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Brittnei11 · October 2013

As of Thursday night I am a single woman! The father of my child said he just wasn't happy anymore. He has to find hisself before he would make anyone else happy. He said to me, "Maybe when I find myself we can work things out. And I promise to be there when the baby is born and I will be here for you. You are not going to so this alone!"
Maybe its stress from finding out he had another kid an getting custody of him by next month. And we wasn't really ready for a 2nd child.

I just know I am hurt!

[Deleted User] · October 2013

I am sorry to hear this, I know this is a stressful time in general and this adds to it. Praying for you and your LO, do you have a good support network outside of the father?

cboink · October 2013

Oh honey that just stinks. Hopefully he just needs a few days to let everything sink in. Still a dick move bit sometimes stress makes us do really dumb things. Like PP said do you have a good support network?

boston143 · October 2013

So sorry. I hope that you have a good support system and are able to lean on friends and family to help you get through this.

lilypienmessimy · October 2013

Oh my, I'm sorry. Hopefully he can take a little time to think things through and come back and work things out. I'm glad he will be there for you like he said but I do hope you have others around you who will support you.

cherylnicole · October 2013

GWeiners said:

Talk about terrible timing. I'm sorry this happened so close to your due date. But honestly, after all your posts, it sounds like you're better off.

I agree..sorry OP but I hope you'll all be happier . Hope he still takes care of his child.

tatianaazulay · October 2013

Ohhh, I'm soo sorry you are going through this... I hope u have lots of friends and family to help you out!

cammyisagirlsname · October 2013

What terrible timing. Sorry this is happening to you. I hope that he does stick by your side for the sake of your child at least.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Yeah. My mom is a huge support."even tho she through a fit when I moved" I moved back in with her. But went straight the next day to put in an app. For an apartment. Hopefully get I get it ASAP! And I hope he stands by what he says. But I know his family will also be there for me. His mom even cried when me when I left. His mom keeps me updated on him. An we are hoping an praying he comes around for our family an it's just stress.

AGriffin620 · October 2013

Oh wow. So sorry to hear this. It is a lot to take in, and even more so during pregnancy. I hope he was being sincere when he said he'd be there for your LO, and I hope you have a good support system. For him to bail so close to your due date, it really does seem like you're better off without him. So sorry.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Yeah, it sucks. I try to be strong an not stress to much because of the baby! It just a different kind of break up when there is a child involved. I know its gonna kill him when he had to leave Kamden an go back home. Because it hurt him when he cries when he has to take his first born he didn't know about back to the foster parents. And he has been here with me through every bit of my pregnancy besides from now till I go into labor.

Ktrue85 · October 2013

He has sounded like a real turd for a long time now. True dick move to wait until now to leave when there have been issues for so long.

I really hope your situation improves and that he is a good father to your child. That is the most important part.

MEP923 · October 2013

Sorry you are going through this. His timing seems a little selfish. Hope you do have a good support and he remains in the child's life

BeachMommy2B · October 2013

I'm so sorry he pulled something like that on you now. I do hope he sticks by you. I'm glad your mom is supportave. Stay strong!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Loolaide said:

Brittnei11 said:

Yeah, it sucks. I try to be strong an not stress to much because of the baby! It just a different kind of break up when there is a child involved. I know its gonna kill him when he had to leave Kamden an go back home. Because it hurt him when he cries when he has to take his first born he didn't know about back to the foster parents. And he has been here with me through every bit of my pregnancy besides from now till I go into labor.

Has he not applied for guardianship, since the child is only fostered and not adopted?

Just wondering why not if he's sad.

They are doing visits right now. Dcs plans to give him full custody of him by Christmas.

mamaj1220 · October 2013

I have nothing to add either just wanted to tell you good luck and I hope that you and LO get your place soon. You are very strong to be starting over now best wishes and glad your mom and his are being supportive!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

My main concern is for him to be in my baby's life!

RNmommyof2 · October 2013

What an ass. You're probably better off without him. Just make sure he pays you child support!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

I will for sure. His step dad said if we didn't work out. To make sure I get him for child support that he has part in making the baby. I was like yes I know.

bty19 · October 2013

sorry

i cant imagine the stress. you will be better off though and hopefully for your baby's sake he acts like a man.

amyrose542 · October 2013

I'm so sorry for this but hopefully he is involved in the baby's life and contributes without issue. That being said at least you're a hot momma and will now be able to find someone who is able to love both you and baby when the timing is right for you. Good Luck and hoping you get lots of support from those around you!

NurseKMM · October 2013

I'm so sorry! I hope time will help him come to his senses. I'm glad you have strong support system. Many thoughts and prayers sent to you and your LO.

airsica · October 2013

I'm sorry that sucks. As much as it doesn't seem like it, like the other ladies said, if you all weren't happy it would have been really difficult, so this could be a blessing in disguise.

MamaGrillo · October 2013

Sorry this happened. Hope that everything works out.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Yeah, I'm hoping the time apart helps us out so we can work things out! But if not he better be a man an help take care of his baby! Ill seriously will whoop his ass! An I know his mom would probably help me if needed lol!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

And thank y'all for the kind words.

grannyweatherwax · October 2013

Cashingn2 said:

Yeah, I'm hoping the time apart helps us out so we can work things out! But if not he better be a man an help take care of his baby! Ill seriously will whoop his ass! An I know his mom would probably help me if needed lol!
Or you could just take him to court so you don't get charged for "whooping his ass." I do hope it works out for the best.

This is probably the best way to go about it.

jenohouston · October 2013

I'm so sorry your going through this. Thinking of you and LO.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

pirategirlpink said:

Cashingn2 said:

Brittnei11 said:
Yeah, I'm hoping the time apart helps us out so we can work things out! But if not he better be a man an help take care of his baby! Ill seriously will whoop his ass! An I know his mom would probably help me if needed lol!
Or you could just take him to court so you don't get charged for "whooping his ass." I do hope it works out for the best.

This is probably the best way to go about it.

I probably wouldn't really whoop him. But I'd like too! But I would take him to court if he didn't work with me

katieh704 · October 2013

So sorry your going through this

mh89 · October 2013

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. What a rough situation. It seems to me (based off of my limited understanding of the situation) that he just realized what a lot of work having a baby will be and he took the easy way out by leaving you. Complete dick move to leave right before baby will be here.

Make sure you get child support from him if he ends up flaking out of responsibilities.

Hopefully things will work out for you and LO.

jokimoto · October 2013

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is not an easy place to be. As hard, stressful and daunting as it may seem at the moment, it does get better. Having a good support system around you helps, a lot. For me it has helped to think of the situation as temporary. As hurt and alone as you may feel now, this to will pass. He may come around, he may not. It's hard, but trying to let him the best Dad he can be, is the best thing to do. He does have responsibilities to this child, wether he's a prescience or not. I hope he doesn't forget that, no matter how things turn out. Hugs to you and I hope for happiness for you and your LO in the run.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Thank you so much!

notkateanymore · October 2013

You're better off without him and it's better to know now than later. Make sure you get the child support your LO needs and deserves. Go through the court, do not let him tell you he will support you on his own. He's already proven he's a loser.

lorenzo302 · October 2013

Wow that's terribly selfish! I can't even imagine, hang in there!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Yeah, it's a terrible feeling. But my baby is more important.

amyrose542 · October 2013

Brittnei11 said:

Yeah, it's a terrible feeling. But my baby is more important.

I totally think that you having this attitude is keeping you so much more calm and able to handle this than many women would! Kudos to you! Also have you had your break up cake/ice cream/delicious dessert yet? Because most of us have cake for no reason and since you have a reason you should eat better cake.

p.s.
It all leads back to food porn.

Brittnei11 · October 2013

No, I haven't had my break up food yet! I just keep telling myself God has a plan for me an my baby! That he is way way more important than a man even if its his father! We may work things out in the long run if not I have my baby to love an not worry about some dick!

Brittnei11 · October 2013

Brittnei11 · October 2013

I posted the same of three times. My phone went crazy. But I try to keep the smile on my face for my baby! Took Maternity pictures with my sister the other day!

jaykay627 · October 2013

Sorry you're going through all of this during what should be a happy time for you both. I hope everything works out for the best for you and baby. Take care of yourself!

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