Who is done having kids?

jessher · October 2013

TallAsh said:

I told DH that I don't want to take permanent measures bc I might decide when I'm 38 or so that I want one more. How can I decide something now that might really affect me 10 years down the road? Anyway, his eyes about bugged out of his head. Part of the reason we wanted to start our family young is so the kids will be gone when we are in our 40s, and then we can do whatever we want. I think the idea of starting over when we are supposed to be almost done sounds bad to him. But it's a baaaaaby. And I looooove babies!!

You and me - we are twins. I freaking LOVE babies. And like you, I had my kids young. My oldest is about to go to college and I am only 39. But here I am KU again.

Ooops. The best laid plans....

ntdane · October 2013

We always said we wanted two with the option of a third. Well, getting twins the second time around took away the option, but we're happy with that. We will be done after the twins are born. Financially it will be the best decision, plus I feel that we will be able to give better attention to our kids (not that patents with more kids don't do that, I just don't feel like we could do it well).

DTNZ4Ever · October 2013

This is #2 so we will be done. I would like to try for a DD but don't want to risk another DS. Plus Ill be 36 when DS2 is born and it took 1 year to get our BFP so I'm done.

MA&CB · October 2013

Berry30 said:

ceh789 said:

WickedNE said:

We have always been between 2 and 3. We both love the idea of a third (since we haven't experienced life with 2 yet, I can't say for sure) but I don't think it's in the cards for us. We have to pay for full time daycare, which is going to strap us down for awhile. The idea of this being my last pregnancy kind of makes me sad...so I'm leaving that door open. Plus, I always wanted a big family.

I'd just like to say that it's stupid that the cost of daycare keeps people from having as many kids as they want. I realize it's like being mad at wind, but I still think it's dumb.

Agreed. We had to space our kids out because we couldn't afford two in at once. DD will be going to public school in Aug/Sept after the baby is born. I'm actually a little scared of June/July/Aug when we'll have to pay for two at once.

This is us too. We always knew we would have just two, and this is our second. I did have a brief moment in the a/s when we found out we were having a second boy where I thought "maybe we could have a third" because I was a little sad we won't have a daughter ever, but a third is no guarantee of that anyway, so I quickly banished that thought. We have to do full-time daycare also and can really only comfortably afford one in daycare at a time. So we waited four years to have this second one, and there's no way I'd want to start over again in four years. I'd also like there to be an eventual end to the daycare costs!

ETA: I'll just get the mirena again. DH isn't really into the idea of a vasectomy, and the mirena controls my endometriosis, so that makes the most sense for us. Even if he got a vasectomy, I'd probably end up on some sort of hormonal bc anyway for the endo.

Butts31 · October 2013

We will be done after this LO. DH has only ever wanted two and I was indifferent to two or three. I think we will be happy with our family size and hopefully get to do a lot with the girls.

BabiesFTW · October 2013

This will be our second and we plan to be done. I feel good about it. If I had a more money and was younger I might consider more. But given our circumstances this feels like it.

JKS21 · October 2013

This will be our 2nd, 19.5 months apart. I always pictured myself with two children. DH wants more... I am content with two. But he said "we will talk about that later"

haha

Kbaughan · October 2013

We are done. This is our third girl, and at this point I've realized I don't want to risk having a boy. Before I get flamed here's the thing, MH has a condition that is only passed down to boys and it is life altering. We didn't know much about it until recently or I may not have gotten pregnant with this one. I am only 26 and would, under different circumstances, want another but I don't want to have a boy and have him go through what my husband is going through now. Looks like we are done. : /

nisnyder · October 2013

@VineyardMel, you do not look 40 in your HDBD pics!!! Hot mama!!!

talitha712 · October 2013

This is our second and last. Pregnancy is so hard on me/my body that I can't fathom doing it again, even though I know the end result is worth it. But I have no idea how I would keep up with work, the house, and 2 kids even if I was only half as sick as I've been this pregnancy. We have talked about adopting down the road, but I'm pretty sure DH will be getting a vasectomy next year. Fwiw, I'll be 30 next month and DH is 33.

talitha712 · October 2013

Daycare costs are also a concern for us. I teach and our salaries have been frozen for 3 years. We no longer get raises for years of experience, or anything really. So 2 in daycare is all we can do before I end up paying money to go to work. I carry our insurance, so SAH isn't an option.

Candileigh03 · October 2013

Well... I would of said I was as good as on the or table up until my 16 week. This will make our 2nd. DD is 10 and because of health issues we thought we were done.
Now, my brain says your body can not handle any more physical stress (I'm high risk for a few reasons) , my heart says hmmm maybe another one. My bank acct says cut burn and tie those tubes lol

CMheart1011 · October 2013

I think we are done. Two has always been our number, and for awhile after DD I wondered if I would even want that many! Pregnancy is hard on me-I'm one of those lucky people who is sick the entire 9 months. And I had a c/s last time and will need one again. I just don't think I can handle a third pregnancy or c/s. We have decided that if we ever decide on a third down the road we will look into adoption.

4babySlages · October 2013

We are definitely done at 4!!! I thought I was done with 3 and wanted to do something to make sure I didn't have anymore but my husband said to wait at least a year to make sure! Well it's was getting close to 3 years and I decided I wanted to have one more!!! So thankful for his wisdom

Babies! I always seem to get baby fever when I'm around them.

so I'm definitely getting something done so I can't change my mind again

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