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Baby Shower guest list... do I have any say?

Tess024Tess024 member
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So, my mother is planning on throwing me a shower, which is awfully nice of her... but I am getting wind from my sister that my mother is inviting people that I would have never invite, mostly because I have no connection to these people what so ever...

She wanted to invite my best friend that I got in a fight with no longer talk to, some people from High School I haven't been in touch with for about 10 years, daughters of her friends that I haven't talked to since their wedding 5 years ago... I just think it's inappropriate to invite these people, and I don't want it to be a charity event...

How do I explain that this cannot be a free for all?  I don't want to plan my own shower, but I feel like if I don't get involved, it will be a mess.
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Re: Baby Shower guest list... do I have any say?

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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    I think it's OK to say something like "Mom, I would really like to keep my baby shower intimate and only invite people I am feeling really close to.  Here are my closest friends." (hand her the list).

    It seems like your mom is excited and might be getting a little carried away.  I think it's OK in this situation to reel her in a bit.

     

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  • neverblushedneverblushed member
    I agree with previous replies that this is a situation where your mom is probably just excited about your pregnancy.  She may also be thinking that some of these people will be offended or have hurt feelings if they're not invited.  

    I think it's okay to help bring her back down to earth.  Maybe try asking her how she'd feel if the only contact she had from someone in 5 or 10 years was an invitation to buy that person a gift.  If the people aren't close enough to have been personally told the good news that you're expecting well prior to this, they're not close enough to be invited to the shower.

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  • shaunessashaunessa member
    neverblushed said:
    I agree with previous replies that this is a situation where your mom is probably just excited about your pregnancy.  She may also be thinking that some of these people will be offended or have hurt feelings if they're not invited.  

    I think it's okay to help bring her back down to earth.  Maybe try asking her how she'd feel if the only contact she had from someone in 5 or 10 years was an invitation to buy that person a gift.  If the people aren't close enough to have been personally told the good news that you're expecting well prior to this, they're not close enough to be invited to the shower.



    I completely agree with this!
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  • RebeccaY1RebeccaY1 member
    I would just mention that there are some people that it would be meaningful for you to have at your shower.  
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  • lollipoppooplollipoppoop member
    I had complete say over mine.  I had some friends that my hostess didn't know but wanted to invite so I sent her those names ect... I really think it depends on the host but if you are only having one shower and want to make sure certain people are there you could casually mention it.
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