If you could change one thing.....

kwrecks · November 2013

If there was one thing, or one decision that you made during your pregnancy, what would it be?

For me, I would change the fact that I saw an OB for the first half of my pregnancy, and then a midwife for the second, and I wish I would have just gone straight to my midwife. There was a lot of things about my OB/GYN office that I saw during the first 20 weeks that I hated, and made me feel uneasy about the rest of my care during the pregnancy and the delivery. I'm so glad I found my midwife.

I know I said one thing, but I'm choosing two things.

I loved my midwife, however, I wish I would have been induced instead of going straight to the c-section. My fluids were low, and my final ultrasound at 40w4d was measuring the baby at almost 11lbs. My midwife said that due to her size, and positioning, that I'd probably end up in a c-section, and left it up to me whether I wanted to be induced or go straight to a c-section. I chose c-section honestly because it would be easier. I wish now that I would have given myself the opportunity to try laboring and having a vaginal birth. My baby ended up only being 7lbs 13oz, which I could have easily delivered.

Revez · November 2013

I'm with @petey1106.
I made the best decisions for me that I could while pregnant, I wouldn't change that experience for anything.

That being said I might want to go back and tell my boss to suck a dick.

Eta: forgot to tag.

tanabeans · November 2013

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I'm with @petey1106.
I made the best decisions for me that I could while pregnant, I wouldn't change that experience for anything.

That being said I might want to go back and tell my boss to suck a dick.

Eta: forgot to tag.

I'm with you fellas

LiylaRae · November 2013

I wouldn't change anything besides the fact that I was worried and stressed 24/7. I feel like if I would of calmed down a bit, it would of helped my blood pressure! But besides that I still got my heathy and beautiful baby girl out of it!

Cosmic+Love · November 2013

I would have encouraged work to hire a temp to replace me during my maternity leave. Instead, I was working part time from home to cover the more important tasks for them. Definitely didn't need the added stress and time spent away from DS.

Bunnyfer · November 2013

I would have gone to a different OB early on....I had some weird feelings about my OB, but I just ignored them and kept going. I also took stock in how big my baby was....I was told over and over she was gonna be a big baby....She ended up being only 7lb.

Otherwise, everything was as I planned it....well except for my emergency C

Ashesha13 · November 2013

Wouldn't change a thing. I was amazingly blessed to have an easy wonderful enjoyable pregnancy, as well as a L&D pretty much my birth plan to the tee. I know that's very rare and it may not happen again for me but I'm glad it was the experience for my first and I won't ever forget it and wouldn't change it for the world

mommabmb · November 2013

I would have read more books about infant care instead of about pregnancy. It would have been much more useful.

LEMSA · November 2013

I wish I would have told the new job I would start later. It would made is much less stressful to move accross the country if I had more time.

As far as my pregnancy, I wish I kept up with working out longer. More stretching and more yoga.

Otherwise it was easy. Of course hind site is 20/20! I didn't think it was easy at the time.

AACaHa13 · November 2013

I would've tried so much harder not to give in to my hunger from hormones. I ate like a cow my entire pregnancy and boy am I paying for it with extra added weight now. I couldn't help feeling hungry but I wish I could've found a solution.

BellaOso · November 2013

I don't think I would change anything. Short labor. Easy delivery. Healthy baby. No complaints.

LokiLahve · November 2013

I wish I would have had healthier eating habits. I packed on 45 pounds and still have 20 of those hanging in with no signs of wanting to come off.
I've promised myself that with #2 I will make a much better effort to eat better.

Other than that...not a thing!

carrotcake06 · November 2013

I wouldn't really change much about the pregnancy itself. I should have taken it easier, but I know me and that wouldn't have happened.

I would change everything about their birth. They are healthy and growing boys and I am forever thankful that they got here safely, but the whole experience was less than ideal.

TurtleMomma · November 2013

I would have worried less and enjoyed the pregnancy more.

I would NOT have told people we knew the sex but weren't telling (I woyld have just told people team green even though we knew). The secret was so special for dh and I and everyone else ruined the fun.

I would have enjoyed my labor more.

I would have fought harder for my placenta.

Wow, lots of regrets

NikkiD522 · November 2013

I wish I wouldn't have so easily agreed to an induction. I knew it was better to wait it out.. and I did until 41 weeks.. but I wish I would have waited a bit longer in hopes of going into labor naturally. My labor and delivery was a terrifying experience :-(

RoosterMemphis · November 2013

I wish I didn't move 600 miles away from home at 6 months pregnant to an area where I didn't know anyone. It's been extremely difficult for me. Making friends has never been an easy task for me, and trying to do that with a baby now feels impossible. Hopefully it will get easier when she's of age for play dates. I'll go to the ends of the earth to make sure she's getting out and making friends.

TurtleMomma · November 2013

RoosterMemphis said:
I wish I didn't move 600 miles away from home at 6 months pregnant to an area where I didn't know anyone. It's been extremely difficult for me. Making friends has never been an easy task for me, and trying to do that with a baby now feels impossible. Hopefully it will get easier when she's of age for play dates. I'll go to the ends of the earth to make sure she's getting out and making friends.

Why not look into local moms groups? Yeah, baby doesn't need play dates yet, but at this age they're not for the baby anyways. Its like a mommy play date!

kwhite27 · November 2013

I wouldn't change a thing. I feel lucky to have had a wonderful pregnancy and labor.

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

The only thing I wish was different I didn't have the power to change. I wish I hadn't gone septic and comatose 15 min after vaginal delivery and that DD wasn't preemptively put on antibiotics jic. She was just an hour old with an IV in her arm.

I wish we could have had that special time as a new family just bonding and nursing after birth, but unfortunately it didn't happen. I still cry thinking about it. It's one of the reasons I think we may be one and done.

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

@LokiLahve I gained 45 lbs too and I was on the GD diet. My body was like "I don't care what you do, we're getting fatty fat!" Sucked. I wish I could have eaten whatever I wanted, at least then the weight gain would have made sense.

katiedid0907 · November 2013

I would have picked a new OB practice when I found out my dr. Was leaving when I was 30 weeks. Instead I stayed with her partner and didn't trust him .

AprilRaine · November 2013

I would have had the anesthesiologist meet me in the lobby. My labor was less than 2 hours and he didn't make it in time for my epidural. (Sad face).
Other than that, I wouldn't change anything. Well, maybe I would change the amount of perfume my step mom was wearing while visiting. ;-)

Camysmom · November 2013

I would have waited a few more days before the induction to see if it was needed. Because of my age my doctor strongly recommended induction on my due date. My husband was also very concerned about her size (big), my size (small) and the fact that I had fibroids as well as scar tissue on my cervix from a biopsy years ago. He knew my strong preference was a vaginal birth and thought if she got any bigger combined with the other factors I was almost certain to need a c section. Since I trust and really like my OB and since my husband is a surgeon, I listened to them instead of my body and baby. It all worked out and baby was healthy which is the most important thing but... 30 hours of pitocin induced labor was not what I would have chosen. I knew she wasn't ready and wish that I had waited a few more days.

RoosterMemphis · November 2013

TurtleMomma said:

RoosterMemphis said:
I wish I didn't move 600 miles away from home at 6 months pregnant to an area where I didn't know anyone. It's been extremely difficult for me. Making friends has never been an easy task for me, and trying to do that with a baby now feels impossible. Hopefully it will get easier when she's of age for play dates. I'll go to the ends of the earth to make sure she's getting out and making friends.
Why not look into local moms groups? Yeah, baby doesn't need play dates yet, but at this age they're not for the baby anyways. Its like a mommy play date!

I'm involved in 2. It's ok, I'm not connecting with the moms very well. I just miss my friends.

BlueJewelM · November 2013

I would have ate better and worked out more.

. With my first the weight just fell off me...not so much this time around.

I blame it on being in my 30s for my second baby.

I had a dreamlike first delivery and a god awful second. I've experienced both and the outcome was still the same. True love.

. So I wouldn't change even the crappy delivery.

MommyBolty · November 2013

I didn't know I was pregnant until 7 weeks in. I would change that for sure. I would change that I stopped working out because I was tired. If i knew I was pregnant, I probably wouldn't have stopped working out, but slowed down. At least I would have known why I was so tired and hungry. Consequently, maybe I wouldn't have gained a whopping 48lbs!

C'est la vie - she is here, I love her more than life. And I would never change that.

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

RoosterMemphis said:

TurtleMomma said:

RoosterMemphis said:
I wish I didn't move 600 miles away from home at 6 months pregnant to an area where I didn't know anyone. It's been extremely difficult for me. Making friends has never been an easy task for me, and trying to do that with a baby now feels impossible. Hopefully it will get easier when she's of age for play dates. I'll go to the ends of the earth to make sure she's getting out and making friends.
Why not look into local moms groups? Yeah, baby doesn't need play dates yet, but at this age they're not for the baby anyways. Its like a mommy play date!
I'm involved in 2. It's ok, I'm not connecting with the moms very well. I just miss my friends.

:::Hugs:::

I haven't made any friends at Mom groups either. I can't relate to them and I can't relate to my old friends. Not to mention, they've pretty much disappeared. It's lonely out here.

Soleil3 · November 2013

I would've labored at home and had my son at home unassisted.

CaliforniaDream87 · November 2013

I wish I would've enjoyed my pregnancy more. I was so sick and complained a little too much. I miss being pregnant.

LokiLahve · November 2013

LJUTCMommy said:
@LokiLahve I gained 45 lbs too and I was on the GD diet. My body was like "I don't care what you do, we're getting fatty fat!" Sucked. I wish I could have eaten whatever I wanted, at least then the weight gain would have made sense.

Yeah that sucks. If I had gained all this weight without getting to indulge in my cravings I would be pissed! Damn our bodies sometimes!

EmR22 · November 2013

I would have enjoyed it more. During my c section I was told I could have no more kids. We were 98% sure we were done but being told no more kids make me cry a little. I enjoyed it but wonder how it would have been different knowing it was my last.

KatyKatMeowz · November 2013

I'd have asked my dad to write a letter for William, telling him how much he loved him and wanted to meet him. He died in May, and we thought we'd have more time. The cancer just moved too fast.

MrsBlindLove · November 2013

I would have read Happiest Baby on the Block. I started it but didn't get too far in. I really really wish I just would have read it. I think it would have been a lifesaver for the past two months. It's helping tons just for the week we've been doing it. Otherwise everything else that happened that I would change was out of my control.

HermansWife · November 2013

I would have kept working out despite being tired and eaten a lot less fast food. I'm definitely paying for it now with a gross looking pp belly that shows no signs of dropping this last 20 pounds (gained almost 60!!! total).

MinnesotaMomma91 · November 2013

I would have stuck with yoga and working out. Even though im terrified of bf seeing me naked again ive made no attempt to work out. But i should lol

JBrooks315 · November 2013

I would have video taped the delivery and coming home.

Coconuthead · November 2013

I tried to eat healthy and exercise every day and I still gained 50 lbs.

Still hanging onto my last 20 too.

I moved mid pregnancy and I wish I hadn't switched from a nurse midwife to an ob. I ended up being induced because of his size and she was looking for every excuse to give me a c section. I got my vaginal delivery but I didn't like the pressure she put on me. Also I felt like I was pushing at the pace I needed to be but she kept telling me I needed to push him out faster. I think if I had pushed him out at my own pace I wouldn't have torn so much.

RoosterMemphis · November 2013

LJUTCMommy said:

RoosterMemphis said:

TurtleMomma said:

RoosterMemphis said:
I wish I didn't move 600 miles away from home at 6 months pregnant to an area where I didn't know anyone. It's been extremely difficult for me. Making friends has never been an easy task for me, and trying to do that with a baby now feels impossible. Hopefully it will get easier when she's of age for play dates. I'll go to the ends of the earth to make sure she's getting out and making friends.
Why not look into local moms groups? Yeah, baby doesn't need play dates yet, but at this age they're not for the baby anyways. Its like a mommy play date!
I'm involved in 2. It's ok, I'm not connecting with the moms very well. I just miss my friends.
:::Hugs:::

I haven't made any friends at Mom groups either. I can't relate to them and I can't relate to my old friends. Not to mention, they've pretty much disappeared. It's lonely out here.

That's why I'm super grateful for this board. I think it's helped preserve a piece of my sanity and made me feel like I am supported by people other than MH. It's important for women to stick together and help each other.

bluegirl0429 · November 2013

I kind of wish I didn't have the epidural. I was far enough long that If I didn't get it, the contractions still would have been manageable. However, I probably would have ended up with the same result (C Section).

I wish I enjoyed my pregnancy more. I was a paranoid mess and a very unhappy pregnant woman. I shouldn't have rushed to the doctors so quickly for every little pain. Although I can't predict outcomes every time, LO is here and healthy.

krb03 · November 2013

LiylaRae said:
I wouldn't change anything besides the fact that I was worried and stressed 24/7. I feel like if I would of calmed down a bit, it would of helped my blood pressure! But besides that I still got my heathy and beautiful baby girl out of it!

This was me with our son. To answer OP, i feel like this third time around went really well. I would have liked to be a bit more patient during delivery, but everything ended up going really well.

Dani428 · November 2013

I wouldn't have eaten frozen yogurt every day for the last 2 months and gained so much weight lol

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