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I am afraid...

spainy17spainy17 member
in January 2013 Moms

...that I am going to have one of those toddlers that still don't sleep through the night.  The idea actually makes me tear up. 

DD had just dropped a feeding like three weeks ago so she was sleeping from 7pm to about 3am and up for a short feed and back down until 5.  It was amazing and I started to feel human again.  Then she got three teeth in a week and her nine month growth spurt hit and now we are back to at least twice a night and sometimes much more. 

I just feel like there is too much going on at this stage (teeth, separation anxiety, milestones, growth spurts, daycare illnesses, etc.) to do major CIO sleep training but I am so afraid that I am not doing her justice by waiting it out and am so terrified of having a baby that does not STTN for years.  I don't really know the point of this post but you all have babies the same age so I am just putting it out there since I sear every baby I know IRL sleeps.

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  • chance_encounterschance_encounters member
    I have a friend and her LO sleeps 12 hours! My DS sleeps 8-4. Nurses then goes back to sleep till 6:30. Now we just finished sleep training. Before he was waking up 3x plus a night. I can handle a 4 am feeding. Sometimes he still wakes up around 2 fusses a little then goes back to sleep. He is my 3rd child. My oldest did not sttn until she was almost 2. My middle dd slept thought the night 6 months on. She is still the better sleeper of the two.
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  • Jessie333Jessie333 member
    I know there are sleep consultants you can talk to. Maybe that is something to look into?
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  • this decaf lifethis decaf life member
    DD didn't STTN until 2 weeks ago. She was up 3-4 times a night until about 1.5 months ago, then 2-3 times, 2 times, 1 time just sort of every other week she'd suddenly drop waking up. I made the decision though that I wouldn't feed her though and just helped her fall back asleep. I do let her cry some though, I don't let her get hysterical but she started sleeping and napping better after she cried.
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  • st.augbridest.augbride member
    Don't worry! Just meet LO's needs and it will naturally happen. Ds needed to eat at night many times even until 14 months old when we got off BM and within the week was sleeping all night. Dd does the same too and I'm not worried at all. It is SO normal for babies to wake at night. CIO tries to force them on your schedule and while I know many do it, it is a relatively recent concept in the grand scheme of things and isn't necessarily biologically natural. Please don't think you are setting yourself up for years of this because you will cause yourself unnecessary anxiety!
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    this decaf life said:
    DD didn't STTN until 2 weeks ago. She was up 3-4 times a night until about 1.5 months ago, then 2-3 times, 2 times, 1 time just sort of every other week she'd suddenly drop waking up. I made the decision though that I wouldn't feed her though and just helped her fall back asleep. I do let her cry some though, I don't let her get hysterical but she started sleeping and napping better after she cried.

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    edited November 2013
    st.augbride said:

    Don't worry! Just meet LO's needs and it will naturally happen. Ds needed to eat at night many times even until 14 months old when we got off BM and within the week was sleeping all night. Dd does the same too and I'm not worried at all. It is SO normal for babies to wake at night. CIO tries to force them on your schedule and while I know many do it, it is a relatively recent concept in the grand scheme of things and isn't necessarily biologically natural. Please don't think you are setting yourself up for years of this because you will cause yourself unnecessary anxiety!

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  • spainy17spainy17 member
    Yeah, she is not so bad that I think we need a therapist (if anything, I would before her!).  She gets up 1-3 times a night unless something else is going on and then it is worse.  It just seems like we will be getting better and then something sets us back and it takes weeks to recover.  I nurse to drowsy but she goes down awake for sleep and naps but I am not good with letting her cry at night and I am just praying that she outgrows it versus me having to intervene.  I think it is partly because she was a colic/reflux kid and we had so many crying episodes that I get like physically ill when she is crying and I just am unable to cut her off.  I also was medicated for sleep before pregnancy and am off my meds so that i can hear her at night so sleep is very difficult for me and I think night wakeups are especially hard on me for that reason.  I just pray that it is not years before I get a chance to have a full nights rest. :)
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  • caymanianseminolecaymanianseminole member
    Don't worry - you're not alone. My DD is 10 months old and still doesn't STTN.  On a good night, we'll make it to 3 am but most of the time she's up around midnight for a quick feed, then 3am then up at 5am.

     

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  • susan10918susan10918 member
    My LO is not STTN yet either. I am keeping hope that by the time she turns one it will happen. That was about the time my son started sleeping through.
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