Feeling judgey?

zyas · November 2013

Ok so something happened last night and I totally judged this other mom.

My H really wanted Hot Chocolate so I stopped on my way home at McDonalds and went through the drive through. As I was waiting in line, a mom came out with her 2 little kids and walked them to their car which was parked right beside where I was (so I could see everything). Her little girl was probably around 15-18 months and the boy looked around 4 at the oldest. Both kids were holding happy meal buckets and the boy was holding and drinking from a ginormous cup so obviously that wasn't water or milk he was drinking. That was the first time I judged at this situation. Ava has never had anything from McDonalds, I'm sure she will one day, but nothing yet. So the mom puts the little girl in the backseat (I couldn't see the carseat though) and as she is getting her in, the boy gets in the FRONT seat. The mom then gets in the car and I see her pull the lap belt across the little boy. He is sitting in the front seat - no carseat, booster, anything (although I know you can;t have those in the front seat anyway), but still - the issue is that he is not in a booster seat AND he is in the front seat. Total judging right here. Then they drove off.

So who have you judged lately?

singingirl96 · November 2013

wheelerc said:

RF law in Maryland is 2

FYI - This is an incorrect statement - "All infants should ride rear-facing in back seats until they are at least 1 year of age and 20 pounds." from https://mhso.mva.maryland.gov/SafetyPrograms/program_child_passenger_safety.htm

I have my son FF. Don't care who judges...

lewispm · November 2013

I was at the park the other day and there was a boy who was easily 3 years old playing on the small toddler section at the park. I let K pretty much have free reign there as everything is low and even if they did fall, the ground is padded.

Anyway, this mom was totally hovering over her 3+ year old son and not letting him out of arms reach. She was constantly telling him to go slow and where to go next and such. K was running in circles around him and the kid was scared to even jump off the last step of the play structure. Who knows, maybe he had some kind of accident or issue or something, but he seemed 100% normal, just WAY overprotected and coddled by his mommy. She wouldn't let him do anything! She wouldn't even let him go down this 2 foot high baby slide without holding his hand. Kellen goes down the tall twisty ones all by himself!

I totally judged her. She was probably judging my crazy 15 month old climbing up the slides (only when no one was in line) and running around like a chicken with its head cut off, but oh well.

singingirl96 · November 2013

wheelerc said:

singingirl96 said:

wheelerc said:

RF law in Maryland is 2
FYI - This is an incorrect statement - "All infants should ride rear-facing in back seats until they are at least 1 year of age and 20 pounds." from https://mhso.mva.maryland.gov/SafetyPrograms/program_child_passenger_safety.htm

I have my son FF. Don't care who judges...
Do you know when it was changed back or if it never passed at all? I know she got yelled at by a cop and that is why her daughter went RF'ing again. I don't judge the FF, do whatever you want, but the point that she is acting like she is the only mom who has ever ERF even though her daughter was FF'ing for almost 10 months before she turned her back around.

I don't know. As far as I know, it has always been this way because I remember looking when he was born and this is what I thought it was. He was miserable RF. When we moved him FF he was just so much happier and we could 'chat' during our commute. Not only that, but our car is small and we couldn't really fit another person in the passenger seat. Yes, he's probably safer RF, but I'm ok with the decision.

hokiemama06 · November 2013

At the zoo yesterday, I cannot even count on one hand how many older kids I saw with pacifiers. These kids were well over 3. I was floored. I feel like I will be judged with Cosette and she is only 16 months. I was surprised (maybe not super judgey, just floored).

This is my weakness for judging. Thomas still has his paci, but I try my best to reserve it for nap/bedtime only. You see these children out in public who are much older with pacifiers, and it kills me! This weekend I saw a family with a baby and a little girl about 4. They had matching pacifiers in their mouths. Gah!

bumpuser1509193 · November 2013

I judge the co worker who was posting pics of the kid in his super cute puffy giraffe costume buckled in his car seat. And that she was telling everyone how her 3 month old loves his jumparoo. (She is pretty much a teenager in a 32 year old's body.)

bumpuser1509193 · November 2013

oh, and I judge my supposed BFF turned Bridezilla who cost me well over a $1000 just to be in her wedidng!

ThePinkSuperhero · November 2013

Feeling judgey? ALWAYS!

I'm still judging that family I know that recently had baby #2 at home. I'm glad it went well, but in some ways that almost makes it worse, because than it's like anyone could do it using them as an example? And the risk of danger is so high!

Pandril19 · November 2013

Bliz1712 said:

I have been judging myself lately. At night after supper is done and dishes/laundry etc I am wore out and just want to relax. SOOO I tend to just let Hanna run around and do whatever. She plays on our rocking ottoman or will run off and get toys from her room. Sometimes I'll get on the floor and play with her but some nights I just want to relax. I have to admit though, she actually plays really well by herself and even when I do go play with her one on one she tends to play by herself anyway.

This is us too lately. :-(

Barefoot84 · November 2013

Bliz1712 said:

I have been judging myself lately. At night after supper is done and dishes/laundry etc I am wore out and just want to relax. SOOO I tend to just let Hanna run around and do whatever. She plays on our rocking ottoman or will run off and get toys from her room. Sometimes I'll get on the floor and play with her but some nights I just want to relax. I have to admit though, she actually plays really well by herself and even when I do go play with her one on one she tends to play by herself anyway.

This is us too lately. :-(

I actually think this is good for the kid. They're at daycare all day long, constantly stimulated. Some free play at home, by themselves, is a good thing.

MamaP19 · November 2013

ThePinkSuperhero said:

Feeling judgey? ALWAYS!

I'm still judging that family I know that recently had baby #2 at home. I'm glad it went well, but in some ways that almost makes it worse, because than it's like anyone could do it using them as an example? And the risk of danger is so high!

@ThePinkSuperhero - I missed if you talked about this before.. Are you against any homebirths or is there something specific about this one that bothers you? Just curious.

BubbaJug · November 2013

wmel13 said:
I'm judging my friend who had a baby only 3 weeks ago via c-section and went to the gym yesterday. She says she only walked on the treadmill and went in the sauna, but I don't believe her. She was seriously high risk during pregnancy and still was working out at 39 weeks pregnant even though her dr told her not to.

I went to the gym and met with a trainer 4 weeks after my c-section. I almost died. I really thought I had popped my stitches. I asked him if he could see my intestines leaking out.

Horrible idea. Horrible.

Want a personalized experience?

Feeling judgey?

Re: Feeling judgey?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards