group. I do remember the drama over the 1st group too...tsharon was making the exact posts that mirrored is making now. People were "butthurt" over it. I agree that those who are new to this board should start another group if they wish to use fb.
I'm seriously considering it, I'm just not sure how much interest there would be at this point.
mirroredimage how are you and the other ladies?? Are you still struggling with PPD? FWIW I kinda miss the old ladies I knew you guys more than most of the current ladies. I love FB but I never wanted to join any of the April 13 FB groups, between my real life and theknot groups i'm apart of I have enough friends lol
Actually, I'll attest to the fact that you can become INCREDIBLY close with people you've met online and not in real life -- I have mentioned before that I was very active on the Weight Watchers web boards a few years ago, and i made a close-knit group of friends there... there are twelve of us, and we've been emailing daily for EIGHT YEARS. I mean, not a single day goes by that I don't hear from these ladies... I was even a bridesmaid for one of them. Two of them I've never met face to face, the others I have met over the years. But we are all different ages and live all over the country, and I am as close to them as women I've known since 2nd grade. So it is possible. :-)
@phill027- I actually thought the same thing. That since the FB ladies have made such amazing connections on the board before, why close yourself off and not care to get to know any of the newer ladies, who they very well may be able to form just as strong of a connection with after getting to know them. I didn't understand that logic either. And why lurk so much to see what the board is talking about if you don't care what the newer people have to say, which according to them makes up most of the board now. If they are so fulfilled with the FB board, why still come on here? I especially don't think it's cool to say we don't know many here now nor do we care to but come on and be a major participant in sh** stirring.
And I am NOT trying to start anything, not my thing, but these were just some of my thoughts while reading this thread. Regarding the actual topic of a closed FB board, I have to say, it makes total sense in a way.
Actually, I think the main reason for lurking was to check up on the regulars that did not migrate to the FB group. At least, that's my reason. There are several that I miss and want to see how they and their babies are doing.
rcantor said:
Actually, I think the main reason for lurking was to check up on the regulars that did not migrate to the FB group. At least, that's my reason. There are several that I miss and want to see how they and their babies are doing.
You don't have to lurk, you know. You all can say hello and give updates here too, since we can't lurk to check up on you over on the MyFace (as my mother calls it). Maybe then @Grace0609 would forgive you all for jumping ship.
rcantor said:
Actually, I think the main reason for lurking was to check up on the regulars that did not migrate to the FB group. At least, that's my reason. There are several that I miss and want to see how they and their babies are doing.
You don't have to lurk, you know. You all can say hello and give updates here too, since we can't lurk to check up on you over on the MyFace (as my mother calls it). Maybe then @Grace0609 would forgive you all for jumping ship.
I just don't have the energy sometimes, honestly. Updating Facebook and The Bump?! (I'm kidding.) Right after Reese was born, I still tried to stay active, but I just kind of gave up. And providing a random update when I'm not active anymore seems a little "Look at me!" Thus, my creepy lurking status to keep up with the regulars.
Many have said that they don't post as much here anymore because they do not know the new ladies as well.
I said this. The reason why I don't post as much is the same as @rcantor just said. I wasn't able to post as much right after my son was born, and during the time that I was inactive there was a shift in who the "regulars" were on this board. I'm still not able to post regularly, so when I do post, I feel like the current regulars might be like "who are you?" They didn't know me before, so now I feel like the newbie to the board almost. Every week in UO or FFFC someone always mentions how they hate when people only show up occasionally to post in HDBD or whatever. So that makes me uncomfortable posting because I feel like this "newer" group may think I'm one of "those people" since I wasn't around for awhile. It has nothing to do with not being willing to engage in conversations with new people. The discomfort comes from not having the opportunity to post often enough to really get familiar with people who are newer/current regulars. I still post when I can...and it's not only on HDBD. Actually, I rarely post in that thread because uploading photos is a whole other issue for me. I try to reply to posts that ask questions, etc. so that I can be helpful and not be considered an AW poster.
Honestly, I have not seen what I would consider someone really being AW-ish. If people have a problem with someone posting an update on themselves and their babies, then that is their problem. If you can only post in HDBD, then do so, some people do not like certain words or certain acronyms but you do not see everyone conforming to try and please them.
People like hearing updates with posters. I don't know, maybe we should have an update thread each week or something. The only way to get comfortable again is by posting and getting to know one another again. It is just something you have to put the effort in doing.. if you want.
I just don't have the energy sometimes, honestly. Updating Facebook and The Bump?! (I'm kidding.) Right after Reese was born, I still tried to stay active, but I just kind of gave up. And providing a random update when I'm not active anymore seems a little "Look at me!" Thus, my creepy lurking status to keep up with the regulars.
Anyway, hello!
If you show up once every six months to complain about your family questioning your choice to trade your land rover for a jaguar coupe to haul around your kid, then we will rightfully side eye you as an AW. Otherwise, feel free to contribute when you have the time, energy or inclination.
lol.I looked at her profile (Jenner-something or other? I can't remember) a few weeks back to see if she was still posting since she kept saying she wasn't going to and I noticed that her and RussianMommy stopped posting within a day of each other. And I thought to myself... perhaps they were the same person trying to stir up drama?
Maybe RussianMommy just ran out of things to say when swaddling was no longer the answer to everything? .
I just don't have the energy sometimes, honestly. Updating Facebook and The Bump?! (I'm kidding.) Right after Reese was born, I still tried to stay active, but I just kind of gave up. And providing a random update when I'm not active anymore seems a little "Look at me!" Thus, my creepy lurking status to keep up with the regulars.
Anyway, hello!
If you show up once every six months to complain about your family questioning your choice to trade your land rover for a jaguar coupe to haul around your kid, then we will rightfully side eye you as an AW. Otherwise, feel free to contribute when you have the time, energy or inclination.
lol. I looked at her profile (Jenner-something or other? I can't remember) a few weeks back to see if she was still posting since she kept saying she wasn't going to and I noticed that her and RussianMommy stopped posting within a day of each other. And I thought to myself... perhaps they were the same person trying to stir up drama?
No, they aren't. I have Jorleny on my facebook and she is really like how she was on here. I was going to say some people are really oblivious to what they are complaining about and not really down to earth about their complaints. She is one of them, it would seem like her friends are the same as well.
The reason why I do not go off on people is because there is such a wide scope of what people call normal... that and I have yet to see a noteworthy troll on The Bump.
I said this. The reason why I don't post as much is the same as @rcantor just said. I wasn't able to post as much right after my son was born, and during the time that I was inactive there was a shift in who the "regulars" were on this board. I'm still not able to post regularly, so when I do post, I feel like the current regulars might be like "who are you?" They didn't know me before, so now I feel like the newbie to the board almost. Every week in UO or FFFC someone always mentions how they hate when people only show up occasionally to post in HDBD or whatever. So that makes me uncomfortable posting because I feel like this "newer" group may think I'm one of "those people" since I wasn't around for awhile. It has nothing to do with not being willing to engage in conversations with new people. The discomfort comes from not having the opportunity to post often enough to really get familiar with people who are newer/current regulars. I still post when I can...and it's not only on HDBD. Actually, I rarely post in that thread because uploading photos is a whole other issue for me. I try to reply to posts that ask questions, etc. so that I can be helpful and not be considered an AW poster.
This. This. This.
I read a lot of what's going on here, I lurk a bit on the cd boards, but, like @wendalsue said, I feel a little AW-ish if I only post on the HDBD boards. I did so pretty regularly a few months ago and then got away from it, AWing be damned.
For me, I'm already on FB. For me to click over to April13 moms is a one click deal. Here, it takes a little more effort than that, though I did just download the app to my phone. I seem to have that thing around a bit more than my laptop
Honestly, I have not seen what I would consider someone really being AW-ish. If people have a problem with someone posting an update on themselves and their babies, then that is their problem. If you can only post in HDBD, then do so, some people do not like certain words or certain acronyms but you do not see everyone conforming to try and please them.
People like hearing updates with posters. I don't know, maybe we should have an update thread each week or something. The only way to get comfortable again is by posting and getting to know one another again. It is just something you have to put the effort in doing.. if you want.
I think the people @rcantor was talking about are infrequent posters these days. I don't think too many of you guys who are currently active are about to go apeshit on someone who infrequently posts daring to post in a HDBD thread or will respond to an update post with a "Hi, and you are....?????" snark.
At least, that's *my* experience with this board when I was pregnant. It made me NOT want to post and it kind of carried over.
Honestly, I have not seen what I would consider someone really being AW-ish. If people have a problem with someone posting an update on themselves and their babies, then that is their problem. If you can only post in HDBD, then do so, some people do not like certain words or certain acronyms but you do not see everyone conforming to try and please them.
People like hearing updates with posters. I don't know, maybe we should have an update thread each week or something. The only way to get comfortable again is by posting and getting to know one another again. It is just something you have to put the effort in doing.. if you want.
I think the people @rcantor was talking about are infrequent posters these days. I don't think too many of you guys who are currently active are about to go apeshit on someone who infrequently posts daring to post in a HDBD thread or will respond to an update post with a "Hi, and you are....?????" snark.
At least, that's *my* experience with this board when I was pregnant. It made me NOT want to post and it kind of carried over.
I can see how that would deter someone from posting, but a lot of snarky people that were here a while ago are gone or post every once in a while. What I tell others is try not to take things personal. They are probably projecting their shitty day over the internet and using the anonymity as a high school court yard.
My new add to this conversation is that tsharon left the first facebook group and made her own. We lost a lot of members from our group to hers, and then a portion of people are in both the first group and tsharon's. Tsharon's is invite only though. When tsharon goes, drama follows!
I'm a member of the first facebook group. I joined the second one too because I liked the posters who were joining it. I wasn't able to keep up with both though so I left the second one rather than be in an intimate group and not participate.
My new add to this conversation is that tsharon left the first facebook group and made her own. We lost a lot of members from our group to hers, and then a portion of people are in both the first group and tsharon's. Tsharon's is invite only though. When tsharon goes, drama follows!
My new add to this conversation is that tsharon left the first facebook group and made her own. We lost a lot of members from our group to hers, and then a portion of people are in both the first group and tsharon's. Tsharon's is invite only though. When tsharon goes, drama follows!
Seriously?! Good grief.
This all made me lol.
"I wanted you more than you'll ever know, so I sent love to follow wherever you go."
My new add to this conversation is that tsharon left the first facebook group and made her own. We lost a lot of members from our group to hers, and then a portion of people are in both the first group and tsharon's. Tsharon's is invite only though. When tsharon goes, drama follows!
Seriously?! Good grief.
This all made me lol.
This all made me roll my eyes / smile / laugh, because yes, she is the original shit-stirrer that got everybody all riled up SEVERAL times regarding FB when NOBODY was riled up to begin with... Gah. Good riddance.
Re: Facebook group?
South Jersey. I've checked the local board, it's dead. I've tried repeatedly to join a moms group in my area, a couple aren't accepting new members and one hasn't responded to my request email.
that's right up there with me being told to "sit down". BAHAHAHA
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Oh and can all my non facebook group A13 ladies "love this" so I too can get like 20 likes!!?!?!
Great - thanks in advance
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
It's not a popularity contest, but if you need to go recruit people to like your comments go right on ahead.
WWZD?
:bz :bz
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
OP: There are quite a few ladies in the Philly area. Hopefully they'll be in touch with you!
BAHAHAH. THat's called a joke. Sarcasm.
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
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Anyway, hello!
Maybe RussianMommy just ran out of things to say when swaddling was no longer the answer to everything? .
I read a lot of what's going on here, I lurk a bit on the cd boards, but, like @wendalsue said, I feel a little AW-ish if I only post on the HDBD boards. I did so pretty regularly a few months ago and then got away from it, AWing be damned.
For me, I'm already on FB. For me to click over to April13 moms is a one click deal. Here, it takes a little more effort than that, though I did just download the app to my phone. I seem to have that thing around a bit more than my laptop
At least, that's *my* experience with this board when I was pregnant. It made me NOT want to post and it kind of carried over.
Color me shocked. 8-|
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD