How to reject book in lieu of cards idea

margaerytyrell · October 2013

Hey ladies,

I need some advice. My hostess is planning on going this direction with my baby shower. Would you tell her it's not your style? Or just let it go?

TIA!

EastCoastBride · October 2013

I think a gentle "I'd really prefer that we don't ask that. I feel uncomfortable telling people how to spend their money." would be fine. But if she insists past that - I wouldn't push back too hard.

twister22 · October 2013

I would do a combination of what @EastCoastBride said & @somerandomchick said. "I'd really prefer that we don't ask that. I feel uncomfortable telling people how to spend their money. Why don't we find a favorite children's classic ourselves and have all the guests sign it as a guestbook?" That way the hostess understands that you don't want to dictate to guests how to spend their money, but it also allows her to do that idea in a non-tacky way.

MMason12 · October 2013

twister22 said:

I would do a combination of what @EastCoastBride said & @somerandomchick said. "I'd really prefer that we don't ask that. I feel uncomfortable telling people how to spend their money. Why don't we find a favorite children's classic ourselves and have all the guests sign it as a guestbook?" That way the hostess understands that you don't want to dictate to guests how to spend their money, but it also allows her to do that idea in a non-tacky way.

This!

margaerytyrell · October 2013

Thanks girls! Love these ideas. I will give that a shot

jbelle · October 2013

You might also point out to her that there's an excellent chance guests will buy the same classic books. Years ago, I went to a baby shower and half the books the MTB received were copies of Goodnight Moon.

It was really awkward for the guests, especially those who had personalized their books with inscriptions.

notkateanymore · October 2013

Ask her if you can buy some books for her to use as a guest book instead.

t loves r · October 2013

jbelle said:
You might also point out to her that there's an excellent chance guests will buy the same classic books. Years ago, I went to a baby shower and half the books the MTB received were copies of Goodnight Moon.

It was really awkward for the guests, especially those who had personalized their books with inscriptions.

Ugh. This happened at my friend's baby shower. It was a huge shower and she got four copies of three different books, all had a message to the mom to be and baby because it was obviously the card. Then to lighten the fact that she had so many copies, she said she had a copy for each grandparents' house, home and daycare. Which made it even more awkward.

Definitely consider offering buying some books for guests to sign.

Edited to note I was not a hostess for her shower

MGP · October 2013

jbelle said:

You might also point out to her that there's an excellent chance guests will buy the same classic books. Years ago, I went to a baby shower and half the books the MTB received were copies of Goodnight Moon.

It was really awkward for the guests, especially those who had personalized their books with inscriptions.

Whenever I see a post about this subject I think about how many inscribed copies of Goodnight Moon Half Price Books must get on a daily basis.

RebeccaY1 · November 2013

I would make a request that she doesn't ask this of the guests. In the end though, she is the hostess and there isn't much you can do about it. Personally, I have been purchasing children's books for years because I'm a teacher and a children's librarian. I already have a ton of books and a huge children's library. I put specific books on my registry because people know how big the book collection is, especially since they've helped us move! I thought that this would help people purchase books without getting doubles or triples of the same book.

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