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Sinnedambition- I'm calling you out

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I'm calling you out for your 'Debbie Downer" comment (https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12136048/stabby-saturday/p1). For those of you that missed it, @sinnedambition said "I'm not trying to start drama, but being stupid irritable, there are a lot of things that make me "stabby." 
One: is coming on here and seeing 3-5 "spotting/goodbye posts." I know that MC is a terrible thing, I know that they are sad and posting probably helps, but way to be a debbie downer when we are all trying to be happy." 

Numerous people called you out on that post asking for you to apologize to the board. We have a lot of PgAL ladies on this board and many of them were hurt by your comment. You need to apologize for your selfish and rude comment. 

You have continued to post on this board as if nothing has happened and that is not okay. 
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  • chaysefaithchaysefaith member
    She's still posting? I must not be reading those threads.
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  • Pintobean39Pintobean39 member
    edited October 2013
    She posted in the in tired thread this morning

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  • JNerdJNerd member
    MrsAMB07 said:
    I don't think she'll have the never to ever respond. She sees nothing wrong with what she said. As if that didn't prove her character enough, ignoring the many requests for an apology have. Even if she were to apologize, she wouldn't mean it. Disgusting...
    That may be true, but I think the rest of the board deserves to know what happened and how she hasn't addressed the people she has hurt in anyway. And what continues to hurt is how she goes on posting as if nothing happened. 
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  • MrsAMB07MrsAMB07 member
    JNerd said:
    MrsAMB07 said:
    I don't think she'll have the never to ever respond. She sees nothing wrong with what she said. As if that didn't prove her character enough, ignoring the many requests for an apology have. Even if she were to apologize, she wouldn't mean it. Disgusting...
    That may be true, but I think the rest of the board deserves to know what happened and how she hasn't addressed the people she has hurt in anyway. And what continues to hurt is how she goes on posting as if nothing happened. 
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    MississippiCatfish said:
    I normally don't agree with call-outs, but I think that the lack of acknowledgment of what you did here is really wrong. I know that it can be hard for those of us who have been so fortunate not to have losses to understand (We don't, actually. How could we understand a wound so deep if we've never been through it?). I could see how maybe you were just naive and had no idea the implications of your words. But you just said that these ladies, who are mourning a very recent loss of a child, should keep their mouth shut because, well, it's a bummer for you. It's so wrong, and if you can't even see it in hindsight, then something is very wrong with you. If you think it's going to be forgotten, you don't know how things work around here.
    This is what aggravates me. I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and accept that maybe she was raised by bears and no one taught her manners. She had so many chances to apologize. Now, though, I'm done. She's just acting like a jerk now. 





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  • MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    edited October 2013
    flerlgirl said:


    MississippiCatfish said:

    I normally don't agree with call-outs, but I think that the lack of acknowledgment of what you did here is really wrong. I know that it can be hard for those of us who have been so fortunate not to have losses to understand (We don't, actually. How could we understand a wound so deep if we've never been through it?). I could see how maybe you were just naive and had no idea the implications of your words. But you just said that these ladies, who are mourning a very recent loss of a child, should keep their mouth shut because, well, it's a bummer for you. It's so wrong, and if you can't even see it in hindsight, then something is very wrong with you.

    If you think it's going to be forgotten, you don't know how things work around here.

    This is what aggravates me. I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and accept that maybe she was raised by bears and no one taught her manners. She had so many chances to apologize. Now, though, I'm done. She's just acting like a jerk now. 

    Right. When I first read it I thought, "She has no idea what she just said." (Not that that makes it okay at all, but it just struck me as someone who's young and self-centered and didn't think for a SECOND about anyone else.) But if that was all it was, she would have given an authentic apology by now. Disgusting.

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  • angelaclevangelaclev member
    I was so upset about this. I don't know how someone could say something so heartless. I had a mc in July and have spotting now... I guess I am a Debbie down. Go rude....
     
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  • LegalLadyBugLegalLadyBug member
    Every pregnancy has ups and downs, I come to this board for support and advice and to help others when I can. I hope that woman never has a scare, never has a loss, has only sunshine and rainbows in her life. 

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  • JuniejonesJuniejones member
    JNerd, I sent her a PM asking her to please apologize because we had so many girls that have had lose & Girls who are currently going through it, she ignored my PM.
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  • flerlgirlflerlgirl member
    I wonder how many notifications she has now. TB is going to give her a stupid badge for all of this. Which somehow makes me just as mad as her original comments. 





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  • JNerdJNerd member
    Juniejones said:
    JNerd, I sent her a PM asking her to please apologize because we had so many girls that have had lose & Girls who are currently going through it, she ignored my PM.
    Really? Wow. 
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  • christinemurray91christinemurray91 member
    edited October 2013
    Callouts arent normally my thing, but I thought she had just left... The fact that she's still posting pisses me off. 

    Way to add a huge FU to all the people (Including myself) that she hurt or who had asked her to apologize.

    I've never seen anyone behave so childishly and insensitively.

    Edit: Afterthought: Although, I would still express my condolances if she were to suffer a loss... its a terrible thing, and an awful way for her to gain some perspective.
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    flerlgirl said:
    Why do I have a feeling she won't show up ever again but that tomorrow we'll get a new intro from someone who wants us to support each other...
    Haha, now everyone's gonna be all paranoid, looking for grammar consistencies :P
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    christinemurray91 said:
    flerlgirl said:
    Why do I have a feeling she won't show up ever again but that tomorrow we'll get a new intro from someone who wants us to support each other...
    Haha, now everyone's gonna be all paranoid, looking for grammar consistencies :P
    All part of my evil plan, muahaha





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  • KingLEDKingLED member
    LoHerrim said:
    I've been refraining from comment because I'm disgusted with her lack of response to all of us. But, sometimes you just have to move on and not let the negativity get to you anymore. Let her be all sunshine and rainbows all by herself. If she were a close friend or family member I'd be more inclined to let her hurt my feelers. But, alas, she is nobody to me. My feelers are safe for now. I do, however, have a small portion of my childish side that wants to post all over her wall about my spotting and my 10 other mcs in detail.
    I said the same thing.  But a very wise and caring woman (thank you @curlylocks3 )pointed out that things that get posted on walls are visible to everyone on the stalker feed and someone that isn't having a great day might see that and it bring back emotions.  So I opted not to.  But private messages aren't public. ;)
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    Her comments are enough to make my blood boil, but what really hurts is that this is someone who has (according to her post history..) had TTTC herself.   How she could be so insensitive is beyond me.

    @sinnedambition I would love to pose the question directly to you, but I know you would never be courageous enough to answer.  Do you realize what you've done?  Do you realize how you've hurt women who are asking themselves right now the very same questions you probably did during your toughest TTC moments?  Do you even remember how it felt -- the uncertainty, fear and disappointment that maybe your dream of a LO is farther out of reach than you imagined?  If you do -- if you really do -- then please speak up because right now to all of us who read your hurtful comment, you're a monster.

    I would love to know what women on the TTTC board would think of your comment.  I'm sure more than a few have experienced loss -- maybe even some of the ladies who offered you support when you needed it most.  Would they still come to your aid knowing that you are the type of person who kicks suffering women when they're down even though you could've at one point stood in their ranks?   Things that make ya go "hmmmmm."

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    MonaMuse said:
    I would like to see her respond. @sinnedambition - If you stand by your statement and don't think that you said anything wrong then just say it and tell everyone to go to hell.  If you KNOW what you said is wrong then put on your big girl panties and apologize already. You're making it worse by pretending that nothing ever happened. 

    When I read that post I was shocked and quite frankly pissed off. My last pregnancy I thought: wow, there are a lot of losses on this board. Its bringing me down. I wish there weren't so many. -- which is what I thought you meant to say. But if that were the case you would have apologized and clarified. Your silence is a big "fuck you" to all the women you hurt by your insensitive post. We are all here for support, in good times and bad. I sincerely hope you have a healthy pregnancy bc honestly if (God forbid) something bad happens I don't think many of us would be willing to offer our support with the way things stand now. Own it or retract it, but don't pretend it never happened.
    A) This post is of no better than my original, it has done nothing but stir drama. And "calling someone out" is not the most mature way of handling things. There are PMs.
    B) I never went back and read the "Stabby" post, so I wouldn't have seen any of your demands for apologies.
    C) The bold above is exactly what I meant
    D) I still stand by what I said, and will not apologize. I was hoping that this would be a drama free group, and to be quite honest none of you know the journey I've been through to get to this point either. There are boards for women who have difficulty trying to conceive, who have MCs, etc. Can they post where they want yes, can I post how I feel about it, yes. 
    E) Do I feel badly if I mad others feel badly, sure, up until I read this post. Seriously the way some of you refer to me is much worse than the comment I made (IMO). 

    I won't make a new name, if the harassment continues I can leave. OR we can all be mature and get over it.
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  • hjl050308hjl050308 member
    edited October 2013
    I've been away from the board since earlier today. Just checking back on this. Figured she'd act like a punk and not answer the call out.

    Edit: we must have been typing at the same time, she did respond
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  • BeeankBeeank member
    How do you type that out and think "yea. This is ok. Totally fine." Common fucking decency. If you were hoping for it to be a drama free group then maybe you should start thinking before you speak.
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    EllyD14 said:
    sinnedambition said:
    MonaMuse said:
    I would like to see her respond. @sinnedambition - If you stand by your statement and don't think that you said anything wrong then just say it and tell everyone to go to hell.  If you KNOW what you said is wrong then put on your big girl panties and apologize already. You're making it worse by pretending that nothing ever happened. 

    When I read that post I was shocked and quite frankly pissed off. My last pregnancy I thought: wow, there are a lot of losses on this board. Its bringing me down. I wish there weren't so many. -- which is what I thought you meant to say. But if that were the case you would have apologized and clarified. Your silence is a big "fuck you" to all the women you hurt by your insensitive post. We are all here for support, in good times and bad. I sincerely hope you have a healthy pregnancy bc honestly if (God forbid) something bad happens I don't think many of us would be willing to offer our support with the way things stand now. Own it or retract it, but don't pretend it never happened.
    A) This post is of no better than my original, it has done nothing but stir drama. And "calling someone out" is not the most mature way of handling things. There are PMs.
    B) I never went back and read the "Stabby" post, so I wouldn't have seen any of your demands for apologies.
    C) The bold above is exactly what I meant
    D) I still stand by what I said, and will not apologize. I was hoping that this would be a drama free group, and to be quite honest none of you know the journey I've been through to get to this point either. There are boards for women who have difficulty trying to conceive, who have MCs, etc. Can they post where they want yes, can I post how I feel about it, yes. 
    E) Do I feel badly if I mad others feel badly, sure, up until I read this post. Seriously the way some of you refer to me is much worse than the comment I made (IMO). 

    I won't make a new name, if the harassment continues I can leave. OR we can all be mature and get over it.
    So you're telling me you've been on here all morning (and yes, I know you've been on here all morning because your behavior disgusts me and I've been watching your profile) and somehow you NEVER saw the thread WITH YOUR FUCKING NAME IN IT!  Bullshit.  You want us to pm you?  Someone did.  You were tagged several times.  I posted on your wall.  You responded to none of it.  So bullshit you didn't know that people were upset. 

    If you didn't mean to cause drama you wouldn't have said "I don't mean to cause drama" because even children know that anything that follows that statement is going to cause drama.

    If you meant the bolded, then when you replied in that thread, why did you not correct yourself?  You were called out in the Stabby Saturday thread and you replied to the call out.  So you KNEW people were upset.  So more bullshit on your part.

    You stand by what you said?  Really?  I won't even touch that one because I'm pretty sure my several other responses to what you said already have.

    Everything that has been said about you has been completely deserved.  Your behavior is disgusting.  And I will NEVER just get over this.  Especially if you just confirmed that you stand by what you said.  But somehow meant what someone else said.  What the fuck ever. 
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    mrsgerman said:
    I just don't understand how someone can have so much pride that they refuse to say "you know what, maybe I did say something that came off completely the wrong way and I am sorry for it. I didn't mean to look like such a cunt but unfortunately thats the way it happened, and I am sorry for it". 
    S-o-r-r-y. It's 5 f-ing letters. There's no shame in admitting you were wrong and I am 100% certain that by just admitting it and apologizing, everyone here would accept your apology. Yet you would rather just be known as the assclown who likes to look even more like a bigger assclown. 
    I am truly horrified for the example you will set for your children and the fact that you are far too proud to admit you are wrong. It's pitiful. 
    I even posted a how to on her wall yesterday.  She was given basic simple instructions, but apparently it was too difficult for her.
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